i, now 16F, dated my ex bf we'll call C, now 18M, abt two years ago when i was a freshman and he was a junior in hs. i recently found out from my other ex that C tried getting with two of my older sisters and my mom won't stop talking abt him.
this is going to be a long story, but the tea is strong, i promise
the break up was incredibly messy as one would expect of a hs relationship. the drama and bullshit that happened before, during, and after our relationship will have to be a separate post.
during the summer of '25, before our relationship ended, i had gotten him a job at my moms restaurant. after he left me for another girl, my mom refused to fire him, saying, "it's kid business and has nothing to do with me". to make matters worse, the girl he essentially cheated on me w, we'll call her P, worked at my dads restaurant. my sisters kept telling me to get both of them fired but i knew it'll tie right back to me and cause more unnecessary drama. our entire relationship was filled w drama, and i was tired. everyone in town knows my family and the restaurants we own. i will preface my mom didn't know fs that we had dated; she never asked and i never said a thing abt it to her because she had strict rules regarding dating during hs. before the breakup, my mom never really liked him because hes a different race than we are; i am Asian and he is Hispanic. but after the breakup, she just started liking him a lot.. so the entirety of my sophomore year, he worked for my mom. she would constantly talk abt him to me, knowing how our "friendship" ended. she would glaze him, saying things like, "he's such a good son to his mother" or just talk abt him in a praising way that she never regarded me or my sisters in. i had told her how i was uncomfortable w her constantly talking abt him but she'd just snap at me or we'd get into an argument, so i kept my mouth shut. i would see him in school w his new gf, P, and then sometimes see him at work, i couldn't escape him. i knew he was confining in my mom, asking for her advice abt his personal life because she'd, unwarranted, tell them to me. i constantly complained abt it to my 3 older sisters and they'd try to say sum abt it to my mom, who would still, not stop talking abt him. it was weird, and almost two years later (w him not working here anymore because he graduated and left for bigger things), he'd visit my mom at the restaurant and she'd still talk abt him. i saw him many times over the summer of '26 because he'd visit her, even though he's in and out of town for his new job. we'd have to talk many times because my mom is there and i was polite every single time. before he graduated hs, sometime in February, P cheated on him in the way he did to me (karma), and abt two weeks later he requested to add me on snap. i accepted, wanting to see what he'd say. i never messaged him, and a couple days later, he unadded me. during that entire time, his younger sister was constantly liking my insta notes and just interacting w my posts and reposts. during the summer and the times i was working and he happened to be visiting my mom, he'd act like nothing every happened and he would engage in convos w me like, asking me how the school year was, how my friendships were, and how things were going w my mom. i answered politely and short answered enough, he was not discouraged. that night when he was leaving, he did a secret handshake w my mom. the ones youd do w best friends or siblings when you were kids. i didn't even have one w my mom and she was giggling the entire time and i had wanted to either run, puke, punch, and cry at the same time because wtf?? i remember driving home that night bawling my eyes out and wondering why this was happening to me. another time, it was the afternoon, he came to the restaurant and told my mom that his mom was in a hospital abt an hour away because she was due to deliver a baby. apparently his mom wanted sushi so she told him to drive, it's two hours to and from, back to town to get sushi. btw, the hospital that C's mom is in, is in a big city that sells all kinds of sushi. but no, apparently she wanted our sushi.. abt a week later, my mom told me, unwarranted, that C came and told her that his mom was still in the hospital because the baby was having heart problems.
abt two weeks ago, i had gotten into an argument w my mom and she had told me to go home early from work. I was sitting in my car, texting my sisters abt it, when a black car pulled up to my left. i see someone who looked like a friend of his hop out of the passenger seat, and then C got out of the driver seat. i watched them walk into the restaurant. i was already bawling, and i whipped out of the parking lot , full on panicking. i sat at a red light, trying to do calming exercises so i wouldn't lose my mind on the road while driving back home.
now this happened abt a week ago. another one of my exes, one that i dated back in middle school so it doesn't really count, and i talked. during my sophomore year and after P cheated on C, my two exes had gotten really close.. i remember asking, we'll call him T, abt it and he said him and C are pretty close. I was talking to T a week ago abt another concerning matter and i built up the courage to say something abt C. I had told T that if they were still friends and the next time he saw C if he could possibly tell him to stop visiting my mom. i gave him some background context and i said he could tell C that it was me telling him to stop visiting her. i knew either way, he will most likely not listen to T anyways. T told me it seemed like i wasn't over him. i tell him that i'll say the truth. i'm not over the situation but i will never get back w him. i explained that it's hard for me to move on while my mom glazes him to me constantly without fail. i feel like C's goal is to just get under my skin and make me react. i am very reactive to things and situations, but i didn't react at all when he popped out with P or at the restaurant when he'd visit. that probably makes him very annoyed but him visiting my mom is actually getting in the way of our relationship. i wouldn't talk to my mom because i knew she'd bring him up, unwarranted. so, he basically won, but i refuse to contact him in any way to tell him to stop. i know my mom won't stop, so she's out of the question. T said if he remembers the next time they go out to drink, he will. not very promising, but it's better than nothing. we were chatting abt the bs C did behind my back that i always had an itch abt, but had no proof. during the convo, T goes, "C really really likes Asians". I agreed w him, and then he kept saying, "no no, i can't tell you that". i'm intrigued, i go, "no, tell me, what did he say?". T basically told me that C had once told him that he found two out of three of my older sisters hot. apparently C name dropped the one that's closest to me in age. flashback to around prom season of 2025, the day of prom, i was working and he had told me he was dropping off a friend and his friends gf to the prom venue. One of my sisters, the one who got name dropped, sent me a ss of someone adding her on snap. C's full name, like first and last, was the user. she goes, "isn't this your bf?". i checked the snap i had added, it wasn't the same. i remember asking him and i honestly cannot remember his response. i reaccount this story to T and he confirms to me that C has two snap accs. i'm not surprised; he had a secret insta acc that he had added P and other girls on near the end of our relationship. the acc I followed, he only followed me and his friends. i found out abt the secret acc when i noticed the one i knew of turned into a ghost acc after he left me. another flashback, when we were still in the talking stage, i remember we were skipping class in his car and he had his insta search pulled up. my main and spam, plus all three of my sisters were in his history search. i had asked him and he responded, pretty cleverly, that he was trying to see if my sisters posted me, which i'm nonexistent on their accs. the winter break of '24, not the name dropped sister, but another sister had posted a story on insta of a Christmas tree, with her acc being public, he viewed it. i didn't repost the story btw. my sister showed and asked me, "isn't that the guy you're talking to rn?". i remember, again, saying something abt it to C, can't remember his response. i'm guessing he wasn't expecting my sisters to tell me abt his hopefully unsuccessful approaches. the day T told me that, i had messaged the name dropped sister abt it and she was horrified.
that's basically it, as of rn. i know ill continue to find out more horrid things abt that man as my hs years continue, despite us having broken up a long time ago. this post, doesn't even cover half of it. i also found out a couple days ago, that C and P are back tg. match made in hell am i right? i'm not really looking for advice, if there's even anything to give in this situation. i've talked to my friends abt it and they were speechless. i'm still speechless, though not really surprised. it seems like he just wants to fuck my entire family.
i hope you guys enjoyed it and i hope i didn't posted this under the wrong subreddit..