I know I'm not anywhere near where I want to be yet, but I just got my first binder!!!

B4 u say anything im not specifically talking about this subreddit, im barely active here but im speaking about from what ive seen across the internet and occasionally irl

The trans community cares too much about policing each other’s identities…I assure you it’s not setting us back that Taylor the trans femboy with 15 xenogenders and neopronouns exists without being dysphoric. And it’s not hurting anyone that someone doesn’t care to pass because they’re secure in their identity. The more I study native cultures the more I give less of a shit about gender and I’m saying this as a bigender transmasc person. The fact that gender identity is different and means different things to other cultures only further drives the point in my head that gender isn’t fucking real. You don’t need dysphoria or whatever the fuck to be trans😭 if you don’t align with the specific gender identity assigned at birth you’re trans. You don’t need a reason to understand who you are isn’t who you’ve been told you are and I hate that the idea you need to be dysphoric is driven into our heads. For the longest time I had to fight with myself every day telling myself I wasn’t this that and the third because I didn’t hate my body for not being that of a cis man’s or wishing I looked masculine or anything else. It’s so irritating seeing ts
And the people usually saying this only push a Eurocentric idea of masculinity too like ew😭 black trans men have so little rep and are basically forgotten by the community at least in American spaces and you have no idea how BAD I hate it. Discovering your identity as a black trans man is so hard because there’s so little focus on us and to pass we’re told to strip away our blackness basically😭
Idk, the community acts like everyone it is one anothers enemy and if they aren’t they’re being pretentious and excluding eachother🫩

Does having an actively changing voice as an adult cause you trouble? I'm afraid I'm gonna get clocked the second anyone realizes I'm an adult but my voice is cracking. Was it weird to deal with your voice? Did you get assumed to be a kid?

I never felt so relaxed and way more better than I could ever say, I still need to make the binder, but still, YUPPIE 🗣️

As per some other comments on passing asks I’ve made on other subreddits, I’mma be movin from my rounded glasses to contacts!

Most of the other subreddits though also said for me to get rid of my guyliner which is a bummer but, I understand where they’re comin from if I wanna pass better, though I’m realizing as a whole I think I’m just trans masc than fully ftm, so I’m taking it kinda with grains of salt.

(Also second image is of me trying on halloween contacts for my costume this year but I meant like, actual.. contacts contacts for myself to wear daily. Lol)

First pic is pre-T > a month > recent weeks

How do i look yall be honest do i look any different at all?? People are starting to say i look more masculine from a far and im starting to get more facial hair 🤩

Hey y’all, trans masc enby here seeking recommendations of bras for my 32DD chest.

What I’m looking for is something like in the picture, as the ones I have are wearing out from age. This is from Nordstrom rack, but they don’t make this style anymore.

Qualities I’m looking for:
- not a binder (I work with my body and need to have full freedom of movement and breathing, which I found was limited in my experience trying a binder.)
- no boob shaped cups, just continuous flat elastic fabric (I want to flatten my chest to the extent possible without limiting my mobility and breathing.)
- racerback (I tried Nordstrom rack’s newer version that had shoulder straps instead, and they easily fell off my shoulders, on top of the whole thing not fitting me right)
- color options are nice, but secondary to function.

Any recommendations of where to shop for something like this, or a specific product that might be a fit? Ideally, I’d like to try things on in person, but since I’ve had so much trouble finding something, I’m open to shopping online as well, as long as I can return.

Thank you!

I’ve given up on doing my shots at this point. I can’t make myself do them, I’m not even that scared of needles. Every time I take one I’m forced to realize I’m gonna have to do this every week for the rest of my life. I’m never gonna escape this. I want more of the effects, I love everything that’s happened so far. Even the acne is gender affirming to me. I just keep holding on and hoping I’m wrong about being trans. It feels so weird accepting that I am, that this is real. It feels so separate from me. I don’t feel attached to the label “transgender” I’m just a guy. I’m just a guy who’s tired of fighting for something. I’m so dysphoric I feel pain over typing femininely while writing this. I can’t bother to do my shots, I really can’t bother to do anything. Is this really my life? I don’t feel good about taking my shots, I don’t feel good about transitioning, I just want to wake up and be correct.

I use Tgel so every 2ish months I have to get a refill. For some fucking reason the last 2 times I’ve needed a refill, circumstances got in the way and I couldn’t seem to get it on time without missing about a weeks worth of doses. Back in june I happened to be out of state when I got to the last of my supply. Because the dosage was new I had to actually meet with my provider to get a refill, which I couldn’t do for a WEEK because I wasn’t in my providers state. On day 3 without T I started bleeding again. So whatever, I finally get a refill, I start taking it normally again, my body gets adjusted again, and this past month starts looking promising. Half way through the month, no signs of bleeding at all. Well then this past week and a half I’ve been with my girlfriend in hospital bc of an unforeseen emergency. Because my focus was on more important things, I lost track of how much I had. Ran out on sunday, was only issued a refill yesterday, which will take a few days to hit my pharmacy. Had a rude red awakening this morning. I am so fucking mad. Why does this keep happening to me. It feels like a cycle i’m doomed to repeat over and over. I just want solid consistency no missed doses so I don’t have to experience this ever again. This fucking sucks. And now it’s gonna take another 2 months for my body to even THINK about stopping its cycle. Fucking god

looking for suggestions for deodorant scents i dont like perfume/cologne its usually too strong i have sensory isuues and its expensive am broke rn im genderfluid/agender idk i try not to label, its confusing, but my gender has swung very masc recently i usually use a babypowder scented deodorant cause its quite neutral not to strong. i want something masc but not like punch u in the face manly.

(Erased a slur that someone wrote on there and reposted it)

Im trying to be as nice as I can as I say this without using terminology that’s rude, but I need help finding boxers that lay on my stomach without digging into and and making me look chubbier and less flattering. I don’t HATE the curves I have, but because of this when I have tight waist lines that dig into my hips and stomach it makes it look a lot more unflattering imo and I’m not sure where to go about finding boxers that are more looser when laying on my body if that makes sense. I wouldn’t consider myself fat, I’ve been told continuously I’m not but I also wouldn’t consider myself skinny. Because of this when it gets cut off like that instead of going with the curves of my hips and it makes me insecure. I recently got my first full time job (I’m 17) and saw some calven Klein boxers for sale and got those, thought a medium would work and it does but I feel they don’t lay like how I want. I’ve tried stretching the elastic but it hasn’t changed, idk what brands to go to. I like it when boxers peek out a bit on lower waisted pants but I don’t want it showing if it’s making my body look unflattering. I hope I didn’t use bad terminology, I don’t know where to go about looking or asking for help with this. Idc about brand named ones, I just want boxers that lay flat and aren’t restricting.

I recently posted an NSFW picture of my pre transition chest on one of the NSFW ftm subs. Someone sent me a DM to tell me that my post triggered their dysphoria and then they blocked me before I could say anything back. I can't apologize to them directly. I'm sorry if my post made anyone uncomfortable or dysphoric.

So last weekend she just reached over and touched the mini beard I'm starting to grow without asking me and started like stroking it. I didn't say anything because I was so shocked so I just kinda sat there.

This time she asked me if she could touch it and I said no. She was like "come on why not?" and tried touching it anyways so I told her no about 2 more times and pushed her hands away and she still did it. She said "stop being dramatic". Then she said "you're my kid growing a beard so I get to touch it, it's only fair". And then she did touch it and was like "ohhh it's still soft". Then she touched my mustache too.

Ew. Ew ew ew ew. Nope.

Why does she feel entitled to touch me. I'm 20 and I'm capable of saying no. She thought it was a funny thing to do.

Am I overreacting on this. I feel so sick rn. What do I do.

She's made other remarks that altogether are just really focused on my body. Ie is obsessed with if I'll get bottom surgery and keeps asking despite my clear refusal to talk about the subject. She is upset about me taking T because of all the changes like facial hair and voice, and shes upset that I might regret T one day because of "fertility". She also doesn't want me to get top surgery because I "might want to breastfeed one day". She's asked me if I want to use glp-1 weight loss meds like she uses twice now, because she "doesn't think my body can handle the weight gain from hrt". I've gained about 5 pounds. That's it.

I'm not a freaking pet or extension of her body that she can do what she likes with. What is this.

5 months on T for tracking purposes >:)

I got elected as a male class representative, almost got caught buy a member of the council that had access to my legal name yet didn't question me much, presented a speech infront of hundreds of students with my pre-T voice and only few people did clock me.

The uni is fucking strict and even has an official rule against homosexuality. We pray before every class and more ! I'm so scared cause I'm not out to my parents yet and if they discover I'm going by "Mr" they'll slime me out.

So I'm a horny fucking guy now thanks to HRT and I hadn't had sex with my bf in a week and I pounced at the opportunity to do it. Small issue is that my birth control implant that lasts for 3 years, expired literally a few hours after I had sex and I just didn't care about that in the moment. But now I do and even if I'm on T and even if he didn't cum inside or peed right before (lowers chance even more of sperm being in pre-cum) I don't wanna take chances and I'm gonna get that morning after pill lmao

Hay so I have a bit of a embarrassing question I started Testosterone troches last Nov those didn't really do much so we swapped to gel that I've been on since June. With a nearly month break because of insurance BS forcing me to switch pharmacies to keep coverage then dragging their feet for a month in 'approving' it. 🙄 Then I was on and off it for a couple weeks last month due to a very stressful move and accidentally misplacing the gel in that move.

But I'm really curious, anyone who took T without any form of birth control or hysterectomy etc. did your period go away completely or did that only come later/with added prevention added? (NOT asking as a sole form of birth control, just asking as far as the period/bleeding part goes)

Curious if it just stopped pretty sudden (like one months normal, then the next few some spotting but that's it then nothing after) or if it was a super gradual and slow over quite a few months to year or so... Just curious if I should expect late/irregular periods coming up or if it's something to be more concerned about ect. Pregnancy is NOT a concern hence why I'm not on any other form of birth control. Just trying to get as much of a idea as possible and from as many experiences as possible because I know everyone is different...

So I've been having some trouble with my period (aka my shackles were freed and it went away for like 5 months and hasn't come back) and my mom found out and is forcing me to go to the doctor it. I have never been to a gynaecologist or anything like that and I am DREADING IT, I hate doctors, I hate talking abt things that make me not a cis dude, and if she gotta see that shi I'm finna blow my shi off respectfully 💔✌️🥀 (also for a bit more context my dysphoria is mostly from people seeing that I'm a girl/ trans, I can't do people walking in on me changing, while I'm using the toilet, ect, ect, and this is like that but worse if I gotta do like alla dat dawg 🥲) . I was just wondering what y'all do when you have to go or something to just not ball my eyes out when I get home or when I'm there