Hello! She just told me today that she's marrying her boyfriend who she met through the internet around seven months ago. She has met him three different times because he lives in another city, and in total has seen him in person twelve days. She's very religious (catholic), and I have always respected that, but this is worrying me. I have asked her and her boyfriend is very religious too, and they go to mass and pray together. Since she's very religious she says that she will marry him but won't have sex until she has finished college (she is on her first year), because she doesn't want to have a baby before finishing university and she says that preservatives and contraceptives are banned by the Church. She assures me that her boyfriend has promised to respect that, but I can't quite believe that from a 30 yo preying on a girl so young. She's very happy and has tried to tell me that I shouldn't worry since he's a good man, but I'm really worried. What should I do? I'm really scared my friend will end in an abusive relationship and/or the news, because this is just too creepy. I don't know what I could do, or if I even have any right to try to intervene, because it's not illegal even though that in my opinion is extremely predatory and concerning.

Last October I found this little guy! I brought him in, ofc.
It’s now been one whole year & there’s a post in my local community Facebook group about another solid black cat who share the same facial features as this guy. She doesn’t look too old but actually the perfect age to be siblings.

How do I bring this up with my fiancé. I really want to take her in, I don’t think a day would go by without me thinking about this.

We live in an apartment with two other cats, so three total. Adding a fourth would absolutely be overkill, but I just need them to be reunited 😭.

Help

ok so basically i have a burner account on TikTok that doesn’t have my name, place of employment or location listed- it also isn’t connected to my phone number or personal email and i blocked all of my colleagues. at the time, i had less than 100 followers and was just posting shit for my friends. unfortunately, I work for a large women’s retailer while I’m in between jobs during postgrad and I had a situation with my management where they offered me a full-time position, then rescinded the offer and hired someone else (i have nothing but positive performance reviews) but then continued to schedule me 35+ hours a week and said I was not eligible for healthcare benefits because i’m classified as “part time.” after several meetings about the situation where i explicitly asked to have my classification changed—i made a TikTok joking about the situation basically saying that retail managers love this arrangement because they get a full time employee without having to give them benefits from my kitchen and posted it before i went to bed. within a day it had 3 million views 😭 now here’s where i definitely was stupid. while on my breaks at work, i’ve made tiktoks. one of them was about being on the job search. not to defend my stupidity too much, but it wasn’t until I found out that I wasn’t going to be compensated fairly as a full-time employee that I even started looking for different positions. Although in retrospect, I should have avoided filming at my place of employment altogether, I purposefully avoided anything identifiable (signage, logos, etc). allegedly, someone working for the company across the country at a different location saw my video (the one filmed in my house mind you), went to my account, recognized the layout of the fitting room, and notified headquarters. From there, it escalated into an HR investigation where they found none of my content was against policy, and they are not legally allowed to take disciplinary action. my district manager said that the primary concern was my happiness at the company. She said she was under the impression that I was classified as part time because I wanted to work less hours. I pushed back because not only have I requested (official documentation can prove this) to be transitioned into a full-time employee multiple times, I have never worked less than 35 hours a week since I started in the role. here’s where I need advice. In our meeting, she went on to officially offer me the full-time role, and made sure to say “I’m not offering this to you just because we saw your video,” which I highly doubt is true given that for several months, I have been told this position is no longer open. The conversation was incredibly awkward between me and the district manager, but I am primarily worried about my relationship with the actual store manager, who is mostly in the driver’s seat when it comes to scheduling decisions. i don’t know how to move forward at this company. i feel like i made myself look bad and the whole vibe at work is now going to be super uncomfortable with management. that being said, what i was complaining about in my video is an illegal violation of ACA rights and i was within my rights to post it. though posting on my breaks in the dressing room got me caught up, i didn’t do anything actually against policy. what are the next steps you would take if you were me? i’m actively applying to better jobs and i did get asked for an interview, but i’m still feeling like the job market is too unstable to quit without anything lined up. but i’m so worried about going back to work and facing my manager now that she knows this video was made about her basically. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IN THIS SITUATION PLEASE HELP ME

TW: I will have to explain how he died.

I am at a loss and devastated…I am pregnant and teying to regulate my emotions but I just dont know how were going to get over this.

Me and my husband got this dog for my mom a few years ago when her/my childhood dog of 13 years passed. My mom called at 3pm today saying he got scared when she changed the carbon monoxide alarm and her little Shih tzu ran away through a crack in the door. I also need to say my mom is elderly. She drove around looking him for him for hours. I waited until my husband got home and we also drove around for an hour looking, yelling and calling his name. When we were about to go home because it was already dark I saw something laying in the middle of the road…..He pulled over and I just got out of the car and started screaming for 5 minutes… all the local business came out to see what was going on.. everything from there is the blur….I will be getting him cremated.

Now this is where I need advice..
This will destroy her.. Im scared she might have a heart attack…
But on the other hand there wont be no closure.. she already feels extremely guilty..She knows he has a tendency to run away..
She probably may not stop looking for him…
It would be a great burden to keep this secret forever even for her benefit..I am a extremely emotional person and feel things very deeply so lying would be so hard but I can do it to spare her pain.

I have 3 dogs myself and just think what would I want..
Could I live with myself if this happened and it was my fault?
Could I live with no closure?
Can she hopefully imagine some nice family adopted him and never wanted to give him back.

She lives by herself and this was her only companion…

Please help. Hi

I feel so conflicted over this. My family does Thanksgiving together pretty much every year but this year is a little different because they rented an Airbnb on a nice property outside of our city. I would get to see some relatives I don’t see very often and spend time with my siblings, which is important to me because we don’t live together anymore and it’s one of their first years in college. My immediate and extended families have both had a pretty hard year and my siblings rely on me a lot for moral support as our extended family can be difficult to handle so I want to be there for them. On the other hand my girlfriend hardly ever does anything for the holidays but this year her family is going to a vacation spot that she spent a lot of time at as a kid and has always wanted to show me. She doesn’t know when her family will be able to get back there as they haven’t been in a couple years and it was particularly cheap this time. I suggested going with my girlfriend for the first part of the week then flying back the night before thanksgiving to spend the day with my family because it’s a very short and cheap flight, but she has a serious fear of planes and flying so said no to that. I know I will probably feel bad whatever I choose which is making it more difficult, but from an outside perspective is there an obvious choice here?

EDIT: You guys are right this shouldn’t be as complicated as it feels. I think I’m going to tell her that I would be more than happy to either buy a plane ticket for myself or rent a car and drive back on Wednesday night but if she’s not willing to accept either of those compromises then I’ll be spending the holiday with my family. Thank you all for your insight and further advice or comments are welcome.

So.. longggggggg like 29 years long story short I’m now here and I am the biggest I’ve ever been and the loneliest I’ve ever felt in my life. I’ve lived a pretty normal life like I was active my whole childhood in sports, played a sport throughout college, and then kind of fell off with working out. Relationship-wise actually ended around the same time my college career ended. I’ve been single since college. When college ended I kind of lost my last best circle of friends and haven’t found a circle since.

Im a pretty chill person all around like I check most of the boxes of normalcy but ive gotten so lonely these past few months that ive resorted to paying psychics online thousands of dollars to tell me something about my future just so I can get a glimpse of hope.

Im just so lost right now what should I do? Other than delete the psychic apps lol

I am conflicted over whether or not I was being made fun of today so I am asking Reddit. For context, I am 16F and a junior in HS. I just transferred to the school I am at, and I am friends with a good amount of well known (“popular”) people, but I myself am not well known. In my history class, I have made friends with 3 girls who are well known/popular. I am definitely not close friends with them yet, but we talk throughout class and they include me in their group ( they all have known each other since freshman year). These girls joke around with me, ask me questions and try to get to know me better. I would also like to mention (and I mean this in the nicest way possible) that I do not dress or act out of the norm. In other words I am a basic white girl and visibly look and act similar to these girls, so in the nicest way possible I don’t think I’d be the first person they’d make fun of for looks. (Nobody should get made fun of at all, but that is just how it is).

So there is a boy in the class. Let’s call him D. D is friends with one of the girls I have made friends with. Let’s call her C. D is very popular and well known. C and D are good friends and I frequently see them walking around together in the halls. A week ago C was talking to our group in class (D was on the other side of the room) and she said that apparently D asked her who I was and said I was really hot. We laughed about this and I joked about how random it was. 2 days ago, (D was across the room again, not near us at all) C turns to me and tells me that apparently he was talking again to her about how hot I was and apparently he was trying to yell to me across the hallway. I didn’t hear this because I was way ahead of them in the hallway, but I did hear him repeat “face and ass” many times. Today us 4 girls were sitting in a group together and D was at the table next to us. I was talking to my friends a little and then C randomly goes “Guys, we have to get D and (my name) together.” And then our other friends looked confused to C started explaining how he was saying I was really hot. I laughed about this cause what else was I supposed to do.

However, then C yells out to D “D, do you think my friend is cute?” And then he kept repeating what he said the other day “face and ass”. Then he said to her to stop (keep in mind this was lighthearted and nobody was angry). Then C asked me if I thought he was cute and I said I was talking to somebody else right now (which is kind of true I guess). But I’m very nervous my new friends hate me and were making fun of my looks. But then again why would C tell me privately that he said this a week ago if this was some huge inside joke. I am very insecure. Please be honest with me and sorry for the long post.

So like 3 years ago I lost my job. I found another, but it wasn't enough to sustain in this economy. So my mother said we could move in together as she was having health issues and a few surgeries upcoming in the next few years and would need help. So she found a place for her, my child and myself. She knew from jump what I was able to contribute. I also took care of her, kept the house clean and bought the groceries.

So last month she decided I wasn't pulling my weight, actually complained to my son that I wouldnt get a second job (I can't, physically) and decided to move out. Now as I get paid weekly I gave her rent weekly instead of monthly. 10/31 is her last day, but any money i give in Oct would have been for Nov rent, so I feel like I shouldn't give her anything, but I also know that she has like the power bill and shiz, so i was thinking maybe half, but then I won't have rent for Nov. My budget is TIGHT. I also want to mention that she has been giving me the silent treatment since like August, so i cannot talk to her about this. I am slightly a petty person so I feel like I shouldn't give her anything. So should I give her anymore money or no?

Hey there,

I (M17) recently confessed to my best friend (F19) after I caught feelings for her about 2 months ago which really intensified after I got into a motorcycle accident some 3 weeks ago, which really messed me up, more mentally than physically, although I still got a broken vertebra and some more rather minor things.
She visited me every other day over the course of 2 weeks and It really meant a lot to me.

Anyways, long story short, she thinks of me as a little brother and doesn‘t share my feelings. (Text attached below for anyone interested)

Recieved that text 4 days ago, since then I really only fell deeper, the whole accident thing wasn‘t really easy on me but this made it even worse. I started drinking once again which is obviously a great choice, considering that I‘m on painkillers that make morphine look silly but I honestly don‘t know what to do instead, Happy days.

I‘ll meet up with her Tomorrow and talk to her, I don‘t know what to tell her and I honestly don‘t even know how I want to handle it myself moving forward.

What do I tell her? I still like her as a friend but I probably couldn‘t be too amazed if she was to show up with another guy. At the same time I don‘t want to make her feel guilty or anything but I‘m just not sure if I can keep her as a friend for what its worth.

Her Response:

Hey, thank you for being so open with me. You’re very important to me as one of my best friends, and I don’t want anything to change about that. I really like and appreciate you as a good friend. You and (Mutual friend of ours) are like little brothers to me, and that just makes me happy. With you guys, I can be myself without having to worry about anything. We just get along really well, have fun, and can tease each other without hurting the other person, and I love that. I don’t want to change any of that.

I don’t want to give you false hope, and I hope you understand that. The reason I brought it up on Sunday was simply a gut feeling I had and because I was unsure. That’s why I had already been subtly trying to give you hints beforehand that we’re just friends and nothing more. Subtly, because I wasn’t 100% sure whether you might see things differently. I was afraid of hurting you, and I’m glad you’ve now brought it up so openly and that we can clear things up.

I hope you’re okay with that, and as I said, I hope we stay close friends. If there’s anything that doesn’t work for you because it’s too much, please feel free to tell me. I really want things to stay the way they are and for nothing to come between us. Your friendship means a lot to me.

We can also talk about it in person again if you’d like, so things don’t become weird or uncomfortable between us. Just tell me what you think about it

(Fake names will be used, all from a DnD campaign, so these names will sound stupid.)

I, (17M), Lemon (18M), and Cooya (17M), have all been friends since Cooya and I were 12 and Lemon was 13. I met Cooya through school, Cooya met Lemon online, and introduced me to Lemon through that. Eventually, Lemon and Cooya invited me to a guild in a game we all played. They also had a discord server, so I joined it. This is where I met Gale (18-20F when we met, I assume around 23-25 now). I've never really been a super social person so I didn't really talk to her until she started a DnD campaign for us.

At this point, Gale was a weekly part of my life. We did not talk at all really outside of DnD, and it would stay this way for me always. I was never very close to Gale, but my other friends were, especially Cooya. The most I would do alone with her was discuss DnD or play games if others left a group call, but we never sought eachother out, however, Cooya and Fern would often RP with Gale a lot. Cooya specifically had a 2 year long RP with just Cooya. The contents of which I don't know of, I just know it happened as it was mentioned in passing sometimes.

This never really came off as abnormal until relatively recently, because Lemon and Cooya dated for just about two years, randomly broke up, and caused some conflict in the friend group that kind of made us realize Cooya was pretty toxic, however, I'm realizing a lot of the toxicity has to do with Gale.

While my side has to do more with Cooya doing this to me with Lemon, Cooya would often ignore Lemon for Gale. Several times over both their relationship and friendship, Cooya would promise Lemon to call, play games, ect. and Cooya would just ghost Lemon and call Gale instead (or Gale and her friend group). There has also been a lot of times where Cooya will go a month without speaking to Lemon in DMs, but will be active in spaces that Gale are in.

I'm starting to think that Cooya has been getting groomed, and I don't know how to feel about it. I don't know what to say even because I'm not exactly on good terms with Cooya and Gale is still in friend group servers, events, and my DnD campaign. I'm 17 now and I cannot imagine feeling comfortable being friends with anyone under the age of 15, and when we met Gale when we were 12-13 while she was at least a year older than me. Weird as hell. Where do I go from here?

(Also I do want to state this... Cooya's parents are at least aware of the presence of Gale in his life, as are mine, and Lemon's guardians are too absent to care regardless.)

So I’ve been working at a sports bar for 8 months and I have had my ups and downs with this job. I’m a good worker I know I am but it’s hard being there till 2am almost every shift. Well recently I had some changes to my medication I take for my bi polar which caused me to call out. I told them I would get a doctors note but was unable to get an appointment. When I showed up the next day to work he asked if I had a doctors note and I told him I was unable to get one and he wrote me up. I understand I was in the wrong. Ever since then he has been a little rude. Like today I was helping someone today because they were struggling and I asked if I should ring in the order under my number and he replied “yes they shouldn’t just be sitting around”. And yesterday I tried to get someone’s attention and he sternly replied with “she’s on the phone” which I did not notice. I know I might be over reacting but A. I’m really sensitive and B. I’m a perfectionist. Does anyone have any advice that could calm me down? Should I start looking for a new job or just stay there till I know for sure he doesn’t like me?

So beginning of the year my mom and brothers invited us over for a game night/family gang out. It was brought up while we were there that they wanted it to be a monthly thing. Which is fine. We set up the very next game night that day. Then all the following game nights I found myself messaging them and asking when they wanna do the next one. After awhile I realized I was constantly reaching out and I started to feel like making sure it actually happened fell on me.

I have some issues with that because that's the way it was with my exhusband. I was constantly the one making plans and eventually it felt like I was begging for even a scrap of attention. My family knows about this and I genuinely don't think they're doing it on purpose more that they've accidentally put me in the role of planner. I told myself when I left my ex I wouldn't let myself ever fall into the only one trying role again. So when I realized it was happening with my mom and brothers my reaction to it was to just not say anything. Now the month is half over and there still haven't been any plans made.

I don't know if I'm making excuses for them or not when I say it's probably not on purpose. They've done similar and worse things before. (The biggest example was they uninvited me from the camping trip I'd planned because the only way there I could find was someone they didn't like)

I see at least my younger brother tomorrow because he has plans with my son. So I don't know if I should even bring it up.

I've always kinda felt left out with them because my mom and brothers all live together and now own a home together. They're always there for each other and rarely there for me. To say I have invisible middle child syndrome is an understatement.

Part of me wants to be petty and just let game night fall off and not say anything another part of me wants them to know why. I just don't know what to do anymore.

I'm being accused of stealing a hairspray and food. I haven't touched or grabbed any of it and I literally don't know what to do
I've told them twice now I haven't touched or grabbed anything but they keep making passive remarks like yelling
"I WISH I HAD MY HAIRSPRAYYYY" and leaving passive aggressive messages in the group chat about eating food.
I barely spend time here anyways and I'm just gonna stay at my friends place for the weekend because I feel so uncomfortable here.
But idk what to do. Should I just meet with the RAs? It's 3 of us in our own rooms but idk what to do or say to them because they're being just so uncomfortable rn.
I'm literally just crying in my bathroom rn and I'm to uncomfortable to even leave or make a sound rn.
Later edit: I'm rlly stressed so I miswrote:
It's 3 of us living in 1 apartment. They share a bathroom, we don't have a 4th roommate, we each have individual rooms and I don't share my bathroom with anyone.

Hello everyone i live in country where there is a strongly defined what a man should do with his appearance and what should a women do. For i long time there was some thing i wanted to but i dont know if they are worth it because all of the people i know will coment on me in presence and also behind my back. I am a man. Should i go to some salon to get my eyebrows plucked and defined much i like very defined eyebrows. I also want to get my ears pierced. I once asked my girl friend to pluck my eyebrows, i wanted them defined but she just plucked the center and told me 10 times that i am man and that i she cant do that. I dont know how to make a girl in saloon accept to shape my eyebrows

Should i change my appearance or leave my wishes behind and continue life?

I (26F)am currently living with my partner (24M). I guess my question is am I actually being toxic or being the problem in my relationship? I met my partner online through a video game and tbh we started getting along pretty quick. We share common interests and were pretty much alike in most aspects. We started talking 5 months before we actually met in person. By the time we decided to meet each other we were practically already in a committed relationship.. he told me i was his and he was mine. We always went to sleep together on the phone.. showered, ate… pretty much we lived talking on the phone til we met up. I found out once I moved in that he was with another girl 3 days before i was suppose to meet up with him… i remember that night he told me he was just going out to a car meet and i even had his location.. and that night i went to sleep trusting that he was were he said. I went through his best friend’s messages and thats where the harsh reality hit. He wasn’t there. He was with some other girl. I confronted him about it and lied about it and instead tried to turn things on me about a past relationship i told him about..

2nd thing, i asked him about yet ANOTHER female… i saw their messages everything they did .. and i felt sick to my stomach as it was within the 2 months we were talking.. and til today he continues to lie about it and once again when i bring it up he turns stuff on me. Ive been pretty open and honest about my past relationships whether it’s been ugly or pretty. Anyways i come to find out she lives next door to us.. and what was even more wild.. she called him at 6am. I tried to grab his phone to answer and he proceeded to push me and say to leave it alone. I then text her through my phone and ask her what she wants why is she calling… she proceeded to ask if she can stay in OUR HOME til someone opened the door cause she was locked out of her apartment!!! Like what world did she think that was okay???? She KNOWS ABOUT ME!!! I proceeded to block her from his phone and my phone. Later on i eventually found out he had unblocked her. Once again i confronted him and he gives me the “ youre crazy and toxic “ lines.

3rd… this goes back to me reading the texts messages between him and his best friend. I also find out that he was fucking strippers left and right. I was genuinely shocked and very disgusted. I was disgusted that i let him touch me. I never wouldve if i knew that from the start. I asked him about it and til this day he denies it even tho ive shown the screenshots and told him i know and continues to lie.

4th.. one night we had a Intense and very heated argument.. i went to work the next day feeling terrible and i called him. He kept getting mad and frustrated until he eventually put me on dnd. I come to find out he was getting mad cause i was interrupting his porn video. I was feeling terrible and guilty.. while he was fine watching porn. A week before Christmas.

Theres alot more but my conclusion is that hes been telling me im toxic and very selfish for not trusting him.. do i have all the right to feel this way.. or am i actually being toxic