So yes, I contracted HPV (genital warts) from someone who didn’t know she had it. Luckily I have a dead bedroom so there is no chance of spreading it to my wife, but the downside is I can’t meet anyone new because I don’t want to give it to them. So now I’m left with a life fully devoid of any sexual contact (aka where I was before I started affairing).

But tonight it just hit me, that I’m sure there are a lot of women out there who are in my shoes. Unknowingly contracted it from a partner, and now you’re stuck. Because you don’t want to spread it to anyone else.

So maybe there is a marketplace out there for people like us? We can’t spread it to each other since we already have it…..so why not??

Anyway I’m sure this post will raise some eyebrows, just save the negative comments. And I (who am *notabot) know, there are different strands of HPV, so it’s not completely safe. But if you’re a married F of any age with HPV, I’d love to chat so feel free to message me.

I have posted a couple selfies on different subreddits, and I tend to get a ridiculous amount of messages from gay men, which is very flattering, I'm just not into that myself. But it leads me to believe that I must not be that ugly, hit me up. *Notabot I specifically am in the northern part of Nevada but I don't think that really matters.

I’ve been married over ten years and even though it has not been all bad, there is plenty missing. Life is complicated, kids complicated it more and we do what we need to do for others, but also need to do something for ourselves to keep going. I guess this is what I’m trying to do for myself. I want to find someone that is in a similar situation and help each other fill the voids in our marriages. This is a newer profile but I do have a fair amount of experience with online affairs.

I have a nice smile, handsome face and a fit body. I like to be active and play sports, hike, swim and spend time at the beach. I also like to read and write creatively. I am pretty highly educated, have experience with this sort of thing, and am very easy going. I like to joke around, talk about our day to day, be a sounding board for one another, and of course plenty of flirting and spicy moments as well.

I’m in EST but not too concerned where you are as long as enough of our availability lines up. I can typically text through most of the day. I am definitely looking for more than just a few messages a day. I enjoy sending and receiving pictures and voices messages. Phone calls and video calls can be tricky but I’d like to work up to that with the right person.

I’m looking for an AP that wants a long term online relationship where we can develop a deep emotional connection, are mutually attracted to each other and have similar availability. I am not looking for anything too casual, definitely want the feelings on both needs as long as we can keep things in perspective.

I’m really attracted to women with a good sense of humor, a passionate mind and emotional intelligence. And someone who takes good care of themselves. It would also be nice to find someone with some experience with this or at least knows that they aren’t going to wake up feeling too guilty after a couple of days. Unfortunately I’m here, but I’m comfortable with that at this point.

If you’re interested reach out and we can chat some and see if we’re a good match. I’m happy to swap a photo fairly early on to see if there’s a mutual attraction.

*notabot

Hi, I'm a married, easy-going person looking to connect with someone new. I'd love to find someone to chat with daily and maybe even grab drinks together. I know there are a lot of scams out there, but I'm the real deal - *notabot. If you're looking for someone to show you some attention and care, let's get to know each other and see where it takes us. I am willing to travel a little from the area listed, but it would make it very easy if you were somewhat local. I know people have preferences; well, in this situation, preference is not that important. My preference would be a mature person who's open about what they want. I'm not here to blow anyone's situation, and I would hope for the same. Well, reach out and let's chat. What's the worst that can happen?

Also allow me to be clear I don't want to jump into sex, or sexual conversation right away. I apologize for giving that energy out from my title. I genuinely want to get to know you, and spend time with you. Working together on creating, a good space where we can vibe with each other, and be comfortable. Onto the rest of my post, thank you for reading.

Like everyone else here I am looking for passion, I'm looking for joy, and I am looking for acceptance. That is the thing people on here don't just want or need one thing, we each have various needs, and various desires.

The problem is we come here each of us with our own baggage, from skewed expectations, to previous interactions with people. It all changes us, so here we come expectant, hopeful, and damaged. Trying to find someone that you can share happiness with, find a moment of acceptance or passion.

But all our gestures vaguely bullshit gets in the way. So I'm going to do my best to help minimize that by being honest and upfront about who I'm looking to share an experience with.

I'm looking for someone late 20's to 40's, I prefer someone who works from home (I like a lot of interaction, and having one conversation per week for 10 minutes as you drive home from work doesn't suffice for me) I'd like someone compassionate, kind, funny and intelligent. I'm not perfect and I don't expect you to be either so if I've given you that impression I'm sorry.

In regards to what I offer, I will always listen to you, I will support you, I will encourage you. Your happiness, and well being will become my focus. Furthermore I will not immediately jump into sexual conversation, I want to get to know you and about your passions. I want to learn about you, and come to understand you.

That's it, if you have any questions, or would like to have a conversation I'd like that. If not I genuinely wish you well, and hope you all find some measure of happiness.

Also, I'm *notabot

Adding more criteria from too many previous responses that weren’t a fit.

Intelligent, married, down to earth, active, but not a gym rat. Dad to kids, busy and stable life, looking for a little chemistry on the side.

I’m into active, professional women between 40–60 who can hold an intelligent conversation and have a laugh too. A Non-smoker non-drugs is a must.

Looking for someone local ONLY with daytime availability who understands busy schedules and respects boundaries.

Discreet affair, so OPSEC is essential.

Happy to exchange pics once we’ve chatted and there’s mutual interest

*notabot

Working from home definitely has its perks, but I’ll admit there’s one thing I miss… the fun of having someone to joke around with, flirt with, and make an otherwise boring workday a little more interesting and hopefully intense.

You know, those conversations that start with a good morning, turn into completely random topics, a little harmless teasing, some flirting, and before you know it, you’re smiling like an idiot. Yeah, that. *notabot

A little about me: I am 5’9, blue eyes, shaved head (been told it works for me) 190 pounds athletic average body type, Married, professional, laid-back, confident, and someone who loves to laugh. I have a pretty sarcastic sense of humor, enjoy good banter, and can absolutely dish it and take it. I’m also a big believer that attraction matters, but personality and chemistry are what keep things fun.

What I’m looking for: A fun, playful, flirty woman who enjoys a little banter and isn’t afraid to show some personality. Someone who actually wants to talk, and is open to voice notes and chats when the opportunity strikes

I love the idea of having that one person you look forward to hearing from throughout the day. Someone to share random thoughts with about absolutely nothing, flirt a little (or a lot), and maybe build some well you know…..

Consistency and discretion are a plus. We both have lives, responsibilities, and things going on.

 I’m not looking to change anyone’s situation, including my own. No pressure, no unrealistic expectations, and definitely no unnecessary drama. Just two people enjoying each other’s company

If you enjoy a little sarcasm, flirting, and the occasional inappropriate thought we might get along pretty well.

So, tell me… are you applying for the position, or are you just here to distract me from actually getting anything done?

Alright, apparently this is the part where I'm supposed to write something incredibly smooth and convince you that I'm fascinating.

So instead, here's the honest version:

I'm 28, married, a dad, \\\*notabot Australian, bearded, tattooed and occasionally held together by caffeine and poor decisions.

I'm not looking to blow up my life, run away together or have either of us start pricing flights to the other side of the world. 😂

I'm looking for someone new.

Someone I actually look forward to hearing from.

Someone I can talk absolute shit with one minute, have a genuinely good conversation with the next, and eventually reach the stage where we can send each other completely contextless messages and somehow know exactly what the other person means.

I'm much more interested in connection than collecting conversations.

I don't need constant replies and I'm not expecting you to be glued to your phone. I have a job, kids, responsibilities and a life outside Reddit too and I understand that you do too. Sometimes I'll disappear for a few hours because real life has decided it needs my attention. I'll come back. Promise.

So, who am I?

5'10", brown hair, beard, tattoos, piercings and a fairly enthusiastic dad bod.

I work a blue-collar job, which basically means I'm comfortable getting dirty, fixing things and occasionally discovering that the thing I just took apart has somehow acquired three extra pieces.

I'm a massive foodie and I love cooking. I'm into camping, animals, gardening, movies, reading, gaming and generally learning about whatever random subject has managed to grab my attention that week.

I'm also a giant nerd.

So if your idea of a good conversation occasionally involves going down a completely unnecessary rabbit hole about some obscure topic at 1am, we're probably going to get along.

What am I looking for?

Honestly?

Not a specific age, body type, ethnicity or some ridiculous checklist.

I tend to be attracted to women who are a little more voluptuous, but chemistry has a funny way of making a "type" completely irrelevant.

More importantly, I'd like someone who is:

genuinely curious

easy to talk to

capable of giving and taking shit

open-minded

affectionate

actually interested in getting to know someone

I'm not expecting fireworks in the first five messages.

I'd rather find someone where the conversation just... works.

Where you realise you've been talking for three hours without noticing.

Where "I should probably go to bed" somehow turns into another forty minutes.

Where eventually you stop feeling like two strangers on Reddit and start wondering what the other person is doing when they aren't talking to you.

So if you're bored of the same recycled "hey wanna chat?" posts and feel like taking a chance on a bearded Australian dad with questionable humour and an unreasonable appreciation for good food...

Come say hello.

Worst case, we dont click and thats ok.

In the best case, you become the notification I secretly hope is from you.

Hey.

I'm a 38 year old married guy from sweden. I'm very happy in my relationship, situation and just life in general. I work out, have a bunch of good hobbies, and would consider myself a fully functioning adult. Because of that it also feels slightly shameful posting on the same forum as these unhappy sad ... Losers? That don't do anything to improve their life if they're so unhappy about it. But oh well here I am.

Well anyway. I'm just here to find someone younger to chat with, I enjoy having someone on the side to share life and day to day stuff with. I wanna be able to talk about anything and everything. Obviously good chemistry is a must so I'm not really counting on finding anyone on here really. Seems to be mostly dudes and scammers here anyway. I'm only here because I've a cheating kink, I'm not gonna cheat irl so chatting will have to do. So if you wanna talk to a nice hot guy with a big cock, let me know. Thanks.

*notabot

Figured I’d start with the obvious: I’m bald, bearded, and definitely rocking the grown-up dad vibe. I know that’s not everyone’s thing, and that’s totally fine. But if mature, clean-cut, confident, and a little nerdy sounds appealing, we might be off to a good start.

A little more about me: I’m married, educated, successful, and pretty comfortable with who I am, but I promise I don’t take myself too seriously. I love good conversation, playful banter, and someone who can keep up with a slightly ridiculous sense of humor. I’m just as happy chatting about everyday life as I am flirting and seeing where the chemistry goes.

I’ve had a long-term OA before, so I understand how to keep something fun, relaxed, respectful, and meaningful without making it complicated. I’m in EST, but I’m flexible with other U.S. time zones, and I’m usually around throughout the day to chat. And if things ever really click, meeting in person someday would definitely be on the table.

I’ll save the hobbies, music, and random fun facts for an actual conversation. A little mystery never hurt, right?

I’m hoping to meet a woman in her late 20s to mid 40s who is sweet, smart, positive, playful, and genuinely enjoys a good back-and-forth. Physically, I tend to have a soft spot for shorter women who are curvy or athletic, but real chemistry matters way more than a checklist. Confidence, experience, and knowing what you want are always a plus.

If this sounds like your kind of vibe, send me a quick intro. Bonus points for something more creative than just “hey.”

*notabot

Laid back, sane, normal guy in his 40s here. I have a good career, a steady life, a sense of humor that usually lands, and enough self awareness to know exactly what I am missing. On paper, things are good. Comfortable. Predictable. But behind closed doors, the spark has faded. The teasing, the anticipation, the feeling of being genuinely wanted, all of it has slowly slipped into the background.

I am looking for a woman in her 20s or 30s who understands that life can look put together from the outside while still leaving you craving something more. Someone smart, confident, curious, and discreet. Someone who has her life reasonably together but still wants a little excitement, a little chemistry, and that addictive feeling of looking forward to the next message, the next laugh, the next time.

There is something especially fun about an age gap when the connection is right. The contrast, the curiosity, the playful tension, the different perspectives. It can make things feel fresh in a way that is hard to describe until you find it. I am not looking for drama or chaos. I am looking for a genuine connection with someone who knows how to enjoy the secret thrill of something that feels easy, natural, and just a little bit dangerous in the best way.

Ideally, you have some experience with this kind of arrangement, or at least the right kind of curiosity. You are open minded, easy to talk to, and appreciate a man who can be sweet, respectful, attentive, and still know how to keep things interesting. I am warm, funny, grounded, and much more fun to get to know than any post can fully capture.

If you miss feeling desired, if you like a little flirtation with your conversation, and if the idea of an age gap connection makes you smile more than you expected, we may be on the same page.

DMs are open. Do not be shy. Sometimes the best kind of trouble starts with one simple message.

*notabot

Feel like a lot of us are looking for the same thing, but few of us are actually willing to put in the effort or are we just want someone to connect and cum with 😉

I want the oh so elusive butterflies, and that feeling of never being able to get enough. I want to be on each others minds all day. When you’re driving around, I want you to imagine me sitting next to you, holding your hand as you squeeze my thigh. I want to talk about the what if’s, and how things might be different if only we had met sooner. I want to fall in love.

I want to be spoiled with your affection and attention. I want to be the first thing you think about when you wake up, and the last thing when you fall asleep. I want you to think about me when you kiss him, when he holds you at night, when you have sex. Because I’ll be doing the same. I have the time, attention and affection to give. I just want the same in return. I want to be a priority to each other. I want to share our desires, kinks, fantasies that we maybe cant share and explore with our current spouse. I want you to enjoy cheating with me and be your escape.

I’m looking for something long term, and exclusive. I can’t share or be shared. I want my 1 person and to be someone else’s. I want to belong to each other, and that can’t happen if you’re talking to tens of other men. I also really don’t want to be on here anymore. So I’d really like for this to last longer than a few weeks.

I’m white, 5'9, about 165 lbs with darker hair, . Physical attraction is important, so of course we can share pics early. I’m not looking for an “out”, and I won’t be yours. But that won’t stop me from falling for you.

I prefer someone no older than 48(or at least doesn’t look it) and not much younger than 32. I’m attracted to large array of women, so I really have no preference. I don’t care where you live but I am in CST. Daily communication is a MUST. If you’re just a 9-5 on the weekdays kinda girl, please move along.I would also be open to meeting in the future should the stars align. .\*notabot

*notabot
Where to start.
I am married just like all of us here. Searching for that missing piece.
Well aren’t we all searching for the same thing. A little fun and flirting. Some excitement and butterflies. Maybe even a dirty little secret on the side. However you want to say it , it all adds up to the same thing.

We can say we met at the grocery store.

You reached down for an item on the bottom self, I make the comment “Nice,Buns!” You quickly look back in surprise as I am holding the last bag of hamburger buns in my hand. We lock eyes and laugh.

Do you have a better story?

So let me ask this. Why is it that even at 30 and over people still ghost? Can we not be adults and say it’s not a good fit or what?

Please don’t be shy to reach out. You are beautiful in your own way, and I cannot wait to find out!

Me:
Married
35 years old
5’9 170
Dark-skin
Handsome (confident pick swapper)
Active and in shape (self care > vanity)
Great hygiene
Clean smile

I enjoy movies, reading, podcast, audiobooks and music. Seeing and hearing people express themselves through their art is one of the most important experiences in life to me. So if you love to consume content, we’ll get along just fine.

You:
Married
29 and up ⬆️
Cute
No height or weight preferences
Care about yourself (this shows in different ways)
Great hygiene (OL or not, please smell good)
Has style 😍

You have something outside of your family that’s means the world to you. You’re passionate. You’re open minded and self aware.

I match well with people who’s been on some type of personal journey. Starting something from the beginning and seeing it through brings out a level of human experience that I appreciate and adore.

There’s a lot more that I could add but I’ll leave it here and save the rest for later.

If any of this sounds appealing to you please feel free to message me.

And tell me - What’s your favorite love story?

(Movie, tv show, book, real life)

EST Midwest. \\\\\\\*notabot

*notabot
Heya!!
Im equal parts introverted homebody and spontaneous when I feel like it, with a healthy mix of nerdiness, quick wit, and light sarcasm.

When I’m not gaming, getting lost in a great show, discovering new music, or planning my next pottery project, I’m usually overthinking something in the background.

Looking for genuine passion, kindness, and sharp banter day to day. If you get excited talking about the things you love let’s have some good chats!

Have you ever fantasized about getting a massage from an attractive man with great hands who slowly turns up the heat? (If you’re here… you have.)

We’ll meet in a hotel room. We’ll chat. You can tell me what you’d like me to focus on, what kind of pressure you’d like, what areas you’re comfortable with me addressing — for now. I’ll have the bed set up for a massage: towels, head rest, warm scented oil, the works. I’ll leave the room as you change out of your clothes and get under the sheet, face down. So professional, right?

And then, when I reenter the room, we’ll begin. My fingertips slowly gliding up and down your back, making you shiver. Methodically working the knots out of your neck, your shoulders. Subtly adjusting the blanket to get a little more access here, a better angle there. Are you comfortable with me massaging your glutes? And what about these inner thighs… it feels like you might hold a lot of tension there. The side of my strong palm brushing up against your most sensitive spots, slowly teasing you as I knead your skin and muscle…

After the flip — I won’t peek, of course — is the sheet maybe positioned a little too high? It’s so hard to tell while you’re lying there, blissfully relaxed but with your mind buzzing in anticipation at the same time. Perhaps I’ll see if you’re bold enough to say yes to my offer of a full breast massage… or I’ll eventually place myself on the bed between your legs so I can get some good leverage… and see you spread your thighs for me subtly, but so invitingly…

The possibilities are endless… and delicious. I’m here for your total and complete relaxation, of course.

As for me: I’m 5’11, 175 lbs., blue eyes. I get compliments I don’t ask for. Clean, drug free, and entirely discreet. No problem at all if you’re in a relationship; I obviously am. Drama is not my cup of tea.

\*notabot

Hi there. 30 M in TX. In a long-term relationship but I’m missing some sparks.

Looking for someone I can talk to about anything and everything with. I’m a pretty open book so feel free to ask anything, I’ll tell embarrassing stories, whatever you want to talk about.

I’m 6’4”, white, bearded, have a dad bod I’m working on losing.

I consider myself pretty geeky. Love film, horror, sci-fi, gaming, wrestling, going to conventions. I enjoy going on long walks also.

I drink and 🍃 on occasion *notabot

Not too sure what I’m looking for but I’m down to talk short or long term. I hope to hear from you.

I’m tired of this grandpa… well that’s too damn bad because I’m here again. I’m *notabot, 6’2 blonde blue eyes average build, bearded with glasses mwm dad who enjoys being outdoors, board games, coffee, and anything that gets my body moving. Potential gym buddy? In a bit of a situation that resembles more or less two ships passing in the night and meeting when something needs done around the house. Lets hit it off and see where things go.

I wfh full time, so again, drop me a message if you are interested. 

Some fluff about me to start. I play guitar, mess around on synths, run and lift weights. I’m trying my best to stay in shape and set some PRs 💪🏋️ I am an engineer and solve problems all day at work, have a wife and kids, and a respectable life by all accounts.

I live for a sense of humour and witty quips. I love inside jokes and want to know you to the point where we have our own little secret knowledge of each other.

Reach out if you are hwp, married, good at conversation, funny and a bit nerdy!

I really love a slow burn, and I am hoping to find someone else who is looking for the same. I enjoy the tension building as much as anything else.

*notabot for real!

Let me know if you also are not a bot or an agentic AI! I am not interested in any Claudes or Geminis, sorry if that is you!

Hey there! I'm a *notabot married dad in the Phoenix area, just under six feet tall with dark brown hair, light brown eyes, and a trim beard that's increasingly more salt than pepper. As for the rest of me, there’s a (clothed) photo posted on my profile if interested. I am thoroughly the clean-cut, white collar professional type and have a career that reflects it.

I have done this before and ultimately want an in person connection. I travel for work frequently enough that I would entertain a ongoing thing outside of Phoenix if the chemistry works. In Phoenix or out, I'll make the effort if the connection is worth having. 

I'm at the point where putting myself out there is more of a "want" instead of "need," which means I'm happy to wait until I find the right blend of interesting and sophisticated (and hot, because I'm just a man alright?). This is supplemental for me, and I think it will work best if that's how you think about things too. I am not looking for an exit affair or to be a spouse replacement-level boyfriend. That doesn't mean I'll be uninterested in you beyond the you-know-what - quite the opposite. I guess what I'm trying to say is, you know that feeling of getting to partake in something that feels like a privilege? Well, that's the energy I'm looking for here. 

Ultimately, this is supposed to be fun and sexy, and that's the type of connection I'd like to find. If that resonates, I'd love to hear from you. Please be willing to exchange pics early; I will do the same. Thanks for reading ~ see you in the chat!

Married and have teenager and young adult children

I have been lucky, I have found that something, a pocket secret that became real. But alas, here I am again. Looking for that something missing. I want to find that excitement and wonder that I know is out there.

An old school nerd with a little skater punk. Enjoy a good book, game, movie, or even a show. Enjoy being crafty and tinker around to be creative.

Let's chat, let's get to know each other, let's discover something. Want to experience and share that excitement to chat, share pictures, maybe one day irl.

*notabot

I have posted a couple selfies on different subreddits, and I tend to get a ridiculous amount of messages from gay men, which is very flattering, I'm just not into that myself. But it leads me to believe that I must not be that ugly, hit me up. *Notabot I specifically am in the northern part of Nevada but I don't think that really matters.

I’m 34, Middle Eastern, smart, successful, funny, pretty witty, *notabot, and in okay shape, which is to say, there’s room for improvement. I’m Married, and a father to 2 cats. No humans kids presently.

Things in my marriage have been a bit stale, and I miss the excitement of getting to know someone new. The flirting, the banter, and having someone whose messages you actually look forward to.

I’m looking for a woman who’s open, easy to talk to, and willing to share parts of her life with me and who won’t ghost me after 5 months of daily chats like @redacted did. I enjoy getting to know people, whether we’re talking about something serious or just random things that happened during the day.

I’m not looking to change my situation, so this would be online only. Ideally, something ongoing with someone I genuinely click with.

I’m 34, run a few businesses, work from home quite a bit, and somehow still find myself opening Reddit when my day gets a little too predictable.

I’m not miserable, not looking to blow up anyone’s life, and definitely not searching for a replacement relationship.

But I’ll admit something. My sex life is pretty vanilla, and I miss the excitement of getting to know someone new. The flirting, the teasing, the random messages that make you smile in the middle of a boring Tuesday.

And no, I’m not looking for someone who turns every conversation sexual after five minutes. I actually enjoy getting to know someone. Good banter, a little sarcasm, meaningful conversations, and that natural chemistry you can’t really force.
I’ve spent most of my life around hockey, love a good conversation, and have a pretty playful side once I’m comfortable.

Real life comes first. I’m not here to change your situation or mine. Just hoping to find someone who makes the everyday routine a little more interesting.

So tell me… are you here because something’s missing, or because you’re curious about what else might be out there?

*notabot

You already know this one. The banner that hits while someone else is in the room, and your thumb flips the phone before your face gives you away. 😉

That's the kind of thread I'm after.. Something you don't leave face up.

1. *notabot, Married. 6', fit, hazel eyes, broad shoulders, EST. Preferably I'm not fuzzy about that. Daytime I'm pretty composed. Evenings I have a little more room for trouble, if the person on the other end is actually fun to talk to.

I get bored fast with 'hey' or couple words, and the weather. I like a woman under 50 who writes like she means it, who already understands discretion, and who gets a little sharper when she's being teased instead of folding.

If you reply, make it something you'd turn the screen away to reread. Curious what you'd actually send.