hiya 👋

I’m a writer, a reader, a lover of good music, strong coffee, and conversations that somehow go from something completely ridiculous to surprisingly meaningful.

I have a playful sense of humour, a curious mind, and a tendency to get lost in tangents. I appreciate a man who can make me laugh, challenge my thinking, and isn’t afraid of a little back-and-forth teasing.

I’m married and not looking to turn my life upside down or meet up with anyone. Just looking for some good conversation, a little excitement in the ordinary, and perhaps that unexpected smile when a notification pops up.

I enjoy flirting, but I also love the simple pleasure of getting to know someone. Tell me about your day, the song you can’t stop playing, something you’re passionate about, or the most ridiculous thing that’s happened to you lately.

Let’s see if we can make each other laugh.

*notabot

So, stranger… what’s something about you I’d never guess? 😉

So this is a fairly new thing, and I don't know if its controversial or not, but I'll post it anyway.

So in short, although I thought I was quite a feminist and grew up with girl-power and all of that, I am starting to realise as I have got older that I'm maybe actually ok with more traditional roles/opinions. No not the full on TradWife over the top stuff, but I guess I'm more ok with my role as housewife and such than I thought.

Anyway theres a lot of honesty from me, and maybe not something I should post and may regret based on messages I get, but at least its a good conversation starter!

Also because I forgot to mention the first time, I am made of human flesh and *notabot

Because nothing is more exciting on a Wednesday night than being reminded of how lonely you are.

Hello. I promise I’m more half glass full than the intro suggests. I just miss the feeling of getting to know someone new and all the feelings that come with it.

*notabot. I am married. I’ve done this before and would prefer if you have as well. I like being outside around people so things like a driving to a show or catching a game. I’ve posted before so if I drifted off please don’t take it personal and feel free to send another message. Send me a song to break the ice. Extra points for some kind of R&B or soul or jazz.

I’m a 50 year old dad in the US who's been around this block a few times.

In the spirit of Halloween, and given the constant complaints on the topic of ghosts and my own, rather extensive experience, I've prepared a guide on the reasons on why finding an AP around these parts is the same as spending the night in a haunted house.

1. You walk in thinking "How bad can this be?"
   
2. Everything looks normal. Too normal.
   
3. But then … Strange, unexplained activity begins.
   
4. You hear something weird but ignore it. A slight change in pattern, a comment, "calls from an ex".
   
5. Then the red flags start creaking like old floorboards. You hear them… you ignore them… you regret it later.
   
6. You try to rationalize everything “It’s fine. It’s probably nothing. I’m just overthinking.”
   
7. The energy shifts. You can FEEL it.
   
8. Exchanges get dry. Replies get slow.

Then—POOF. GONE.

1. You escape, traumatized, swearing “never again.” and then download the apps again a week later like a side quest.

If you're tired of getting ghosted and would like a sane, funny and consistent man to chat with, then hit me up and we can chat about all types of ghosts.

*notabot

Hi Reddit, not a first time poster but definitely long time lurker, and *notabot.

I have been around these parts for long enough to know what I’m looking for and what I’m not. My two non negotiable are Aussies only, and you must be older than me - no, you’re not the exception to either rule.
Intimacy is important but it takes time to get there - I’m not interested in shitty innuendoes that you try to brush off as a joke 2 days in.

Now onto the fun stuff. I am married with kids - you should be too. Kids are compulsory but preferred so we share common ground, but if yours are under 4, then no thank you. I love music, and concerts are my happy place so I’d love to share songs and playlists. I also love a good laugh, so have some good quality memes ready!

I want someone I can share my day with - the ups and downs. And want to be that person for them too.
To show you’ve read my post tell me about you and why you’re glad it’s almost Friday!

Good morning!

I am writing this for the same reason you are browsing. Let's be the one to fulfil the desires of our need to be wanted. Be the person I can share cute memes with, have silly and serious conversations with, watch a tv show together as a virtual date, and be my good morning. Lets see where this fantasy can lead us.

The person I am looking for is someone who has passions. I find it extremely attractive listening to you telling me what you are passionate about. What hobbies do you have and tell me all about what you are doing with them. We both have lives and the expectation isn't 100% 24/7 communication, but it would be nice to have consistent communication all day. We both have lives, but its easy to sneak away with a "i miss you" or a "I'm thinking of you when I saw this" type text.

What do you get on taking a chance with me? I am a educated, lover of baking, cooking, reading, woodcarving, being active, and all of the other basic guy things. Lately I have been diving deeper into books and audio books to fulfill my curiosities.

Let's treat this as a love is blind season and I want to enjoy talking to you as a person. People get so hung up on physical attraction but what happens when they are as boring as a rock on the road? Lets crave one another's conversations and get butterflies from the notifications we get from one another.

*notabot

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I'm a 34, married Latino male living in Los Angeles though I have availability to travel pretty much anywhere. I have an average build, black hair and I'm 5'8.

I also work in a library and love me a good book so if you're reading this how about you send me your favorite book, genre or author!

Growing up in a community with Latinos and Asians I have a very strong connection to both. Would love to meet an Asian or Latina (I'm not picky or ignorant lol) woman between who are very open-minded, ideally not conservative or Republican (fuck ICE) and just are really down to earth.

I enjoy talking about music, TV shows, movies and books. Can be very nerdy but at the same time I am more than open to listen to whatever it is you would like to talk about.

Please only reach out to me if you practice OPSEC and if you are in a relationship I don't mind but please do not bring the drama here. At the end of the day we are adults and we are consenting to having a great adult time.

Nothing needs to happen right away but I love being able to have a proper conversation that shows meaning behind words.

Hope to meet someone. If you have any questions please feel free to send me a DM! Always happy to chat.

Ps. I have to say this because otherwise it'll happen but if you send a message without the intention of at least consistently having a conversation, please do not bother. I don't waste anyone's time and I would appreciate it if you don't waste mine. Thank you!

\*notabot

We all know why we’re here, because something is missing. We’re missing that spark, that flame, that gives us butterflies we never thought we’d have again.

I’m a 42 year old dad just west of Boston looking for a distraction. Online? Great. I’d love to chat with you, make each others day better, be each others outlets to escape the repetitiveness we suffer at home. Grow a connection so strong that our faces light up with the cheesiest of smiles when we text each other

But if you happen to be nearby? I’d love to have you in my arms and feel what actual unrushed affection feels like again. Feeling safe, loved, secured, like time has stopped and even for a little bit? We’re the only 2 people in the world. With actual passion we haven’t felt in a while

I’m a big boy at 280, it’s down from my highest of 360 a few years ago, but still more like a big comfy pillow. If you can get into that? Then let’s chat since I’m \*NotABot

Hey there! I'm looking for that giddy feeling again of exploring another person. I'm specifically interested in something long term.

I'm looking for a girl in her 20s or 30s to chat with on a regular or semi-regular basis. I'd like a friendly relationship that leads to being flirty and more, but prefer it to develop naturally before jumping to the sexy bits. A friends with benefits type situation. Please be willing to share pictures eventually (face optional).

Me: 6'1", white. I'd describe my body type as tall and lean. I'm into baseball, reading, cooking, traveling, gaming, the outdoors. I love coffee and trying new foods. I'm not easily offended and can chat about just about anything. Very easy going.

You: I'm open to all types of personalities and interests. Common interests are fun, but so is learning about new ones! Intelligence is a turn-on. Strong preference for non-bbw body types. Bonus points if you have small or medium sized breasts (just a personal preference).

*notabot

I know that title got your attention.
Good. That was the point.

Now before you roll your eyes at the confidence, hear me out. I’m 42. I’ve had plenty of time to figure out who I am, what I bring to the table, and what makes me worth getting to know. I’m not going to pretend otherwise just to appear modest.

I’m married, 6’1”, athletic, fit, highly educated, successful, affectionate, sensual, attentive, adventurous, competitive, and completely comfortable taking the lead. \\\*notabot

I’ve built a successful career that demands intelligence, leadership, sound judgment, and making difficult decisions when everyone else is still figuring out what the problem is. However, I don’t take myself nearly as seriously as that description suggests.

I run road races, lift heavy things, hike, play sports, read constantly, cook, and enjoy hobbies that get me outside. I promise I’m not trying to avoid having free time.

I love live music, history, spontaneous adventures, sporting events, inappropriate humor, good food, and conversations with people who have something interesting to say.

I have a particular weakness for a woman with a sharp mind, a quick wit, and just that right amount of attitude to keep things entertaining.
Give me some sarcasm. Give me your opinions. Challenge me. Just know that I’m going to enjoy giving it right back you.

Now, here’s something you should know about me. I pay attention. I notice details. I remember what matters to you. I recognize when something is bothering you, even when you insist everything is fine.

I’m not interested in surface level conversations that go nowhere. I want to know the woman behind the everyday routine. What makes you laugh until you can’t breathe? What are you passionate about? What are you secretly competitive about? What do you want more of in your life? What side of you comes out when you’re with someone who makes you feel completely comfortable being yourself? I’m interested in all of it.

Your intelligent side. Your sarcastic side. Your affectionate side. Your mischievous side.

And of course the passionate, sexual side. I’m a very sexual man, and I’m not going to downplay that to make this sound more respectable.

I want emotional intimacy and genuine attraction. I want conversations that challenge my mind and flirting that makes concentrating unnecessarily difficult. I want playful teasing, anticipation, inside the unexpected messages, and moments when we both know exactly what each other is thinking.

I want a woman who enjoys being desired and knows how to make her interest unmistakable. I’m not interested in doing all the pursuing.

I’m confident. I’m assertive. I’m naturally dominant. I enjoy taking initiative, making decisions, and creating the kind of connection where you feel comfortable letting your guard down. Don’t mistake that for wanting someone passive.

I’m attracted to strong, intelligent, independent women. Women who have opinions, ambitions, personalities, and lives of your own.
The kind of woman who can challenge me in one conversation and willingly let me take the lead in the next. That’s an incredibly attractive combination.

And when there’s real trust, emotional intimacy, and sexual chemistry?That’s when things get interesting and exciting.

I’m not looking for a collection of women to entertain me. I don’t need a roster. I want one woman who captures my attention so completely that continuing to search becomes pointless.

Someone I genuinely enjoy talking to. Someone who makes me laugh, makes me think, makes me feel wanted, and gives me something to look forward to throughout the day.

I want mutual effort. If I’m interested in you, you’ll know it. I’ll initiate. I’ll flirt. I’ll make time. I’ll remember the details. I do expect the woman I’m connecting with to be just as interested in making me feel wanted.

Distance isn’t my primary concern. I’m open to online connections, and I’m open to meeting eventually if the chemistry, trust, and circumstances align but no pressure and no requirement to ever meet either.

I’m discreet, realistic, and not interested in blowing up your life or making promises about a fantastical future.

What I am interested in is finding something that feels exciting, meaningful, affectionate, and genuinely mutual.

So let’s get back to that title. I told you I’m a catch. I’ve given you a glimpse of why.

Now it’s your turn.

What is it about a confident, assertive man that you find irresistible? And what do you bring to the table that would make a man like me stop looking?

Skip the generic answers. Skip the polished resume. I want to see your personality.

You already know you want to find out more about me. Now give me a reason to feel the same about you.

I’m looking for something real. Real feelings, real emotions. I live and love intensely. I’m comfortable in who I am. I’m not looking to be saved. I’m looking for one woman, who I can I feel alive with. Someone that I can share all of myself with. No masks, no roles. Just authenticity.

*notabot

Hoping to find a woman that is looking for the same. Not a woman who wants to be saved, but a woman who knows what she wants, an emotional connection.

I’m a father and a husband, who is tired of feeling like a support character in my own life. I’m a 47/M/EST. I'm 5'8", HWP, light tan skin, brown eyes, and black hair. I enjoy watching sports, reading, dancing, music a love language for me.

I’m looking for one person someone who conversation feels natural and exciting with. I found and lost the best kind of friend possible last year and I’m looking for a reason to smile at my phone again. I’d like to think I’m not too picky as far as appearance especially since it’s so difficult to find someone here but that spark and attraction is important that’s the whole reason of being here right?

In a lot of ways I have my life together and in order I’d really prefer someone who also does. Im in decent shape I have a pretty physical job and workout regularly I have brown hair and eyes with a pretty sweet manly beard if I may say so myself I like building/fixing things, cooking/smoking, being outside, meeting new friends and learning about new ideas.

I’ve been married for 9 years and have 4 kids things are ok most days but as I’ve gotten older I definitely feel more and more that I picked the wrong person I think to myself pretty often about how different my life could be and how much farther I could’ve gone if I picked someone else. I do care about my wife she’s the mother of my kids but damn. I’ve changed a lot over the years and she really hasn’t hopefully that makes sense.

I’d like to trade pictures early as the attraction is important for both of us for this to work I hope I hear from you soon!

*notabot

42 year old male here, live in TN, no kids. Married for half a decade and while we're still in an ok spot, it's starting to feel more like we're roommates than partners. We no longer flirt and our sex drives have moved in opposite directions.

I guess I'm looking for someone to fill that void here. I know it's not the best thing to do but we all have needs and some of mine just aren't being met here.

I want to have someone who's excited to talk to me, someone who wants to flirt with me and someone who wants to have some fun during the day or at night.

I like to think I'm a smart, funny guy, have a good professional career that lets me live a comfortable life and looking for someone in the same spot in their lives. I work at home so have plenty of time during the day to chat. I don't have kids but am not against talking to someone who does but would prefer that you also have a partner so we are coming from the same spot in our lives.

My hobbies include reading, tv, music, movies, hiking, travel, finance and more.

In the bedroom, I'm more of a dom and would prefer someone submissive who wants to have some fun online and is missing it in their personal life. This part is important to me over some other items so keep that in mind if you're messaging me. I'm looking for a professional, smart, fit woman who yearns to be told what to do and when to do it. Any age is fine as long as you're comfortable being submissive. I'm looking for a woman who's wanting to give up control to me, allow me to tell you when to drink water, what color panties you're wearing to work, what nail color you're putting on and show me choices of dresses or pantsuits to pick from for your work attire. *notabot

Discretion is important but would like to have a long term thing going with anyone I click with(which I know won't be easy so I'm casting a wide net here). Would want to share a picture early on so we know we find each other attractive.

Reach out, open a chat and let's see how we get along. Let's talk about ice cream and other random crap.

*notabot

I’m going to be honest…

I have absolutely no idea how people are supposed to write these things without sounding like they’re applying for a relationship at the DMV.

So instead of giving you a list of my height, favorite color, and twelve personality traits I stole from a BuzzFeed quiz, let’s talk about the stuff that actually matters.

I like talking. A lot.

If I like you, there’s a pretty good chance you’re going to become my favorite person to tell absolutely everything to.

Something funny happened? You’re hearing about it.

Something pissed me off? Congratulations, you’re getting the full story.

I saw something at Target that reminded me of you? Picture incoming.

I’m bored and want to talk to you for no particular reason? Guess who’s getting a text.

And if we somehow end up talking until 2 a.m. about absolutely nothing?

Perfect. That’s basically my love language.

I like good morning texts. Goodnight texts.

Random pictures. Stupid memes. Inside jokes that make absolutely no sense to anyone else.

And those little messages that say, “I have absolutely nothing important to tell you. I just wanted to talk to you.”

Because that’s the thing…

I want to feel wanted, not just liked.

I want to know that you get a little excited when my name pops up on your phone. That you think about telling me things throughout your day. That talking to me feels like something you want to do, not another obligation on your to-do list.

I want us to become part of each other’s everyday lives without having to force it.

Basically, I want a best friend I’m ridiculously attracted to.

And honestly? That sounds pretty damn good to me.

A little about me…

I’m 38, a dad to a 12-year-old, and I teach elementary students in special education.
So my days usually involve teaching, laughing, answering approximately 900 questions, and occasionally discovering a new way to injure myself.

For example…

I broke my ankle playing tag with my students.
Yes, I’m an elementary teacher.

No, I apparently do not possess the survival instincts of the children I teach.

Outside of work, I’m pretty laid-back. Sarcastic.

Affectionate when I’m into someone. I love making people laugh, asking questions, and having conversations that somehow go from genuinely deep to completely ridiculous in about twelve seconds.

I like movies, music, random late-night conversations, and learning all the little things that make someone who they are.

And I mean the actual little things.

What song do you secretly play way too loud?

What movie have you watched an embarrassing number of times?

What food could you eat every week and never get tired of?

What completely irrational thing annoys you more than it should?

What makes you laugh so hard you can barely breathe?

What random thing are you currently obsessed with?

That’s the stuff I want to know.

I don’t just want to know what you do for a living or how your day went.

I want to know what goes on inside that head of yours.

I want to know what makes you happy, what makes you weird, what makes you passionate, and what parts of yourself you don't show everybody.

I want the conversations that make us lose track of time. The comfortable silences. The stupid jokes. The little traditions that happen without us even realizing it.

I want that kind of connection where we eventually develop our own language, know what the other person is thinking just by looking at them, and can make each other laugh in situations where we absolutely should not be laughing.

I’m not looking for perfect. I’m looking for real.

Someone affectionate. Someone who communicates. Someone who can be goofy with me but also have the hard conversations when life gets messy.

Someone who doesn't play games with attention or make caring about someone seem uncool.

And yes, I might be a little clingy when I really like you.

Not in a “you need permission to leave the house” kind of way.

More in a “I saw this and immediately thought of you, so now you have seven messages, three memes, and a picture you didn't ask for” kind of way.

If I like you, I'm not going to pretend I don't.

I’m not going to act less interested just to seem more desirable.

If I want to talk to you, I’m going to talk to you.

If I care about you, I want you to feel it.

And I want someone who feels comfortable doing the same with me.

Because life is too short to spend it trying to figure out whether someone actually likes you.
I want mutual effort. Mutual affection. Mutual excitement.

I want two people who are genuinely happy they found each other and don't feel the need to pretend otherwise.

Is that really too much to ask?

Anyway…

If you’ve made it this far, let’s skip the painfully awkward “Hey, how are you?” conversation.
Tell me something interesting.

The most ridiculous thing that happened to you this week.

A movie you could watch 100 times.

Your most controversial food opinion.

A completely random fact about yourself that nobody would ever guess.

Or tell me something you could talk about for hours if you found the right person to talk to.

Give me something real, and I promise I'll meet you there.

And if we click?

Well…

You might accidentally become my favorite notification, my favorite person to annoy, and the person I want to tell everything to.

Which means approximately 47 completely unnecessary texts a day.

Possibly more if I find a really good meme.

You've been warned

If your response was similar to wtf is this idiot saying, welcome I needed something to get your attention. If that made sense, you might be crazy and need help - but take me with you because frankly I might be as well.

I am simply a down to earth midwestern guy looking for someone to meet me in this crazy space and see where things go. While I enjoy face to face conversations finding a soul to share the silliness in life sometimes has limitations.

Oh and I am *notabot

I am married, professional, country boy at heart, romantic, that takes care of myself. I have a wide array of interests from anything outdoors, to the lust for the perfect cup of coffee, to learning something new as I refuse to pay someone to do something I might as well do myself.

I also have a desire to be fulfilled in life, and I hat I have learned about myself is that includes this…. This space where us married people find ourselves chasing that little bit more of life we aren’t finding at home.

Let’s chat about the little things, the life challenges, and everything in between. From there we’ll know where this goes.

And the auto-moderator will likely say hey this guy doesn’t have an extensive reddit history. Is this your only profile on here, or is opsec important to you too?

Hi,

So I’m *notabot.

There. Now that that’s out of the way, I’m looking for connection. Married 33 years and looking for someone that is also missing that spark. That great feeling of the anticipation of the other wanting to connect. Not even sure where I would want it to go but the desire is there for something new, fun, and exciting. Please be over 45, married, and real; able to hold a great conversation. I like using Snapchat so I can keep things on the DL.

Hope to hear from you soon!

I’m 33M, married, bicurious, and a crossdresser. Writing this feels a little vulnerable because I’m not really looking for a random chat or someone to flirt with for one evening and then disappear.

I’d really like to find another married man who wants something long-term online. Someone who understands that our lives may already be complicated, but still misses having that feeling of being excited when one particular person messages you.

I want to have someone I can genuinely care about. I want the good morning messages, checking in after a difficult day, staying up talking longer than we intended, sharing things we don’t normally tell other people, flirting, teasing each other, and eventually realizing that we’ve become an important part of each other’s lives.

Being bicurious and a crossdresser is a private and vulnerable part of me, and I think part of what I’m searching for is someone I can finally feel completely comfortable sharing that with. I’d love a boyfriend who enjoys my feminine side rather than simply tolerating it — someone I can show outfits to, ask what he thinks I should wear, and feel attractive and wanted around.

I do have a kinky side too, and once there’s trust between us I’d love to explore that together. I’d even love seeing some of your wife’s clothes and imagining what you’d choose for me. But for me, that becomes much more exciting when there are actual feelings behind it.

Outside of all this, I work pretty hard as a manager and music production is one of my biggest passions. I’d love for us to know the ordinary sides of each other too — what happened at work, what song I’m working on, what made you laugh that day, or the completely pointless thing you suddenly wanted to tell me.

I guess what I’m looking for is intimacy more than anything else. Someone consistent. Someone affectionate. Someone who actually wants to know me and lets me know him too.

I don’t know exactly where that would lead, and I don’t need to define everything from the first conversation. I just know I’d like to find one person who wants to stick around long enough for us to find out together.

If any of this feels familiar to you, tell me about yourself. I’d genuinely like to know who you are.

*notabot

*notabot

I’m not actually that broken up about it, as not everyone gets the privilege of turning 40, but who am I to say no to a perfectly valid mid-life crisis?

I am well aware of the supply/demand disparity, but I am going to narrow the field further for myself by saying I am looking for a writer. Not professionally, but someone that loves language and wordplay, someone that knows it takes effort from both parties to banter.

This ain’t the Gilmore Girls where ’banter‘ is something you passively watch and enjoy. I’m looking for conversational ADHD; I want something that sparks and ricochets and leaves us having too many topics to discuss instead of forced engagement in the hopes of things getting better and simply to avoid the pain of getting ghosted again.

I don’t need photos, won’t send any unasked for, (I may send memes unprompted though). Spice can be fun, but too much too early ruins the dish.

I‘m an over-educated golden retriever type of guy. My main personality trait is curiosity. I love learning about anything and everything, but especially about people, their unique experiences and perspectives, what drives them, and what makes them come alive with excitement or enthusiasm.

I‘ve met one person on here that I had that with, and they disappeared without explanation after a few months. It hurts more than it should. I don’t ghost people. If we don’t jive, I will tell you so.

Mundane details: EST, have kids, don’t work a standard desk job where I am free to be on my phone and message anytime, but I hope that if you’ve made it this far you won’t see that as an insurmountable obstacle.

Anyway, hoping to hear from you if you read all that and found it resonated.

No Ai was used to create this message. This is actually the way I write and sound.

Let's get one thing out of the way, l'm great with my tongue.

I mean in conversation... unless you're into double meanings, in which case, we'll get along just fine. I keep things witty, so don't be surprised when your own words come back to tease you and have you grinning at your phone like you've got a secret.

I'm the type to drown you in compliments until you're blushing, then crack up when you trip over a curb and say, "I saw that." Balance, right?

6 foot tall, black hair, trimmed beard-your classic tall, handsome, and probably distracting. I run a business that keeps me busy, but l'm holding out for the kind of connection that makes me stop mid meeting just to see what you said, smirk to myself, and then get back to closing deals.

Have been doing a lot of travel recently to Europe and Asia, and yeah, l've got stories. All I need now is someone to share them with maybe while planning our next escape.

*notabot

I want to be your good morning/night beautiful text, I wanna chat about your day and hear what’s on your mind, I want to see you daily outfit and tell you how sexy you look, I wanna video and voice chat, I want to make you feel like the woman you are.

Me: tall, dad bod, bearded, tats, blue eyes, deep voice, blue collar

Some interests: video games, nature, playing music, fixing old trucks, sports, reading, traveling and lot more!

I’m in EST, don’t mind if you’re from anywhere else

Let me know your top 3 celebrity crushes and dream vacation spots

Hope we can chat :)

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*Notabot

It's the afternoon here and taking a well deserved break in work and starting to get excited that Halloween is around the corner! Im thinking spooky zombie Elvis or Ghostbuster as my costume while I bring my youngest trick or treating this year, watcha think?

Married of course, dad of 2 lil stress causing girls but wouldn't imagine a world without them of course. Dad bod rocker but well on the road to getting fitter and doing really well so far! Im 6'1", blue eyes, full brown hair with a salt and pepper trimmed beard. Work fairly long hours but get plenty of breaks so no problem with staying active and messaging, love the thought of sharing good morning and goodnight thoughts and filling the day with reasons to make me smile when I check my phone.

The kind of person who'll reply to me should be fun and confident, I have a soft spot for thicc'er women but it's not a deal breaker at all. We can share interests and talk about them but I don't mind being shown new horizons either, I like things like cooking, gardening, travel (¡yo habla Espanol!), tv, movies and listening to podcasts.

Would be nice that you're close to me in terms of time difference but I appreciate that can narrow down potential replies, the most important thing is that we click well.

Hope to hear from someone wonderful, who's stuck in the same boat, wanting a connection and validation that they're really seen. Hit me up and we can have some fun banter and won't take offense if we don't hit it off x

It's almost Friday. You have been sifting through another round of posts that promise you the world but don't deliver at the end of the day. I want to be a new and fresh breath of air. A relief that you have finally found something worth your time. A light at the end of the tunnel of this neverending search for Mr. Right. In our minds we think that it should not be hard to find the person that can fill our voids, given we are all in this for the same reasons. But, each and every person has their own means to their end and some of those people are here for the wrong reasons.

When I talk about being here for the same reasons, for most of us, I speak of what is missing in our lives and what we strive to find in someone else in order to try to find happiness. We want someone to notice us. To give us compliments and even call us pet names. Someone to pay attention to what we say and follow up with questions to see how it's going. We want someone consistent. We don't want games. We don't want frequent fliers. We want someone who truly is looking for something genuine. Is it too much to ask for to have someone say good morning, chat throughout the day when free and give you a sweet dreams at night? Fairly simple if you are into the other person. I want us to be exclusive to each other, striving towards a wonderful emotional and physical connection. One where our minds are hazy and there are butterflies in our stomachs.

A little about me. I'm married with kids. I'm above average in height, I'm fit, I have dark hair and light eyes. Short beard and olive skin. I'm attractive and have been told I have a smile and eyes that make you melt. I'm blue collar and dress modern and fashionable. I'm not nerdy or yuppie. I don't have long flowing hair. Mine is styled and shorter. I love to work out and take long walks with my dog. I love to hike and go on long bike rides. I enjoy music and peaceful summer nights in my yard enjoying a cold drink. I look at the glass half full. I love to tease and have fun. I'm compassionate and caring. I'm sexual and open minded. Our zone will always be a safe and non judgemental zone. Trust and security will always be the number one priority. This fresh start can be all yours. But you have to make the move to get it. I can only put my emotions here for you to see. It's up to you to determine if they are real and if you want to embrace them. I hope to hear from you so we can start a new chapter in our lives. Have a great day. *Notabot

*notabot

What is something your husband could do that would make you think… “wow I need to start trying again.”

Long story short I’ve been married 10 years and after the kid and years it seems like life’s just day to day blehhhh, no spice, barely talking, mostly fighting. She’s seemed to have checked out. Meanwhile I’ve been trying to plan dates, and trips, and do thoughtful things. But the most I get back is a thanks, or “you shouldn’t have spent money on flowers “

What could turn it around for you?

Hello and thanks for giving this a read. So, I am married and plan to stay that way. But I also feel lonely, neglected, and just lacking. I want a friend who also wants more and is looking for someone to get to know and share with. That's where I will come in. We can share our interests, fantasies, secrets, etc. What's your favorite naughty subreddit? I'll share mine if you share yours. Let's laugh. Have some fun. Be weird together. Let it all out and be genuinely open, I don't want someone who is going to be another stressor in my life, and I definitely do not want to be that for anyone else. We should enhance the lives of one another and hopefully bring some joy, fun (naughty and otherwise), and spark. I'm open to a partner of any age, as long as you have an open mind and we click.

I'm a 39 year old guy from the eastern US. 6'2", with an average build. Blue eyes, brown hair with grey mixed in. Usually, I have a trim beard. I'm educated and have a good job that I don't particularly care for. Anything else you want to know, just ask. I'm quite liberal, politically speaking, and LGBTQ friendly. I'm definitely an ass man, so if that's not your thing, I understand but we won't get along. I am eager to find out what you are into.

I like sports, reading, history, trivia, and cooking. And, I have the aforementioned adorable dog. Anyway, hopefully this resonates with someone.

I am \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*notabot. I promise (also not a lie).

Thank you.