TW: I will have to explain how he died.

I am at a loss and devastated…I am pregnant and teying to regulate my emotions but I just dont know how were going to get over this.

Me and my husband got this dog for my mom a few years ago when her/my childhood dog of 13 years passed. My mom called at 3pm today saying he got scared when she changed the carbon monoxide alarm and her little Shih tzu ran away through a crack in the door. I also need to say my mom is elderly. She drove around looking him for him for hours. I waited until my husband got home and we also drove around for an hour looking, yelling and calling his name. When we were about to go home because it was already dark I saw something laying in the middle of the road…..He pulled over and I just got out of the car and started screaming for 5 minutes… all the local business came out to see what was going on.. everything from there is the blur….I will be getting him cremated.

Now this is where I need advice..
This will destroy her.. Im scared she might have a heart attack…
But on the other hand there wont be no closure.. she already feels extremely guilty..She knows he has a tendency to run away..
She probably may not stop looking for him…
It would be a great burden to keep this secret forever even for her benefit..I am a extremely emotional person and feel things very deeply so lying would be so hard but I can do it to spare her pain.

I have 3 dogs myself and just think what would I want..
Could I live with myself if this happened and it was my fault?
Could I live with no closure?
Can she hopefully imagine some nice family adopted him and never wanted to give him back.

She lives by herself and this was her only companion…

Please help.

Edit: Thank you for the people you gave kind and insightful answers.
Also it ceases it amaze me how many assholes are in the world.
I am not sorry that I’m concerned that telling her will cause her physical and mental health to deteriorate. Maybe to some of you “It’s just a dog” but this was her baby.
Her health will always be my number one priority whether I choose to tell her or not and I don’t appreciate the assholes who are making it seem like I’m doing a disservice to her. It was a damn question to weigh my options.

I’m 18f, and I’ve started doing coke a month ago. I do it almost everyday. About 1g in 4/5 days then take breaks. I can now only go about 4 days sober at a time before I start again. I’ve had nose bleeds, palpitations etc.. And I’ve also basically stopped eating which was already a problem for me but I still won’t stop. The main reason why I started is because I strongly believe I have undiagnosed ADHD and wanted to deal with the symptoms somehow. I can’t stop mainly because the comedown makes me lose focus even more and I cannot function that way at all. And because I’ve always had dark thoughts while sober and I don’t want to deal w any of that. I’m not sure honestly what to do at this point.

Hi, I am a man and I had my first bottoming session last night with a guy and it didn’t work pretty well for me. I met him on Grindr and we decided to meet and I tried bottoming out of curiosity. I didn’t like it at all. It hurts and I bled a few drops, I tried again and then I just decided to stop. He used a condom and he did tested negative last August. I am writing this here mostly just to vent as I don’t have anyone to talk to about this. After we stopped I just helped him off by hand and he finished inside the condom. Now my butt is sore after a day and all I am feeling is regret and it makes me question my sexuality even more.

Before this I had a few nights with men but they just decided to blow me only and nothing more. I never wanted to have penetrative sex but yesterday I think the stress got to me and made me make an impulsive decision. Right now I am scared about my health although the condom didnt broke and he was gentle with me but it still hurts. I regret it, I have mixed feelings and I question myself do I really like men or I am just so addicted to porn. I really could use some advice. Many thanks!

Hello! She just told me today that she's marrying her boyfriend who she met through the internet around seven months ago. She has met him three different times because he lives in another city, and in total has seen him in person twelve days. She's very religious (catholic), and I have always respected that, but this is worrying me. I have asked her and her boyfriend is very religious too, and they go to mass and pray together. Since she's very religious she says that she will marry him but won't have sex until she has finished college (she is on her first year), because she doesn't want to have a baby before finishing university and she says that preservatives and contraceptives are banned by the Church. She assures me that her boyfriend has promised to respect that, but I can't quite believe that from a 30 yo preying on a girl so young. She's very happy and has tried to tell me that I shouldn't worry since he's a good man, but I'm really worried. What should I do? I'm really scared my friend will end in an abusive relationship and/or the news, because this is just too creepy. I don't know what I could do, or if I even have any right to try to intervene, because it's not illegal even though that in my opinion is extremely predatory and concerning.

Last October I found this little guy! I brought him in, ofc.
It’s now been one whole year & there’s a post in my local community Facebook group about another solid black cat who share the same facial features as this guy. She doesn’t look too old but actually the perfect age to be siblings.

How do I bring this up with my fiancé. I really want to take her in, I don’t think a day would go by without me thinking about this.

We live in an apartment with two other cats, so three total. Adding a fourth would absolutely be overkill, but I just need them to be reunited 😭.

Help

ok so basically i have a burner account on TikTok that doesn’t have my name, place of employment or location listed- it also isn’t connected to my phone number or personal email and i blocked all of my colleagues. at the time, i had less than 100 followers and was just posting shit for my friends. unfortunately, I work for a large women’s retailer while I’m in between jobs during postgrad and I had a situation with my management where they offered me a full-time position, then rescinded the offer and hired someone else (i have nothing but positive performance reviews) but then continued to schedule me 35+ hours a week and said I was not eligible for healthcare benefits because i’m classified as “part time.” after several meetings about the situation where i explicitly asked to have my classification changed—i made a TikTok joking about the situation basically saying that retail managers love this arrangement because they get a full time employee without having to give them benefits from my kitchen and posted it before i went to bed. within a day it had 3 million views 😭 now here’s where i definitely was stupid. while on my breaks at work, i’ve made tiktoks. one of them was about being on the job search. not to defend my stupidity too much, but it wasn’t until I found out that I wasn’t going to be compensated fairly as a full-time employee that I even started looking for different positions. Although in retrospect, I should have avoided filming at my place of employment altogether, I purposefully avoided anything identifiable (signage, logos, etc). allegedly, someone working for the company across the country at a different location saw my video (the one filmed in my house mind you), went to my account, recognized the layout of the fitting room, and notified headquarters. From there, it escalated into an HR investigation where they found none of my content was against policy, and they are not legally allowed to take disciplinary action. my district manager said that the primary concern was my happiness at the company. She said she was under the impression that I was classified as part time because I wanted to work less hours. I pushed back because not only have I requested (official documentation can prove this) to be transitioned into a full-time employee multiple times, I have never worked less than 35 hours a week since I started in the role. here’s where I need advice. In our meeting, she went on to officially offer me the full-time role, and made sure to say “I’m not offering this to you just because we saw your video,” which I highly doubt is true given that for several months, I have been told this position is no longer open. The conversation was incredibly awkward between me and the district manager, but I am primarily worried about my relationship with the actual store manager, who is mostly in the driver’s seat when it comes to scheduling decisions. i don’t know how to move forward at this company. i feel like i made myself look bad and the whole vibe at work is now going to be super uncomfortable with management. that being said, what i was complaining about in my video is an illegal violation of ACA rights and i was within my rights to post it. though posting on my breaks in the dressing room got me caught up, i didn’t do anything actually against policy. what are the next steps you would take if you were me? i’m actively applying to better jobs and i did get asked for an interview, but i’m still feeling like the job market is too unstable to quit without anything lined up. but i’m so worried about going back to work and facing my manager now that she knows this video was made about her basically. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IN THIS SITUATION PLEASE HELP ME

I have been friends with this girl for five years and we are now begining college. she has gone to a few parties and claims that she hates them and only goes to make other people happy but ends up drunk. I have always expressed how I am really against it and how much it bothers me. it really hurts my heart to see my best friend doing this. I don't know why I am so against these things I'm not sure if it is due to my fear of losing friends, my addict family, or how I care about her and her health. it's probably a mixture of everything. anyways, my heart has just felt broken these past few days and I have been crying about it because it feels like I am losing her to a different lifestyle that I cannot be apart of. I know drinking is a huge part of college culture but that just doesn't sit right with me. I don't think she's going to stop and I am not gonna cry and beg her to change because I can't. I don't want to seem like a child for being against this. should I continue this friendship with her even though it hurts me so much? is there something else that is making me so uncomfortable? if anyone can understand me please let me know what I should do.

I know this post is such a little thing but my sister found out(my guardian) the old letters of my ex boyfriend that I introduced her as my best friend. What should I do? She's not bringing it up and ignoring me. I need an advice. Thankyou

Recently i noticed these two marks on my leg which makes me scared a bat or other rabies-carrying animal could've bit me and i might have rabies. I realize this might be a bit silly and it's probably just my anxiety, but it would make me feel better if i could get someone else's opinion.

I suppose my biggest concern would potentially be a bat bighting me during my sleep since apparently you can sometimes not feel a bat bite. From the research I've done, this seems like the marks might be slightly too far apart to be a bat bite, and doesn't closely resemble the bite marks of other common rabies-carrying animals.

Aside from a possible skunk (might have smelled one, no proof of it being in the house, and the marks near my ankle seem to be drastically different than a skunk bite, not to mention i probably would have felt it if i was asleep) I also have no reason to believe that any rabies-carrying animal has been in my house and i was not outside anytime near where i got the bite.

These marks could also be from me resting my ankle, near the same spot as my marks, on a ledge while cleaning a small cut i had on the bottom of my foot, which happened just before the marks appeared, but i don't want to say that for certain.

I'm a 26 year old male with no current health problems.

I'm aware i could be completely wrong on any of these points, and i know how serious rabies is, so if you think there's a chance i could eventually get it based on these marks, please let me know. I don't want to take any chances.

I feel so conflicted over this. My family does Thanksgiving together pretty much every year but this year is a little different because they rented an Airbnb on a nice property outside of our city. I would get to see some relatives I don’t see very often and spend time with my siblings, which is important to me because we don’t live together anymore and it’s one of their first years in college. My immediate and extended families have both had a pretty hard year and my siblings rely on me a lot for moral support as our extended family can be difficult to handle so I want to be there for them. On the other hand my girlfriend hardly ever does anything for the holidays but this year her family is going to a vacation spot that she spent a lot of time at as a kid and has always wanted to show me. She doesn’t know when her family will be able to get back there as they haven’t been in a couple years and it was particularly cheap this time. I suggested going with my girlfriend for the first part of the week then flying back the night before thanksgiving to spend the day with my family because it’s a very short and cheap flight, but she has a serious fear of planes and flying so said no to that. I know I will probably feel bad whatever I choose which is making it more difficult, but from an outside perspective is there an obvious choice here?

EDIT: You guys are right this shouldn’t be as complicated as it feels. I think I’m going to tell her that I would be more than happy to either buy a plane ticket for myself or rent a car and drive back on Wednesday night but if she’s not willing to accept either of those compromises then I’ll be spending the holiday with my family. Thank you all for your insight and further advice or comments are welcome.

First of is you are here just to make fun, please just leave. Second, english is not my first language so i apologize in advance.

So, last night me and my boyfriend were going home with his car, since we are both in uni in another city. I already had some attitude so it didn't need much for the argument to start. I got mad so i started crying and than he got mad because of it. (Here i have to add, i have no idea why but, i always cry, like even if its not that deep i will cry. It is something i can hardly control, but something he gets mad over.) We started yelling and both said some awful things. Then he had some work so he let me get his car to get home, but then also had some work in my area so he would get his car back. I was like no you said all those things and called myself a taxi. I know this was the worst thing i maybe could have done, but i did it in a heat of a moment. There was no "i am home", or "good morning" texts from both of us. We grew up in families where arguing is like good morning, no communication, nothing. We have been together for so long and still its like a circle. We start the conversation, i start crying because i don't know what else to say or from just being mad, the he would get mad because it's the same every single time. We will argue and after some time go to bed like nothing happened. Its fustrating and i want this to end once and forever. Do i approach him or no and if yes what do i say? I am really tired of this, we want a life together, but like this it will be hard. we live together 4 days a week, then we go back home also 4 days and the dynamic switches, i think this can be a problem because you get used to one think then it's something else and everything gets mixed up. You guys heve any advice?

I, (20F) am upset to even be making this post. I love her, I want the best for her and I care for her deeply.
We’ve been friends since school and live in different countries now. I work full time and while I still live with my parents, I pay them rent and pay for my own necessities. I wasn’t able to afford university so I have been working the past year instead. It’s disappointing but I’ve got a career lined up and I’m intent on sticking to it. She had the opportunity to go to university but flunked out within a year and now lives with her parents. She does have some mental health issues for which she is medicated and has a team of professionals that her parents pay for to assist with this.

I’ve been depressed for a while but only recently have been medicated. There’s a couple of things that have really been bothering me recently about our interactions. She tends to be a bit of an over spender and she does show me all her purchases, she’s going apartment hunting and her parents will pay her rent, her mother offered to buy her a new kitten and she essentially floats through life with no financial responsibilities or any really. She spends her time on dating apps where guys will speak to her in really disgusting ways and she will not stop, she skips her part time job constantly, she doesn’t finish her online assignments and complains about it to me. I just find myself a little frustrated and jealousy, my job is hard and my parents are tiger parents although the love me. It just feels like she isn’t making the most of her privilege. I’m not sure how to broach it or just wait for it to pass

I sincerely hope people will see this post. I'm struggling to process what happened and desperately need advice on how to move on.

This happened in 2017, when I was 24F. I'm now 33F, and I recently learned what had really happened. While working in Mexico, I met a wealthy, established 27M right outside my house. He came by at the same time and place for three days in a row. We chatted each time and eventually exchanged numbers. We texted and agreed to go on a date that Friday.

Then, suddenly, all communication stopped. No more texts, calls, or replies. I assumed he was busy and didn't think too much of it at first. But as Friday approached, I grew worried. I texted him to confirm our date, but he never responded.

Friday came and went. No date, no explanation. I was heartbroken because I genuinely thought we'd had a connection. I never heard from him again, although we saw each other from a distance outside my place once. He looked at me for a few seconds that felt like an eternity, shook his head, and walked away. I assumed he'd decided I wasn't interesting enough. Heartbroken, I moved on with my life.

Now, almost nine years later, I recently learned that the friend I was always with in Mexico, who was 22F at the time, admitted to deliberately blocking him on my phone and social media so neither of us could contact the other.

I trusted her completely. I helped her get a job and a place to live, let her stay at my home, gave her money, and confided in her about everything, including my hopes for a future with this man. When he stopped responding, she acted just as sad and upset as I was. She would randomly ask whether I'd heard from him, and I genuinely believed she was being a caring friend.

On the day of our planned date, she even called to make sure I was home. I was debating whether to get ready and wait outside for him, but she talked me out of it because I hadn't heard from him. I trusted her and listened.

We continued working in Mexico for several more months. Every now and then, she would ask whether I'd heard anything from him. I hadn't.

I'd completely forgotten about this man until recently. Now, learning what my friend did has left me devastated. I've been crying for hours, struggling to process the betrayal.

What hurts most isn't just the betrayal itself. It's the feeling that someone I trusted took away my ability to make my own choices and decide the course of my life. She had absolutely no right to decide whether I deserved a chance with this man, a wealthy one at that. That was my decision to make, not hers.

I can't stop wondering whether jealousy played a role. The thought that she have deliberately sabotaged a potential relationship because she couldn't stand to see me happy is haunting me. She knew how much he meant to me and knew about my hopes for the future, yet she has deliberately interfered instead of letting me make my own decisions.

I know I shouldn't dwell on what might have been, but I can't stop wondering how different my life could have been if she'd never interfered. Maybe he could have become my husband. Maybe I would have built a completely different life, without the pain I experienced in the marriage that followed. I'll never know, and that's what breaks my heart. I can't get those years back, and I can never return to that Friday and make my own choice.

Part of me wishes I could reach out to him and explain what really happened. I wonder whether he also spent years questioning what went wrong or believing I simply wasn't interested in him. I wish he knew that I never deliberately ignored or rejected him.

However, I have no intention of contacting him. Almost nine years have passed, and he may have moved on, found someone, and built a family. I respect his privacy and don't want to disturb the life he has created.

Still, it hurts knowing he may never learn the truth, just as I went nearly nine years without knowing it myself. I wish we could both have the answers we deserved, even if our lives have gone in completely different directions.

I know no one can say for certain what would have happened between us, and I'm not claiming we would have lived happily ever after. But we deserved the chance to find out for ourselves. Instead, I spent years believing I wasn't good enough for him, when someone else has been deliberately preventing us from even talking.

I feel robbed of a choice, of a possibility and of an entirely different future. I'm struggling to accept that someone else's actions have changed the course of my life without my knowledge or consent.

How do you make peace with something like this? How do you stop grieving a life you might have had when you'll never get the chance to find out what could have happened?

So.. longggggggg like 29 years long story short I’m now here and I am the biggest I’ve ever been and the loneliest I’ve ever felt in my life. I’ve lived a pretty normal life like I was active my whole childhood in sports, played a sport throughout college, and then kind of fell off with working out. Relationship-wise actually ended around the same time my college career ended. I’ve been single since college. When college ended I kind of lost my last best circle of friends and haven’t found a circle since.

Im a pretty chill person all around like I check most of the boxes of normalcy but ive gotten so lonely these past few months that ive resorted to paying psychics online thousands of dollars to tell me something about my future just so I can get a glimpse of hope.

Im just so lost right now what should I do? Other than delete the psychic apps lol

Guys should i shave my arms and legs? It sounds crazy but i have impulse to do i it for too long. I am man i dont know

When the fall semester began, everything was normal. I attended my classes, completed assignments, and tried to keep up with the demands of being a full-time student. As the weeks passed, I started staying after class to finish work that I couldn’t complete during the lecture.
My professor would sometimes strike up a conversation while I was working. At first, we talked about assignments, deadlines, and how I was managing the semester. Eventually, our conversations began to move beyond school. She started sharing some of the personal stress she was experiencing, including difficulties in her own life.
I listened, and over time, our conversations became more personal. I assumed she felt comfortable talking to me because I gave her my attention and tried to understand what she was going through. What began as a few conversations after class gradually developed into something neither of us had even thought about .
Eventually, the boundaries between us were crossed, and the intimacy happened on several occasions. After a while she told me she had a fiancé, and the situation had become difficult to ignore. I started questioning how things had reached this point and why I had continued participating when I knew the circumstances.
Now, I want to end it. The difficult part is figuring out how to step away from a situation that has become personal while still having to see her in class. (22male) professor (31female)

Just wanted to get this out don’t know who to tell!

this Guy (mid 40s) was upset and raised a complaint through our channel (part of it written in CAPS). My manager said to call him and see what he wants, though I told her I cannot help him. I. So I called and tried to tell him the system broke again (this was his main frustration and I cannot do anything about it... but we can do something manually. He didn't even allow me to finish.

he started calling our work laughable and a joke. He talked down to me, kept repeating how I don't understand what he is telling me and don't understand him. I said that I can talk to my superior regarding his concerns and he was like: you have to talk, not that you can!

I was lost and forgot about something he wrote in that request so he asked me with fustration, raising his voice: do you even read what I say?

The processes were outsourced to us, in Europe (we work for US) and he was very angry that it worked while it was there. Lets do something together right now, he said at some point. Something very simple. Can you? I talked back and was like: like what, hm?

I don't care its not your fault, maybe the fault is in the US, maybe europe. It can be North Korea's fault.

I told him to talk politely as I do, and he said he is polite to me and I said> no, you are not. You are raising your voice. Later, he snapped: I am not a stupid man.

And reproached me how he had to use his own credit card so he can pay some fee that we failed to pay (20 dollars or so). I told him he didn't have to...

I escalated to an upper manager from HQ and he called the guy out and was totally on my side. And that angry guy was way more polite with him. Next day when he wrote an email he was overly respectful to us lol

Some months ago he sent an email saying he is totally unsatisfied and that we are kind of ruining the company. (The feedback we usually receive is not bad btw)

everyone was on my side but I can't stop feeling so bad about it all. I could have been more prepared for that call. i feel bad overall. how to process all this?

Im reposting this here!! Any advice welcome

I am conflicted over whether or not I was being made fun of today so I am asking Reddit. For context, I am 16F and a junior in HS. I just transferred to the school I am at, and I am friends with a good amount of well known (“popular”) people, but I myself am not well known. In my history class, I have made friends with 3 girls who are well known/popular. I am definitely not close friends with them yet, but we talk throughout class and they include me in their group ( they all have known each other since freshman year). These girls joke around with me, ask me questions and try to get to know me better. I would also like to mention (and I mean this in the nicest way possible) that I do not dress or act out of the norm. In other words I am a basic white girl and visibly look and act similar to these girls, so in the nicest way possible I don’t think I’d be the first person they’d make fun of for looks. (Nobody should get made fun of at all, but that is just how it is).

So there is a boy in the class. Let’s call him D. D is friends with one of the girls I have made friends with. Let’s call her C. D is very popular and well known. C and D are good friends and I frequently see them walking around together in the halls. A week ago C was talking to our group in class (D was on the other side of the room) and she said that apparently D asked her who I was and said I was really hot. We laughed about this and I joked about how random it was. 2 days ago, (D was across the room again, not near us at all) C turns to me and tells me that apparently he was talking again to her about how hot I was and apparently he was trying to yell to me across the hallway. I didn’t hear this because I was way ahead of them in the hallway, but I did hear him repeat “face and ass” many times. Today us 4 girls were sitting in a group together and D was at the table next to us. I was talking to my friends a little and then C randomly goes “Guys, we have to get D and (my name) together.” And then our other friends looked confused to C started explaining how he was saying I was really hot. I laughed about this cause what else was I supposed to do.

However, then C yells out to D “D, do you think my friend is cute?” And then he kept repeating what he said the other day “face and ass”. Then he said to her to stop (keep in mind this was lighthearted and nobody was angry). Then C asked me if I thought he was cute and I said I was talking to somebody else right now (which is kind of true I guess). But I’m very nervous my new friends hate me and were making fun of my looks. But then again why would C tell me privately that he said this a week ago if this was some huge inside joke. I am very insecure. Please be honest with me and sorry for the long post.