r/sjr4r • • Nov 17 '25

INFORMATION :) Protect Your Posts: Understand the Reputation Filter

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Have you been noticing an uptick in your posts disappearing? Wondering why your posts are getting removed?

This subreddit's reputation filter flags posts that seem suspicious or risky. It analyzes:

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Moderators add verified users to an approved list. This boosts your credibility and lowers the risk of post removal due to false spam alarms.

Take control of your posting experience today! Follow these steps and enjoy a safer, more transparent community.


r/sjr4r • • Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

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It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/sjr4r • • 8h ago

M4F 20 [M4F] #SanJose - any women 21 or older want to fuck a virgin ?

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title lol. can’t travel but open to car play in yours, can host, and open to going to your place. don’t have a preference for weight height or race(short,tall, skinny and big are welcome!!!) just be curvy and 21 or older. I’m open to big age gaps too!!!

i am 5’11, VERY skinny, lanky, pale and Mexican but I’ve been told I’m cute lol. I have a big bush as well. available tonight or whenever.

i have a kink for breeding, being romantic and I love it when a woman has bush as well. but these are only bonuses not required.

NOT INTERESTED IN: men, couples, trans or sending money.

dm me for more details.


r/sjr4r • • 8h ago

M4F 45 [m4f] #PaloAlto - looking for younger women who are into intelligent, handsome older men

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With age comes maturity, stability, experience and reliability. Men peak in their 40s which is the time they are most balanced, resourceful, capable and emotionally, mentally and physically mature.

I fit the above description. I am very healthy, very fit, have a great personality a wide variety of interests and topics I can converse about and yes, I am handsome and sexy too. I am as many others in this situation in a dead bedroom open marriage looking for a partner.

What I’m looking for is someone intelligent, cute smart who is nonjudgmental, open to adventures and has gained the maturity to understand the complexities of life and human personalities. Ideally someone in their 30s in a similar situation who takes care of their mind body and health and is looking for someone like me.

If any of that sounds interesting please reach out.


r/sjr4r • • 11h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SJ - 6’5” Fit Guy W/ BWC - Looking For Indian / Asian FWB - You Must Host

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Tall

Fit former athlete

9” white

Would love Indian / Asian FWB

You must host

Would love to meet regularly

Have a high sex drive

Can be very discreet and non judgmental if u need it

Send pic if interested

Describe what you are looking for

And what you are into

I have pics too


r/sjr4r • • 17h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for some intimacy NSFW

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Hello, Im Harry. 29 years old, 6'4, 220. Caramel skin and long black hair that goes to my shoulders. I also have a beard and mustache. Relatively good shape but still on the health journey. Clean and DDF but 420 friendly.

Im looking for some intimacy as stated in whatever form we are comfortable with. I enjoy kissing, cuddling, and open to more depending on the vibes. Id like for us to kiss as long as possible. Feeling your soft lips press against mine. A subtle kiss turning much more passionate. Deeper and deeper as we melt into each other. Tasting your lips and tongue. Craving more. You can sit on my lap or not. Feeling your warmth press against me. My arms wrapping around your waist and pulling you closer till we press against each other. Kissing more and more. Forgetting about everything else and just enjoying the moment.

I also do enjoy giving head. Being between your soft thighs as they sandwich my face. Feeling them on either side of me. Kissing them and nuzzling my beard against them. Kissing until I get closer to your pussy. Trying to tease as much as I can until you look down at me and I see the desire in your eyes. Kissing your clit and sucking on it. Softly at first but them fully making out with it. Hearing your moans fuel me to keep going. Feeling your hands grip whatever they can and grip until your knuckles turn white. Seeing a half smile on your face as your hair is covering you. Your core tightening as you are about to reach your climax. Your hips moving on their own and thrusting against my face. Me having to chase you down or survive the grinding against my face. While Ill happily do, breathing is secondary anyways. My reward is hearing you cum and tasting you. No reciprocation needed but open to it.

Not expecting anything at all tbh. We can just talk and see how the vibes are. If we click and want to meet than Id love to. All I ask is that you are clean and DDF. Ok with 420. If you have any questions or what more info feel free to ask. Also down to explore new things as well so if you want to try something please let me know. I always wanted to go down on someone as they play or game or watch something. Largely ignoring me.


r/sjr4r • • 18h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #san Jose - I’m just lonely lol

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I’m a 29 year old Latino 5’10 190 lb , I’m a ware house worker and all I do is wake up early to go to work , comeback home ,clean , take care of my pup and stream on YT and twitch , sometimes feeling a lil rambunctious and wished I had a little booty call , probably take you out to eat or watch something to chill afterwards, I’m 420 friendly , I like anime and video games ,also like going out time to time , just want some 🍑to cuddle


r/sjr4r • • 20h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #San Jose - ISO of Curvy Fun Woman Spoiler

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Me: 5'7", 175 lbs. Latino, average build with a lot of stamina, I stay working out. DDF. I work in tech engineering.

You: Thick, Curvy, BBW, drama free and DDF.

Message me if you're seriously interested. Let's exchange pics to see if the attraction is there first..


r/sjr4r • • 19h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #SanJose - male seeking female for some naughty fun

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Hello there. Im a 40 year old white male 6 ft tall average build with brown hair.

I am looking to feel that spark again with a woman who is looking for some naughty fun. I love foreplay and giving and recieving oral stimulation.

I would love to find a women who is available during the day on weekdays for one or more meetups a week for some naughty sexual fun that we both need and want.

I work during the week but usually have long breaks during my shift that I can make time for such fun activities.

I'll be honest I've been searching for awhile and it is hard to find someone. I did find someone a few years ago and we had something going for about a year until she moved to the east coast. I would love to find another ongoing thing.

I do like shy and wild women and I tend to be attractive to women who dont find themselves attractive for some reason, I can't resist them.

If this sounds like you let's chat and see where it goes, who knows it could go to the bedroom.


r/sjr4r • • 20h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #SanJose - Mutual beneficial connection together

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Hey there! I’m 38 years old and a Bay Area native. I’m looking to find someone who is inexperienced or experienced with this type of connection. A mutually beneficial fun.


r/sjr4r • • 23h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Mountain View - ISO an affair partner

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I'm a 41 year old married desi guy who stays active, works out regularly, and enjoys good conversation as much as good chemistry. I love exploring new coffee shops, getting out into nature, and reading when I have the time. My bookshelf usually has fiction, philosophy, and the occasional romance. I'm also a fan of romance and thriller movies.

I'm looking for a woman around 30 or older (no upper bound) who understands the dynamic, values discretion and privacy, and ideally has experience navigating something like this before. Clear communication, mutual respect, and boundaries matter to me.

I'm not looking to change anyone's situation or create drama. I'm hoping to find someone who enjoys meaningful conversation, shared experiences, and genuine chemistry while keeping things private.

If that sounds like what you're looking for, send me a message.


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SantaClara - providing a massage. You decide boundaries NSFW

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I’m an expert at giving massages, with 10+ years of experience massaging women. You decide if you want a regular massage or an erotic one. The massage can be as sexual, or as non-sexual as you want. You decide the boundaries. Located in Santa Clara, but can travel to anywhere in the Bay. I take very good care of myself and I’m clean with very recent results.

Check out FAQs, feedback posts and success stories on my profile to see what’s all the fuss about!

The massage will be curated specifically for you. I’ll adjust my moves with your response to my touch, slow but steady, strong but controlled, and tease you gently.

I’m 32, highly educated, sophisticated, easygoing and very respectful. I value clear communication, safety and sticking to boundaries, and will make sure you’re comfortable at all times. I take very good care of myself and can read the room very well. I offer a safe and a non-judgmental environment, and believe in building and maintaining trust.

A truly safe and a welcoming space for you to connect with yourself, to leave behind all the complexities in life for an hour or two!


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #MountainView - Looking for someone who likes bj's as much as I do

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I am a very horny individual who loves blowjobs. I also love eating pussy and more than willing to eat you out for as long as you want. I am looking for someone who also loves oral sex as much as I do. I can last days on a blowjob, and confident in my skills. I can blow 4 loads and still go for ages. Can’t host unfortunately. I have a tinted car if you don’t mind, I am 6ft Latino overweight with a average dick. I am free after 5:30 everyday, while being free the entire weekend.

If you are a guy interested sorry only looking for woman.

I have a nsfw picture on my profile to see the average thing I got, it is thick I've been told.

Hope someone good responds!


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #SanJose - private office fantasy

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Hi Ladies, I am 29, White, brown hair and hazel eyes, 6’1, hung and handsome, blue collar professional.
I run a shop in north San Jose and I’m looking for any ladies who want to have some hot office fun, fulfill a fantasy. After 5pm on weeknights my crew goes home and I’m alone working on paperwork. Come join me for some much needed after work stress relief! Very discreet office, private, no cameras. I love foreplay and pleasing, and love giving a woman the first big one she’s had in a long time or ever, I’m very respectful and chill, not looking to change your situation in life but have some nsa fun together!
hit me up if this peaked your interest and let’s talk. See if we connect and want to set something up!
Any ladies who need some after work relief, want to be sent home happy and satisfied, please hit me up!


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #SanJose - Long haired, single Dad seeks sweet and sensual

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Hi there, I’m a single Dad who works from home as a lead engineer in the video game industry. I have my kids 50% of the time.

I just want to find someone to spend time with. I’m open to romantic love should it present itself to me. But what I need is to find someone to enjoy myself with. I have a lot of physical affection to give and I have my own place that’s empty half the time.

Physically I am 6’1”, 190lbs, I workout and run regularly. I have LONG wavy blonde hair and still have all of it. I have blue eyes and I wear glasses and I usually have a clean shaven face. Imagine a cute nerd crossed with a surfer.

Personality wise, I am quietly confident, intelligent, stalwart, laid back, introverted and a little bit neurospicy. I also tend to operate like a clock, a clock that likes to have fun!

Sensual and sexual touch are super important to me. I have a great capacity to give and receive sensual pleasure. I am not a casual sex person. Revelatory, lusty and loving explorations of a partner who is present as themselves and wants both of us to feel good. I am not kinky. I have had a vasectomy.

For fun I like to go dancing (industrial/goth or EDM), go to concerts, I love going to Niners games, I also like to hike, bike, camp, and take road trips. Around the house I enjoy video or board games or an occasional movie.

I use alcohol and weed in moderation and would appreciate if you are open minded about that. I am open to conscious use of other substances as well (combine with dancing???).

I like women who are smart, sweet, sensual and short.

Thank you for reading this far, I hope to hear from you!


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #PaloAlto - Handsome. Fit. Intelligent. Professional. Looking for a FwB to spoil and make memories with.

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I am in my 40s and I am in the best shape and place in my life. I am looking for a consistent partner. I’m caucasian, brunette, average height and very fit. 100% DDF and healthy. I take great care of my mind and body, I am fun to talk to and hang around with. I have many interests and hobbies and know how to treat a lady right!

When it comes to dates, I always take care of hosting, the logistics, all the planning etc. You just need to show up, be taken care of and have a great time!

What I’m looking for is someone around 30-40 age range, intelligent, open minded, emotionally and mentally mature with a great sense of humor and charm. Someone I can have a conversation with, laugh with and have great sexual chemistry. On the appearance side I have no preference for ethnicity, race or origin but I do have a big weakness for petite, smaller women, slim/fit body, waistline and traditional feminine beauty.

I greatly value discretion. I value your privacy and your personal life and I don’t ask questions or meddle.

If you’re interested, please reach out!


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #SanJose - Want to try a Sensual Tantra Massage

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You've always wanted to receive regular massages. You're discerning, proportionate and in need of a special, full-body massage. This professional guy with a pair of skilled, gentle yet firm hands wants to display his sensual, Tantric art for you, massaging your feminine body slowly, gently, with deliberate strokes, up and down, very attentively, pleasing you deeply with every stroke, communicating with my hands, listening to your body talk back, watching you relax and be led into a very pleasurable warmth.

I will start by working on your tired feet, easing their tension and stress with a special technique. Slowly working my way up to your calves, thighs and inner thighs, I will work on every inch of you with patience, loving kindness and care. There will be absolutely no rush. If certain areas of your body need more or less of my gentle or firm touch, I will encourage you to let me know, and I will help relax your body and work your kinks accordingly. This is your time and there is no charge. My pleasure will come from pleasing you.

You will be pampered with oil and a pair of healing hands that know how to relax and give pleasure. I am a decent looking guy that understands a woman's body and have enough experience doing an erotic, sensual Tantric massage.

Are you ready??? If yes, please DM with "YES" and I will know you are real!


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #BayArea - Skip the apps and get to dessert

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Hey there,

Looking for someone fun in the bay. I’m 30 y/o, 6’4”, tall, dark, and handsome type. I’m clean (recently tested), respectful, discrete and genuinely enjoy the art of giving. No pressure, just pleasure.

If this sounds like your vibe, send me your details and what you like


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 20 [M4F] #SanJose - virgin looking to fuck

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title lol. can’t travel but can host or do car play in yours or go back to your place. dm me for more details. no preference weight height or race just b 21 or older and a little curvy lol. dm me for more details can verify. I’m open to big age gaps as well. looking for FWB. I am 5’11, mexican, pale and very skinny.


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #SanJose - looking for an ongoing FWB 😊

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I’m hoping to meet someone who wants to chat and get to know each other a bit with the ultimate goal of becoming ongoing FWB if we both want it. It would be nice to have someone to cook for, hang out with and cuddle up with while watching a movie. I’m open to things evolving into something more long term if we’re both enjoying it but not necessarily what I’m aiming for. If this sounds like a good idea let’s chat and get to know each other. Believe it or not I actually want to get to know someone a bit before sleeping with them. Shocker right?

I’m 39, 6’ tall, 190 lbs, fit and workout regularly. Semi nsfw pic on my profile. I’m located in San Jose and have a nice apt. I’m hung, std free and vaccinated. I’ve got a college degree and personality wise I’m really easy going and easy to talk too. I like to cook and go hiking on the weekends and travel whenever I can. I also really love music and watching Bay Area sports. Happy to share more pics over chat. Thanks 😊


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanJose - Seeking fwb to eat the box

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Hi, I’m a creative professional in the Bay. I’m 5’6, 7 inches girthy, 150lbs, slim built, latino, deep voice, brown eyes, tatted, have a septum, ddf with the exception for 420, enjoy eating the box and have a place to host. I’m open to indoor or outdoor play, I’m fine with a consistent hang out and open minded. Dm with stats and location


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4M 41 [m4m] #SanJose - Looking for a lost connection

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Long shot, but looking for a guy I used to chat with regularly on Skype (back when that was around). First name starts with an S. Hit me up if you see this and would like to reconnect!


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Cupertino - Sensual, Erotic & Yoni Massages (Safe, Private & Unhurried)

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Looking for hotwife/female(s)

Offered in Cupertino, San Jose/Santa Clara (Free daytime hosting in a clean, private, zero-pressure space, or outcalls if you host).

I'm a 34M, fit (workout 5/7 days, athletic, DDF, high stamina), well-endowed, and great with my hands. I’ve practiced massage for 12+ years and provide a deeply attentive, completely confidential space for women to melt away stress, explore arousal, and enjoy exquisite touch with zero expectation of reciprocation.

I offer a custom blend of therapeutic work—like Swedish, deep tissue, trigger point, and knot release using warm oils—and sensual styles including authentic Yoni massage, Nuru, body-to-body contact, and kink-friendly exploration.

A typical session flows naturally at your pace: we usually start face-down to melt away back and shoulder tension, transition into slow, full-body sensual touch, and move face-up for dedicated intimate and Yoni focus. You are always in complete control. Draping is optional, there is zero pressure or expectation of reciprocation, and you can adjust, pause, or switch things up at any time.

Sessions are hosted in Cupertino on weekdays between 10 AM – 4 PM in a safe, private setup. For outcalls, you provide the space or room. 100% discretion is provided and requested, DDF is required, and past reviews from happy clients are available upon request.

If you're ready to unwind and have some fun, send a DM introducing yourself with your age, general location, and what kind of experience you're looking for.


r/sjr4r • • 3d ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SJ - 6’5” Fit Guy W/ BWC - Looking For FWB - You Must Host

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Tall

Fit former athlete

9” white

Would love a FWB

You must host

Would love to meet regularly

Have a high sex drive

Can be very discreet and non judgmental if u need it

Send pic if interested

Describe what you are looking for

And what you are into


r/sjr4r • • 3d ago

R4R 26 [R4R] #RedwoodCity - ISO bed I could borrow

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Hi! My name is Jay. I’m a 26yo trans man looking to see if anyone in Redwood City would be kind enough to let me sleep over the 15th, 16th, and/or 17th. I am in absolute shambles because my savings ran out and I can’t afford to get a hotel room for the convention I’m attending. I bought my ticket way back in March when I had a stable job but life events have lead me to lose my only source of income. I would also be happy to spend the night in YOUR bed if you’re down because I like getting laid =P

Please also let me know if you have room for my eBike/somewhere I can lock it up for free as that’s going to be my mode of transport for the event. The event in question is Clockwork Alchemy (a steampunk convention) at the Grand Bay Hotel SF in Redwood City. If, by any chance, you’re attending as well I would love to interact with you forest and foremost. My profile has pics of me but many are NSFW