Last October I found this little guy! I brought him in, ofc.
It’s now been one whole year & there’s a post in my local community Facebook group about another solid black cat who share the same facial features as this guy. She doesn’t look too old but actually the perfect age to be siblings.

How do I bring this up with my fiancé. I really want to take her in, I don’t think a day would go by without me thinking about this.

We live in an apartment with two other cats, so three total. Adding a fourth would absolutely be overkill, but I just need them to be reunited 😭.

Help

Hello! She just told me today that she's marrying her boyfriend who she met through the internet around seven months ago. She has met him three different times because he lives in another city, and in total has seen him in person twelve days. She's very religious (catholic), and I have always respected that, but this is worrying me. I have asked her and her boyfriend is very religious too, and they go to mass and pray together. Since she's very religious she says that she will marry him but won't have sex until she has finished college (she is on her first year), because she doesn't want to have a baby before finishing university and she says that preservatives and contraceptives are banned by the Church. She assures me that her boyfriend has promised to respect that, but I can't quite believe that from a 30 yo preying on a girl so young. She's very happy and has tried to tell me that I shouldn't worry since he's a good man, but I'm really worried. What should I do? I'm really scared my friend will end in an abusive relationship and/or the news, because this is just too creepy. I don't know what I could do, or if I even have any right to try to intervene, because it's not illegal even though that in my opinion is extremely predatory and concerning.

I feel so conflicted over this. My family does Thanksgiving together pretty much every year but this year is a little different because they rented an Airbnb on a nice property outside of our city. I would get to see some relatives I don’t see very often and spend time with my siblings, which is important to me because we don’t live together anymore and it’s one of their first years in college. My immediate and extended families have both had a pretty hard year and my siblings rely on me a lot for moral support as our extended family can be difficult to handle so I want to be there for them. On the other hand my girlfriend hardly ever does anything for the holidays but this year her family is going to a vacation spot that she spent a lot of time at as a kid and has always wanted to show me. She doesn’t know when her family will be able to get back there as they haven’t been in a couple years and it was particularly cheap this time. I suggested going with my girlfriend for the first part of the week then flying back the night before thanksgiving to spend the day with my family because it’s a very short and cheap flight, but she has a serious fear of planes and flying so said no to that. I know I will probably feel bad whatever I choose which is making it more difficult, but from an outside perspective is there an obvious choice here?

EDIT: You guys are right this shouldn’t be as complicated as it feels. I think I’m going to tell her that I would be more than happy to either buy a plane ticket for myself or rent a car and drive back on Wednesday night but if she’s not willing to accept either of those compromises then I’ll be spending the holiday with my family. Thank you all for your insight and further advice or comments are welcome.

TW: I will have to explain how he died.

I am at a loss and devastated…I am pregnant and teying to regulate my emotions but I just dont know how were going to get over this.

Me and my husband got this dog for my mom a few years ago when her/my childhood dog of 13 years passed. My mom called at 3pm today saying he got scared when she changed the carbon monoxide alarm and her little Shih tzu ran away through a crack in the door. I also need to say my mom is elderly. She drove around looking him for him for hours. I waited until my husband got home and we also drove around for an hour looking, yelling and calling his name. When we were about to go home because it was already dark I saw something laying in the middle of the road…..He pulled over and I just got out of the car and started screaming for 5 minutes… all the local business came out to see what was going on.. everything from there is the blur….I will be getting him cremated.

Now this is where I need advice..
This will destroy her.. Im scared she might have a heart attack…
But on the other hand there wont be no closure.. she already feels extremely guilty..She knows he has a tendency to run away..
She probably may not stop looking for him…
It would be a great burden to keep this secret forever even for her benefit..I am a extremely emotional person and feel things very deeply so lying would be so hard but I can do it to spare her pain.

I have 3 dogs myself and just think what would I want..
Could I live with myself if this happened and it was my fault?
Could I live with no closure?
Can she hopefully imagine some nice family adopted him and never wanted to give him back.

She lives by herself and this was her only companion…

Please help.

Edit: Thank you for the people you gave kind and insightful answers.
Also it ceases it amaze me how many assholes are in the world.
I am not sorry that I’m concerned that telling her will cause her physical and mental health to deteriorate. Maybe to some of you “It’s just a dog” but this was her baby.
Her health will always be my number one priority whether I choose to tell her or not and I don’t appreciate the assholes who are making it seem like I’m doing a disservice to her. It was a damn question to weigh my options.

So like 3 years ago I lost my job. I found another, but it wasn't enough to sustain in this economy. So my mother said we could move in together as she was having health issues and a few surgeries upcoming in the next few years and would need help. So she found a place for her, my child and myself. She knew from jump what I was able to contribute. I also took care of her, kept the house clean and bought the groceries.

So last month she decided I wasn't pulling my weight, actually complained to my son that I wouldnt get a second job (I can't, physically) and decided to move out. Now as I get paid weekly I gave her rent weekly instead of monthly. 10/31 is her last day, but any money i give in Oct would have been for Nov rent, so I feel like I shouldn't give her anything, but I also know that she has like the power bill and shiz, so i was thinking maybe half, but then I won't have rent for Nov. My budget is TIGHT. I also want to mention that she has been giving me the silent treatment since like August, so i cannot talk to her about this. I am slightly a petty person so I feel like I shouldn't give her anything. So should I give her anymore money or no?

I was getting something from the garage and noticed a piece of white printer paper in the street. Out of curiously I walked up to it and saw a man's name, his social security number and birth date. It's a fairly large font and the paper has tire marks on it. Super strange. I looked around, saw nothing going on, and decided to bring it inside. My first instinct was to shred it. Should I just do that? Can't help but wonder what is going on with this man and why there is this mysterious paper with this info on it in the street.

ok so basically i have a burner account on TikTok that doesn’t have my name, place of employment or location listed- it also isn’t connected to my phone number or personal email and i blocked all of my colleagues. at the time, i had less than 100 followers and was just posting shit for my friends. unfortunately, I work for a large women’s retailer while I’m in between jobs during postgrad and I had a situation with my management where they offered me a full-time position, then rescinded the offer and hired someone else (i have nothing but positive performance reviews) but then continued to schedule me 35+ hours a week and said I was not eligible for healthcare benefits because i’m classified as “part time.” after several meetings about the situation where i explicitly asked to have my classification changed—i made a TikTok joking about the situation basically saying that retail managers love this arrangement because they get a full time employee without having to give them benefits from my kitchen and posted it before i went to bed. within a day it had 3 million views 😭 now here’s where i definitely was stupid. while on my breaks at work, i’ve made tiktoks. one of them was about being on the job search. not to defend my stupidity too much, but it wasn’t until I found out that I wasn’t going to be compensated fairly as a full-time employee that I even started looking for different positions. Although in retrospect, I should have avoided filming at my place of employment altogether, I purposefully avoided anything identifiable (signage, logos, etc). allegedly, someone working for the company across the country at a different location saw my video (the one filmed in my house mind you), went to my account, recognized the layout of the fitting room, and notified headquarters. From there, it escalated into an HR investigation where they found none of my content was against policy, and they are not legally allowed to take disciplinary action. my district manager said that the primary concern was my happiness at the company. She said she was under the impression that I was classified as part time because I wanted to work less hours. I pushed back because not only have I requested (official documentation can prove this) to be transitioned into a full-time employee multiple times, I have never worked less than 35 hours a week since I started in the role. here’s where I need advice. In our meeting, she went on to officially offer me the full-time role, and made sure to say “I’m not offering this to you just because we saw your video,” which I highly doubt is true given that for several months, I have been told this position is no longer open. The conversation was incredibly awkward between me and the district manager, but I am primarily worried about my relationship with the actual store manager, who is mostly in the driver’s seat when it comes to scheduling decisions. i don’t know how to move forward at this company. i feel like i made myself look bad and the whole vibe at work is now going to be super uncomfortable with management. that being said, what i was complaining about in my video is an illegal violation of ACA rights and i was within my rights to post it. though posting on my breaks in the dressing room got me caught up, i didn’t do anything actually against policy. what are the next steps you would take if you were me? i’m actively applying to better jobs and i did get asked for an interview, but i’m still feeling like the job market is too unstable to quit without anything lined up. but i’m so worried about going back to work and facing my manager now that she knows this video was made about her basically. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IN THIS SITUATION PLEASE HELP ME

So I’ve been working at a sports bar for 8 months and I have had my ups and downs with this job. I’m a good worker I know I am but it’s hard being there till 2am almost every shift. Well recently I had some changes to my medication I take for my bi polar which caused me to call out. I told them I would get a doctors note but was unable to get an appointment. When I showed up the next day to work he asked if I had a doctors note and I told him I was unable to get one and he wrote me up. I understand I was in the wrong. Ever since then he has been a little rude. Like today I was helping someone today because they were struggling and I asked if I should ring in the order under my number and he replied “yes they shouldn’t just be sitting around”. And yesterday I tried to get someone’s attention and he sternly replied with “she’s on the phone” which I did not notice. I know I might be over reacting but A. I’m really sensitive and B. I’m a perfectionist. Does anyone have any advice that could calm me down? Should I start looking for a new job or just stay there till I know for sure he doesn’t like me?

Hello! She just told me today that she's marrying her boyfriend who she met through the internet around seven months ago. She has met him three different times because he lives in another city, and in total has seen him in person twelve days. She's very religious (catholic), and I have always respected that, but this is worrying me. I have asked her and her boyfriend is very religious too, and they go to mass and pray together. Since she's very religious she says that she will marry him but won't have sex until she has finished college (she is on her first year), because she doesn't want to have a baby before finishing university and she says that preservatives and contraceptives are banned by the Church. She assures me that her boyfriend has promised to respect that, but I can't quite believe that from a 30 yo preying on a girl so young. She's very happy and has tried to tell me that I shouldn't worry since he's a good man, but I'm really worried. What should I do? I'm really scared my friend will end in an abusive relationship and/or the news, because this is just too creepy. I don't know what I could do, or if I even have any right to try to intervene, because it's not illegal even though that in my opinion is extremely predatory and concerning.

So.. longggggggg like 29 years long story short I’m now here and I am the biggest I’ve ever been and the loneliest I’ve ever felt in my life. I’ve lived a pretty normal life like I was active my whole childhood in sports, played a sport throughout college, and then kind of fell off with working out. Relationship-wise actually ended around the same time my college career ended. I’ve been single since college. When college ended I kind of lost my last best circle of friends and haven’t found a circle since.

Im a pretty chill person all around like I check most of the boxes of normalcy but ive gotten so lonely these past few months that ive resorted to paying psychics online thousands of dollars to tell me something about my future just so I can get a glimpse of hope.

Im just so lost right now what should I do? Other than delete the psychic apps lol

I am conflicted over whether or not I was being made fun of today so I am asking Reddit. For context, I am 16F and a junior in HS. I just transferred to the school I am at, and I am friends with a good amount of well known (“popular”) people, but I myself am not well known. In my history class, I have made friends with 3 girls who are well known/popular. I am definitely not close friends with them yet, but we talk throughout class and they include me in their group ( they all have known each other since freshman year). These girls joke around with me, ask me questions and try to get to know me better. I would also like to mention (and I mean this in the nicest way possible) that I do not dress or act out of the norm. In other words I am a basic white girl and visibly look and act similar to these girls, so in the nicest way possible I don’t think I’d be the first person they’d make fun of for looks. (Nobody should get made fun of at all, but that is just how it is).

So there is a boy in the class. Let’s call him D. D is friends with one of the girls I have made friends with. Let’s call her C. D is very popular and well known. C and D are good friends and I frequently see them walking around together in the halls. A week ago C was talking to our group in class (D was on the other side of the room) and she said that apparently D asked her who I was and said I was really hot. We laughed about this and I joked about how random it was. 2 days ago, (D was across the room again, not near us at all) C turns to me and tells me that apparently he was talking again to her about how hot I was and apparently he was trying to yell to me across the hallway. I didn’t hear this because I was way ahead of them in the hallway, but I did hear him repeat “face and ass” many times. Today us 4 girls were sitting in a group together and D was at the table next to us. I was talking to my friends a little and then C randomly goes “Guys, we have to get D and (my name) together.” And then our other friends looked confused to C started explaining how he was saying I was really hot. I laughed about this cause what else was I supposed to do.

However, then C yells out to D “D, do you think my friend is cute?” And then he kept repeating what he said the other day “face and ass”. Then he said to her to stop (keep in mind this was lighthearted and nobody was angry). Then C asked me if I thought he was cute and I said I was talking to somebody else right now (which is kind of true I guess). But I’m very nervous my new friends hate me and were making fun of my looks. But then again why would C tell me privately that he said this a week ago if this was some huge inside joke. I am very insecure. Please be honest with me and sorry for the long post.

(Fake names will be used, all from a DnD campaign, so these names will sound stupid.)

I, (17M), Lemon (18M), and Cooya (17M), have all been friends since Cooya and I were 12 and Lemon was 13. I met Cooya through school, Cooya met Lemon online, and introduced me to Lemon through that. Eventually, Lemon and Cooya invited me to a guild in a game we all played. They also had a discord server, so I joined it. This is where I met Gale (18-20F when we met, I assume around 23-25 now). I've never really been a super social person so I didn't really talk to her until she started a DnD campaign for us.

At this point, Gale was a weekly part of my life. We did not talk at all really outside of DnD, and it would stay this way for me always. I was never very close to Gale, but my other friends were, especially Cooya. The most I would do alone with her was discuss DnD or play games if others left a group call, but we never sought eachother out, however, Cooya and Fern would often RP with Gale a lot. Cooya specifically had a 2 year long RP with just Cooya. The contents of which I don't know of, I just know it happened as it was mentioned in passing sometimes.

This never really came off as abnormal until relatively recently, because Lemon and Cooya dated for just about two years, randomly broke up, and caused some conflict in the friend group that kind of made us realize Cooya was pretty toxic, however, I'm realizing a lot of the toxicity has to do with Gale.

While my side has to do more with Cooya doing this to me with Lemon, Cooya would often ignore Lemon for Gale. Several times over both their relationship and friendship, Cooya would promise Lemon to call, play games, ect. and Cooya would just ghost Lemon and call Gale instead (or Gale and her friend group). There has also been a lot of times where Cooya will go a month without speaking to Lemon in DMs, but will be active in spaces that Gale are in.

I'm starting to think that Cooya has been getting groomed, and I don't know how to feel about it. I don't know what to say even because I'm not exactly on good terms with Cooya and Gale is still in friend group servers, events, and my DnD campaign. I'm 17 now and I cannot imagine feeling comfortable being friends with anyone under the age of 15, and when we met Gale when we were 12-13 while she was at least a year older than me. Weird as hell. Where do I go from here?

(Also I do want to state this... Cooya's parents are at least aware of the presence of Gale in his life, as are mine, and Lemon's guardians are too absent to care regardless.)

I'm being accused of stealing a hairspray and food. I haven't touched or grabbed any of it and I literally don't know what to do
I've told them twice now I haven't touched or grabbed anything but they keep making passive remarks like yelling
"I WISH I HAD MY HAIRSPRAYYYY" and leaving passive aggressive messages in the group chat about eating food.
I barely spend time here anyways and I'm just gonna stay at my friends place for the weekend because I feel so uncomfortable here.
But idk what to do. Should I just meet with the RAs? It's 3 of us in our own rooms but idk what to do or say to them because they're being just so uncomfortable rn.
I'm literally just crying in my bathroom rn and I'm to uncomfortable to even leave or make a sound rn.
Later edit: I'm rlly stressed so I miswrote:
It's 3 of us living in 1 apartment. They share a bathroom, we don't have a 4th roommate, we each have individual rooms and I don't share my bathroom with anyone.

Hello, basically I moved to the USA for my grade 12th year and with my course load I'm struggling with my courses -- particularly AP chem and AP Calculus ab. Now I also did start 3 weeks late but yeah.

Now the thing is that I'm also doing an online course for AP Physics C which I have a B in but . . . well they're expecting me to learn stuff so quickly -- like in 5 days for entire units so I may or may not have . . . looked the answers online so . . . I've cheated . . . which is why the grade is passing but that's bad because I have a 57 in Calculus and that is CRAZY suspicious. Now like I wasn't trying to be evil and given different circumstances I won't have but well . . . I started 3 weeks late so I got 5 days to figure out a whole unit at best and with the pressure of passing with a good grade . . . I just didn't know what to do, and it's bad, I was going to stop when I caught up with the class but it's a stain on my record forever. Like I THINK it's hard for them to prove and everything but . . . if they do and I'm caught . . . yeah. But at the same time if I drop it I have to go to college so yeah . . .  I'm stuck.

For AP Chemistry I have a 43 in that class but I blame that on the teacher not teaching me ANYTHING that I needed to know from the 3 weeks I missed before taking the test. However still, I might keep this one actually but yeah, idk.

Now for Calculus I got a 53 on the unit 2 test and my teacher (not so slyly) wants me to audit her course, half because the grade and other half because she doesn't have much faith on me because I'm taking pre calculus and calculus at the same time. Also yeah my course are something too: I'm taking a total of 5 AP courses this year -- that's also a thing.

Now what I've been thinking is that I go back to Canada (my home country) in a open studies or upgrading whatever course for a year or maybe 2, idk, collect those stuff and go off but it costs money and takes 1-2 years longer where if I stayed in Canada it would be instantaneous. So yeah, idk :///

So yeah with my grades, the whole physics situation that I'm hoping putting on here doesn't leak to my high school what I've done, and the workload, I don't know what to do. My dad said it's fine but NOW he says it's more beneficial if I just continue taking them but that we can decide after parent-teacher interviews but that won't be enough, I like the random people of the internet to tell me what to do so . . . yeah, what do I do? Do I continue with my courses (even physics with the past looking up ( . . . cheating . . .) stuff -- not that they'll find out . . . I hope) Please help :(((

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year now. At the start he was earning just as much, if not even more than me, was renting his own apartment and still had money left over for dates, flowers and to come up and visit me (we are medium distance).
Since January he has been unemployed for the majority of time as he walks out’ve jobs with no backup plan all the time, he’s even been on the verge of homelessness and was back living with his parents for a while.
He got a new job in a bar that’s 27hrs a week and minimum wage and he’s barely scraping by with his rent. He can’t budget at all and when he does have money he’s buying things that aren’t essential and alcohol after his shifts to either drink at work or at home. I’ve been carrying the financial burden basically this whole relationship. If we want to do something nice I plan it, I pay for it and I’m the chauffeur as I’m the only one that drives. It’s costing me a fortune in fuel alone to see him every week. I recently discovered he had £7k move in and out’ve his bank account from gambling (which he had nothing left of…), he hasn’t been paying his loan to the bank off at all, he isn’t paying his WiFi bill either, he still won’t pay for dental treatment for the infection in his mouth and he isn’t currently looking after his house or himself, sleeping all day while I try balance 50hr work weeks, a social life, gym and this entire relationship. I’ve helped him out with groceries, bills, lent him money, paid for dates and tried to give him advice on his debts that have worked for me in the past but it hasn’t worked at all. If anything it’s a little worse. He gets so jealous too of me wanting to do nice things and go on holidays with my friends and why I don’t do those things with him but he never has any money. I want to be able to do nice things with my partner so bad.
Am I at a dead end here? What do I do? He’s always telling me he can’t wait for us to have kids and he can’t wait to marry me but he has never proved he can keep a job or be good with finances.

$2k budget, three options. Do i, 1: Go to Japan for a week. 2: Get into snowboarding this winter. 3: Invest it all. (Very blessed to have these options) Im a 22m, but i just cannot decide.

i went to japan last year with my ex, but i didnt get to truly experience it because i was REALLY depressed. snowboarding is cool asf (did it once). But then theres the adult responsibility of investing (aka boringg).

whats the move?

My husband (32M) and I (32F) have been married for four years, and we both come from Catholic families. Before he moved here on a fiancé visa, we had only met in person four times (normal for our culture).

I grew up with a lot of physical and emotional abuse. My parents beat me very cruelly for normal mistakes/decisions anyone would make. I would always dream of my prince to sweep me away and save me from them and how we would create our own little happy family. I started dating my now husband. He told me he found me to be beautiful and thought my curvy beautiful was attractive. Then I gained 80-90 lbs during Covid. Because we were long distance, I was so scared of what my boyfriend would say but he never said a word or made me feel bad about the weight gain. My mother told me my boyfriend only wanted a green card because no one could truly love someone who looked like me. My father said he felt sorry for my husband for having to look at a body like mine in bed. Despite fights where I found him texting another girl in my apartment immediately after we first had sex, and me catching him in a lie about using coke, I stayed because I felt like he was so kind to me and that he was safe space away from my family. I shared my pain and insecurities with him. I wanted to believe I had finally found someone who loved me.

Before our wedding, there were two incidents that I overlooked. First, he got angry because I was being wasteful for having leftover ketchup on my plate and told me I couldn't leave until I finished it. I cried while licking ketchup and eventually threw the plate in frustration. Another time, while assembling furniture, I laughed after he finally accepted a suggestion I had made several times. He told me to look in a mirror and asked who could possibly find me attractive. He later cried, apologized, and promised never to say anything like that again. I believed him and went through with the wedding.

Throughout our marriage, he repeatedly criticized my weight. Twice before sex, he removed my clothes and then pulled me in front of a mirror, pointed out parts of my body, and asked when I planned to lose weight. He claimed he was trying to motivate me, but those moments made me feel broken. I always dreamed of having a husband who secretly took pictures of me because he loved how I looked candidly. Instead, mine would randomly show me photos and say, "This is what you look like. Why can't you just lose the weight?" During one fight, he said that even when I was skinny, I was only OK-looking and that he didn't understand why people called me beautiful. I felt even worse about myself because I believed he was as disgusted by my appearance as I was.

For the first year and a half, I paid all our expenses, used my honeymoon savings to visit his family, and even paid to bring his brother to the US as a surprise. When my husband got his first full-time job, he used his first paycheck to visit friends rather than do something special for the wife who had supported him. I kept hoping that if I asked for less, never requested dates, vacations, or gifts, and made myself small enough, he would finally be happy with me.

Whenever his comments hurt me, he would apologize and say he had been cruel and stupid. I would be upset for a few days, then push through.

Everything changed when my father was placed on a ventilator with a life-threatening infection. My husband chose to travel overseas for a friend's wedding instead of staying with me. His friend had actually encouraged him to stay by my side, but my husband went anyway. When I called him crying after speaking to the doctor, he said I was bothering him and ruining his good time, then hung up. I will never forget sitting on the toilet, sobbing and feeling completely abandoned.

I wanted a divorce, but my father told me I was in my 30s, fat, and would never find anyone else. He said my husband could easily find a beautiful younger woman and that I would be the loser if I left. When we went to the courthouse, my husband begged me to stay and promised to change. Three months later, during an argument about our lack of sex, I cried about always having to initiate intimacy. He responded that maybe if I were better-looking, he would have f**ked me more. That destroyed my self-esteem and changed how I felt about him. When I told my parents, my father again advised me to stay, suggesting that losing weight might make my husband treat me better.

I stayed because I felt having something was better than having nothing. About ten months later, I was laid off. That same day, my husband jokingly asked how I could afford brunch with my sister now that I was unemployed. That was my breaking point. I told him I was done. How could he question my spending on the day I lost my job after I had covered all his expenses for a year and a half?

After asking for a divorce, I confided in my trainer, who lives abroad and whom I've never met. He admitted he had liked me for a while, and I realized I liked talking to him too. I developed feelings because he treated me with kindness and respect. When he wanted to talk sexually, I refused to go further because I wasn't comfortable doing so before my divorce was finalized. I had no intention of meeting him or doing anything sexual before then. I didn't think I was doing anything wrong by talking to someone who genuinely seemed to want me. I started feeling happier again- glowing and taking care of myself. Even my husband commented on how much I changed.

This experience also made me angrier at my parents and husband for making me believe no one else could ever want me. It showed me how wrong and cruel they had been and that there were other possibilities for my life.

When my husband and I went to finalize the divorce, he begged me again to stay. I told him about my feelings for the trainer. I blocked the trainer, although it was incredibly difficult, and cried for weeks afterward.

Since then, my husband has started therapy and genuinely acknowledges how cruel and messed up he was. He wants to improve himself and save our marriage. However, even five months after blocking the trainer, I still think about him every day. I care about my husband and love him, but I'm not IN LOVE with him. I feel irritated when he touches me and have no desire to be intimate with him. Yet I feel guilty because he is genuinely trying to change. I know love is more than a feeling; it's also a choice and an action, especially when things are difficult. What Should I Do? It’s wrong to leave a marriage just because some guy made me feel desired. and I don’t even think he was serious about me. But I don’t feel like being intimate and the thought of feeling this way for the rest of my life makes me anxious and sick to my stomach.

TLDR: Husband spent three years being selfish, leaving my side when I needed him the most, and insulting me. Now he is trying, after I asked for a divorce, and another man expressed interest during our separation. Am I throwing away a marriage that is still salvageable for a fantasy dream of "the grass is greener on the other side"?