Me and my gf have been dates for two years (we’re both minor and met in middle school) and when k think about the future or my life after HS I get this pit in my stomach I feel like I’m stuck and scared because I want to explore more when I’m of age and there little things we both just don’t agree on (nothing serious just minor things) and I feel so guilty for maybe wanting a different partner in my future. And for wanting somthing different in a sexual way I just don’t feel like we’re a good fit in that way. I know we’re very young g and have only been intimate a few times and I just feel that connection like I once did. I want to break up but other times I don’t want to either because a lot of our friends are mixed together and I feel like I could be over thinking it I just don’t know what to do, I’m sorry this message is scattered and kinda senseless I just need som advice on how to handle this. I’ve been feeling like this for a while.

I swear it’s not even really an applicable thing for most wlw aren’t most of us “switches” and reciprocate??

I mostly hate how normalized it is to slide into a lesbian couple post with a “who’s top and who’s bottom” or any variation of that. Like straight people don’t get people asking about their sexual dynamics but because someone is a lesbian it’s ok?

It also feels so gender role esque because everyone immediately assumes someone who’s dominate or masculine is the one who “tops” and that feels so regressive. Lastly, I think it’s stupid because doesn’t the average person want to give and receive sexual pleasure? So why are we acting like everybody and they mama is either a pillow princess or stone top? (No hate to people who are it’s just weird to put everyone in that box yk??)

People who overuse these terms are genuinely ruining fandoms too by trying to push wlw characters into specific roles. I feel like it’s affecting how wlw characters are portrayed too because now in a lot of media it seems they’re basically hetero gender dynamics but make it two girls. I had to stop watching Thai gl because of this it irritated me way too much how prevalent this stupid ass terminology and heteronormativity of relationship dynamics are.

it’s been 4 months since we broke up, but our situation has been so weird and complicated, especially since we work in the same place. what hurts me the most is that whenever i try to explain things from my side, she easily gets frustrated and seems so tired of listening to me.

for context, she gave me trust issues, and i found out after the breakup that she had been admiring one of our friends, someone i had already felt uncomfortable about. there was also this one time when i poured out all my emotions and feelings, only to receive a reply that said, “i understand what you are saying, but i do not feel it.”

all i can say is that we really can’t please everyone, not even those who once said they loved us. we can’t force someone to choose us when, in the first place, we were already just one of their options. and we cannot expect someone to love us as much as we love them.

it’s just so sad to realize that you can be so good, caring, and loving to someone, and yet, after everything, it still wasn’t enough to make them treat you better.

Hi all, it's definitely too early to be making this post, but I can't stop thinking about it so I thought I'd get some perspective.

I met a girl in one of my university lectures last month and found her attractive, so I started talking to her and asked if she wanted to study together. She agreed, and we exchanged numbers. Since then, we've been sitting together in lectures. I know she's a lesbian from things on her bag, but I'm quite straight-presenting, so she probably assumes I'm straight and only interested in friendship.

Last week, we studied together for the first time, and it went well. We quizzed each other and laughed, but our conversations were mostly academic, so we didn't get to know each other much personally. At the end, I asked if she had plans for the following week and whether she was originally from our university city. She answered both questions but didn't ask me anything in return.

Later that day, I texted her for the first time to ask if she wanted to study again this Sunday. It's now been a week, and she still hasn't replied, although there are three days left until Sunday.

If she doesn't respond, I'm unsure how to act when we see each other in lectures the following week. Should I still sit with her? Does she think I'm clingy or needy? Should I compensate by acting cold and distant? I also don't know if she already has a girlfriend, so I should probably figure that out too before I lose my mind.

Thanks in advance!!

I've been agonizing over this topic a lot lately and wanted to drop my thoughts in a little corner of the internet.

So I am a woman married to another woman. My wife also happens to be the only long-term partner I've ever had. However, I'm not a lesbian; I'm a Schrodinger's bisexual, where I have only ever been with a woman, but I have felt attraction to non-women before. But because I am in a strictly monogamous marriage, any attraction besides what I feel for my wife is functionally irrelevant. I am probably bi/pan, but resonate most with the terms sapphic, WLW, or queer based on my lived experiences.

I frequent online sapphic spaces and often get recommended posts from them. Recently, some of the discourse I've seen has been so disheartening. Earlier today, I got recommended a post where people were saying they hate the terms "sapphic" and "queer" because they feel like they are just used because people are just afraid to say lesbian, or only used by people who are "spicy straight". In that same community, I had someone tell me a while ago that I am not in a "lesbian relationship" with my wife, because I am not a lesbian. And internally, that is true -- because the term lesbian does not describe the breadth of my personal attractions, I use other terms. But labels are used externally too: Broader society sees my wife and I, assumes us to be lesbians, and treats us as such. Then, in bi/pan spaces, because WLW pairings are less common, I see much less representation of my lived experiences as a woman married to a woman than I do in WLW/sapphic ones. I often don't feel bi enough for bi spaces because I don't relate to a lot of content there, but the majority of sapphic spaces are called "lesbian" spaces by default, which makes me feel like an intruder/poser for even being there as a non-lesbian. The things some folks in sapphic spaces say about bi women doesn't help. I have had trouble reconciling labeling with what I feel internally versus how I am seen externally, especially after reading enough negative stereotypes and assumptions about bi women (to be fair, I've heard this is notoriously an issue monogamous bi folks face, either "too straight to be gay" or "too gay to be straight" based on who you happen to be dating -_-)

In the end, I know it's counterproductive to dwell on this. Labels are there to help us make sense of who we are, and if they are not helpful, it's not like you have to claim them. But as I've seen posts in communities with people who share experiences with me, it has been exhausting ruminating over the labels I resonate with internally vs. the labels society pushes onto me externally vs. how other people define and interpret and disagree over said labels and the stereotypes people have.

Anyways, now that I've written this out, hopefully it's out of my system and I'll stop compulsively thinking about :,^)

I’m getting kind of resentful towards mlm media too as a result. The new Avatar series apparently has a confirmed gay (or bi don’t remember) male character in the first few episodes and I can’t even bring myself to watch the show as a result. The legend of Korra didn’t even get a kiss and they’ve already had a character as an established gay guy in the first season. Granted things are a little different now than they were when Korra came out but still.

But then there’s how people treated the lesbian couple in bridgerton contrasted with heated rivalry. This happens all the time. Netflix cancels their lesbian shows or sidelines the lesbian characters meanwhile gay shows and movies become household names. It’s making me so bitter honestly and it’s so upsetting. And then Netflix took she ra off too? wtf was that for.

I feel so starved of wlw media, music, art, just anything and it makes me miserable. I’ve been listening to the same 5 hour wlw playlist I’ve made for months and practically have ever song memorized and can only add more like once in a blue moon when I actually find good lesbian songs.

I don’t even know what else to say this just sucks. I hate living in a world where my identity is so sidelined isolated. It’d feel better if I had some lesbian friends or something I just feel so alone.

This is my first wlw relationship and it has been great so far. We started dating recently, but have been seeing each other since the early summer.

Recently, I realized that she never washes her hands. That wouldn’t be too big of an issue because I probably never would’ve even noticed, except for the fact that when she gets food on her hands, she licks it off instead of washing. Whenever we go out to eat, she is constantly licking her fingers. Her hands are always very sticky, and she even leaves a sticky, foggy residue whenever she touches her water or wine glass. It has started to really gross me out and make me less receptive to her touch. I wouldn’t say I am a total clean freak, but I am constantly washing my hands because I hate having dirty/sticky hands, and I go through hand soap relatively quickly.

An example of this happened last night. We were eating tiramisu and a big glob of the cream fell onto her fingers and hand. Instead of washing it off, she licked her fingers intensely and used her teeth to get it out from under her finger nails. She then wiped her hands on her shirt and grabbed my face to pull me in for a kiss. All I could think about when she did that was how sticky her hands were and how grossed out I was, so I faked a sneeze to get out of kissing her.

I hate that this grosses me out so much, but it does. She is pretty sensitive, so I am unsure how to go about discussing this with her.

I am newly single. I was on the receiving end of a breakup recently, which was a first for me. This is a level of pain & suffering I have never experienced.

In the past when things fell through with a partner, I would take to the apps and find a new muse to ease the pain of the dissolution of the old connection within a few weeks.

While casual dating and sex was always fun, I don’t want to do that this time around. I want to take my time to heal and repair before stepping back on the dating sex or pursuing any form of romantic/sexual connection.

I am currently receiving weekly therapy. I have no intentions on downloading any dating apps. In fact, I’m repulsed at the idea of dating again. However, I know there will come a time in the near future where I’ll want to be intimate with another woman.

So my question is to my fellow allosexuals, how do you practice sexual discipline?

I have a crush. Typical, yeah, but I have a problem. From my past experiences with girls, my way of approaching them always seemed friendly? Like they never got the clue that I like them. They think I approached them to be just friends, you know what I mean?

This is probably a stupid question, but how do you approach or pursue a woman romantically?? I have this huge fear of making them feel uncomfortable, or that they would think I’m a pervert or a weirdo. I don’t want that. I don’t wanna be straightforward either.

Sorry, I’m not new to this but I also am not the best at this. How do I get them to like me beyond just friends?

Hi everyone. My ex-girlfriend (21) and I (21) just broke up a few hours ago.
I’ve been feeling so drained these past few months, about everything including our relationship. We’ve had a lot of problems and fights, even over stupid things. We haven’t seen each other in months, and I kept telling her that we should meet and hang out, thinking maybe things would get better between us, but she kept brushing me off. That honestly hurt me, especially because she went out with her friend but couldn’t seem to make time for me lol.
We also stopped calling, stopped playing games together, and just stopped spending time together in general. It’s been really hard, and eventually I started seriously thinking about breaking up with her because I felt like I wasn’t in love with her anymore. I do love her, but I’m not in love with her the way I used to be.
So I sent her a long paragraph explaining how I felt, and I wished her happiness and all the best.
What really broke me was her response. She said she felt the same way. She said she thought it was just a phase and that it would eventually go away, but it didn’t. She also said she had been thinking about breaking up with me, but she didn’t because she thought I was already going through a lot and didn’t want to make me feel worse while I was mentally exhausted.
And honestly, it doesn’t hurt me that she feels the same way. What hurts is that this entire week she kept asking me if I was going to break up with her, if I still saw her in my future, and things like that.
I even asked her directly if she wanted to break up, and she said no.
So finding out that she had actually been thinking about breaking up with me too is just really confusing and honestly hurts. I don’t understand why she kept asking me those things if she was already feeling the same way.
I feel like I was the one who had to actually say it out loud, and I don’t know how to feel about that. Like, why did you make me be the one to say it when you were already thinking the same thing?
I’m not even saying I wanted her to fight for us or anything. I just don’t understand why she made me feel like I was the only one who had to make that decision when she was already feeling the same way.

we’ve only been together for 6 months, and i wanna try and figure something out before it’s too late. I enjoy being around her sometimes but it just seems the more I notice about her, the more I want to end the relationship.
She needs me to do everything for her, whether that be making her food or picking out her clothes. She practically lives with me and yet she barely cleans, and asks me to do every little thing. I pick out her clothes almost everyday, which takes forever, then she gets upset when I ask her to try and find something on her own. I understand asking for a favor or having your partner make you food every so often, but she’ll ask me to stop whatever I’m doing just to put some shit in the microwave. If I ask her to wait or even hint at her making food herself, she’ll throw a tantrum.
I feel like she sees me just as her girlfriend and not my own person. We go to the same college and she always wants to stay home, which I get but if I suggest that I go to school while she stays home, she throws a fit. She talks about this future she wants with me but keeps me from going to class or trying to find a job. It feels like if she’s feeling even slightly upset, she needs to ruin everybody else’s day. It’s fucking exhausting. She’s also “joked” about if we ever broke up, she’d tell people that I left her for a guy, and she’s said this MULTIPLE times. There’s so many other things I could bring up but it just feels so useless. I feel trapped in a relationship with a fucking toddler. I feel like an ass but it’s suffocating.

I’m honestly not too sure what this is but i just needed to get this off my chest. I’m Female and when im stone cold sober and it’s late and im laying in my bed thinking i think about girls i think about what it would be to kiss a girl or take her on a date/bring her flowers but these are things i could never say out loud.

When i was in school there was this girl lauren and i was her best friend but she was so much more to me, she was my first girl-crush but i never could’ve told her because we both grew up in christian households so being gay was heavily frowned upon. There was another girl too gianna i liked her too but i actually made the move to kiss her, i liked it though it didn’t feel weird or different it felt right.

I’ve never actually dated girls though i’ve only kissed or made out with them but idk when it comes to dating i just feel stuck like i can take girls out on dates and make them feel loved but once it comes to having a label on it i get terrified.Ive snuck girls around my parents once or twice.

Ive only brought home guys to meet my parents though becauseThe first time i came out to my mom she cried and told me i didn’t know what i was talking about, i have no gay cousins but my whole family is once more very christian so im sure coming out wouldn’t end well.

I guess im also scared to tell my friends, i know there not homophobic or anything but they make a lot of jokes and i feel like if i try to have a serious talk about them with a topic like this it’ll end up as a joke and k won’t feel like it’s taken seriously.

i’m not asking for advice or judgment i just wanted to say this and get it off my chest.

¿Para platicar ?

Sometimes being a lesbian is so lonely. I'm just in my feelings today lol. My parents are homophobic af, so I can't exactly talk to them about this part of my life. I can't gush about a girl I like, talk about heartbreak, or just have those conversations other girls might have with their moms.

I'm also STILL thinking about a girl who did me so dirty. Like girl, stand UP 😭 I know things ended for a reason, but sometimes a song comes on and suddenly I'm crying over memories I thought I'd made peace with. I don't even know if I miss her or just miss having someone to love like that.

I just want my home in a person. Someone I can yap with about absolutely nothing, spend my evenings with, be stupid around, and feel safe with. Someone who actually wants me there.

Anyway, my period is due in two days, so I might also just be PMSing and losing my damn mind 💀

I don't really have a point to this post. Just needed to get that out somewhere. Being a lesbian is great, but sometimes it's lonely as hell. If you're feeling the same way, sending you a hug ❤️

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My ex-girlfriend (19) and I (18) were together for about 10 months but we were friends for 2 years prior. She has a difficult situation with her dad being extremely homophobic and would be very upset if he knew we were together. Which is in no way her fault I sympathize with her. Everything was great honestly or at least I thought, until this summer. Ever since summer had started she had pushed me away more. Made zero time for me at all and when I tried to make plans she would come up with excuses. Her dad had no idea we were together and just thought we were best friends. Whenever I brought up something that was upsetting me she would freak out on me saying how inconsiderate I am and how I only think of myself. Her and I were both having family problems, she would vent to me almost 24-7. But when I wanted to tell someone and talk to someone about the thing that had been weighing on me, she freaked out on me.

For more background when we were together she would get jealous of all my friends, she isolated me. When I hung out with my best friend I've had since 1st grade, she said she got uncomfortable that I was around her. So I pushed them away, I thought this was okay because I had her. While she could hang out with random people she met two days prior and go out to dinner with a girl SHE KNEW HATED ME.

Back to the summer. She freaked out on me for asking if I could talk to her about my family, i was sobbing at this point and she told me she "doesn't need someone crying for her for help". Which I wasn't doing, i just wanted to get it out. She honestly knew little to nothing about my home life because she never bc she never asked and she was so busy with her problems I was too scared to say anything. I didn't want to make it seem like I was undermining her issues.

After she freaked out on me, she told me not to talk to her. So I didn't, I left her alone. Days later she comes back to be mad at me for not trying to make things better. I was genuinely in shock. She told me I ruined her? And how she couldn't believe I acted this way. We were really rough for the next few weeks, she didn't seem like she cared anymore but I was so scared of losing my only person. She was all I had, so I didn't break up with her.

A couple weeks later, she told me her and her whole family are moving back to her home country permanently, Argentina. (This has nothing to do with being deported, her, and her whole family has citizenship). I was distraught, and she told me we could make this work. We ended things, she was treating me like shit and I couldn't do it anymore. She had no intentions of coming back to the US, it wasn't going to work.

Fast-forward to a month later, it was now late August. I was finally having fun again. After 10 months of isolating myself and telling myself that I enjoyed being alone, I started talking to my friends again. It made me realize people other than her cared about me. I was much happier, and people noticed.

My ex would still look at my Instagram posts, and I kinda kept her out of spite so she could see I was happy without her. Thats kinda mean but I was messed up. Towards the beginning of September I got a long letter in the mail, of her telling me how she will always love me and I'll always be her favorite. I'll put the letter below but honestly read this note and tell me if she is crazy because she constricts herself a million times

Edit: the note will not let me send a photo so I will copy it digitally

No boobs, no ass, no curves, broad shoulders and small hips. I don't wanna look masc since I've already tried and felt disconnected, and trying to be fem makes me so insanely insecure about my plain body. Every other fem's got a tea body so I feel like I have to

Hi! I'm looking for support. I recently got some news and I'm feeling disappointed and sad.

I (26) thought things were going great with this woman I met recently (27). I felt we had really strong chemistry, but it seems the chemistry was one-way.

It has been a couple of years since my last serious relationship ended. I went on a couple of dates last year, but I didn't feel chemistry with either of the people I saw.

I got on a dating app after a year of no real romance at all. I'm picky, so I told myself I'd only swipe right if the person met my hyperspecific criteria. I only saw one person who meets the criteria. She was stunning and looked fun. I superliked her a little under 2 weeks ago and we matched.

We went on 3 dates and I thought they were all fantastic. The shortest date was 3 hours and the longest was 11. She's beautiful, brilliant, and hilarious. We had a ton in common. We seemed to have compatible lifestyles and goals. I honestly felt myself become a little infatuated. I hadn't felt this way about anyone in 3 or 4 years.

I thought we had strong chemistry. I thought we were both having so much fun.

I didn't hear anything from her after I dropped her off from our 11 hour date on Monday. I sent her a text with some weekend date ideas and my availability yesterday. I sent her a text with some weekday date ideas today. She hadn't responded to either messages.

She sent me a text about an hour ago in which she said she thinks I'm cool but she didn't think the romantic chemistry that she was looking for was there.

I won't say this was unexpected, since she hadn't responded yesterday. But I'm still a bit shocked, since I felt the chemistry so strongly and I thought she was feeling it too.

Now I'm wondering if I said or did anything wrong. Or maybe there's some other reason that she doesn't wish to share (which is fine, she doesn't have to share it).

I've been more feminine than my partners in all of my past relationships, and I've been the pursued one way more often than the pursuer. This was the first time I'd dated someone who's similarly feminine.

I felt so timid, maybe from being hurt by people disrespecting my boundaries in the past, but I didn't push for much physical touch and I'm wondering if that was the issue. We only held hands. We didn't kiss or cuddle. In retrospect I feel like there were opportunities in which I should have tried, and I was planning to on our next date before she told me she's not interested.

When I asked her if she wanted to hold hands I did it in the most awkward way possible. I think it comes from a place of having been victimized before and feeling the need to overcompensate when asking for consent as a consequence.

It hurts a lot, even though we only had 3 dates. I showed someone my sincere self for the first time in years and I was excited to see her sincere self. I felt like I could be vulnerable around her and I tried to be the kind of person she could do the same with.

I told my friends about her, and now I feel embarrassed. I thought things were going so well.

I know that if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be, and I'm glad she told me now so early instead of trying to force things and strong me along or ghost me. I told her it's okay and I appreciate her honesty.

Still, I'm disappointed and sad. I made peace with being a spinster after my long-term relationship ended. I like my space and solitude and me-time. But this experience reminded me why I like romance, so I'm experiencing a pain I haven't felt in a few years.

It's tough being sapphic and picky outside of a big city :(

I'm struggling to understand how I felt such strong chemistry yet she didn't. Every time I haven't felt chemistry with someone in the past it has been mutual. The dates were near perfect but I guess that's not sufficient.

What are y'all's thoughts?

Thanks for reading/responding!

Hi everyone! I currently just went through a very tough/complicated breakup does anyone have any tips to sort of move past it? I’ve don’t better compared to the last week but she has someone new even if she denies it but I’m not dumb. I’m 20 and she is too. She ended up having feelings for someone who’s 29 y/o female with a 4 y/o child. Crazy I know….. she cheated 100% but denies it and I’m just trying to cope. They’ve only known each other for maybe less than 3 months now and well she chased after the girl and left me high and dry😐 We were together for 4 years.

My girlfriend's birthday is next week and I only bought her one Twice album. I've already bought sunflowers and roses for her and I feel like it's too much, I want to buy something different for her and I'm PANICKING because it's next week already 😭😭

I (22F) have a very close female friend, and our friendship has become complicated over the past several months.
We spend a lot of time together, have sleepovers, go places together, and are involved in each other’s lives. She has a young son whom I’ve helped care for, and I’ve also supported her emotionally and financially on multiple occasions. She’s done things for me too, including giving me rides and being supportive, so the friendship isn’t completely one-sided.
However, I’ve recently realized that I sometimes feel more like a partner than a friend because of how much I do for her.

There’s also some romantic history.
When I first met her , we clicked immediately! Felt like we knew eachother for years . I realized a few weeks later , I had feelings for her . She asked me one day over the summer if I had feelings for her and I said yes but I’d also love to just be her friend . She was talking to a guy at the time so she kinda turned me down but it was okay with me .

Then last month , she admitted she had feelings for me . I did reciprocate the feelings and told her I still liked her as well . She admitted she was pushing me away because she was nervous about liking women . She brought up potentially exploring something romantic. She eventually decided she wasn’t comfortable pursuing anything beyond friendship. She was also involved with a man at the time.
I’ve accepted that, and I still kind of have feelings for her to this day and I think she might also . However she frequently reminds me, “I’m your friend, not your girlfriend,” even when I’m discussing hypothetical relationships that have nothing to do with her.
I’ve never asked her to be my girlfriend, so I don’t understand why she feels the need to keep reminding me.

Another issue is how she handles conflict.
She has a pattern of telling me she’s blocked or cut off friends after disagreements, only to become friends with them again shortly afterward.
For example, she blocked a close friend in August because that friend couldn’t accompany her to the hospital due to something involving her boyfriend. Now they’re close again.
We’ve also had a previous disagreement. She was rude to me in a group chat about a Miami trip, so I left the chat instead of arguing. We didn’t speak for about a week before she reached out, apologized, disclosed that she’d been diagnosed with depression, and told me she still wanted to be friends.

Now here’s what happened Saturday.
We were spending time together, and she was driving. While pulling out of a parking spot, she sideswiped another car.
She became extremely frustrated and spent the ride home loudly ranting, saying things like, “This is why I don’t like driving people around” and “I should’ve stayed home.”
I wasn’t criticizing her or arguing with her. I simply became overwhelmed by the yelling and went quiet.
When she dropped me off, she said, “Have a good night.” I hesitated for about 30 seconds before getting out and saying, “See yah.”
That was literally it. No argument, insults, or confrontation

It’s now Wednesday, and we haven’t spoken since Saturday.
I’ve noticed she’s unfollowed both my Instagram accounts and stopped sharing her location with me.
She hasn’t explained why, and I haven’t reached out.
I’m genuinely confused because I don’t understand what I did wrong. If she thought I had an attitude, why couldn’t she simply ask whether something was bothering me?
She also attended a funeral on Monday and has had other stressful things happening in her life, so I understand she may be overwhelmed. But I don’t know whether those circumstances have anything to do with her distancing herself.

Here’s what bothers me most.
I’ve been extremely supportive of her, including helping with her son, finances, and emotional needs. Sometimes I feel like I’m taking on partner-level responsibilities while she repeatedly reminds me that we’re not girlfriends.
I don’t want a romantic relationship with her. I just want a stable friendship where I can be myself without worrying that one uncomfortable interaction will result in being cut off.

Because she’s done similar things with other friends and eventually reconciled, I wouldn’t be surprised if she reaches out again.
But I’ve realized that even when things are good between us, a part of me is waiting for the next time she pulls away.
If she does reach out, I plan to establish boundaries and explain that I won’t continue a friendship where disagreements repeatedly lead to unexplained cutoffs.

My questions are:

Does she have romantic feelings for me deep down but is pushing them away ?

Why does she expect so much from me ?

Was I wrong for becoming quiet while she was ranting?

Could my silence have reasonably hurt her feelings?

Am I overlooking something I should apologize for?

Do you think she’ll reach out again ?

I’m genuinely open to criticism. I just don’t understand why being quiet during a stressful car ride appears to have resulted in four days of silence and being unfollowed everywhere.

My girlfriends 21st birthday is coming up and I need some help (or reassurance lol) with ideas! She’s a Mac Miller fan, so I had planned to make a Mac Miller scrap book to the theme of The Divine Feminine album, and either do all the tik toks of the Congratulations book, orrrrr have the book be filled with songs/lyrics by him that remind me of her. However; I’m not a very crafty person and have about 4 days to do it. Any other Mac Miller themed, or just gift ideas in general, would be great! Thanks!

I'm going on blind date with random girl I talked to online I was talking about wanting to go on a date and that i wanted a little bit of romance in my life without serious relationship and we agreed that we gonna go out for some coffee tomorrow and we don't know about each other nothing except we're the same age and we're both bi girls she send me a part of her face so im sure she's a girl and I did that too now here's the thing

This is my first time going on a date with a girl moreover it's blind date I don't know what we supposed to talk about and how to make the date interesting please if you have any advice or something could help let me know

hi everyone! i (22f) recently came to the realization that i do indeed like women! this was something that had been on my mind for years, but i never gave it a serious thought cause i just wasn't sure if that makes sense?? well i was single for five years and me and one of my best guy friends started dating months ago, but in the last couple months the thought of being with women was much more prominent. i wanted to be really sure, but i did ultimately come to the decision to break up with him and i told him it was because i realized that i like women. he was super supportive and he's overall a great person, so i feel bad breaking his heart but i knew it had to be done.

unfortunately this has happened in the last week and a half, but i already want to search for a relationship with a woman. is that normal?? im honestly not sure but i dont think it's likely for me to have a relationship so fast lol. it seems as though my attraction is towards mascs, but i guess my question is how do you let other women know you like women? a lot of people use carabiner's on their belt loop if im not wrong, but hasn't that become like a recent a trend for a lot of people to do? i could just be over thinking this, im just figuring out how to approach this new path so any advice is appreciated!!