There’s plenty of women that will hookup willingly and not even require a date. I’m beyond tired of the nasty touch deprived men coming into my club and demanding pussy. Patrons aren’t even allowed to touch us so what the fuck makes you think that we’re about to fuck? For free at that? All three of the customers I spoke to today were so thirsty and begging that I ended up going home early out of disgust. My god. Why aren’t you going to a regular bar to pick up women?

I swear, hookup culture is another reason why the clubs are shit and people treat it like fucking Tinder.

I’m looking at old photos and I’m wondering how I wasn’t kicked out of the club looking like that, it was a high end too… or how I even made good money? Nobody ever even told me, I just know everyone laughed at me and got second handed embarrassment. I used a dark brown bronzer for it too and I’m pale asf…Getting sober allowed me to get out of that phase and I’m so so glad. If anyone on here knows a girl who had unblended brown lines drawn on their boobs, it might be me😭😭

I'm in the midwest and the cubans that are workinf g at this club have zero equitte, the club I started is a no rules type club, and It's just insane. They do extras for dirt cheap and get fully nude for dirt cheap and it's hard to make money when they will fuck for $220 and the club takes $90. They have bbl's and they will come up while the white girls wre talking to a customer and STEAL them! How are they getting hired? How is this legal??
One of the girls stole my customer when I went on stage and I cursed her out and she didn't understand a single word she was like 40 years old cuban with fake tits then she fucked the customer in the backroom right after.

They go up to customers when you are speaking to them and try to ask for a dance????

There is around 100 girls who work a shift at the new club I started maybe 5 girls being black 20 being white and the rest cuban.

edit: come to find out later the management and the cubans were coordinating to sell cocaine. Not joking

and that’s okay.

every dude I talked to ended up getting hella dances after I left him.

but I’m bleeding through a tampon per hour so like… hey, what’s good for the club is okay by me. They got their sob story/emotional baggage out and then at least someone made money.

I pay taxes and I pay you to be here plus I tip out. I hate these clubs with stupid strict schedules.

this is not the first rant in this subreddit about hating men, nor will it be the last.

I rotate between different ways to express My disdain for them. a loud, breathy groan. an onslaught of profanity, like “———-— ———-! ———-?“ an assault for their assault of Me. I love a good slap across their hideous faces and seeing the shock of this statuesque of a Goddess really not playing around with Her bodily boundaries and sovereignty.

working in an industry where you genuinely do not like the majority of your clientele is such a hassle to deal with. they are not likeable people and cannot be trusted around a grain of rice! My academic interest is also very much feminism, patriarchy, and matriarchy. (currently prodding around in My 8 inchers holding a book called “asking for it: the alarming rise of rape culture and what we can do about it.” definitely a book to be reading in the club, i’ll tell you that much.) truth be told, I am not the best at playing the part depending on the patron. if they say some dumb ignorant ass shit, I physically cannot appease them. I don’t believe that I should receive money from everyone, though I embody abundance. before starting SW, I was unsure of ever wanting to be married or having a long term partnership. now? a man would have to thank Me for entertaining him, never mind being in an intimate relationship.

I will continue to alchemize men’s lust, adoration and desire until they are blue in the face and blue in the balls. fuck ass bitches.

Do you remember the set you danced to? What you wore? How you felt? What was the rest of the shift like? Let’s reminisce!

I’ll go first! I didn’t have any proper “outfits” so I was in a somewhat pretty brown mesh VS set, and 6in clear pleasers. My first set ever was a little all over the place vibes-wise, but I had a great time lol it was Vagina Mine by Puscifer, Love Again by RTJ, aaand You’ve Seen the Butcher by Deftones. Don’t remember how I felt, I think I just showed up, disassociated, and went home with a ridiculous amount of money. The rest is history 💸

Hey ladies, I thought I would share part of my
Routine that I think could be helpful to a lot of dancers out there. Currently doing a seven day run and my body is killing me but what saves me the most is every day before work I take an Epsom salt bath and I listen to this specific manifestation video

https://youtu.be/JPxRhc2IdlA?is=fOW3lfgCOp6eZ40T

I use it to imagine not only what I want the night to look like (raining money and vips all night!!) But also how I want my future look like after a dancing (lots of land, a garden, a farm and a beautiful kind and caring husband)

It really seems to the right headspace before I start getting ready for work and I truly believe manifestation works!!

Getting spooky how slow the club has been this week. Feels like a ghost town. Praying for it to pick up soon again! 🙏

Can someone please tell me what I did wrong?

Last night a customer came in and 4 girls swarmed him (including myself). Girl 1 is pimped out and sat on his lap and physically would move back and forth to block me from talking to him until I finally shoulder checked her to get her to stop. Girl 2 is not pimped and is the reason I didn’t try to get the guy to myself because she and I have worked together before. Pretty early on girl 3 realized the vibe and left. I am blonde (which was the customers type as a blonde guy himself) but after he tried to politely say he couldn’t handle all of us and to go nobody moved. He kept staring at me while the other girls were talking so I could tell he wanted just me. I could’ve said hey babe who do you want or do you want a blonde only and kicked them off. But I didn’t.

We all go to dances for him 3 for $100 and all at the same time. Girl 1 is whispering in his ear and grabbing his dick over his pants the whole time trying to get him for herself. On the last song I wanted to do my splits trick that I do at the end of my dances. Girl 2 tapped me and told me to stop and get up cause I was doing too much. (Even though I’m not touching his dick or trying to steal him and she hasn’t told girl 1 to stop) He says he doesn’t want to take them to the back so they leave and I am hanging back and say are you really done and he’s like no thank god I’ve been waiting for them to leave all night. Ok so we go to vip. On the way girl 2 says don’t leave him faking hyping me up but then she ends up crying to the manager about it later and then today completely ignored me and hates me now.

Girl 1 comes into our vip uninvited saying the waitress told her to (which was a lie). Mind you he’s already paid for the room and was about to pay me on card. She’s like well babe earlier you said you could only take care of one girl. He looks at her and says ya…. She repeats the same thing thinking he’s gonna somehow change his mind and say her instead. And I’m like dude you have to say who you want. When he chooses me she starts berating me saying I’ve been mean all night and the other girl hates me too blah blah I turn to the manager and he kicks her out.

No good deed goes unpunished. I thought I was helping them out by allowing them to take my time up to get some dances when whole time I could’ve commandeered the customer. They tried to stop me from the get go in my opinion.

But if I’m the issue I’d like to be self aware enough about it and be told upfront.

When I first started I was in love with this job. It was fun, light, easy money and the girls + staff was nice (I was working in America tho)

Then I came back to Europe and it’s been so shit.

So long working hours, strict schedules, so many backstabbing horrible girls, unnecessary drama and bullshit, shit money and cheap customers, extras ruining the industry..

I’m starting to feel ready for a new era of my life.
I want to study to become a veterinarian instead. I’m too sensitive for all of this I’m not gonna lie, and I love animals.

But I will keep on grinding for some more time and try to enjoy it while it lasts.

Good luck to all my fellow dancers feeling this way. I hope we get some good shifts ahead of us 💗💰

if you also feel like this: how do you cope with it? How do you go to work with a positive energy? I’m so tired honestly

Hi beauties. I’m selling some lightly used/never used outfits and shoes on Depop for a decent price! I attached my link in the comments. Thanks ¨̮

What’s the best club to visit in St. Louis area?

I want to try travel dancing in Miami and not sure what clubs to work at? I was recommended Scarlett’s Cabaret and Cheetah. Any other recommendations would be great! I don’t do extras so looking for clubs where I can make decent money without having to cross those boundaries.

So I am another stripper coming here to tell another sad dating story because we know how hard it can be as we are already a walking red flag per se. I just want to put it out and talk to someone about that.

I went to a new city to work as a big event as happening and one day before start work, I booked a hotel for myself and I went to this event because it's a fun event where everyone is drinking and socializing. So I met this cute guy that day and on the next day I started working and he was messaging and calling me all the time asking me to meet up with him and his friends and I had to lie for 3 days that I was busy with my friends or that I was tired and I couldn't meet him. I tried to meet him during the day, but he was not replying, so it's not entirely my fault.

But I felt so devastated for lying, and when I think I found someone nice, then this happens... he flew back to his home country and I said that I was really sorry and that I'd love to meet him again and he never replied. He was probably thinking that I was hanging out with someone else.

Like, for how long will I have to lie about what I do? I asked myself, "What if I had told him the truth?"" Probably not worthly anyway as he is younger than me, and it's not going to turn into anything, but I feel so sad about this that I even cried.

Maybe you also have some sad stories that turned out well and would like to share it so that I feel less sad? Or maybe not, and we can feel sad together, too

I grew up without her but I always think it’s ironic that I ended up doing the same thing as her.

Hi! Does anyone here have really short hair ? I want to cut my hair into a pixie cut but I’m terrified that the men won’t like it and that it will affect my earnings. Right now I mostly wear wigs so I guess I could just wear a wig if they don’t..

But I also think it could be good as it would make me really stand out compared to my coworkers… I don’t know lol

Does anyone have a housemom in Metro Detroit that makes and sells g-strings and t-backs? I need to replace some of my stuff and after moving from Florida don't have any connects.

How is it ??? It’s nearby the casino 🎰

I constantly hear how awful PDX dancing is but due to personal issues it may be my only option temporarily.

I’m used to working in high end, topless gentlemen’s clubs. My last club in Texas was 1600 per hour, 800 per half hour & we kept that minus the funny money 5% fee.

Can anyone shed light on the VIP prices in Spyce or Club Rouge? Also, is it stage auditions or do they just look at you & decide? Thank you very much

I see girls say all the time say that they wanna try out Miami. Some girls even move there solely to dance (that's what I did) I wish I started anywhere else. Firstly, the clubs in Miami and all of South Florida allow extras. It's only a handful (only 2 that I have first hand experience with) that strictly don't allow them. All the other clubs turn a blind eye and some even encourage them. I am not gonna act like I've never done them because lets be fr I'm a Miami dancer, and I don't judge girls for doing them, but I genuinely think allowing extras in the club results in dancers being harassed more and paid less. If a dude can get a BJ in the back for $100 bucks, he's gonna be less willing to want to pay the same amount "just for some dances". All the Miami content creators you see pulling bands at the club it's because they are 100% doing extras. Caitlynsometimescherry for example. I'm glad she at least prices them high but I feel like it gives girls this false hope that Miami is where the big money is but they don't see the reality of how these dancers are pulling 3k+ nights. Ultimately I think it's the responsibility of the club to be vigilant about preventing them from happening, for the safety of the girls and their own reputation.

Secondly you'd be surprised how many clubs in Miami still price floor dances at 10 DOLLARS A SONG. Yup, many clubs here still charge 1990's prices in 2026 and you get in trouble if you try and charge the clients more than that. And even if they allow you to charge more so many crusties are used to the $10 price that if you ask for more they'll scoff at you.

Thirdly the clientele and management is just so disrespectful. Seriously, the clients constantly grab you without asking, expect wayyyyy too much for so little $$$ and are mad annoying. I do think this ties back to the extras culture. Most places have shit management who couldn't give a fuck about your safety or comfort.

I recently travel danced in Colorado and the difference was night and day. Most clubs are topless only because they have a rule that if alcohol is served the club can't be full nude. Weirdly having that boundary in place makes the customers more respectful I feel. Like they know they can't just reach for your pussy whenever they want during a dance. Not that they ever can, but when giving full nude dances in Miami 9 times out of 10 the dude always reaches for the kitty. The clubs I danced at in Colorado were very strict about no extras and had security watching in the VIP rooms to make sure nothing went too far. The customers are aware of this and don't try to cross boundaries because of it. I also could charge whatever I wanted for lap dances. I was doing between 30-40 a song depending on the customer. But it was really easy to sell 3 songs for $100. Just had to get 10 guys to do that and boom-an easy band without doing anything extra or being assaulted. And no guys fought me on my prices or tried to haggle me down. Management and bartenders were always very kind as well. I easily made either close to or over 1k every night I worked there without having to go through the crazy bullshit I deal with in Miami.

After leaving Colorado I'm like why TF do I stay dancing in Miami and South FL? It's really not as amazing as people say it is. You can talk to any girl who works here and they'll say the same. I recently saw a TikTok video of this girl having a full blown mental breakdown before her shift in Miami because of how tough it is. If you're considering dancing here because you think you'll make bands, I'd say consider elsewhere.

I’ve been wanting to talk about it on this sub for a while, it just happened to be a good time. Iykyk.

I want to acknowledge that some dancers genuinely are unnecessarily cruel. Experience doesn't give anyone an excuse to belittle someone, and dancers can absolutely improve how we communicate with each other.
I also think it's important to acknowledge that there's nothing inherently wrong with being new and making mistakes. We've all been new at some point, and not one of us came into this industry knowing everything.

But I think there's a frustrating cycle that happens on this sub and irl.

A newer dancer will post (or even irl vent) about a situation, and seasoned dancers will offer advice based on their own experiences. Sometimes people are genuinely mean about it, and I'm not going to pretend otherwise because I have lost patience as well.
Then the newer dancer gets defensive, takes the advice as an attack, and starts arguing with everyone who disagrees with them. Suddenly, the conversation isn't about the original situation anymore at all. It's morphed into how mean, bitter, or judgmental seasoned dancers supposedly are.

And honestly? It’s caused compassion fatigue.

There’s an expectation that seasoned dancers should be endlessly patient with every new dancer who comes along.
And we are also expected to share that knowledge and experience FOR FREE but are then criticized for not delivering it in the exact way someone wants to hear it.

And the truth is, baby dancers have SO much information at their disposal now. There are dancers openly sharing their experiences, discussing boundaries, warning about common mistakes, and explaining how this industry works. Newer dancers have tik tok, YouTube, Instagram, and Reddit. you can do your own research instead of relying on other dancers or going through the experience yourself.

We're all in the industry. We're allowed to make our own decisions, and nobody is obligated to take advice from strangers on the internet or in the club. But if you choose to post about your situation in a community full of people with experience in this industry (or even discuss it in the club), you should be prepared for people to share their perspectives, including perspectives you might not agree with.

To seasoned dancers, even myself, we need to remember that being experienced doesn’t give us an excuse to be cruel, even if it’s so so stupid.

To baby dancers, take some responsibility for educating yourself. you can do things your own way without assuming everyone warning you about the consequences is trying to tear you down. Sometimes, the advice you need most isn't the advice you want to hear.

Again, I’ve been wanting to make something similar to this post for a while. If any other dancers, seasoned or baby, would like to share their perspective feel free to <3

All the money in the world can't buy you friendships, community, support. The richness that relationships bring.

Probably while you see so many "rich & famous" ultimately offing themselves - one way or another. Idk- todays one of those days where I'm just reflecting on the ways I've been held back/isolated. And honestly feeling how this industry can further isolate. I feel like so much of my life has been isolation lol.

If anyone has any tips or whatever feel free to share, otherwise I guess this is just a vent/SOS. As I reflect, and begin to try to create a life of more meaning.