I've posted here lots of times before. Truth it when I was bigger, people treated me better and considered me more feminine looking. My ass and tits were bigger and my face was soft, cute and boneless. My waist was chubby and I had a tummy pouch. I hated myself back then.

I assumed years ago that if I lost weight my body would end up looking like Quenlin Blackwell and Rissa Porter (Lady Picasso) on YouTube as the fat from my waist would be gone and I have wide hip bones. I assumed my face would look snatched to the gods as my jawline used to be buried under a layer of fat and my cheekbones would come out. Now after years of trying and finally learning my own body at 27, I can finally see my ribcage which is wide AF and it makes me look like a rectangle despite my measurements telling me I'm a figure 8 hourglass. My face looks haggard, masculine and older due to my natural bone structure underneath. I have a strong diamond shaped jawline, wide cheekbones from the side but my face is flat in the front. No forehead or brow ridge as a result of Persian heritage, no frontal cheekbones and that weak chin that's common in people of African descent.

I'm healthier and my body feels fit, light and full of energy. Pain in my joints is a thing of the past and I can move and dance for hours, do push up and run for a long time so I don't regret losing weight but... Losing fat has made me less physically attractive. I wish this was a side effect people would talk about more, especially if you've inherited an amalgamation of features from different ethnic groups that may not favour weight loss as well.

Like do you find yourself randomly wanting to go to the country club? eat mayo and bacon sandwiches? putting raisins in potato salad? and if you hear a strange noise in the house, do you find yourself wanting to go towards it instead of running away?

Mixed guy here, ever since dating a black woman (not mixed, i'm talking pure black), mixed women have been giving my girl dirty looks while they just stare at me doing faces. I try to ignore them but its genuinely weird. I like looking at my surroundings and trying to ignore them, to me, it means putting my head down. Which i dislike and feel uncomfortable. I sometimes feel slightly paranoid because i dont know if thats a girl from my past and shes still angry over some meaningless stuff But i'm also not about to have a verbal discussion with these ladies who I cant tell if they are trying to tell me something or its their natural reaction. Either way it's disgusting and I want a way to let them know I'm happy and confident with my woman and their opinions of us have no affect on us. And I cant do that pretending I dont see them. But like I said, i'm not about to have a discussion with them. I'm after some middle ground here. What do you personally do?

Im quarter jamaican but my mam is pretty black and i get called lightskin quite often. I always see jokes about mixed people with one race calling them the other and vice versa but its really like that. Its annoying because all my white friends call me black, black people call me lightskin or just mixed. I feel like i dont have a place in either. And my hair doesn’t help either since its a mix of curly and afro.
Essentially if i think im white, white people say im black/mixed. And if i think im black, my percentage throws me off. Since so many people see me in so many ways i dont know how to see myself

This isn't a rant but it kinda makes me sad almost nobody recognizes me as American whenever I'm abroad. A lot of Americans abroad I notice always seem stuck up or I'm better than you mindset. If not, they give you looks. On the bright side of things, I'm ok with it because I did a good job trying to blend in with locals. As I said it kinda hurts but I don't know. Some people in Europe think I'm Arabic even though I'm mixed with Black, White and Polynesian.

Like I’m an Aussie citizen, and look ethnically ambiguous. I’m neurodivergent too and don’t feel belonging to any group. So why should I carry the burden of this ethnicity when it is so meaningless