Going to keep this simple and more can come out if we start chatting. I’m married a loooong time and in a dead bedroom and it has left me feeling undesirable and a smidge lonely. Looking for someone local who wants to chat and flirt, and is able to meet up with evening or weekend availability 1-2 a month.

Me: timid at first, sweet and silly later on. Calm and even keeled. average looking. Nerdy interests. Like to let loose behind closed doors.

You (hopefully): in a similar situation. kind and intelligent. A little bit younger to however much older. Enjoys intelligent conversation. Patient and willing to explore.

Hit me up if this sounds like it could light a spark.

Ok clarifications are apparently necessary. You must be local to NYC. Do not tell me about your penis in the first three chats. No I’m not interested in a 26 year old from NJ. Must have basic reading comprehension and retention skills. To make sure you actually read this far, tell me about something fun you’re doing this fall.

Hi,

Cute, married, mom looking to add some spark back into my life. I really enjoy music, hikes, traveling, and I’m pretty crafty. I hope to find someone with similar interests who wants a discrete fun and flirty friend to share parts of their day with.

I’ve had some luck on here and hope that I’ll connect with someone else who will stick around for a while.

I’d love to share more about myself in private.

If you’re interested, hop in my DMs.

Oh, if you’re also in NC, get out there and vote!

💙

41 (F4M) - #dmv #nova Lets get straight to the point…

I feel like people spend too much time trying to come up with the most unique introduction to grab people’s attention, but it just becomes a long paragraph of using your most sophisticated vocabulary to prove you’re educated and a bunch of fairy tale fantasies that you’re probably incapable of making a reality. So let’s get to the point!

Me: I am a married mom of two crazies. My house is filled with way too much testosterone and boy energy and my nervous system is one WWE match away from me wanting to take a grippy sock vacation. Jk. Promise I am mentally stable. Just overwhelmed with life. I am well educated, have a great career that I believe has a bad rap and people would be shocked to know I actually make good money. I am passionate about human rights and the way our country is “operating” right now throws me into a perpetual tailspin of exhaustion. I am 5’2 on a good day, white, brown hair, green-ish eyes (they change color with lighting), and a pretty average female body with a “mom pooch” that just won’t go away. I run for my own sanity and am trying to get back to my pre-kids marathon lifestyle. I like true crime documentaries, classic comedies (Step Brothers and the Office… if you don’t like either, don’t waste your time messaging me), sports, my music interests range from Enya to DMB to Bob Dylan to Lumineers to Jay-Z to Eminem to Mumford and Sons to Tom Petty to Fleetwood to late 90s/early 2000 pop/rap/hip hop.

Why am I here? While my husband is a fantastic dad, his communication, attention to detail, and affection is severely lacking. I want to wake up in the morning and feel giddy that I might have a message from someone who makes me smile. I am not looking to change my situation or yours. Although my marriage is not in a happy place, my kids would never know and he and I are both dedicated to keeping our family together… for now, at least. I don’t need another person in order to be happy, but it sure is nice to have someone I can share secrets with, talk about life with, laugh with, and dream with, all while jumping at the bit to see each other next because we just can’t keep our hands off of each other. I used to think I lost all my sexual desires and drive after being in a serious relationship but I think I have just figured out that it’s not me who is the issue, it’s the person I am married to. Who cares more about getting himself off with a quickie than my own needs.

You: Must be on the left side of politics, morals, and values. This is a nonnegotiable. Any messages saying otherwise will be blocked. Must also be married with kids to understand my life. Attraction is a must. I am not your typical Redditor and am not into nerdy, fantasy loving, gamers. I am sure you have a heart of gold but common interests are important and those are just not my things. Must be well educated, with a career you are proud of. Must be financially secure and not too stressed about finances (other than being pissed about the institutionalized systems that are failing half our country). Attraction matters to me. I am not looking for a perfect gym rat physique but do expect you to take care of yourself. Light eyes make me melt. You must have a peen that makes an affair worth it. I am into the lumberjack look but also expect you to be able to show emotions. Must be a good communicator. Must be clean and hygienic. I do expect us to be able to share about the struggles in our marriages, but if you ever call your wife “lazy,” I will stop speaking to you. That just tells me she is overwhelmed and overstimulated and you are not pulling your weight…

Am I being too picky? Maybe. Does this unicorn exist? Maybe not. It’s at least worth a try. But I will not take a chance on uprooting my life for just anyone.

\#notabot. Send me a message with your most proud accomplishment so I know you aren’t one either.

I’ve been in a committed relationship for over eight years, and lately it feels more like friendship than romance. I’m not looking to leave my relationship—just hoping to find a genuine, respectful connection with someone who understands.

I miss the butterflies, playful flirting, and little “thinking of you” messages. I’d love to laugh, share random moments, and get to know someone at a comfortable pace, without pressure or expectations.

I like random pictures, unexpected “thinking about you” texts, and all the small gestures that make a connection feel warm and real. I’d love for us to look forward to talking and let things develop naturally, at a comfortable pace—not make conversation feel like another obligation. I’m not expecting instant chemistry or constant messaging; I’d just like to see if we click.

I’m a mom to of one, 5'2", 220lbs, brown wavy hair, blue/green eyes, and glasses. I enjoy knitting, reading, and audiobooks. If this sounds like you, tell me a little about yourself!

Yes it me again, things change.
You know you do the same also.

I'm going to start by saying I am married and I have no plans on changing anything about my relationship nor do I have any plans on changing anything about your own relationship.

I'm a 25 year old female, mid size (squishy all around), on the mixed side with short curly brown hair, glasses and a few piercings. I've been told I have a very mixed vibe who is also very shy but I do have a tendency to love a lot of things honestly. I love listening to music, my go to is usually heavy metal, screamo music or something between or completly different, definitely an all types of music person.
I have a lot of hobbies from reading, photography, I love painting and drawing also.
If I’m not doing any of that I do like playing video games.

I would love to hopefully find someone who is closer to the area but distance doesn't really matter. But I would love for things to progress in the future and maybe want more, because the distance thing lol. I want to progress to phone calls and spamming each other when we miss each other.

| love attention and constantly crave it & need it bad. I understand schedules can be hard but if you're trying that's what counts. Most people end up talking for a bit and delete their account, or stop responding all together instantly once I want to know more about them or that I’m not really with sending nudes right away.

Remember life PM? You know, pre-monotony. Before the endless Zoom calls, grocery pickups, and nightly debates over what to eat for dinner. Back when a certain name lighting up your phone gave you butterflies, and getting ready to see someone involved a little music, a few outfit changes, and one last look in the mirror thinking, “damn, I look good.”

Who decided we had to grow out of that? Because I’d like to file a formal complaint.

As for the guy behind this little rebellion against monotony, I’m 40, a dad, and work in tech. I’m 5’10”, 175 lbs, athletic, stay pretty active, and clean up nicely when the occasion calls for it. I have a healthy appreciation for queso, an unhealthy relationship with the Cowboys, and enough dad jokes to make my kids question their genetic inheritance. I’ve traveled a good bit, collected some stories, and even picked up a couple of languages along the way, though years in Texas have apparently reduced my fluency to ordering tacos.

Now, about you. I’ve always had a soft spot for the unassuming woman with a little mischief behind that innocent smile. Maybe you’re the mom-next-door type who’s a little nerdy, open-minded, and can surprise me with an unexpected opinion or some obscure rabbit hole you’ve fallen into. You’ve lived a little, have stories worth telling, and wouldn’t mind making a few new ones. And to my curvy queens, don’t be shy. I see you over there. ;)

If you’re open to connecting and rediscovering some of those PM moment, drop me a message and let’s see where this goes. ;)

Does this sound familiar? Include your answer with your reply :). Be honest and tell me if you googled lol.

You’re in a marriage that feels more like roommates living together but apart? Feel lonely in the middle of all the noise? Craving to feel, needed, desired, wanted and connected again?

That’s me

What I'm hoping for is Online only, something that feels comfortable at first, then quickly becomes the thing we both look forward to. Easy flowing conversation that feels natural and familiar. Excited for each new message as we feel the seductive pull of natural attraction.

To me it's all about taking this feeling and allowing the time to build a connection. The flirting, teasing, laughing, getting to know each other. This is the raw intimacy I crave. This is what raises everything to a whole new level.

I’m very sexual and need that outlet. But I want this to develop naturally between us. The merger of our fantasies and desires that’s natural, not forced or rushed. We will know when the time is right.

A little about me: I’m sarcastic, fun-loving, a natural flirt, and a bit of a hopeless romantic. I’m a business professional who loves to talk about anything and everything. I absolutely love being a dad of 4, though I'm still adjusting to this whole empty nest thing. I lean to the left of life.

I’m active and work out and work hard to keep fit (mostly just trying not to hurt myself, lol). I’m 5’8”, bald with goatee and mustache and glasses.

A little about you: You’re 35 +, located in North America. You're confident, intelligent, active, stay active and comfortable in your own skin. You have an upbeat, positive vibe, and you don't take life too seriously. You’re fluent in sarcasm and can dish it back as well.

When we are both ready I want to change apps to send voice notes and schedule calls when we can get them in.

If you’re still reading, send me a message with a short intro about yourself. Have fun with it and tell me why you think we will connect.

I’m just your average bbw looking for a discreet Fwb in Bartlesville OK or surrounding areas. I can’t host. Must be within an hour of Bartlesville. Local only. No online relationships. Not looking for couples or women. I’m a huge book nerd and love baking. Looking for someone to vibe with. No men over 40. I have had a Fwb before but they live out of state so we don’t see each other. Again I’m a bbw so if you’re looking for something else look elsewhere. I am in a fully committed relationship and I’m not looking to change your status or my status. I’m not into any weird kinks or fetishes so again if that’s your thing I’m not your person.

Hey! So we both know why we're here. Married, in a dead bedroom situation and looking to find it somewhere else at this point. I'm not looking to change my situation or yours, just looking to have some good sex again when schedules align. Nothing too serious.

Ideally, I'm looking for someone local. Or at least able to travel to the area on a somewhat consistent basis. I would love to meet once or twice a week if possible. Discretion is also a big deal, so please have good opsec!

As for me, I'm right around 6ft, dad bod, very discreet and a high sex drive. I'm in the Grand Rapids area and have some ability to host during the morning/early afternoon depending on how schedules line up. I can have a pretty flexible work schedule if need be. Also able to come to you most days if you're not too far.

If you've gotten this far, send a DM with your favorite color!

44M looking for something and someone. I would love this person to be of a submissive nature and/or into freeuse. Someone I can message and say “I’m on my way over” and begin using whenever the urge strikes me.

I am tall (6’6”), hwp, with salt and peppery hair and a beard and brown eyes. I’m a clean cut, drug and disease free, white collar professional type, and of course married. I am open to pretty much all body types, all races, older, younger, or same age. What matters most to me is a submissive nature and a good attitude.

If this sounds like something you might be interested in pursuing, feel free to let me know.

Hello, 45 year old married dad here looking for a long-term affair. Ultimately what I'd love to find is someone in a similar situation, where the marriages we're in are neglectful or unfulfilling but we're both unable to leave them. I'd like to find someone who isn't afraid of developing feelings, who is there for me and I'd be there for them; emotionally and physically. I love to chat throughout the day, time and family permitting of course! We all have lives, and that will come first.

I'm 5'11" and 170lbs, not super fit but not overweight either. I have dark brown hair and eyes and have been told I'm attractive. That's pretty subjective though, so I'm open to trading images (and verification) early to make sure attraction is there. Also willing to share a clean test result should we hit it off. In that regard, I'd like find someone who actually wants to meet, not just chat endlessly before you ultimately ghost. I get it though, this is a scary place. You don't know me, so if there's anything I can do to put your mind at ease, please let me know. I'm also plenty willing to travel if we're somewhat far apart.

What do I do? Well I'm a video game designer by trade, though I've been the victim of corporate layoffs recently. So in the meantime I'm teaching college and volunteering with a local Fire Department as an EMT. Hobby wise I also volunteer with a costuming club that does a lot of charity events and visits for sick kids at hospitals. My own kid was in the hospital for a while once and I remember how amazing it was to get visits from characters and pets, so it's very rewarding to do.

This is getting a bit long, so if you have any questions, please ask. I'd love to hear from you and I hope you're having a great day.

I know that title got your attention.
Good. That was the point.

Now before you roll your eyes at the confidence, hear me out. I’m 42. I’ve had plenty of time to figure out who I am, what I bring to the table, and what makes me worth getting to know. I’m not going to pretend otherwise just to appear modest.

I’m married, 6’1”, athletic, fit, highly educated, successful, affectionate, sensual, attentive, adventurous, competitive, and completely comfortable taking the lead. *notabot

I’ve built a successful career that demands intelligence, leadership, sound judgment, and making difficult decisions when everyone else is still figuring out what the problem is. However, I don’t take myself nearly as seriously as that description suggests.

I run road races, lift heavy things, hike, play sports, read constantly, cook, and enjoy hobbies that get me outside. I promise I’m not trying to avoid having free time.

I love live music, history, spontaneous adventures, sporting events, inappropriate humor, good food, and conversations with people who have something interesting to say.

I have a particular weakness for a woman with a sharp mind, a quick wit, and just that right amount of attitude to keep things entertaining.
Give me some sarcasm. Give me your opinions. Challenge me. Just know that I’m going to enjoy giving it right back you.

Now, here’s something you should know about me. I pay attention. I notice details. I remember what matters to you. I recognize when something is bothering you, even when you insist everything is fine.

I’m not interested in surface level conversations that go nowhere. I want to know the woman behind the everyday routine. What makes you laugh until you can’t breathe? What are you passionate about? What are you secretly competitive about? What do you want more of in your life? What side of you comes out when you’re with someone who makes you feel completely comfortable being yourself? I’m interested in all of it.

Your intelligent side. Your sarcastic side. Your affectionate side. Your mischievous side.

And of course the passionate, sexual side. I’m a very sexual man, and I’m not going to downplay that to make this sound more respectable.

I want emotional intimacy and genuine attraction. I want conversations that challenge my mind and flirting that makes concentrating unnecessarily difficult. I want playful teasing, anticipation, inside the unexpected messages, and moments when we both know exactly what each other is thinking.

I want a woman who enjoys being desired and knows how to make her interest unmistakable. I’m not interested in doing all the pursuing.

I’m confident. I’m assertive. I’m naturally dominant. I enjoy taking initiative, making decisions, and creating the kind of connection where you feel comfortable letting your guard down. Don’t mistake that for wanting someone passive.

I’m attracted to strong, intelligent, independent women. Women who have opinions, ambitions, personalities, and lives of your own.
The kind of woman who can challenge me in one conversation and willingly let me take the lead in the next. That’s an incredibly attractive combination.

And when there’s real trust, emotional intimacy, and sexual chemistry?That’s when things get interesting and exciting.

I’m not looking for a collection of women to entertain me. I don’t need a roster. I want one woman who captures my attention so completely that continuing to search becomes pointless.

Someone I genuinely enjoy talking to. Someone who makes me laugh, makes me think, makes me feel wanted, and gives me something to look forward to throughout the day.

I want mutual effort. If I’m interested in you, you’ll know it. I’ll initiate. I’ll flirt. I’ll make time. I’ll remember the details. I do expect the woman I’m connecting with to be just as interested in making me feel wanted.

Distance isn’t my primary concern. I’m open to online connections, and I’m open to meeting eventually if the chemistry, trust, and circumstances align but no pressure and no requirement to ever meet either.

I’m discreet, realistic, and not interested in blowing up your life or making promises about a fantastical future.

What I am interested in is finding something that feels exciting, meaningful, affectionate, and genuinely mutual.

So let’s get back to that title. I told you I’m a catch. I’ve given you a glimpse of why.

Now it’s your turn.

What is it about a confident, assertive man that you find irresistible? And what do you bring to the table that would make a man like me stop looking?

Skip the generic answers. Skip the polished resume. I want to see your personality.

You already know you want to find out more about me. Now give me a reason to feel the same about you.

It's almost Friday. You have been sifting through another round of posts that promise you the world but don't deliver at the end of the day. I want to be a new and fresh breath of air. A relief that you have finally found something worth your time. A light at the end of the tunnel of this neverending search for Mr. Right. In our minds we think that it should not be hard to find the person that can fill our voids, given we are all in this for the same reasons. But, each and every person has their own means to their end and some of those people are here for the wrong reasons.

When I talk about being here for the same reasons, for most of us, I speak of what is missing in our lives and what we strive to find in someone else in order to try to find happiness. We want someone to notice us. To give us compliments and even call us pet names. Someone to pay attention to what we say and follow up with questions to see how it's going. We want someone consistent. We don't want games. We don't want frequent fliers. We want someone who truly is looking for something genuine. Is it too much to ask for to have someone say good morning, chat throughout the day when free and give you a sweet dreams at night? Fairly simple if you are into the other person. I want us to be exclusive to each other, striving towards a wonderful emotional and physical connection. One where our minds are hazy and there are butterflies in our stomachs.

A little about me. I'm married with kids. I'm above average in height, I'm fit, I have dark hair and light eyes. Short beard and olive skin. I'm attractive and have been told I have a smile and eyes that make you melt. I'm blue collar and dress modern and fashionable. I'm not nerdy or yuppie. I don't have long flowing hair. Mine is styled and shorter. I love to work out and take long walks with my dog. I love to hike and go on long bike rides. I enjoy music and peaceful summer nights in my yard enjoying a cold drink. I look at the glass half full. I love to tease and have fun. I'm compassionate and caring. I'm sexual and open minded. Our zone will always be a safe and non judgemental zone. Trust and security will always be the number one priority. This fresh start can be all yours. But you have to make the move to get it. I can only put my emotions here for you to see. It's up to you to determine if they are real and if you want to embrace them. I hope to hear from you so we can start a new chapter in our lives. Have a great day.

Like most here, I'm in a marriage that's lacking passion and fulfillment. I love my wife, but there are things missing I've decided to find on my own, without blowing up my family or yours.

I'm lucky to do what I love (though working from home is love/hate). Proud dad of 4 adult kids and adjusting to empty nesting. Laughter is huge for me, and sarcasm is my second language.

Passionate about food and music, powered by caffeine and chocolate. I lean left socially and politically, so it helps if you do too. I stay active and fit while trying not to hurt myself.

To me, confidence + intelligence = sexy. I'm drawn to women who can talk about anything, take care of themselves, are comfortable in their own skin, and don't take life (or themselves) too seriously.

Please be 35+ and in North America, since time zones make things tough.

I’m looking for online only and live in MST time. I want to take our time: flirt, laugh, tease, and get lost in deep conversations about family, goals, and dreams. A safe place to be honest and vulnerable, where neither of us wears a mask.

Yes, the sexual side matters. I'm very sexual and need that outlet. But it's so much richer when the subtle seduction pulls us together naturally. We'll both know when the time is right.

When we're ready, I love voice messages, video, and calls.

Still with me? DM me and tell me about yourself. Take a minute with it, and see if you can make me smile.

Married professional man in a dead bedroom, missing the passion and desire. Seeking one very special woman in a similar situation that is ready to jump out and take a chance to feel those feelings again. Open to sharing pictures early.

You should be 40+, confident, discreet, within a reasonable driving distance from north eastern Iowa and open for a genuine connection.

I’m a 57 married male 6’0”, 210, athletic build, HWP, DDF, non smoker, social drinker and you won’t find me in a gym. Overall just an above average Midwestern guy looking for a girl next door who might just be a little mischievous 😉.

Honesty is very important for this to work out and not here playing games.

Please include the state you live in your initial response and a little about yourself.

What are you waiting for, DMs open?

What I’m looking for in a woman:

- married
- in Chicagoland
- in average to good shape
- intelligent
- above average sex drive
- around my age. No hard cutoffs but generally close.
- engaging. looking to chat daily about all sorts of topics: books, culture, cooking, movies, travel, etc.

About me:

I’m a unique combination of two things:

1. I’m the fit dad next door. Educated, clean cut, good corporate job, great social circle and just a normal non-creepy guy. I’m laid back and like to laugh. Don’t take myself to seriously. I’m an avid reader. Love to golf. I also like cooking, Chicago sports, live music, puzzles, working out and traveling to name a few.

2. I am blessed/cursed with a big sex drive and I’m sure most of my fiends/family/colleagues would have no idea. But I generally like to be in control and a bit on the rougher side. Nothing extreme. I’m also well endowed which is fun with the right woman.

Looks wise:

- 6’ tall
- more muscular build. Like hockey or football player. - big arms, shoulders, etc.
- salt and pepper full head of hair
- great smile

Next steps:

-Send me a message and tell me that last great book you have read.

I don't know if I should be surprised, but here I am probably saying the same thing every other guy my age in a long-term (10+ years) committed relationship. But I'm mostly happy with my life, we just don't have sex at all, and don't have any physical connection anymore.

I want to feel that excitement, joy, and attraction to someone again.

I'd say I'm different than other guys, but that's probably not true. I hope to make a connection with someone, talk, feel excitement, and maybe someday it leads to more. Maybe it's just someone to be excited to talk to.

Anyways, cheers, and good luck to everyone out there.

​

I'm looking for a long-term affair. I'm well groomed active in my local gym. I've been going for a few months now, still have a gut but it's slowly disappearing and my arms are looking great. But probably not yet your "tall dark and handsome type...yet 😉. I'm not looking for the perfect body type, honestly if you have a pretty smile and enjoy conversation we would hit it off. Willing to exchange pics and chat here for a while but would then like to move to telegram. Thanks.

I’m 40, married, a personal trainer, 6ft4. That last one mostly means I duck through doorways and still clip my head. My wife is a decent person. I am not here to run her down. I just want something that is actually mine for a bit. Easy conversation. A bit of heat. The person who notices when I show up, not the one who fits me in between the dishwasher and bed.

Looking for a woman in a similar spot. Attached, discreet, not trying to blow anything up. If you still take care of yourself and feel a bit unseen at home, that is who I want. Tell me something real about your day. I will do the same. Not just hey

Let’s make some terrible decisions, flirt way too hard, develop an inappropriate amount of chemistry, and then spend the next week pretending we’re both totally normal about it. Who’s in?

Hey. I’m 36, married, two kids, and professionally trapped. So obviously I’m here looking for someone who can make my phone suddenly become the most interesting object in the house.

I’ve done this before, which means I’ve either learned absolutely nothing or I’m extremely committed to the bit. Probably both.

Life is mostly work, kids, and wondering why there are always approximately 47 things that need to be cleaned. My hobbies have been reduced to running, reading, gardening, and watching sports.

Tall, reasonably handsome, slightly sarcastic, and just self-aware enough to know this is probably a terrible idea.

I’m looking for someone funny, flirty, curious, and just a little bit reckless. Someone who enjoys that particular kind of tension where a completely innocent conversation starts getting progressively less innocent and neither person makes any attempt to stop it.

If you like tall guys, questionable decisions, shameless flirting, and the thrill of knowing you probably shouldn’t be doing this, you know what to do.

About me:
I’m tall, heavily tattooed, and tend to live somewhere between calm and quietly chaotic (mostly in my own head).
Personality wise, I lean nerdy with a natural tendency to flirt, it just kind of happens.

What I’m looking for is a connection that feels easy but engaging. Someone to talk to throughout the day, swap music, share random thoughts or moments, and build that “you’re the first person I want to tell” kind of dynamic.

Im a chef, so yes, I can absolutely cook. But I’m also the kind of person who will get to know you by your favorite cuisine and dish. Conversations with me can go from joking around to unexpectedly deep without much warning.

I’m pretty laid back and not trying to create anything complicated. Just something that feels genuine, fun, and has a bit of spark to it. I appreciate someone who can match energy, play along, and isn’t afraid of a little playful trouble.
Physical attraction matters, so I’m into exchanging early on.
If you’ve got a good sense of humor, can handle sarcasm, and like someone who enjoys making you laugh, we’ll probably get along.

Absolutely nothing! You should probably spend less time on LinkedIn.

Now that I have your attention, I'm looking for one woman to build a connection and have fun with. I imagine her also in a dead bedroom, frustrated and lonely, but not ready to leave. Ever the optimist, I've concluded that a discreet affair is a compromise worth exploring.

I want a real friendship, with real feelings, but I don't want you to leave your marriage. Nor am I able to leave mine. I want to text, and call, and every once in a while meet for lunch or coffee or something more private.

I'm pretty ok looking - have all my hair, more teeth than most, solid build but definitely not a runner, 5'10".

Let's build something that provides mutual support, communication, and a bit of an escape.

I like the kind of connection that starts easy and normal… until it very clearly isn’t anymore. Slow burn is great, and so is that instant and mutual f***k it, let's do this feeling.

Looking for an affair partner who's engaging, self-aware, and comfortable in her own skin. Age matters less than personality, confidence, and the vibe you bring.

You’re in or close enough to the Greater Boston area that meeting in real life doesn’t become a planning project. You’re discreet, emotionally mature, and open to something ongoing if the vibe is there.

40, married, straight, clean, fit, educated, and emotionally aware, and a pretty normal guy overall. I’m looking for something that’s actually exciting for both of us instead of endless chatting that dies after a couple of days.

If you know what you’re looking for and aren’t afraid to go after it, please reach out. ~

Most women here either want a quick fling or something like a parallel marriage. I’m targeting that space in between.

I want a lover and a friend. Whether it lasts months or years, it needs to be organic, charged, easy, with clear boundaries that include respect for each other's time and needs.

I embody the qualities most women find attractive in a man. I’m tall, fit, intelligent, grounded, intrepid, and carry myself with a healthy amount of confidence - not arrogance. I have a good life. But the physical piece of my marriage is dead.

You’re a highly-selective, well-rounded woman who knows who she is, understands the nuances of this lifestyle, and pursues only what she wants.

You're married, at least 38, reasonably fit, and ideally, a professional who lives in or travels to the northeast.

​Attraction matters, but your character and personality matter just as much. I want to get to know you. And for you to know me. So, let's skip the small talk and discuss life, travel, food, politics....Anything but the weather and sports.

​If you end up responding, tell me what you liked about my post. That's a great place to start.

Let me start off by saying I’m not going to interview you. We’re going to talk and get to know each other that way. We’re going to banter and shoot the shit and laugh and connect beyond the what’s your favorite color surface.

I’m a married dad with a beard, blue eyes, a Boston accent, and broad shoulders. I’m quick witted, too quick most say, I’ll be the funniest guy you ever meet, and I’ll also care for you and make you feel seen like no one else has.

I’m not looking for a quick fling or to be one of many. I’m a guy looking for his person for a long term connection. Meeting would be ideal but not a requirement.

I build myself in the gym and stuff myself in the kitchen. I wear a lot of hats but the one missing from my collection is boyfriend.

Outside of the gym and kitchen, I like to watch movies, listen to music, and let my emotional state live and die by my patriots and Red Sox.

I know what I have to offer to the right person and that starts with effort. Give what you want to receive and you’ll never question things with me.

It all starts with being foolish and goofy together. Ends with you calling me your boyfriend. I love to banter. Whether we’re talking shit or flirting or both simultaneously, bring it but be sure you can handle getting it as I don’t pull punches.

Fall is here so come show me why you’re the one to steal my hoodie.