Long story short, I have COVID, it’s the season, blah blah blah. I feel awful and I went to a doctor (Didn’t even need to since I did the rapid test), sent the professor a picture of my rapid test, as well as a doctor’s note as they tested me there as well. this man (we’ll call him Dr. Pickles) on Monday like “well, in the past i’ve had students forge doctors notes, I can’t verify this and I can’t verify your COVID test. If you don’t come in tomorrow this will be docked against your participation grade.”Obviously, I don’t want to lose points because this is a grad school course so I put on a N95 and went to class and sat in the back. Dr. Pickles has a history of calling me out for whatever reason and he goes “are you actually sick or are you faking it??” I get snippy and ask “do you want me to take a test right now??” This is a health/science lab building, so he goes downstairs and gets a rapid test from his office (most of the professors have them, they work with viruses such as Covid and other things) and I took it in the hallway. During the independent assignment he came outside to check and I showed him the positive test.
this man starts flipping the fuck out. “why did you come in here and endanger me with covid knowing you had it???” ….because attendance is 30% of our grade, Im not doing well in the class, and you informed me that you would dock points if I didn’t come in today???
needless to say he sent me home and waived my attendance grade for that day. why dude. why even put me through this. 😭 sick as a broke dick dog

I am currently enrolled in a science course where our teacher assigns all of the tests and quizzes through McGraw-Hill. However, I believe there is a disconnect between his lectures and the questions generated by the program. I can study a chapter for 2-3 hours a day and get a D on a quiz. What makes it frustrating is that I'm sure my whole class is cheating (a student admitted that they turn off their camera when completing the proctored quizzes). When I look at the averages in the class, I typically have the lowest grade out of everyone. I have other classes where you can actually study (even though it may be hard) and pass the class with an A. I think the problem is that McGraw-Hill doesn't focus on the main topics of the subject rather it expects us to know obscure details from the text. I miss having professors who actually wrote their own tests and were able to use their lectures to prepare us for them.

It's absolutely ridiculous, a 20 minute lecture video is supposed to replace two hours of content?? I get to class and nobody has even watched the video, and I don't blame them because my professor posts them literally the day before class. The last video I had to watch was posted nine hours before it was due, WHICH WAS 9AM.

Then we're shoved into groups with eight people, and half of them just sit there doing nothing and the other half stare at me silently as I'm writing out the awnsers. I ask for input from them and get absolutely nothing. The teacher wanders around the classroom and gives no advice. We get twenty minutes a question and the questions aren't hard! There's no challenge because the answers are put in the videos!!!! The other day she had us redo a question we already did from a previous class for "more practice", no changes just the exact same question. Nothing added. I end up getting the work done and then I just go and sit and do my reading for other classes until it's time to get up again.

And then we have these stupid tests, where we get a retake for every single one. We get as many pieces of paper as we want to take the test, yet she won't just make it open note. Nobody is learning anything. I had a class like this last year and at least then we had a decent textbook, but our textbook chapters are only 20 pages FOR THE WHOLE UNIT. I already had all of the reading done by week two. There's no penalty for late work, and I've talked to my classmates and they still haven't turned in assignments due last month. We're graded on attendance because that's the only way people will show up because the whole is a waste of time and money. She cuts class short every day for the SI instructor to teach, which I'm grateful there is an SI intrsuctor as least, but still.

Then the actual tests. Our last average was 37.5%, and it's not because people in the class don't know the material it's because she's ridiculously picky about the answers. I got a 50% and went to office hours and asked what I did wrong, and she couldn't even tell me. I know my answers were right. I went to the SI and she told me that she doesn't know why I'm being marked down. Other students in the class said the same thing. If you don't tell us what you want from us you can't expect us to know! At this point it all just feels like a conspiracy to show improvment between tests.

We don't have a midterm, which is whatever, but our school is requiring her to put in grades for it and she said she's "giving us all A's since everyone has the potential to earn an A". I'll take a free A, but I don't even know what my damn grade is in the class and I'd like to know.

Our lab is completely the same. They spent FORTY FIVE MINUTES going over how to work SPREADSHEETS. "First you open the spreadsheet, then you click on the column, then you write a number...." I'm not even kidding. We were put into groups and once again I'm the only one that does anything, and I try to get others involved, I ask for opinions, ask if people can do tasks and yet somehow I'm the only one that ends up doing it. The other day one of the instructors(there's three and yet only one of them knows what they're doing) spent twenty minutes telling us why we should vote. It's all absurd. It feels like I'm in some alternative dimension where everything is upsidown and everyone is pretending to be stupid. One of the guys in my group was reading a research article for an assignment and I watched as he put it into chat gpt and then joked about having to use ai because there's "too many big words". I'm not even kidding. USE A DICTIONARY. THIS IS AN ECOLOGY CLASS AT LEAST TRY TO GIVE A DAMN ABOUT THE ENVIRONMENT.

Then we have an assignment that's supposed to take us the entire semester, and I went to office hours to ask about it. I showed her my ideas and she said "I think you're focusing too much on the cells", but my project is literally on a unicellar organisms, and it's not like I picked that, that's what SHE assigned to me. Most of her office hours take place exactly when the lab does, so there's only one day a week I can actually make it to them.

We have a in class quiz too at the beginning of lectures, which is fine with me, but it just feels so pointless when we get bonus points for writing our name, yet she marks right answers incorrect without explaining why. I just need to know why.

The entire class feels like a joke and I'm tired of it. I love biology and I love learning about it but with the classroom structure and the lack of explication for everything makes it hard to want show up. But of course we have to, otherwise we fail the entire class. At this point I'm convinced it's some social experiment to see how much people bullshit people will tolerate.

I feel lonely.

Some nights, when my friends aren't streaming or I'm not in a call with my friends (who are mainly online friends) I get this strange ping of loneliness. The room feels heavy. And I just break down crying. I'm alone in the dorm room. I started applying for jobs around campus, most have rejected me, but I might be getting a job for the spring semester, which I am excited for. I really hope I got it. But that's besides the point. I only go outside during the nighttime just to get some fresh air or take my garbage out, and of course to eat and go to classes. I joined some clubs but they also have a discord server so all updates go there too. Okay no more backstory. Time to explain what I feel.

Sometimes I feel like I want to cry because I miss home, sometimes I feel enclosed in my own dorm. The atmosphere gets heavy and I feel like I am collapsing under that atmosphere. And then I officially break down mentally.

Can someone please tell me what I can do about this? What even is this? I'm open to any criticisms and advice.

Thank you for taking the time to hear me out.

For context, this was a legal writing and research class. Both it and the pre-req are 8 week classes using the same textbook and building upon each other.

For normal classes, this would be midterms week, but for 8 week courses, it’s finals week. The notice came just now and it’s troubling because there are no plans to offer it in the spring. This is my last class for the program and for a traditional, first time student, this would be taken the fall semester of their second and last year.

I’m currently processing this and eating a meal before I talk to the guidance office. My account is showing a refund for the class, but having to wait a year is going to be problematic if I have to. I also know I can’t be the only one impacted.

I suspect also, this was due to the department being short staffed and the professor of the first class experiencing an accident that injured her hands and has made using a computer difficult.

Has anybody experienced something like this before?

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I'm a shy and introverted guy who has always struggled with socialising, but lately, it's been getting worse. I want friends and meaningful connections, but I'm scared of being judged or rejected. Whenever I'm around people, I often feel like an outsider, struggle to express myself, and just want to go home.

College has become emotionally exhausting for me. I don't feel comfortable there, and I often feel anxious, disconnected, and desperate to be back home. Even after coming home, I keep replaying conversations and overthinking what people might think of me. I feel low, anxious, and mentally drained even when I'm alone.

I don't know whether this is social anxiety, low self-confidence, or something else. I don't want to remain isolated, but I also don't know how to get out of this cycle.

Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you cope with college anxiety, shyness, and feeling like you don't belong anywhere? I'd really appreciate genuine advice.

For reference, my immune system used to be amazing. Goated even. I would barely ever get sick, and even when I did, I would recover pretty quickly. But the second I get to college, I get bronchitis. Okay! No biggie! Just like a week of my voice being gone and coughing up actual exorcisms. This is especially bad considering I’m a Musical Theatre major in a school where that program is PRETTY hard to get into (16 students a year) (Boy I wonder where that’s familiar.)

The SECOND I recover from bronchitis, I get HEINOUS intestine issues, and cannot function. I’m dehydrated, losing electrolytes and water faster than I can replenish them, I’m just dying yall.

That being said, my symptoms have been going on 3 days, which I’m supposed to contact a healthcare professional after 2, but if I miss one more class, my grade drops a LETTER. (More than 2 absences and your grade drops a letter after each absence.) and the only way I can get it excused is if I’m hospitalized bro….

I’m sitting in the classroom rn playing Fire emblem while I wait for the professor to get here so life isn’t all bad. I’m just a little upset that college has me on my deathbed all of the time every day of the week.

So we’re taking an exam. One of the hardest ones I’ve taken in my life honestly. He comes up to me and says how’d you think you did on the exam. I’d say it was hard but think I did ok. He proceeds to say it was easy, yah it was easy for you because you are looking up the answers on Google because the professor left the classroom.

Like I don’t care, cheat if you want to(unless grade gets curved). But don’t come up to me thinking you’re all smart cause Google answered questions for you. All my respect is lost for that dude.

I didn’t do to class today because I’ve been sick so I decided to let myself rest and ofc the one day I don’t go to class is the day my professor decides to have an in class writing assignment that’s worth 25% of our grade omfg I’m stressing out so bad I emailed her at 2 pm earlier today and I still haven’t heard back from her has anyone been in this position before if so how did it turn out for you

I’m a freshman and am having a really hard time making friends as it seems everyone already has groups that they are a part of. I’m kind of a nerd and have been going to multiple clubs that peak my interests but nothing has clicked yet. Is it too late for me?

hey all, just made this and I'm kind of nervous posting it

it's called Puperino. basically I kept downloading pomodoro apps, using them for a week, then forgetting they existed. they all felt a bit cold and serious. so I made one with a little dog called Biscuit in it.

when you start a focus session he wanders over to his bed and curls up and naps. when you're done he sometimes brings you a little gift, which you can keep or trade for bones to buy stuff for his room. you can also dress him up, which I spent way too long on (he has a witch hat and a crown, it's very important)

not gonna lie, not wanting to wake him up has kept me focused better than any streak thing ever did 😅

it also does the usual stuff: the timer on your lock screen, tasks, stats, and a stay mode if you're like me and pick up your phone every 4 minutes

it's free. there's an optional pro with more rooms and stuff if you want to support me

would really love feedback, even if it's "this is buggy" or "this is pointless" haha. what would make you actually keep using a focus timer?

I’m three months into my freshman year of college. I still feel very out of place and haven’t made any solid friendships. I may have come into school with too many bright expectations of these great friendships because I haven’t experienced any. Maybe I am doing something wrong. Is it normal to feel this way?

I am in my first ever semester of college. I have worked so hard yet I have an F in math. It has always been very hard for me, but I go to the tutors for hours every chance I get. My grade in biology was just lowered to a B, and we have a lab exam soon. Lab is very confusing for me and it’s worth a lot, like almost all of our grade. I want to get into a medical program in the future, I want to do something medical because I had medical problems as a child and I want to bring the same comfort to people they brought to me, but I’m worried I’ve already ruined it for myself. Every grade I get that is not to my liking it makes me feel so bad about myself. I used to love painting and art, now I have no time to do it. Everyday I feel so stupid. Is this all there is to life?

There’s an assignment we had to write along with our slides we had to present. I was struggling with the topic but was unsure of how to specify what I was struggling on. I’ve never asked for help and never went to office hours in general as a result. Maybe I’m just a dumbass for not understanding everything if I can’t pinpoint it.

I rushed my assignment and slides. Got the general info down but still didn’t thoroughly know enough.

But I planned to get this done and over with after a week and a half of guilt and avoidance. I knew what to say for my slides but was unsure about my professor’s mandatory questions.

My classmates went before me and each one was detailed. Detailed information and nicely laid out slides. My slides were way too simple and so would my words be too. They were actually applying what they learned while my presentation would just be regurgitated definitions of what we learned.

It felt more humiliating to present with my half-assed slides and information that obviously showed I wasn’t prepared in front of my competent classmates. So I chose the cowardly move and walked out of class and avoided presenting at all…

My professor had already given me an extension for presenting and yet this is what I do in the end. I emailed my professor an apology and possibly to meet to explain myself and she still hasn’t responded. I don’t know how to face her tomorrow in class…!!!

I’ve never avoided something like this before no matter how scared I was. I’m so ashamed I actually did something like this.

I'm currently enrolled in my second year at college and I'm really starting to hate the major I chose. But I'm not particularly good at anything nor exceed in any one class. I feel like I'm too deep into getting this degree to change it without having to take summer class or do more semesters. It probably a me thing due to the fact I hate studying, find the material in class boring the can't take notes of the leacher's' in class. I'm just really hating all the math and sciences i have to do, cuss I stuck at it like really reallly bad, It getting too overwhelming. But it doesn't help that I hate almost everything else offered and the majors i have some interest in have almost not job opportunities.

Idk im just mad and upset at myself and can't study of any of these classes.

I talked to my adviser about this, but again I have no any idea what I would change my major too. I don't want the classes I'm talking now to end up going to waste and I don't want to hear "you just need to try harder". I'm a straight B-C student at best, so Idk how i even got this far tbh.

I could go to office hours, but it not that I don't understand what there saying in class, looking over there notes I get it. It's just that I can't act on it. I can learn and function or formula but when asked to use it, I'm gone. even worse when they have you use multiple function in the same question and the only thing you got to off is a word problem.

Everyday I go to class and everyday I think I should change my major this shit too hard for me. I feel like I might just flunk this semester and change my major the next semester.

Already have a successful business but decided to take Entrepreneurship to see if I could be doing better or if I’m missing anything.
Had to do a video pitch and received great feedback back from a classmate and in my reply thanking them I mentioned I have always been uncomfortable being recorded.
I got a poor grade which I expected but my feed back from the professor included if I wanted to start a business speaking to others and getting my message out there is an important skill to cultivate.
Now, I have mentioned several times I already have a successful business, and I’m also 37 and have been trying for years to get more comfortable being in front of a camera. What really gets me though is I not only taught at this college but I also have spoken in front of crowds of thousands of people before with no problem.
I really want to reply to her feedback stating as much but am wondering if I should just bite my tongue?

I go to a University in the City for International Studies, i got to live on campus a semester so i think I got the college experience I wanted. I have been living my life believing I want to help people and to do that I need to do something politics related. I’ve had this dream since 5th grade but politics makes me miserable now. Everyone is terrible to each other and I’m weak I don’t have the mental fortitude to thrive and graduate therefore I cannot help others. I’ve also been interested in funeral studies, and going onto be a funeral director. It’s been a backup plan of mine. I was thinking of transferring from my university back to the community college closer to me. My biggest issue being I get depressed and barely want to do my 45- 1 hour drive to class I’m thinking the 10 min distance will greatly help. Also the degree/certificate is 2 years long. I really just want to start working I’m over school; I am really just wondering if anyone has had a similar situation. It always makes me feel a little better to know I’m not the only one :)

Kinda need some words of encouragement rn. A few weeks ago everyone around me started subtly showing signs of being in a bad place mentally and confiding in me I tried my best to be happy and be there for them and not let it affect me but I couldn't help but fall into sadness that they weren't doing good. Now get this, I'm already behind regular course sequence, and if I keep slacking like this I'll be really behind, and my dear professors will be disappointed in me.

I am also v privileged bc this course is my passion. Idk what and how to get back on track. I don't like the thought of taking a term off. But I'm really not feeling this rn. I keep getting distracted and I barely have any boundaries or rules for myself to prevent this from happening. I fall deeply into the grind then get burnt out. :(

That's it, that's the post. Before you judge someone for not being able to graduate college, please consider that not everyone has the privilege of being neurotypical. I don't know why so many people here like judging disabled people but we should all be more empathetic to one another instead of finding ways to tear down other struggling people.

No one chooses to have ADHD. No one chooses this life. I would give everything to be cured, but that's unfortunately not an option.

But I guess I'm "irresponsible" in the eyes of the world for having the misfortune to be born with a condition I never asked for. I don't even expect others to understand what it's like. All I ask for is that if you can't understand, you should refrain from judging others.

I’m currently a freshman at college and I’ve been having the absolute worst time here. At first I thought it was because I’m homesick plus that transition from being raised in the city, now I’m in more of an isolated farm area. I made a couple friends, been getting good grades and yet I still feel like I wanna cry everyday I wake up. I’ve faced two pretty serious incidences like getting the university cops called to my dorm at 12:00 am for suspicion of harming myself even though I’m nowhere close to harming myself, and they took an important medication that I need to take so I don’t walk around in pain 24/7. Fast forward to another incident, I got called the n word by some frat dudes and now I’m genuinely ready to leave this shitty school. I told my mom and she also agrees that it’s not safe for me at all to be there. I have two options. Go to community college for the spring semester then transfer to an Hbcu or transfer to an Hbcu right after the fall semester ends. What do I do? I’m so lost and confused.

Hate it here

I have had a rough semester in the past few months outside class with my laptop charger getting stolen at the library, making the situation even worse. I fell behind on my assignments due to my missing charger, which happened just before my assignments were due, and it does seem like I might have to come back next year to graduate because of the rough semester I had. I feel like shit because of it, and this was supposed to be my last semester.

Idk how to really tag this. Just want to vent.

Why does college have to be so fucking hard. Especially with the new grading system im dealing with, my god. I already have an EU citizenship by blood, but I still get charged full international tuition with a scholarship that I can't even get a straight answer on the maintenance of it. I get it, Ireland has a migrant crisis making it into a passport-mill, filtering out international Europeans living abroad. But really?

Even so, I always have such a hard time with this system. I study, or try to, I use flashcards, highlight, do the reading. Nothing fucking sticks. I write it down, I go to office hours, only half of it always sticks.

Not only that, I sometimes wonder why I moved here. It just feels like the European replica of my country, and that the building that most of my classes are in needs a renovation, but probably won't because its lumped in with the arts.

Like if you want us to keep having kids even after we move countries, stop being a little bitch and fix your issues government.

I'm in my first year of a two year program at a cc. I'm the oldest person in my cohort.

Look, I know I'm crotchety and a stickler for manners.

But my gracious these kids don't know how to act and it's annoying.

Almost all of our classes and labs happen in the same room. First and second years take turns using it. A schedule is posted.

Yesterday, my cohort was very obviously having a class. The professor was talking. Sixteen of us were listening and taking notes, occasionally pausing to ask questions.

So why on God's green earth did a group of five second year students walk into the front of the room, grind to a halt, stare at us, and then look startled that we were having class during class time? Then start wandering in and out of the room to rummage through closets and gather supplies for almost twenty minutes? Then they started having conversations among themselves about what they wanted? Like y'all can't wait to decide between purple and green craft paint?

There's a class in progress! This isn't Walmart. Buzz off.

My professor seemed oblivious and my classmates were getting visibly distracted and irritated, so I calmly (and out of earshot) told one of them, "There's a class in progress, it goes until 3 pm." She looked at me like I'd just kicked her.

I don't know how to tell y'all this, but that's unprofessional and if I'd ever done that at work a boss would have sat me down. You don't wander around a conference room, don't do it in a classroom.

If a meeting is going on and you absolutely urgently need something from that room, you politely slip in, get everything you need in one trip, and GTFO.