Hello!! My partner and I have been together for almost 6 years and have started discussing marriage plans. While we are waiting for now (financial reasons), I have still been stressing about the inherent gendered language at weddings. He is a cis bisexual guy and I am an AFAB non-binary person who uses they/he pronouns. I am not out to most of my family, but I'm not exactly in the closet either. I am totally fine using they/them pronouns and non-gendered language in front of my family but wouldn't be comfortable being called 'husband', 'groom', or being referred to with he/him pronouns in front of them. I will also look like a mostly traditional bride as I like to look pretty and feminine for big events!

I don't care if family gossips about us using non-gendered terms, but I'm unsure how to get around language like "I now pronounce you husband and wife" and the "Mr. Mrs." stuff. What are some alternatives that will work legally? We will likely be married by a friend or family member in Massachusetts and we are both NYC residents.

Does anyone know of any good places to shop for a wedding jumpsuit? Or places that sell unique or funky wedding dresses or sets?

I want to wear something unique, fun and stylish for my wedding next fall. I’ve seen cool cape accessories and have planed to try on some more traditional dresses with capes. I wouldn’t mind online shops and I travel frequently across Canada for work, so if you know of cool shops here lmk.

My wife (38F) and I (36F) have been married for three wonderful years, and for our third wedding anniversary, I’ve made her this handmade, leather-bound book filled with Reddit posts I think she’ll love reading and some favourite ones. The ones we constantly talk about, laugh over, and bring up in conversation days after we’ve read them.

I’m asking if anyone in this community could leave a short message wishing my wife a happy 3rd anniversary as an epigraph . I’m hoping to print your comments and include them on that page, so one day, she’ll reopen this book, revisit all these posts, and re-read all the anniversary wishes.

Thank you in advance for helping add this personal touch.

And to my incredible wife: Happy 3rd anniversary, baby. I’d choose you — and all our wonderfully unhinged conversations — every single time.
🦋🔥🐝🌸