You read that right, I posted on that sub for the first time, made the mistake of breaking 1 rule, moderator sent me a message saying how I've been on Reddit for 3 years and didn't bother to read all his precious rules, I just responded with a 😂 and got permanently banned LOL

Let's be real, you shouldn't be able to permaban from a sub without like 2 or 3 warnings/temp bans, but apparently their feelings are more important lol

Good day y'all!

I made a post talking about how my wife and I were going to be one and done parents. In the post I talked about how we get shamed a lot because that's not necessarily the norm. In the post, which was honestly quite long, I had one small paragraph where I used an example about a friend couple of ours who at one point were financially struggling, and then they decided to have a second kid. I never said that they shouldn't of had another kid or stated that they made a bad decision. I simply asked why, in general, people in bad financial situations have more kids. We have been nothing but supportive of our friends and just because they made a decision we wouldn't have, doesn't mean we were shaming them. Out of the whole post people picked those few sentences out and called me toxic and said I was shaming them for their decision and then I was promptly banned from the sub for a month on the reason of not being kind to others. I always tend to forget that even if there is zero malicious intent behind reddit posts, people will interpret things however they want and assume the worst about you.

I kinda think its weird how i hear bp talk about white dudes. Not to defend them but like, Isnt the whole Disliking someone because of their skin color the exact problem we are supposed to have with them? Like if thats the moral issue how tf are you morally superior by doing the same shit? And Shouldnt that only apply to the ones that ACTUALLY dislike us because of our skin color? 🤔 Idk, and then i get in arguments with my family members BW, cuz theyll say some dumb shit like, “I went to the ER and they didnt help me but if i was a white woman…” and im like “Have you opened instagram and not seen the plethora of white women on the internet complaining about how doctors routinely misdiagnose and ignore their medical needs?” Or Ill hear from My people about how there is absolutely 0 Opportunity for us because of our skin color, Then i ask What about all the poor white people scattered throughout the midwest “White trash”? 🤔 or do you just think an elite subset equals the entirety of a demographic of people? Then Im fucking crazy for asking these simple ass questions. Equality of opportunity can NEVER exist, people in general have biases For EVERYTHING, if its not skin color, its political alliance, if it aint that its Height, Hair texture, Military background, sexual orientation, Fuck ive seen people not get hired for their shoes being dirty. Honestly I think racism is real and does exist, But i also think shit is getting blown way the fuck out of proportion by both sides, and some of the opinions im hearing are more rooted in sensationalism than reality. Feedback?

I'm a very sensitive sleeper, and in honor of a sleepless night due to some loud noises, here's a ranking from most hated to most acceptable:

1. People talking: the rambling and mumbling noise is just the worst; no earplugs or noise-canceling headphones can help in this case. Why are you talking at 4 am with your door wide open on a weeknight?
2. Lawn-mower: why on a Saturday at 6 am? At any other time, I'm not fussy about it.
3. Saw: Again, why on a weekend day at 6 IN THE MORNING? (not applicable for construction workers)
4. Revving engine: just pretentious and annoying at any time of the day; just do it once; why rev it many times?
5. Vacuuming: Why do you feel the need to clean the house at midnight?
6. Fireworks: I guess it's a special event, and fireworks can only be done at night, but it's so loud.

7. Trash trucks: I think 1 in the afternoon would be the best time, but they choose to pick up trash at a wonderful hour of 4am.

8. People fucking really loudly at 3am: go off ig?

I'm welcoming new inputs to add to this list.

My parents just brought train tickets to london (idk how much but there's 6 of us going so probably quite a lot) and brought gold (actual gold) bracelets for my mom and aunt.

But when I asked if they'd order online a gift for my friend's birthday (at the end of this month) they said no. I'm a minor, can't order myself and I have no money rn.

I'd asked before nearly a month early. They agreed and it only costs £6.50. But they won't buy it. Told me to just give things in the house. This friend was the first friend to buy me something for my birthday ever. She brought me so much, and even stuff for my mom and sister too. She literally got me a necklace, two handmade bracelets, a candle for my mom, a toy for my sister, a card, and other stuff I can't remember clearly.

I can't just give something that's "around the house". The thing I planned to order was something I knew she'd want and I was promised I'd be allowed to order it.

Money is not a problem. My dad co-owns 2 businesses which he says is doing well. He earns nearly £5,000 a month. He can afford a £6.50 purchase but he's adamant on not doing it?

Plus, he's ordered many thing before but this he just won't. I don't know what to do because we don't even have anything at home my friend would like. I already told her I'd ordered her something she'd like (and hinted that it was the thing I was gonna order).

I don't know what to do. I literally had £15 before (got it for a religious celebration) which I gave to my mom because she forgot her money while grocery shopping and she hasn't paid me back.

Gosh, I feel so bad. I got my friend's hopes up for nothing.

TW: s3xual c0ercion

My best friend, whom I'll refer to as B, and I have been very close friends for a couple of years. We know each other's deep, dark secrets, have witnessed each other's weird phases, called every day, and told each other everything. She literally CRASHED my car, and there's a scratch on my car because of it, but I still loved her (my fault for letting other people drive my car lol).

Recently, she met this guy on a dating app, and there is so much to him that screams red flag, but just to summarize, he has no job, doesn't go to school, and has taken advantage of her body during dates (before they were officially gf/bf) to the point where she had to confront him about being more respectful of her body and her boundaries. He would also cry when she refused to give him head. And then he pressures her to have sex even when she tells him that she's about to go to work. This was within the first 2 months of them dating, by the way. She also skipped classes to spend time with him, called off work to spend time with him, and used her FAFSA money (basically money given from the government to fund college, for those who don't know) on him, and also pays for all their dates (because he doesn't have a job). He's also unhealthily clingy. When we went on a hangout dinner with friends, he was waiting INSIDE her car parked outside the restaurant we were eating at. There are so many wrong things he has done, but then this post would be too long.

And, as someone who wants the best for B, I didn't like him. But it's also her life, so she can date whoever she wants. I never told her until B asked me what my opinion was on her boyfriend. I said I didn't like him, and she cried. She told me she didn't understand why. She said he didn't do anything wrong and that I was a bad friend because, out of everyone in her life, I should be supportive of her and her relationship.

I understand that, when people are in love, they tend not to see the flaws of their partner and "ignore the red flags," but I'm just sad and baffled that me not liking her boyfriend was the big thing that officially ended our friendship.

My mom tells me it's a good thing because I'm "outgrowing" our friendship? I mean, she vapes, does drugs, had D's and F's in high school, and failed her first 2 semesters of college, while I'm essentially on a full-ride scholarship to college as a low-income student at a prestigious college, with a goal of getting a master's degree. I graduated as valedictorian in high school and have 4.0 GPAs in HS and college. I also have never done drugs or vaped. I'm not saying this to, like, brag, but I'm just saying this to explain why my mom thinks this. My mom said that we are going on 2 different paths in life and that us parting as friends was inevitable.

I'd love to hear your guys' thoughts.

Why can't being gay be something that's not celebrated? Because like, it's just who your attracted to, it shouldn't be a big deal. You don't see straight parades or black parades. Being apart of that community is just who you are, nothing more, nothing less. Personally, the LGBTQIA parades seem so unnecessary because it's just your sexuality, like, love whoever you want, I don't care, here's where my view came from: companies use the LGBTQIA for money. I get that sometimes it counts as pushing back on your oppressors. But I genuinely don't understand why something as simple as your sexuality needs a whole month. I wish it was a casual thing.

Recently, i have gotten 4 new phones for switching to t mobile. I created a voicemail code, which i forgot. For whatever reaspn, like 5 times a day, t mobile leaves a voicemail AND ITS SO ANNOYING. THEY WILL LEAVE VOICEMAILS EVERY FEW MINUTES IM ON MY PHONE. I CANT EVEN GO TEN MINUTES ON MY PHONE WITHOUT T MOBILE LEAVING ME VOICEMAILS. IM NOT EVEN THE ONE PAYING FOR MY SERVICE PLAN, I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IS SO IMPORTANT. PLUS, I DONT EVEN KNOW MY VOICEMAIL CODE SO I CANT SEE WHY THEY WONT STOP HARASSING ME. T MOBILE, IF YOUR SEEING THIS, SCREW OFF.

I'm 25 and my family and I live in a trailer right now. We've been here for over ten years. Everything is so run down. Noth bathtubs are broken, so we have to take a bath in the sink. So many outlets don't work. And we don't even have a stove because the wiring was so fucked that we had to choose between air conditioning and heat or the stove. My parents are looking for somewhere else for us to stay, but it's proven to be a rather long process. Yes, my sister and I live at home. We cannot drive and rely on our mom to take us to work. We are learning how to drive at the moment and saving up for a car. Despite us being late bloomers, we are not moochers. We are trying our best to become independent. Others have learned this early, but we've had setbacks in our journey. Luckily we're doing this now instead of being 30 and fully relying on our parents. When we get our new place, my parents want us to pay one bill each. Of course, we like the arrangement because we don't expect to live in our parent's house for free and we're willing fo help out. But I'm just so sad that we live this way. There's so many holes in the trailer where bugs and mice get in. Everytime it rains, disgusting roaches come in​​​. It doesn't matter how clean we keep it. The floorboards are near collapse. And now we have mold growing that's spreading throughout the trailer. It's so upsetting. I desperately want things to change as quickly as possible, but for the better.

First we got black Ariel, they removed Eric's heroic scene to make Ariel look like a strong black woman (that bad stereotype) they also got the hair color wrong. Like 70% brown/black girls, (like me for example didn't ask for this) like, it feels so forced, I hate it. I'm tired of it. Anyone else? Because I feel scammed, I wanted a live remake of the original Disney movie, not a black remake,

Honestly, it pisses me off!

We’re all teenagers and teenagers WHACK OFF, don’t they?

Well, yeah. It’s past 2am and I’m trying to get one in because everyone’s supposed to be asleep. The perfect time to masturbate right? WRONG. I’m going at it and my door swings open, I pull my hand up quickly, luckily my goods are covered by the blanket but dude… learn to knock??

Wtf. Why don’t they knock? I never barge into their rooms, ever.

Even after i take a fucking shower no one fucking knocks. I need privacy!

Oh man, fucking hell, I’m so annoyed. I’ve tried to talk to my family about knocking but I can’t exactly tell them I want them to knock because I need to fucking jerk off can I? But hello? My door is closed for a reason, dipshits.

Can’t a mf masturbate in peace?

Clearly not me. Definitely not here.

(SA/Child abuse/Racism)

To preface: im fucking furious at my racist ass parents.

Since I was a child I thought I was a angel, because in my 7y/o mind "why would God allow a child to suffer this way"? Being beat on, having to hear how THEY were molested. congratulations???? you allowed me to be molested because you were too busy drinking and yelling at eachother to care!

I have spent YEARS of my adult life trying to fix my relationship with both my parents, and even longer trying to help them fix themselves. I was exhausted, and still I listened to my mother rant about how terrible my dad was to her, how he abandoned her, how he would yell at her, etc. Then, she finally admitted to me that she thought about beating my brother (when he was a baby) to d3ath against a table. Like, girl... you think I don't remember the time(s) you tried to k!ll us all in the car, just because I 3 at the time????

Both of them would constantly talk about sex and drugs when I was in elementary school. So, silly me thinking love = sex, and started having sex at 12 to feel loved. To not feel alone. To make myself think I mattered to someone..... She had the gall to tell me one time that she was "sorry that (she) neglected me", and then 10 y/o me got my ass BEAT, for saying "I (was) used to it". Beat like bruises all across my back and legs. Screaming, crying, whipped until I couldn't breath beatings. I used to sleep under the bed, or in the closet, or take a pillow into the bath tub so that no one could find me or bother me......

All that, and I still loved them. Told them it was okay when they screamed and cried and belittled me, my brother, eachother. I tried so had.... for so long, and I finally found someone who loved me. Like, really loved me.

He stayed up with me, held me when I cried, protected me from hurting myself, and did his very best to help me love myself. My husband has saved my life more times than I think even he knows. I stayed with him and his family though COVID, because my fucking dad grabbed me by my face and threw me out of the house.... for BRINGING THE THERMOSTAT UP 1 DEGREE.

And I still forgave them. I stood to all their racist comments, the horrible things they said about us, and my husbands family, but forgave them. I lived my whole life up until last week with the terror of disappointing them above my head.... they still had the audacity to tell me I was an "ungrateful bitch" for telling them I couldn't hear their awful comments ON MY WEDDING DAY.

My MIL(white) had worked herself to the bone for months to try and make our wedding beautiful. She bought flowers, pico papel, hand made wooden stands, did all the centerpieces, she did EVERYTHING for us. My SIL, and husband's uncle took photos for us, all his side of the family set up and tore down for our wedding... and my side didn't even bother showing up. My parents accused me of choosing white people over them. They refused to take pictures with us, were rolling their eyes, making mean faces the entire time, and telling me how I was being "mean" and "a fucking bitch" while walking me down the aisle. I kept calm and tried not to think of it. I was heading to the dance floor and caught a glance at my mom, and dad, so I went to check on them.

My dad got in my face and told me they were leaving because it was "clear (I) didn't want them there". I flipped, screamed for my husband because I thought my dad was going to hit me, then when my husband came to my side, my coward of a father ran away. They snatched their gift and left (I found out later that one of my husband's uncles met my dad in the parking lot and offered him money for the gift, but it didn't work....). The groomsmen and bridesmaids spent the rest of the evening trying to cheer me up, and my MIL let me sob in her arms.

The next morning I got this text from my mom:

​"With a heavy heart I send you this text. I was in agony seeing the little girl I raised to be strong, independent, and smart disrespecting the two people who love her more than life. It was made very clear you are a grown woman and wife now. Do not bother your brother at work please. We will not bother you either. Dad does want to know when you put your Degrees to use. Goodbye Mija...we are changing phone carriers and will no longer be paying for yours as you made it painfully obvious we are not part of your family...Best of luck to both of you...no need to visit us...they way you treated your dad after he did so much for you was more than I needed to see to know you are not the little girl i raised...we don't want your money...all we wanted you to do was become a responsible adult...you've made your decision...we've made ours"

I am exhausted, and feel like shit after everything. Im trying to put on a brave face but I've been crying privately when I can. I keep having nightmares that they're going to find me and beat the hell out of me, so I'm sitting in the living room with my husband's 1911 on the coffee table, haha... I know I will be okay, but I am still heartbroken. Thanks for listening to my bullshit (and grammatic errors), and please know that I'm supported by my new family, I am loved, and I will be feeling better now that I got that out of my system.

-A

I've been homeless literally all year this year. In 2026. The winter is approaching and it's gonna get very cold. Even recently the nights have been cold, I wake up absolutely shivering and struggle to move for a couple of minutes. At this point, I'm mentally preparing for the fact that I'll likely die in the next few months. I feel like I've exhausted all my options and nothing has worked. So it may be it for me.

Can't join the military because I'm medically unfit. Can't qualify for SNAP/Food Stamps because... who knows but I keep getting rejected for a reason I guess. Can't go to shelters because I get into a panic attack, get kicked out, hospitalized, and taken back to the shelter I literally can't go to anymore. Can't do residential because I have no insurance. Can't do rehab because I'm not under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Can't get case management because the wait list is massive as hell. Can't hold a job longer than a week

Can't move because I literally don't have the means to move Can't do Job Corps because I'm too old. Can't do CSX or anything CDL related because I don't have a driving history or a license. Can't do Coolworks because it's either radio silence or rejection.

It's over. It's absolutely over for me. All I can do is just wait to die this season. I could go to jail/prison, but that's likely worse than being dead. I did seriously think about it though.

I can not stand this political ads spree that always talks about the same stupid shit that nobody give a fuck about. This person allows tran woman to play in woman sports, or this person allows underage tran operations. And then on the anti republican side we have ads talking about how they dropped spending on government assistance and enforced laws on abortion etc. If a chick with a dick wants to go play in the Olympics I could care less, if someone cut government assistance that I have never needed in my life, I also dont give a shit. How about we start with, idk LOWERING INCOME TAXES? Or how about ummm not paying 7 dollars a gallon for diesel? Orrrrr not paying 300 dollars a week at the groccery store for a family of 3. Or not having to spend a ridiculous amount of money on electric and dont even get me started about inflation and the housing market. Left wing and the right wing are both the same fucking bird. All I ask is to please quit going to the voting booth and putting a check mark next to names just because they have a R or D next to their name.

Like making Disney characters black, I didn't ask for it, I can bet that like 60% or more people like me didn't ask for it. Y'all can't even shame me for this one, I'm black too. Well brown but still, not the light brown where I literally look white, just normal light brown. But back to the point, I literally hate it, it's pathetic too. Another thing, I hate forced LGBTQIA representation in Disney, when they make a character like that, they make their sexuality their whole thing, I don't see them doing that for a straight character. Like, being gay is just what type of person your attracted to irl, but no, Disney has to exaggerate it and make them hold hands 24/7, no sane irl person holds hands with someone that often. It's like they're trying to force us viewers to know that they support the LGBTQIA. I dunno how to describe this off feeling where they're just making a character for their attraction towards a specific gender.

I thought DEI was banned or whatever the crap?

There should be no reason why that data is collected AT ALL.

I wish I could hide my last name too with the current political climate.

It should be banned. WTF is the significance, someone plz tell me.

I’m so sick of this. I’ll post super super minimal comments i literally commented “hey hi” under a post guess what happened BANNED PERMANENTLY. Meanwhile i see snark pages, completely out of line comments and there’s no ban in sight for these people. i’m getting sick and tired of this f***** APP.

I recently made a post on another sub about how I reactivated my facebook account after 15 years and i've really been enjoying it because my feed is much more positive than it is on reddit and people just overall, seem much nicer.

Theres almost nothing about politics or how we are all doomed or how hard life is in my FB feed and its all millennial nostalgia, stuff about my hobbies, and silly sketch comedy videos.

My post was up for 35 minutes before it was taken down, it received 90 comments. Over half of the comments were "something something, bot farm is back up and running", id say 10-15% telling me that im right-wing (untrue) and to leave (my favorite was, "if you like it so much over there, why dont you fuck off and never come back?"), and the other 20% telling me that I was stupid and that my experience was invalid and telling me what my experience *actually* is.

I received exactly 2 positive comments.

Man, I just dont remember Reddit being this hostile, I feel like its always had its fair-share of assholes but its so much worse now.

Am I crazy? Or has it fundamentally changed and become much more hostile over the last few years?

I just notice that my sss contribution, philhealth contribution went higher since im not normally checking my payslip then i found out that overall my deduction as a normal people working went to 6k plus so ganito pala kalaki yung nababawas sakin every month and then sakto napanood ko yung isang rep from senate don’t know her name but i just saw her na umiiyak ng sobra kasi na approve yung billions of budget. for what? like sayo ba yun? so ganito pala yung amount na naambag ko sa mga fucking nepo people i know na hindi pa ito yung malaking deduction sa salary every month and i know may mas malaki pa ang deduction kesa sakin but still fuck it wala naman din tayong napapala na mga nasa middle class always poor and mga fucking elites lang ang meron. KUNG HINDI KA PA DIN GALIT? Bakit?

So I was recommended to a cybersecurity specialists in order to hack into a email account that I have lost access to. And I completely regret it, i have been struggling to pay the canceling fee keeps increasing it went from $40 to now $100, which means i'm going to sinks a total of $212 because of my desperation. After I finally pay this off, I am never trusting the recommendations from reddit ever again.

Lesson: think twice before letting your desperation gets the best of you!

I know it’s a space to share your story which I think is great! But I feel like it’s become more of a place to…shit on bpd😩

A lot of the people on there are very clearly not people who have been great partners either😅

Annnnyway I don’t read it anymore but it just crossed my mind

What do you think? Please don’t be rude 😊

Throwaway.

I'm chronically ill, and so is my partner. We both have multiple conditions. We dont live together, but i spend the majority of my time at his. I'm so utterly overwhelmed and burnt out with his health issues and how they affect me and my life that's its making me even more unwell. He has SEVERE sleep apnoea , I can not even begin to describe how loud his snoring is. But that's just the tip of the iceberg. He stops breathing for around 20 seconds every single breath while he's asleep. When he does breathe again, there's grunting, and he kicks his legs. He sleep talks and shouts, even telling alexa to turn the lights on in the middle of the night. He flails his arms and sleepwalks. He sleepwalks to the toilet and falls asleep there. He falls asleep on the sofa. He falls asleep everywhere and even when he's sat up straight. I'm constantly having to catch him from falling in his sleep. I'm getting around 4 hours of sleep a day. Neither of us works at the moment due to health, but honestly, stopping him for severely injuring himself while he gets 15+ hours a day is my full-time job. Along with looking after his child when we do go to bed together he insists on sleeping with the tv on as he can't sleep any other way 🤔 butbi need the tv off, so regardless I still go to sleep last . I'm done. I'm exhausted. I'm annoyed and getting more unwell every day. He has a CPAP and won't use it. Had a mouth guard, won't use it. Had surgery did, it did nothing. Every time I tell him I'm going home to get some rest, he makes it a whole thing. Honestly, I don't feel safe leaving his child with him for extended periods of time if I'm not there to catch everything before it falls anyway. Physically or metaphorically. He accidentally hurts himself, falling asleep on the toilet, and cut his head on the door from falling forward. He's also accidentally hurt me many times, too, all while asleep and fighting for breath, punched me in the stomach, elbows to the head, kicked, scratched, etc. On the rare occasions he is awake his mood is ...unstable there's no guarantee that it will be a good mood. I feel like I'm in a relationship with a ghost. I've broken down on him so many times from exhaustion, pleading with him to do more as I can't keep going on like this dealing with the physical reality of his illnesses but also the worry. Watching someone m slowly suffocate because they won't do what they need to do. I do most of the parenting. Make most of the decisions. And wash and bathe my partner and his child. The house is a state as he's also a hoarder. I love him, I'm worried about him and his health but I'm also worried about me and mine. And his child and the impact this has. As I'm writing this, he's asleep next to me and has been for about 5 hours after getting 10+ in the night. I had 4 and there is no chance of a nap as the child needs fetching in 15 minutes, then it's the usual after school/ evening stuff. I'm just so tired. Time to try wake him up I guess.

This is going to be a long post but I don’t want to leave anything out. So I 27f and my 27m partner are going through a very rough patch. He’s keeping secrets and lying to me, which I know about because I did some detective work (aka small town gossip and snooping). Yes, I talk to him. Yes, I ask questions. Yes, I try everything in my power to be apart of his life and I communicate to the point it honestly feels humiliating as I get nothing in return. Communication is SOOO important and something I highly suggest, and urge people to do but if it’s not reciprocated. There’s not much you can do.

Anyway… for some background. I am a sahm and he works a 6am-5pm every day except weekends typically. I work a seasonal, a 5:30-8pm as it works around his schedule and I don’t have to pay for a sitter. Prior to me working my child tax + money I have saved paid for everything from rent, insurance, cell bill, you name it. His money? Goes to groceries. Except lately I can’t even get money out of him for groceries, it’s been coming out of the money I make from my seasonal job. See… this would be fine if this money wasn’t intended to go into savings or towards bills. Except the money I bring in was always meant to go into bills, towards our daughter and savings. I also want to add I make 18 an hour, he brings in 22 an hour. Yet somehow he can’t afford groceries, gas or anything. I can’t ask him for money if I’m short. I can’t rely on him for money, hence why I’m trying to go back to work. Unfortunately he’s making it hard for me to go back.

I also want to go back a bit (sorry for being scattered) so he has a drinking problem which he was actually supposed to cut back on. Actually he was supposed to quit alcohol all together because he didn’t listen when I told him to cut back to a beer a night and I found out he was going out with work buddies and drinking. Which is why they were bringing him home, he told me our car was acting up again and would throw me a lie that it was the breaks again. Tbh I questioned it as the car would be fine when I drove it after he claimed to had just fixed it and that’s why he was out all night a few nights prior. But of course I get the blame for the car not working because I was the last to drive it. Well he’s been drinking with his buddies and apparently giving them sob stories about how I’m no fun and he never gets laid anymore, and how I’m just mad 24/7. It’s all in this group chat he has with them btw. I also found out he’s getting money from this mysterious woman and he has nudes/vids of this woman in his phone.
Not to mention he follows hundreds of women on a twitter account he just made in January 2026.

So there’s that. I haven’t even started in on him for that, I’m just trying to figure out why this man never had money. Specially since he had me quite a job because he got a call from a better paying job and I agree to be stay at home mommy… ummm…. Right so I make less than you but still somehow have more money than you? How does that even make sense… yet I pay for all the big shit, while he pays for liquor, gas, food for himself and occasionally groceries. Bud doesn’t even work 20 mins away… but has the audacity to tell his coworkers via text “I’d have more money if I were single”. Also turn around and try to gaslight me saying I’m the reason he’s broke because he took me out to Pizza Hut for date night and bought me coffee… I didn’t ask to go out. That was your idea because one of your coworkers was taking his woman out and asked you if you were taking yours out, also lied about where we were going lol. Next time you’re honest about where date night is, you won’t have to worry about spending a dime. I’ll decine the offer.

Today I get asked for gas money again and I ignored him. He called me asking and I asked where his money is going and how did he spend all of his pay from last Friday already if he makes 22 and hr and worked a full week”. He proceeded to tell me because “I don’t let you spend money when we go out together”. We haven’t gone out together since we got groceries on Saturday before that it was date night, before that it was to go get his brother from the airport but we didn’t get anything. That was in August, but I’ve asked for money, I’ve told him what I need or need money for but I ended up dipping into savings. Why? Because he miraculously had no money. Now that I’m refusing to give him money I’m suddenly a “bitch”, no good for nothing, etc. personally I think I’m justified here as I don’t know where the money I give him is going, let alone the money he gets from working is going.

So am I the AHole? I know I’m fucking stupid for not kicking him out but I’m currently trying to save up enough to be secure and finish out my lease

Anyone experienced this before? A micromanaging coworker who isn’t even above you in experience, micromanaging and watching your every move? I’d honestly rather work with a micro manager supervisor instead.

I can’t stand coworkers who want to be your manager so bad. Honey, you could never be my manager. You don’t have the skill!

Most of the time they micromanage you because they are deeply insecure anyway. Anyone know what I’m talking about?