I know I'm not anywhere near where I want to be yet, but I just got my first binder!!!

Aka kotoko yuzuriha from milgram,haruhi fujioka from ouran highschool host club,yoi takiguchi from In The clear moonlit dusk..and human vox from hazbin hotel. So basically a bunch of handsome women and a mentally unstable tv made me a trans guy. How bout you.

B4 u say anything im not specifically talking about this subreddit, im barely active here but im speaking about from what ive seen across the internet and occasionally irl

The trans community cares too much about policing each other’s identities…I assure you it’s not setting us back that Taylor the trans femboy with 15 xenogenders and neopronouns exists without being dysphoric. And it’s not hurting anyone that someone doesn’t care to pass because they’re secure in their identity. The more I study native cultures the more I give less of a shit about gender and I’m saying this as a bigender transmasc person. The fact that gender identity is different and means different things to other cultures only further drives the point in my head that gender isn’t fucking real. You don’t need dysphoria or whatever the fuck to be trans😭 if you don’t align with the specific gender identity assigned at birth you’re trans. You don’t need a reason to understand who you are isn’t who you’ve been told you are and I hate that the idea you need to be dysphoric is driven into our heads. For the longest time I had to fight with myself every day telling myself I wasn’t this that and the third because I didn’t hate my body for not being that of a cis man’s or wishing I looked masculine or anything else. It’s so irritating seeing ts
And the people usually saying this only push a Eurocentric idea of masculinity too like ew😭 black trans men have so little rep and are basically forgotten by the community at least in American spaces and you have no idea how BAD I hate it. Discovering your identity as a black trans man is so hard because there’s so little focus on us and to pass we’re told to strip away our blackness basically😭
Idk, the community acts like everyone it is one anothers enemy and if they aren’t they’re being pretentious and excluding eachother🫩

I think I'm looking for some support? Idk. I'm kind of bewildered by whatever just happened. I'm sitting at the bus stop and this guy, probably around my age, walks up to me and just straight up asks "how long have you been transitioning?". I know I don't pass half the time but literally no one has ever done this to me before, so I'm sort of stunned for a sec and thinking about how to respond. I stumble on a few words and them am just like "I don't think I feel comfortable answering that, I don't even know you" to which he let's out a heavy tsk and goes "bro it's a normal question why you gotta be a bitch about it" and he starts walking off and I hear him say "getting offended acting like a fuqin victim" and I go "I'm not offended I just don't know why you're asking me that" and he just stays all pissy about it under his breath as he gets on his bus like HUH?? You ask the most out of pocket shit to a complete stranger and now you're mad at ME??? I might have even given him a real answer if he was just chill and gave me a reason instead up just assuming I'd be fine with outing myself to some rando. Now I just feel weird like I wanna make myself small, plus now I feel self concious about how clockable I am, which I normally wouldn't care that much about but this was just... du fuq..

i showed her all pictures of thick hair that goes beyond the ears. she thinned out my hair until it was a bowl cut. then she thinned the sides even more to "fix it" and so that i can style it like a pomade (i fucking hate that hairstyle and it's also the hairstyle for every fucking newly out enby gets, which is NOT me like at all lol)

it is at least two inches shorter than the pictures i showed. the pictures showed angles on the hair. my haircut has no angles.

the hair has to be at least at my ears otherwise it emphasizes my feminine face shape. the hair has to have some kind of angles otherwise it again emphasizes my feminine face shape.

i basically look like a woman with a pixie cut now. even worse the sides are short so it looks like this gross attempt at being masculine on a now extremely feminine face that has nowhere to hide.

im so fucking angry lmao. the least she could've done was gotten the length right. no, she made it so damn short. what the fuck lol. my worst fear when starting to get short haircuts was to look like a woman with a pixie cut or a masc lesbian or an enby. i'm sooooo fucking angry i have no idea what to do. i dont want to wait it out, it will take at least 4 fucking months to grow two inches, i might just have to spend even MORE money to get a wig lmfao

Does having an actively changing voice as an adult cause you trouble? I'm afraid I'm gonna get clocked the second anyone realizes I'm an adult but my voice is cracking. Was it weird to deal with your voice? Did you get assumed to be a kid?

I never felt so relaxed and way more better than I could ever say, I still need to make the binder, but still, YUPPIE 🗣️

Hello! I(18f) am not trans, but my brother(18m) is ftm, and I want to get him something to help with his chest. He has a binder, but it's uncomfortable and he can't wear it for extended periods of time. I want to get him something to help him as a Christmas gift, but I don't know the best route to take. Can anybody give me tips or advice on things I could get him?

As per some other comments on passing asks I’ve made on other subreddits, I’mma be movin from my rounded glasses to contacts!

Most of the other subreddits though also said for me to get rid of my guyliner which is a bummer but, I understand where they’re comin from if I wanna pass better, though I’m realizing as a whole I think I’m just trans masc than fully ftm, so I’m taking it kinda with grains of salt.

(Also second image is of me trying on halloween contacts for my costume this year but I meant like, actual.. contacts contacts for myself to wear daily. Lol)

I prefer to tape bind, it works really well for me. The tape I am currently using doesn’t irritate my skin at all my main issue is when I remove it. I always take it off in the shower with baby oil. When I remove it there is such a thick layer of sticky stuff left it becomes a mess that I deal with for a day or two. I end up scrubbing my skin raw trying to get it off. I’m almost tempted to just go back to ripping off in the shower to avoid the mess. Any tips on how to avoid the sticky mess?

I mean ive only tried 2 different brands and the one I like the most is LGBT unicorn but im poor so maybe there's better brands out there

I will be completely disowned if I come out as trans. I've known I'm trans for 10 years now but I'm utterly terrified to tell anyone

I'm not going to start my next period for a while but the last time I involuntarily bled out for a week straight I had a two week long existential crisis with severe suicidal thoughts. I'm desperate to stop this from happening. I can't get on T for at least 10 months, I'm a minor in a state that would absolutely require parental consent for any medical treatment and my parents would not consent to anything. I swear I won't be able to function if it keeps happening. Kinda considering attempting a hysterectomy on myself even though I know that that would hurt a lot and that it would kill me. I don't just want to go to therapy and get over it and be an adult, I need this to stop happening to me at all.

First pic is pre-T > a month > recent weeks

How do i look yall be honest do i look any different at all?? People are starting to say i look more masculine from a far and im starting to get more facial hair 🤩

I’ve been out as transmasc for the majority of my life now, and now that I’m a legal adult, I want to look into top surgery, and getting t-gel or patches. (I have no interest in injections since I strive more for androgyny, and want more subtle effects :-) ) where do I begin with medical transitioning? What kind of professionals do I talk to about this? And for those medically transitioning/transitioned, what was it like? Any help and guidance is appreciated <3

Hey y’all, trans masc enby here seeking recommendations of bras for my 32DD chest.

What I’m looking for is something like in the picture, as the ones I have are wearing out from age. This is from Nordstrom rack, but they don’t make this style anymore.

Qualities I’m looking for:
- not a binder (I work with my body and need to have full freedom of movement and breathing, which I found was limited in my experience trying a binder.)
- no boob shaped cups, just continuous flat elastic fabric (I want to flatten my chest to the extent possible without limiting my mobility and breathing.)
- racerback (I tried Nordstrom rack’s newer version that had shoulder straps instead, and they easily fell off my shoulders, on top of the whole thing not fitting me right)
- color options are nice, but secondary to function.

Any recommendations of where to shop for something like this, or a specific product that might be a fit? Ideally, I’d like to try things on in person, but since I’ve had so much trouble finding something, I’m open to shopping online as well, as long as I can return.

Thank you!

I’ve given up on doing my shots at this point. I can’t make myself do them, I’m not even that scared of needles. Every time I take one I’m forced to realize I’m gonna have to do this every week for the rest of my life. I’m never gonna escape this. I want more of the effects, I love everything that’s happened so far. Even the acne is gender affirming to me. I just keep holding on and hoping I’m wrong about being trans. It feels so weird accepting that I am, that this is real. It feels so separate from me. I don’t feel attached to the label “transgender” I’m just a guy. I’m just a guy who’s tired of fighting for something. I’m so dysphoric I feel pain over typing femininely while writing this. I can’t bother to do my shots, I really can’t bother to do anything. Is this really my life? I don’t feel good about taking my shots, I don’t feel good about transitioning, I just want to wake up and be correct.

(I could go to any sub Reddit for this but I like the safety and honesty I’ll get from fellow trans men.)

this guy, let’s call him donut, has been doing weird stuff. lots of banter, starring, teasing, and commenting on little stuff I do. he’s exactly my type and we have a TON in common.

there are two issues. first, im not completly sure if donuts just like that or if he’s into me. He’s very sarcastic and plays stuff off so its very hard to get a read on him. second, he’s definitely not out. ( donut is cis and im starting to think he’s maybe bi because of this behavior) He’s talked about some girlfriend from the past, but other than that there’s no prior relationships to go off of.

knowing he had a girlfriend in the past makes me feel more reassured that he wouldn’t have potential issues with my body, as that’s something I’m very insecure about.

my friends say just to keep the banter going and see where it goes but I’m already losing my mind. I really want this to work out. I’ve never felt like this before, but I need some help figuring him out first.

I use Tgel so every 2ish months I have to get a refill. For some fucking reason the last 2 times I’ve needed a refill, circumstances got in the way and I couldn’t seem to get it on time without missing about a weeks worth of doses. Back in june I happened to be out of state when I got to the last of my supply. Because the dosage was new I had to actually meet with my provider to get a refill, which I couldn’t do for a WEEK because I wasn’t in my providers state. On day 3 without T I started bleeding again. So whatever, I finally get a refill, I start taking it normally again, my body gets adjusted again, and this past month starts looking promising. Half way through the month, no signs of bleeding at all. Well then this past week and a half I’ve been with my girlfriend in hospital bc of an unforeseen emergency. Because my focus was on more important things, I lost track of how much I had. Ran out on sunday, was only issued a refill yesterday, which will take a few days to hit my pharmacy. Had a rude red awakening this morning. I am so fucking mad. Why does this keep happening to me. It feels like a cycle i’m doomed to repeat over and over. I just want solid consistency no missed doses so I don’t have to experience this ever again. This fucking sucks. And now it’s gonna take another 2 months for my body to even THINK about stopping its cycle. Fucking god

I've been taking 50mg of testosterone cypionate 1x week for ~1 year. I feel great, I'm passing pretty frequently, and I have achieved the voice change and most of the body hair growth I wanted. I've got sideburns, but that's mostly it on the facial hair standpoint. Recently though, my hairline has started moving, and the hair on the top of my head has begun thinning. It's not noticable yet because I had extremely thick hair to begin with. I fear I need to choose between growing a beard or keeping my hair. I know most of what I've already achieved is permanent. I also know that while there are drugs to prevent msle pattern baldness my insurance will likely not cover them. I'm already paying out of pocket for my t and endocrinologist. I will not be able to afford the hairloss drugs on top of that. Has anybody else made this choice? Does anybody have experience pausing their transition for long term periods? If I do stop hrt, I'll likely pick it back up in my 30s or 40s (or whenever I get better insurance).

looking for suggestions for deodorant scents i dont like perfume/cologne its usually too strong i have sensory isuues and its expensive am broke rn im genderfluid/agender idk i try not to label, its confusing, but my gender has swung very masc recently i usually use a babypowder scented deodorant cause its quite neutral not to strong. i want something masc but not like punch u in the face manly.

(Erased a slur that someone wrote on there and reposted it)

Im trying to be as nice as I can as I say this without using terminology that’s rude, but I need help finding boxers that lay on my stomach without digging into and and making me look chubbier and less flattering. I don’t HATE the curves I have, but because of this when I have tight waist lines that dig into my hips and stomach it makes it look a lot more unflattering imo and I’m not sure where to go about finding boxers that are more looser when laying on my body if that makes sense. I wouldn’t consider myself fat, I’ve been told continuously I’m not but I also wouldn’t consider myself skinny. Because of this when it gets cut off like that instead of going with the curves of my hips and it makes me insecure. I recently got my first full time job (I’m 17) and saw some calven Klein boxers for sale and got those, thought a medium would work and it does but I feel they don’t lay like how I want. I’ve tried stretching the elastic but it hasn’t changed, idk what brands to go to. I like it when boxers peek out a bit on lower waisted pants but I don’t want it showing if it’s making my body look unflattering. I hope I didn’t use bad terminology, I don’t know where to go about looking or asking for help with this. Idc about brand named ones, I just want boxers that lay flat and aren’t restricting.