r/r4r • • 23h ago

F4M Arizona 32 [F4M] Arizona or US/Canada only would love a long term monogamous relationship

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Leading with a description since I know attraction is important:
I’m 5’3, Caribbean. I’m not fit but I value my health and take care of myself inside and out. I like to cook and mainly eat at home. I’m available and stable emotionally. I don’t use any drugs and very rarely drink alcohol.

https://imgur.com/a/mW5b4Es

Currently living in AZ. I’m kind and reserved. I love free flowing conversations. I’m shy, I’m very much a realist, laid back and stay out of drama. I do admit that I am a crier in the context of emotional movies and stories 😅 I’m definitely a tender but confident and whole/fulfilled woman. I’m not political or religious.

I enjoy doing things from movies to fishing. I like to spend time with loved ones, farmers market, write and listen to music. Im not into gaming so much anymore. Don’t mind at all if you are. Basically, I like Star Wars, Tim Burton as well as Stephen King. I understand that having some things in common is great but it’s also nice to have a few different interests.

I’d like something consistent and long term. I have accomplished a majority of my big goals but believe in always making progress in life. So growth with someone is always great. I have a steady career and would like someone who has the same. I’d prefer someone between 28-40

A relationship where we can laugh with and at each other would be amazing! I like to have good communication. I’d like someone that enjoys banter and is honest. Who is also kind, patient and supportive.

Please be ready to share a clear face photo when the chat is accepted to gauge physical compatibility and share some information about yourself. Time is precious. I’m not desperate by any means but I’d like to find my person. I would also like to have a phone call pretty early on.
I wfh and have a ton of free time.

If you read all of this include a 🫶 in your chat
I don’t participate in most social media. I’m ok with distance. But the goal is to meet. Again US/Canada only

If post is still here I haven’t met anyone yet


r/r4r • • 10h ago

M4F Denmark 27 [M4F] #Zealand, Denmark - Looking for cuddles and hygge

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I'm a 27-year-old nerdy guy from Denmark, a height of 183 cm, with a humor that can tend to be a bit dry and a soft spot for cuddles.

I'm very introverted, but I enjoy good conversations, making people smile, and spending quality time together. In my spare time I enjoy gaming, software development, technology, board games, and skimboarding. I'm much more of a one-on-one person than someone who enjoys big gatherings.

I’m looking to find someone to share some cozy and hyggelige (Danish word) evenings with. Maybe watch a movie, some snacks, a warm blanket (if we really click) and cuddling up together on the couch. Maybe holding hands, playing with each other's hair, or simply enjoying being close without needing to do anything.

I do have my affectionate side, although I can be a little shy about showing it at first. I'm not always great at taking the initiative, mostly because I tend to overthink whether the affection is welcome and usually don’t know the signals sent or play it safe and straight up ignores them in case, I read them wrong. So, someone who doesn't mind making the first move occasionally would make me smile. 😊

I'm not looking to rush into a relationship or put expectations on anything. I'd just love to meet someone I click with and share some genuine closeness.

I'm based on Zealand, but I'm happy to travel a bit for the right person.

If a hyggelig (cozy) evening with a shy, nerdy guy sounds appealing, I'd love to hear from you! Tell me a little about yourself. 😊


r/r4r • • 7h ago

M4F Online 36 [M4F] #Online, EST - Are you also an over thinking people pleaser too... Bonus if you are also divorced and questioning who you are too... Lol NSFW

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Hiya! 

Hope you are doing amazing! Enjoy my randomness and reach out if you would like to know more and maybe just BS and we can learn about each other!

About me,

First, I am a girl dad to 1, (2yo), so my time when I have her (Divorced) can be busy and hectic, so an understanding with that would be essential. I happily have her on a 2-2-3 schedule so every week is different.

I am your average looking guy, no six pack, no I don't go to the gym (maybe I should but, ugh I don't wanna), I have that dad bod thing going that I'm sure in time will get taken care of, but can't make me till then lol.

Things I enjoy can be ever changing with some short term memory on what I am wanting to do. I would say I am more of the nerd/dork kinda guy, but I do like sports, and played many before/ and worked in them.

I like to watch shows on science and space, I enjoy playing games when I can (rarely it seems), I also enjoy listening to audiobooks from Dungeon Crawler Carl ( finished book 7, holding off on 8 cause I need to pace myself lol), all the way to some yummy smut haha! yes, a guy who enjoys smut... I know lol. I also enjoy going fishing, cooking, being lazy AF, and doom scrolling when I should be doing something productive. Oh, also I bought a piano at goodwill cause I have always wanted to learn to play piano. (maybe one of those short term hobbies again lol).

What can I give? Hmm, that is hard to say, I am a really good listener, love to chat about anything, hear you out. I am never ever judgemental and will always say you are right in the fight ( well idk about if it was with me lol jk). Just ask me if there is anything you really desire or want in a friendship/connection and will gladly let you know if it is something I can give!

What I hope to find...? That is a good question, I know what I envision, and is that possible? Idk, maybe I am cray cray.

But..... What I picture... Is a woman who is confident, smart, sweet and caring, also loves the things I do and wants to talk about them and also their day and just BS and also give shit and be sarcastic and a smartass and can give and take on it. ( not in a way of to cover being mean, but be fun and snarky in a flirting way, if that makes sense?) I would really prefer a woman around my age, maybe a mom too or at least a fun aunt that understands the time it takes to be a good parent (fixing/healing inner child trauma, we don't judge lol).  I also really love and envision a woman who has that gothic style? The black dresses/clothes, tattoos, pericing, the type of woman that surely would have been burned at the stake lol. Which on that note... I would really like to learn about wicca/witch stuff. Something I have been finding myself drawn too. (blame the smut maybe lol).

I am also curious and wanting to learn, talk about, explore, understand ENM/Poly and throuple type dynamics.

Anyways, I was going to keep this short, but I failed that one I think. Welp sending this to the ether and will see what returns. If you got this far thank you, and I hope you have the most amazing day or night and always be good to yourself!


r/r4r • • 16h ago

M4F Netherlands 25 [M4F] #Netherlands #Europe Looking for someone to build a relationship with

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I am looking to get to know someone to build a relationship with.

About me: I am 25 years old, white, 1.86m tall, i am of average build, brown hair/eyes and have a short trimmed beard.

I am an aerospace engineer who is trying to start a company and get his masters at the same time (no i dont hate myself it seemed fun!!). I absolutely love walking!!!! I walk anywhere, nowhere or without reason, my goal is to walk all the way to Rome some day. I love building or thinkering on stuff, like going to the gym or hanging out with friends and discuss so many random topics. I used to game but sadly have less time for it.

I would really like to get to know someone who i could have a healthy relationship with. I have had semi "relationships" before that were very toxic and stopped me from dating for awhile

The person i am looking for idealy is:

Between 18-30

Also looking for a long term relationship

Fit/Healthy

Is living close to/in Europe or America

Feel free to send me a message/introduction


r/r4r • • 10h ago

F4A Online 21 [F4R] #Online - Bubbly gamer looking for friends

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Hiii I made this describing a ton of stuff about me https://imgur.com/a/l8K3q8o which explains me veryyyy well and what im like as a person!

im very friendly, a bubbly person so i dont mind carrying conversations if ur worth it!

I'm a total cry baby i sobbed so bad over multiple episodes of greys anatomy (no spoilers im on season 2!!!)

I have 3!! beautiful cats who i adore plus my moms lovely dog!

I need to work on studying more but lately ive been bed rotting cause ive been genuinely super depressed (too depressed to even play on the mc server i love) so hopefully having some friends gives me some motivation!

I consider myself super sweet, I try to be the best person possible even in bad moments and thats the driving force behind my life and my personal purpose! I love to send voice messages and chat about stuff that actually doesnt matter.

I'm a really good friend and am always here for the people I love! I only have my love, my bestie and 4 other friends who i talk to on and off but i'd love to have more people in my corner (and be in yours!) since most of the people in my life are a little busy right now!

im currently in bed curled up next to my girl cat playing phone games!!


r/r4r • • 22h ago

M4F India / United Kingdom 35 [M4F] #UK/Online - I love the rush you get when you vibe with someone and you're waiting for the next notification. I'd love long term friends from around the world! From India to Italy, Philippines to Peru, Czechia to Canada, Australia to Austria, you get the idea, all over the world is fun! :) NSFW

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Edit - Okay so the reddit flair thing has gone a bit rogue, can confirm I'm from the UK, no one with my incredible talent of getting sunburnt when there is any sort of sunlight, would survive in India, I'd essentially melt if I lived there. The food would be pretty nice, but alas nope I'm in England

TL:DR - I like yapping with people and I think I'm pretty lovely, though I am a bit biased. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, so message me and maybe we get on well? :D

Pretty much title! I have a cold and just feel a bit rough, its super early here and I woke up to go to the toilet, made the terrible mistake of checking my phone and now I'm just laying awake regretting my life choices that have led to me being unable to sleep despite being unwell at 6.30am. Sooooooo, I thought I'd post so I can at least pass the time until I pass out/give up the sleep ghost and go about my day. Location doesn't matter, part of the charm of internet friends is meeting folks that I'd not meet day to day but I'd like long term friends, a long time vibe is the goal as opposed to just one off or short convos

As for myself, I work from home doing a travel insurance job, its mostly mid, but its full WFH and that saves it. My big interest is travel, my wallet hates me so much for it. I've been to Philippines/Singapore/Malaysia over two Asia trips, a lot of Europe as well as Jamaica and Canada. Last year I did Istanbul, Portugal and a Norway cruise, plus a Asia trip. Visited Serbia, Madrid and Poland this year then Budapest on friday next week! I have a cruise with family next year to Greece/Turkey/Malta and a friends wedding in Greece and I'm hoping maybe Asia or Africa next year, fundds permitting, I'm always down for trip buddies so if we vibe I'm in! Beyond that, I'm a pretty keen reader, plus the usual smattering of videogames/sports watching/tv shows/gym (but mostly to offset meals out and a problematic keenness for chocolate). I live at the edge of a town and some of the walks are lovely here too. I've dabbled with painting, taken up and dropped the piano a few times (I used to play when I was younger and was decent and sometimes get the urge to play again).

I always prefer a bit of closure, if we've spoke for a while and your situation changes and you won't be chatting anymore, I hate the ghostly exit, if its early on then fair can't vibe with everyone, but if we've spoke for a while I always feel disappearing is a bit of poor form, but its the internet so it happens.

Intentions wise I'm totally fine with whatever, I like meeting folks, I don't mind if platonic friendships, or if you're open and seeking more of a flirting/benefits etc situation. I'm always open for trip buddies/meeting up if location allows, but naturally purely online friend is the norm. Honestly, I just like meeting people I don't really have a set goal beyond that. Feel free to add your intentions and boundaries and it's all good on my end, thought I'd add this disclaimer in early!

In terms of where to talk, I do prefer to move to apps, I use most of the usual ones but staying here is fine too if necessary. Include your basic details in your message, the usual about me stuff is fine, don't feel the need to match the rambling essay above! :)


r/r4r • • 16h ago

M4F New Jersey 37 [M4F] #NJ- The Best friend Ive been looking for NSFW

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NSFW because I’d like to talk about sex at some point down the line, it’s important like anything else in a healthy relationship. Quick FYI I’m kinky/dominant, love affection and am very loving with my partner. Details of we hit it off.

I’m Danny! 37, 5’8” I have four tattoos, and glasses and I’m single. I’m interested in a relationship but am open to making new friends (no men, sadly most of them just want one thing and I’m not into that nor interested).

I have a small group of very close friends, I believe in quality over quantity any day. I’m monogamous, love my partner with my whole heart and soul(when I have one). I believe a relationship is only good when they’re your best friend too.

I’m laid back, pro people’s rights/awareness of mental health and the like. I don’t particularly believe in a higher entity but would respect your choices. I do like watching a sermon on Sundays.

I’m looking for someone emotionally available, likes to talk and text, is emotionally intelligent. A woman that likes affection, spending time together and apart too (nothing wrong with doing your own thing)

Listening to an old metal songs.

https://imgur.com/a/jvTwwLK

https://imgur.com/a/3aukBMY

I’m 420/alcohol/tobacco friendly but I don’t do anything by choice

I LOVE to travel so distance isn’t an issue to me

Oh. I should mention I had my teeth removed to get dentures working on getting my dentures but the dental office haven’t called me
Back. I’ve gone to them recently and am awaiting a call.

Also I’m a dad of 2 they live with their mom since she lives far away.

Currently I’m playing Crimson Desert, Final Fantasy 14 and Neon Abyss 2

Just a heads up I’m not interested in men.

I’m an open book so you can ask what ever you want.


r/r4r • • 4h ago

M4F New York 33 [M4F] #NYC #LongIsland - Seeking Consistent FWB NSFW

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Hey, thanks for checking out my post! As mentioned in the title I'm a 33M seeking a consistent FWB. Ideally a once a week or more thing, especially if the chemistry is right. Also open to complete NSA depending on the situation. Although, I do value having a bond, even casual, since that generally makes the whole experience better.

I'm located in NY on Long Island, I have my own place and drive. I'm DDF, single, respectful, and drama free. I can freely host, come to you, or get a neutral space.

I'm Italian with a very Mediterranean look - dark shorter wavy/curly hair, green eyes, scruffy short beard, body hair, sharp features, 5'6", 175LBS. Avid weightlifter, but not super lean like a traditional bodybuilder. Body photo on profile and willing to exchange face and more.

Here are a few things about me, if anything catches your eye feel free to message me and we can see where things go!

I have a wide range of interests, am very open minded, and easy going. So whether you're a homebody or like to be out often I can mesh with both. Currently, I have three main hobbies I spend my time on - weightlifting, playing guitar and gaming. I'm in the gym 5 or 6 days a week moving to a more longevity focused lifting routine and would appreciate the occasional gym partner. Music wise, I've been playing guitar since 2010 with my main listening genres to be classic rock and hip hop. I love live music and make sure I hit a handful of concerts every year. Lastly, even in my old age I still enjoy playing video games and built a new computer recently. I compete in tournaments for some of my favorite titles and it's a way I can stay connected with friends despite how busy everyone's lives have become. I am not a drinker but I am 420 friendly and will gladly smoke you up on a night out. I also like trying new restaurants, grabbing coffee and something as simple as a walk on a nice day. I am by no means an academic but I do love Ancient History, Philosophy, and Science plus all the weird nuanced conversations that come along with those topics.

Intimacy wise I am dominate leaning but attentive lover. My focus is always on my partners pleasure as it vastly increases mine so please be vocal about what you like or dislike, I very much value open communication. I am kink friendly and non judgmental even if something is a "no" for either of us. I will save most of this for DMs but here are mentions of a few basic things I'm into to see if we have some overlap: giving oral, squirters, creampies (not breeding), cum play, public play, light BDSM, toys, recording, and free use.

I am clean and tested and will always opt for protection unless a connection becomes a consistent trusted thing.

Hope to talk soon!


r/r4r • • 11h ago

M4F Spain 36 [M4F] Spain/Europe - Introverted homebody looking for one real person

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I’m a 36-year-old guy from Barcelona, Spain.

I'm very introverted and a homebody, and also have Asperger's and social anxiety. I'm not into busy stuff like traveling or going out or social situations. I don't need big or exciting things, I just want a simple life.

I'd like to find someone who feels comfortable with this. Someone to talk every day, to build trust, and share the every day of life, even if it's just simple stuff. It does not have to be content, just the company, the presence, is enough... Someone who values closeness, affection and being there for each other.

What I offer is the same of what I need. To be there for you, care about you, love you. I’m someone who wants to be there for my person every day: to listen, support and care.

I know I’m not for everyone, but I’m hoping that I might be right for someone who wants the same kind of closeness and simple life.


r/r4r • • 12h ago

M4F Ireland 25 [M4F] #Dublin Ireland - looking for long term craic

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Hi Reddit! I'm 25 and I'm from Dublin. I have a bachelors degree in chemistry and currently unemployed. I'm also a triplet.

In my free time, I like video games, chess, reading, watching YouTube and listening to music. I also like sci fi and am a fan of Doctor Who. I'm into DC and Marvel as well. I'm big into travelling and enjoy travelling across Europe and exploring different cities. So far, I've visited 20 countries: United Kingdom, Spain, Portugal, Austria, Germany, Italy, Croatia, Slovenia, Slovakia, Hungary, Bulgaria, Finland, Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania and the United States. I plan on visiting more in the future. Oh, and I also like skiing.

I am looking for someone that shares the same interests with me particularly travelling and skiing and would like to explore more of Europe and the world. I am attracted to brunettes with a healthy weight (but not too underweight or too much overweight). I prefer someone between 22 - 28 years old and I'm looking for someone from Ireland, Europe and the United States, but I'm open to long distance with the right person.


r/r4r • • 1h ago

M4F Pennsylvania / Online 22 [M4F] Pennsylvania/Online, looking for something serious

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Hello!

A bit about me: I am white, 6 feet tall with dirty blonde hair, and green eyed with an average build. Finally graduated college (yayyyy!) I love sports (especially soccer). In my free time, I play video games, and enjoy spending time with my family and going on trips occasionally. I am really into watching horror stuff: shows, movies, YouTube. I am shy, but I can get more comfortable with you once I get to know you better.

What I'm looking for:

Hopefully a future partner (if we click), if not, a good friend at least. Someone that is honest, and takes good care of themselves. Someone that can text often and is over the age of 19. Someone from the US or Europe.

(Pictures of what I look like)

https://imgur.com/a/RYQcCrj

https://imgur.com/a/daG4jhb


r/r4r • • 14h ago

M4F Germany 32[M4F] #Germany, Europe (potentially Anywhere) - Introverted nerd searching for a relationship. (Childfree)

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Hey. My name is Julian and I am here to search for a relationship.

About me: 32, born and raised in Germany, 1,78m tall (5'10) and chubby. Brown hair, beard, glasses, blue eyes. Feel free to ask me for pictures.
Shy, introverted, big time overthinker. Mostly sarcastic, kind most of the time, weird mix of dark and juvenile humour. Depressed but working on it (I don't expect you to be my therapist). I don't drink, smoke or do any sort of drugs. I'm a winter person (with a winter birthday) and don't like summer/heat. Non-vegetarian/vegan, atheist and left-leaning politically.
I speak English and German, might learn other languages in the future. I'm a trained chemist with a bsc in chemistry. Some would call that educated. Know how to drive a car and motorbike. I go to the gym to work on my weight and currently try to do that more regularly after a big motivation crisis.
I only have a few, mostly homebody, hobbies. Gaming (mostly Singleplayer), reading (nowadays mostly fantasy) and watching streams/videos. Feel free to suggest me a nice hobby I would maybe enjoy, I have been searching for one for a while. My taste of music is mostly Rock/Alternative Rock. Haven't travelled in a while but would want to. Especially to Japan, Canada and Northern Europe.
I do like cats a lot. Grew up in a dog family but switched to cats now.
Most important is that I am childfree. I don't have or want children. I do have my reasons and you can ask about them if you want to. Feel also free to ask about my red flags or anything you want to know about that I forgot..

Who I am searching for: Most important point here is that she should also not have or want children ever. Age range of 25 to 35. Height doesn't matter to me. Nationality doesn't matter as well, I'm fine with any. Religion doesn't matter as long as you don't try to convert me. I do think that physical attraction matters (and I have clear preferences) and I would want to see/exchange pictures fairly early to see if we would fit. Someone in or around Germany or wanting to move here would be nice. I currently don't plan to move to another country. Other than that I don't have anything else that is needed. Just come as you are but please don't come with spiders. I have arachnophobia.
I do, however, imagine this relationship to not be codependent. We should still be individuals doing our own things, partners that support each other in whatever we do. For that reason I also don't want someone that is too clingy.

Now if you have any more questions, want to get to know me or think you know someone that would, feel free to write me or share my post. If you do decide to write me, please do so with more than a "hi" or similar. At least give me some basic information and use the password I hid in my post (if you found it). I hope you have a great day.


r/r4r • • 12h ago

M4F New York / Online 32 [M4F] NYC/Online-Online FWB NSFW

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Morning Everyone!

As the title says, I'm looking for an online only FWB type arrangement. My life is way too busy to go out and meet people, but I still feel the very human desire for companionship. Hence the "online" bit of the title.

A little about me: I'm a 32 year corporate drone that lives in the NY area. My interests include netflix, video games, reading, listening to way too much music, going out with friends  and other things you can find out by sending me an orange envelope!

Kinkwise I'm pretty open to most things, but anal, light-moderate bondage, being teased, orgasm denial/edging, watching/being watched and being ridden. are my main ones. My main turn ons are panties and lingerie, nice ass, and a  good personality (mainly someone who is chill and easy to talk to) My limits are the usual weird stuff like scat, surreal stuff, watersports, and so on. If you've got a kink and want to see what I think of it, please ask! I'm pretty open-minded about giving new things a try provided it's not one of my limits. Couples are welcome to message me as well! 

What I want from you is just someone who is single and willing to talk and get off every so often. We don't have to talk every day or anything like that, I understand that most people have lives and are not on the internet 24/7. Just want someone I can have stimulating conversations with and who would like to get off together as well. 

If any of this catches your eye, send me some orange and lets see what happens!


r/r4r • • 21h ago

M4F United Kingdom / Online 34[M4F] #UK/Online - Looking for my favourite notification

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Hey! Hope you’re having a great day

I’m here hoping to meet someone, get to know each other and see where things go. Just looking for a genuine connection with someone I really click with.

A little about me: gaming is probably my biggest hobby, so finding someone I can duo with, mess around with, laugh at our own stupidity, and spend far too many hours gaming with would be pretty great

I play a pretty wide variety of games, so there’s a good chance we’ll have something in common. Some of the games I regularly play are Overwatch, League of Legends ARAMs and TFT Dead by Daylight, Minecraft, and various friendslop games like REPO, i do like the survival crafting type games too so finding a duo for them would be great.

When I’m not gaming, I enjoy baking, although I definitely don’t do it as much as I used to. I also love taking my doggies for walks, listening to music, and watching films and TV shows.

I’m a big Marvel and Star Wars fan, The Office (UK & US), The IT Crowd, and Peep Show are some of my favourites.

More than anything, I’d love to find someone I can build a genuinely nice bond with, someone I can laugh with, talk about absolutely nothing with, enjoy the little things with, and hopefully make some great memories together.

I’m based in the UK and would ideally love to meet someone from the UK or Europe, but I’m definitely open to other places too.

If any of this sounds like your kind of thing, feel free to say hi!


r/r4r • • 21h ago

M4F New York / Online 23 [M4F] #Uptsate NY #Online, Looking for a fellow nerd to enjoy my life with! NSFW

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Good morning, evening afternoon or whatever time you end up reading this! And thanks so much for checking my post out! It might be a bit long so I am sorry about that.

I'm looking for someone preferably in person, that I can spend my time with, growing closer, playing games with, visiting and whatever else comes our way. I've always wanted to have that one special person I can invite out to random activities and trust they'll be there. With fall coming around, I dream of pumpkin patches, haunted houses, bookstores in Saratoga or holding hands while stepping on crunchy leaves. Something about it just sounds so lovely. So that's where you (hopefully) come in! If you find yourself wanting to spend this Halloween season (and every other season forever) with someone you deeply adore and adores you back, then I'd love to hear from you!

For a little about me, I'm weird and nerdy when it comes to interests and I'm happy to collect or learn about yours! But I mostly kill time by reading, writing, playing tabletop games with friends as well as the current friendslop of the week, crocheting and I've been trying to pick up some baking as of late! I'm black with glasses and curly hair, and I've been trying new styles (please feel free to go on mall dates where we pick out new outfits for each other! I'd love help with my accessories.) I love to talk even if it takes me a bit to get started and I'd love someone who can match my energy of never quieting down.

And for you, I would hope you're weird like me! Willing to talk about your interests non-stop. Be down to go out for dates or just stay inside playing games with each other. If we naturally build up to it, I'd hope you were also affectionate and are alright with at least holding hands when walking down the street. Lastly, I ask you to be 21+, serious about finding the right one, to not be right wing or "apolitical" and I'd hope you're somewhere in upstate New York, but if you're outside of that distance isn't impossible to work with as long as we click well!

For a few other notes, I'd like to find someone to travel with! I love planning long vacations or road trips and having someone I can trust with the playlist would take a massive load off of my back. I'm a huge horror fan so that's what's got me distracted most of all. There's so much more to say about myself and what I'm looking for but I'll save that for a normal conversation. If you feel you're what I'm looking for and vice versa I'd love to chat and see how things go! If you end up reading all this, tell me who your favorite pokemon is, why they are and some romantic date ideas you've wanted to be invited out on!


r/r4r • • 15h ago

M4F Poland / Online 25 [M4F] #Poland/Online Introvert looking for something real, preferably with someone older.

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Hi there! I feel like it's about time I put myself out there again, because frankly, why not?

Basics about me: twenty-five years old, cis male, born and living in Poland. I'm a college student on a path to becoming a data analyst, a huge nerd, and an introvert. I'm an easygoing person with a dorky sense of humor; my comfort zones are one-on-one settings or small groups of close friends. I'm definitely a much better listener than a talker. The kind of guy who remembers the little details.

Appearance-wise, I'm 5'9"/1.75m, lean (67 kg/147 pounds) with pale skin, blue eyes, a well-kept mustache, glasses, and a full head of blond hair. I'm usually described as nerdy or cute by others, so expect a mix of those two.

I'm a huge gamer, into stuff like League, PoE1/2, WoW, Stardew Valley, BG3, and many more. Gaming nights are frequent for me, so I'd love to have someone to share them with, happy to play together or simply stream what I'm playing. I like fantasy books and cheesy superhero movies; board games, mahjong, and nowadays, less often, comic books and manga. Not the biggest gym rat, but I do lift. I also enjoy bike rides and relaxing walks in nature (though it's starting to get a bit too cold for my liking here). Currently I'm reading The Fires of Heaven by Robert Jordan.

What I'm looking for: I'm single (like, duh?), straight, and monogamous, so I'm searching for a genuine long-term connection with those criteria in mind. I'm hoping to meet a wonderful woman who's also intentional about her dating goals and has enough free time that staying in touch feels easy, not like a chore. I'm open to long-distance, as some of the best connections I've had were with people on the other side of the world (though realistically, someone at least in Europe would make things much easier).

I've noticed I tend to click best with women older than me. As for why, I'm not exactly sure (maybe I'm a millennial trapped inside a zoomer's body? That's my leading theory at least). I do know I vibe well with people who are warm, straightforward, and know what they want. A good sense of humor is pretty much the hottest thing possible in a partner. My preference here would be someone in their 30s or 40s.

Other important things about me: I'm non-religious (raised catholic, had a falling out with the church, not looking to go back), don't smoke (really don't like the smell), and don't do drugs (you can be 420 friendly, I don't mind, just don't pass me the blunt). I do drink occasionally though (admittedly I get drunk way too easily, so I also do that in moderation). I'm leaning toward not having kids of my own.

If you made it this far, I'd like to thank you for taking the time to read my ad; if anything caught your interest, feel free to reach out and tell me a little bit about yourself. I'd love to hear from you.


r/r4r • • 4h ago

M4F Connecticut / New York 41 [M4F] #Connecticut & #NewYork - A Bob looking for his Linda 🍔

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Trying different ways to meet new people this year, so taking a crack at a reddit personal ad.
 
I really value kindness, honesty, passion and intelligence in a woman.  

Here's me: https://imgur.com/a/LEFG0Yz
 
-Single, never married, no kids

-6’3

-Physically active; member of a running club and lift about every day of the week

-Attend dance meetups; swing, salsa, fusion

-Dabbled in acting; starred in a play in 2022

-Has a good job in e-commerce

-About 2/3rds introvert, 1/3rd extrovert; generally a homebody but I like to go out/socialize every now and then and push myself to get out of my comfort-zone (growth is important)

-Interests include fitness, dancing, gaming, karaoke, anime, narrative-design/writing of all kinds (films, tv, books, etc.), science (big fan of the Natural History Museum in NYC), and interior design

-V close to my family and friends; adore my nieces (and they adore me); have a close-knit group of about half-a-dozen friends I've known for years (quality > quantity kinda guy friendship-wise) - you'll know I like you if you're looped in to our karaoke parties! =) 

-Traveled around the world

-Master's degree

-Politically left

-420 friendly

-Love dogs; like cats but have a mild allergy


r/r4r • • 5h ago

M4F Ontario 22 [m4f] #toronto - looking for new close friends to chat with, explore the city, and have a bit of fun !! :3 NSFW

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hi!!! hope the start to your fall is going well :) !! it’s been a bit lonely for me recently and maybe i’ve been craving a bit of human connection so i’d love to meet some new people who have similar vibes or interests to explore the city, or more !! :D

i’m 22, east asian, amab, and queer (i’m bi and go by he/they pronouns)! i’m a huge nerd, neurodivergent, and a bit of a hopeless romantic :,) i have lots of little interests and passions, and i’d love to learn about your interests too!! i play some games like sdv and botw, and i have a somewhat eclectic taste in music, from arctic monkeys to mitski and hozier, to rachmaninoff and tchaikovsky !! recently i’ve been listening to a lot of motfd (i bought tickets to their concert next year but dont have anyone to go with 😭), lamp, kinokoteikoku, and yonige :D i also love taking long walks and long chats, cooking and making drinks (coffee and tea by day, sipping wine and mixing cocktails by night), watching anime like kamiina botan, apothecary diaries (!! new season !!), witch hat atelier, frieren, and with you and the rain, going out for evening walks, photography, collecting records, and making/mixing cocktails and cooking little treats :) and of course i love cats! i also have a long list of books to read and films that i need to get to but always looking for more recommendations :,)

i’d love to chat online and get to know each other first a bit, and then maybe hang out in person and visit some of the restaurants or bars on my growing list of places i’d like to try!! i’m located in downtown toronto :3 i’ve tagged this as m4f (mainly because of the kind of requests i get when i use a different tag) but anyone is welcome !! i’d love to get to know u regardless of gender :D i’m fine with nsfw stuff too (cuddles ?? benefits ??) :3 so please mention if u prefer sfw only/other :0 please don’t just be looking to hook up, i really want to make some actual friends :,) anyways thanks for reading my ramblings lol i’d love to hear from u and get to know u !!!


r/r4r • • 7h ago

M4M France 25 [M4M] #Paris - Would you like to get to know each other and date? (Only Americans and French people)

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I’m masculine, romantic, and looking for something real with someone skinny/lean, kind, emotionally available, and interested in building a close relationship over time.

I enjoy talking every day, sharing random updates, and slowly becoming part of each other’s routine instead of disappearing randomly.

I connect better with people around 18–28, especially people who genuinely like closeness, consistency, and staying in touch.

I love music, reading, movie nights, and games like Minecraft and Crusader Kings II.

Not into ghosting, mixed signals, temporary conversations, emotionally unavailable people, or NSFW topics.

If emotional closeness sounds good to you instead of overwhelming, drop me a message.


r/r4r • • 7h ago

M4F Ontario 30 [M4F] #Toronto - Stressed physician looking for someone unexpected NSFW

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Just dealing with a stressful period at work, but have a bit of free time. Lately, I’ve felt a bit burnt out and miss that feeling of someone who I feel excited by. I have had the desire to meet someone who catches me off guard for a while now. I crave that sense of losing control. Forgetting about everything else and just focussing on someone. Looking to meet IRL if we click.

I tend to be interested in people who are passionate, kind hearted and silly at times. It’s hard for me to define, but really it comes down to someone I find interesting, who I enjoy exploring and focussing on. I’m a big proponent of letting things develop naturally, and don’t have a “type” per se. The key is mutual trust and respect.

In terms of interests, I’m an aspiring fiction fantasy writer. I enjoy classical mythology and paleontology as an amateur. Animal facts are always fun.

I’m an avid runner, either a 10 K every other day or swimming a few K. I used to teach kickboxing, play football and swim competitively.

Engaging topics like psychology, philosophy or any new things are always a good time. But only if balanced with the driest possible humour. I enjoy fantasy and sci-fi TV/games. But can appreciate pretty much anything with strong writing, characters or lore.

If appearance matters I’m 6 ft with full black hair, broad shoulders and what has been described as a “capable” build. Generally considered attractive, I’m happy to trade pics if you’d like. Especially if you’re worried I’m an android, so I can prove I have no putrid organic components.

It feels like I’m monologuing so I’ll leave it at that. Don’t hesitate to reach out, low expectations besides being nice and having fun.


r/r4r • • 8h ago

M4F France 31 [M4F] France/europe - friendship, flirting, or maybe a bit more

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Hey!! My name is Simon, I'm 31 years old and I live in a small town in northern France, not too far from Paris. I currently work as a psychologist

In my free time, I love going to concerts, visiting museums, travelling, spending time with family and friends, reading, and watching movies. I also occasionally volunteer as a barman at a concert place

I'm a huge science fiction fan, and I've loved astronomy and everything related to space since I was a kid. When it comes to music, I'm especially into indie/alternative rock, post-punk, shoegaze, and experimental and psychedelic stuff in general. As for video games, I mostly play RPGs (Disco Elysium is my all-time favourite), but I also enjoy chill games like Stardew Valley

I'm 1.81m tall and slim, with long, curvy dark-blond hair and blue eyes. I wear round glasses and have a little facial hair. People usually describe me as a chill, laid-back guy, some kind of sociable introvert

I'm looking for a genuine connection that could turn into a serious relationship. Someone I can flirt with, talk to every day, share music recommendations with, go on spontaneous dates with, or maybe travel somewhere together. Someone to share a coffee in a random little town or watch the stars with

So, if you think we might get along, feel free to DM me! Tell me a little about yourself too!


r/r4r • • 8h ago

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK - Looking for a relationship

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Hi I'm Joe, 33, from East Sussex (Hastings). White, 5'3, 184lbs (I've lost 60lb+ so far this year, 35 to go and hoping to hit it by the end of this year/early next), I wear glasses, usually have some facial hair, I'm happy to video call/exchange pictures as early as you like.

I would describe myself as very kind/caring/compassionate, I wear my heart on my sleeve and have a lot of love to give to the right person. I'm thoughtful, always do my best by others and never act with bad intentions. I value honesty and clear communication. I have some long term health issues but I try not to let them get on top of me and I was diagnosed as autistic late in life during covid, but most people are surprised when they find out.

I have a large group of friends and the 10 of us try to meet up once or twice a year, but as we get older it becomes harder to keep in touch as much as I would like! Everyone is moving on and finding love, settling down etc and it's hard not to be a little bit envious. I've only been in 1 relationship that lasted around 3 months and was 90% online, so not a lot of experience but also no baggage! but somebody patient/understanding of that would be important.

I love films/tv, I'm a sucker for a romcom and adore romance in general but I watch a bit of everything other than anime. Always find myself far too invested in the lives of the characters, most recently in Bridgerton. My comfort shows are Dr Who, Brooklyn 99, Superstore, The Office. Very open to recommendations always! I don't get out much but would like to start to see more of the world finally, but will always mostly be a homebody I'm pretty sure. I've never been on holiday and I'm planning my first few trips, solo unless I can find some company!

I would like to do the cutesy dating/getting to know each other stuff but with clear intentions and communication, I would like something serious. Virtual movie dates/games together when we can't be in person etc would be really lovely.

I don't smoke and very rarely drink and would prefer someone who's the same, smoking would be a deal breaker for me sorry.

Ideally you are somebody living close-ish to London/Southern UK to make meeting up more often viable, You're patient, kind, thoughtful and communicate openly & clearly. I'm not sure I have too much physical preference but I am a sucker for a pretty face/smile but as I said, I'm happy to get the original attraction check out of the way as soon as you are. Age wise probably 26-40 would be best, but if you think we'd get along that isn't a deal breaker.

I am a big oversharer and will happily answer absolutely any questions you may have.

Thanks for reading! hopefully hear from you soon!!


r/r4r • • 9h ago

M4A California 23 [M4A] #California or #USA - Still haven't found what I'm looking for... maybe you're it?

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What I'm attracted to:

Kind, caring people who take care of their body and health. Sharing similar hobbies so we can do something together. People willing to put in effort and read the whole post and send a good introduction message.

Throughout this post there is quite a few lyrics from songs that I like. If you want, you can see if you know them and see if we like any similar songs, artists, or types of music.

Here I am again, the same old situation. Hi, I'm Nathan. I'm a 23 year old Asian American guy in Northern California. I'm 5' 6" so a little short, but I can be your very own fun size boyfriend. Short kings need love too. I have a photo on my profile so you can check out what I look like. You may have seen some of my posts here before. I guess you could say I still haven't found what I'm looking for. "What is that?" you may be wondering to yourself. Well, I'm looking for a love so strong it makes me feel so weak. In other words, I am looking for someone I can love and be vulnerable with. Why am I looking on reddit? I'm kind of a shy person in real life, and people fall in love in mysterious ways. Maybe by the touch of a hand.

I haven't had much relationship experience and never been in an IRL relationship before. I would say I'm a hopeless romantic and would love to find someone who has a belief that there is someone that will make you feel so special, but realize that there is still work to make relationships last. Maybe one day I'll think all of the small things that you do are what remind me why I fell for you. Eventually, I'd like to be in-person with my partner. I'd want you to be my rock and vice versa. Home is whenever I'm with you. If you're down for matching profile pictures and bios or whatever I am the guy for you. Heck, we could even get a home phone and set up a voicemail together. It would suck if we broke up cause then I gotta change my answering machine, now that I'm alone. Cause right now it says that we can't come to the phone. In other words, you'll always be a part of me.

A bit about me is my interests are gaming (mostly pc, but I do have a switch), watching anime, and exercising. The games I play currently are league of legends and teamfight tactics. I've also played other games like valorant, overwatch, pokemon, animal crossing, super smash Bros, and probably many other. If you ask me about any games I could tell you if I know them or played them and maybe we could play some games together. Some anime I like are vinland saga, oshi no ko, and kaiju no. 8. There's also plenty other anime I've seen, so if you want to discuss any I'd be happy to talk about them.

So if you read to the end and really read everything, please message me if I piqued your interest. If you are interested, honey I'm still free. Take a chance on me.


r/r4r • • 10h ago

M4F Canada 30 [M4F] #Canada Nerdy whimsical guy looking for someone special!

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Hello! My name is Austin I go by Ash a lot of the time though.

Im 30 from canada

I am a big reader and horror fan. I watch quite a few horror nothing like CRAZY i just enjoy a good scare haha.

I used to be a librarian and it was probably my dream job but right now I am working in insurance. Where I am in Canada the library's are being targeted by certain groups.

I have pets ive rescued and my big rescue dog cosmo who is just a big lazy sausage boy haha.

I play some video games but im not an intense gamer. I have fun winning and losing as long as its with friends I have a good time.

D&D is also something I love, ive been a GM for my friends for like 8 years or so now? If your interested id love to chat about my lil worlds.

I love birds and bugs and anything creepy and/or crawly

Im a bit of a whimsical guy and id just really like to find the right person to share that with.

Hopefully that gives you an idea of me :) if your interested in chatting I am. If not good luck and hope you find someone!


r/r4r • • 14h ago

M4F Missouri # 25 [M4F] #Texas Your Future Favorite Good Boy Is Probably Right Here! NSFW

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Hey hey! I'm a 25-year-old guy from Texas, the yeehaw state, and I'm hoping to find a sweet, confident woman who might be looking for her very own affectionate good boy. Bonus points if you happen to be a Mommy Dom with a soft spot for a guy who loves attention, praise, and making you smile!

A little about me! I'm naturally affectionate, talkative, a little goofy, and admittedly a bit clingy once I get comfortable with someone. I love texting throughout the day, sending random messages about whatever pops into my head, checking in to see how you're doing, and sharing the occasional meme or video that reminds me of you. Basically, if we're getting along, there's a good chance you'll see my name pop up on your phone quite a bit! Of course, I'd love for that energy to go both ways. I really appreciate a woman who enjoys messaging me just as much as I enjoy messaging her.

I'm also a big fan of praise, both giving and receiving it! If you've had a rough day and need someone to remind you how wonderful you are, I'd happily do my part. And if you enjoy making a good boy blush with a few sweet words, well, I certainly wouldn't complain. I'm a sucker for affection, reassurance, playful teasing, and those little gestures that make you feel wanted even when you're miles apart.

As for my interests, I love anime, manga, and cartoons. My second language is basically references, so if you remind me of something from a show, game, or random internet video, there's a decent chance I'll send you the clip immediately. You've been warned! I listen to all kinds of music, and my Spotify favorites are an absolute mess of different genres, although pop music and video game soundtracks are definitely among my favorites.

Speaking of games, I'm usually playing something on my PS5, Steam Deck, phone, or Ayn Thor. I have a soft spot for classic games, especially older PlayStation and GameCube titles, and I enjoy tinkering with technology and modding games whenever I get the chance. I'm a bit of a techie, so if you ever want to hear me ramble about something gaming related, you've found your guy!

Now, what am I actually looking for?

I'd love to meet a woman who's confident, affectionate, playful, and enjoys taking the lead. Someone who can be a little bossy, tease me when I'm being a goofball, give me praise when I've earned it, and occasionally say something that leaves me blushing at my phone. However, I'm especially interested in a soft Mommy Dom dynamic. I'm drawn to the caring, nurturing side of that relationship just as much as the dominant side.

I want someone who can make me feel safe, appreciated, and wanted while still having that confident energy I find so attractive. Someone who enjoys taking care of her good boy, offering reassurance, being affectionate, and guiding things in a way that feels natural for both of us. I love the idea of a woman who can tease me one minute and be incredibly sweet to me the next. A little playful authority mixed with plenty of warmth sounds wonderful to me.

More than anything, though, I want a genuine connection. I'd love for us to talk about our days, share our interests, laugh at stupid jokes, flirt, and occasionally end up having those late-night conversations where neither of us wants to say goodnight. I want to learn about you as a person, not just the dynamic we're interested in exploring. Communication, trust, mutual effort, and respecting each other's boundaries are important to me. I'd rather build something real at a comfortable pace than force a connection that isn't there.

I'm happy to start online and see where things go. Age isn't necessarily a dealbreaker if we click and want similar things. Whether you're into gaming, anime, or completely different hobbies, I'd love to hear about them. You don't have to share all my interests to get along with me!

So, if you're a sweet but confident woman who likes affectionate guys, enjoys receiving as many messages as she sends, and thinks having a slightly clingy good boy around sounds appealing, why not say hello?

Tell me a little about yourself, what you enjoy, or what being a soft Mommy Dom means to you. You can even start by telling me what your day has been like. I'm not always the best at coming up with questions, but I genuinely enjoy getting to know someone once we get talking!

Hopefully, your future favorite good boy is right here. I guess there's only one way to find out. ❤️