I know I'm not anywhere near where I want to be yet, but I just got my first binder!!!

I’ve given up on doing my shots at this point. I can’t make myself do them, I’m not even that scared of needles. Every time I take one I’m forced to realize I’m gonna have to do this every week for the rest of my life. I’m never gonna escape this. I want more of the effects, I love everything that’s happened so far. Even the acne is gender affirming to me. I just keep holding on and hoping I’m wrong about being trans. It feels so weird accepting that I am, that this is real. It feels so separate from me. I don’t feel attached to the label “transgender” I’m just a guy. I’m just a guy who’s tired of fighting for something. I’m so dysphoric I feel pain over typing femininely while writing this. I can’t bother to do my shots, I really can’t bother to do anything. Is this really my life? I don’t feel good about taking my shots, I don’t feel good about transitioning, I just want to wake up and be correct.

B4 u say anything im not specifically talking about this subreddit, im barely active here but im speaking about from what ive seen across the internet and occasionally irl

The trans community cares too much about policing each other’s identities…I assure you it’s not setting us back that Taylor the trans femboy with 15 xenogenders and neopronouns exists without being dysphoric. And it’s not hurting anyone that someone doesn’t care to pass because they’re secure in their identity. The more I study native cultures the more I give less of a shit about gender and I’m saying this as a bigender transmasc person. The fact that gender identity is different and means different things to other cultures only further drives the point in my head that gender isn’t fucking real. You don’t need dysphoria or whatever the fuck to be trans😭 if you don’t align with the specific gender identity assigned at birth you’re trans. You don’t need a reason to understand who you are isn’t who you’ve been told you are and I hate that the idea you need to be dysphoric is driven into our heads. For the longest time I had to fight with myself every day telling myself I wasn’t this that and the third because I didn’t hate my body for not being that of a cis man’s or wishing I looked masculine or anything else. It’s so irritating seeing ts
And the people usually saying this only push a Eurocentric idea of masculinity too like ew😭 black trans men have so little rep and are basically forgotten by the community at least in American spaces and you have no idea how BAD I hate it. Discovering your identity as a black trans man is so hard because there’s so little focus on us and to pass we’re told to strip away our blackness basically😭
Idk, the community acts like everyone it is one anothers enemy and if they aren’t they’re being pretentious and excluding eachother🫩

Does having an actively changing voice as an adult cause you trouble? I'm afraid I'm gonna get clocked the second anyone realizes I'm an adult but my voice is cracking. Was it weird to deal with your voice? Did you get assumed to be a kid?

Hey y’all, trans masc enby here seeking recommendations of bras for my 32DD chest.

What I’m looking for is something like in the picture, as the ones I have are wearing out from age. This is from Nordstrom rack, but they don’t make this style anymore.

Qualities I’m looking for:
- not a binder (I work with my body and need to have full freedom of movement and breathing, which I found was limited in my experience trying a binder.)
- no boob shaped cups, just continuous flat elastic fabric (I want to flatten my chest to the extent possible without limiting my mobility and breathing.)
- racerback (I tried Nordstrom rack’s newer version that had shoulder straps instead, and they easily fell off my shoulders, on top of the whole thing not fitting me right)
- color options are nice, but secondary to function.

Any recommendations of where to shop for something like this, or a specific product that might be a fit? Ideally, I’d like to try things on in person, but since I’ve had so much trouble finding something, I’m open to shopping online as well, as long as I can return.

Thank you!

First pic is pre-T > a month > recent weeks

How do i look yall be honest do i look any different at all?? People are starting to say i look more masculine from a far and im starting to get more facial hair 🤩

So I've been having some trouble with my period (aka my shackles were freed and it went away for like 5 months and hasn't come back) and my mom found out and is forcing me to go to the doctor it. I have never been to a gynaecologist or anything like that and I am DREADING IT, I hate doctors, I hate talking abt things that make me not a cis dude, and if she gotta see that shi I'm finna blow my shi off respectfully 💔✌️🥀 (also for a bit more context my dysphoria is mostly from people seeing that I'm a girl/ trans, I can't do people walking in on me changing, while I'm using the toilet, ect, ect, and this is like that but worse if I gotta do like alla dat dawg 🥲) . I was just wondering what y'all do when you have to go or something to just not ball my eyes out when I get home or when I'm there

I got elected as a male class representative, almost got caught buy a member of the council that had access to my legal name yet didn't question me much, presented a speech infront of hundreds of students with my pre-T voice and only few people did clock me.

The uni is fucking strict and even has an official rule against homosexuality. We pray before every class and more ! I'm so scared cause I'm not out to my parents yet and if they discover I'm going by "Mr" they'll slime me out.

Hay so I have a bit of a embarrassing question I started Testosterone troches last Nov those didn't really do much so we swapped to gel that I've been on since June. With a nearly month break because of insurance BS forcing me to switch pharmacies to keep coverage then dragging their feet for a month in 'approving' it. 🙄 Then I was on and off it for a couple weeks last month due to a very stressful move and accidentally misplacing the gel in that move.

But I'm really curious, anyone who took T without any form of birth control or hysterectomy etc. did your period go away completely or did that only come later/with added prevention added? (NOT asking as a sole form of birth control, just asking as far as the period/bleeding part goes)

Curious if it just stopped pretty sudden (like one months normal, then the next few some spotting but that's it then nothing after) or if it was a super gradual and slow over quite a few months to year or so... Just curious if I should expect late/irregular periods coming up or if it's something to be more concerned about ect. Pregnancy is NOT a concern hence why I'm not on any other form of birth control. Just trying to get as much of a idea as possible and from as many experiences as possible because I know everyone is different...

I never felt so relaxed and way more better than I could ever say, I still need to make the binder, but still, YUPPIE 🗣️

I think I'm looking for some support? Idk. I'm kind of bewildered by whatever just happened. I'm sitting at the bus stop and this guy, probably around my age, walks up to me and just straight up asks "how long have you been transitioning?". I know I don't pass half the time but literally no one has ever done this to me before, so I'm sort of stunned for a sec and thinking about how to respond. I stumble on a few words and them am just like "I don't think I feel comfortable answering that, I don't even know you" to which he let's out a heavy tsk and goes "bro it's a normal question why you gotta be a bitch about it" and he starts walking off and I hear him say "getting offended acting like a fuqin victim" and I go "I'm not offended I just don't know why you're asking me that" and I he just stays all pissy about it under his breath as he gets on his bus like HUH?? You ask the most out of pocket shit to a complete stranger and now you're mad at ME??? I might have even given him a real answer if he was just chill and gave me a reason instead up just assuming I'd be fine with outing myself to some rando. Now I just feel weird like I wanna make myself small, plus now I feel self concious about how clockable I am, which I normally wouldn't care that much about but this was just... du fuq..

As per some other comments on passing asks I’ve made on other subreddits, I’mma be movin from my rounded glasses to contacts!

Most of the other subreddits though also said for me to get rid of my guyliner which is a bummer but, I understand where they’re comin from if I wanna pass better, though I’m realizing as a whole I think I’m just trans masc than fully ftm, so I’m taking it kinda with grains of salt.

(Also second image is of me trying on halloween contacts for my costume this year but I meant like, actual.. contacts contacts for myself to wear daily. Lol)

Aka kotoko yuzuriha from milgram,haruhi fujioka from ouran highschool host club,you takiguchi from In The clear moonlit dusk..and human vox from hazbin hotel. So basically a bunch of handsome women and a mentally unstable tv made me a trans guy. How bout you.

I use Tgel so every 2ish months I have to get a refill. For some fucking reason the last 2 times I’ve needed a refill, circumstances got in the way and I couldn’t seem to get it on time without missing about a weeks worth of doses. Back in june I happened to be out of state when I got to the last of my supply. Because the dosage was new I had to actually meet with my provider to get a refill, which I couldn’t do for a WEEK because I wasn’t in my providers state. On day 3 without T I started bleeding again. So whatever, I finally get a refill, I start taking it normally again, my body gets adjusted again, and this past month starts looking promising. Half way through the month, no signs of bleeding at all. Well then this past week and a half I’ve been with my girlfriend in hospital bc of an unforeseen emergency. Because my focus was on more important things, I lost track of how much I had. Ran out on sunday, was only issued a refill yesterday, which will take a few days to hit my pharmacy. Had a rude red awakening this morning. I am so fucking mad. Why does this keep happening to me. It feels like a cycle i’m doomed to repeat over and over. I just want solid consistency no missed doses so I don’t have to experience this ever again. This fucking sucks. And now it’s gonna take another 2 months for my body to even THINK about stopping its cycle. Fucking god

I prefer to tape bind, it works really well for me. The tape I am currently using doesn’t irritate my skin at all my main issue is when I remove it. I always take it off in the shower with baby oil. When I remove it there is such a thick layer of sticky stuff left it becomes a mess that I deal with for a day or two. I end up scrubbing my skin raw trying to get it off. I’m almost tempted to just go back to ripping off in the shower to avoid the mess. Any tips on how to avoid the sticky mess?

Hello! I(18f) am not trans, but my brother(18m) is ftm, and I want to get him something to help with his chest. He has a binder, but it's uncomfortable and he can't wear it for extended periods of time. I want to get him something to help him as a Christmas gift, but I don't know the best route to take. Can anybody give me tips or advice on things I could get him?

Im trying to be as nice as I can as I say this without using terminology that’s rude, but I need help finding boxers that lay on my stomach without digging into and and making me look chubbier and less flattering. I don’t HATE the curves I have, but because of this when I have tight waist lines that dig into my hips and stomach it makes it look a lot more unflattering imo and I’m not sure where to go about finding boxers that are more looser when laying on my body if that makes sense. I wouldn’t consider myself fat, I’ve been told continuously I’m not but I also wouldn’t consider myself skinny. Because of this when it gets cut off like that instead of going with the curves of my hips and it makes me insecure. I recently got my first full time job (I’m 17) and saw some calven Klein boxers for sale and got those, thought a medium would work and it does but I feel they don’t lay like how I want. I’ve tried stretching the elastic but it hasn’t changed, idk what brands to go to. I like it when boxers peek out a bit on lower waisted pants but I don’t want it showing if it’s making my body look unflattering. I hope I didn’t use bad terminology, I don’t know where to go about looking or asking for help with this. Idc about brand named ones, I just want boxers that lay flat and aren’t restricting.

hello, I put the content warning as a just incase

I started DIY hrt on the 17th of April this year, and I didn't have my period ever since, I am recently experiencing cramps that are similar to what my period was like but no bleeding and I was worried that this is atrophy, does anyone know if it is? I'm in Scotland so I need a prescription for any medication for it and if it is atrophy does anyone know how to go about getting a prescription, do I just call my GP set an appointment and ask or do I need a proper assessment?

sorry for the dumb questions I'm kinda panicking ngl

I mean ive only tried 2 different brands and the one I like the most is LGBT unicorn but im poor so maybe there's better brands out there

looking for suggestions for deodorant scents i dont like perfume/cologne its usually too strong i have sensory isuues and its expensive am broke rn im genderfluid/agender idk i try not to label, its confusing, but my gender has swung very masc recently i usually use a babypowder scented deodorant cause its quite neutral not to strong. i want something masc but not like punch u in the face manly.

I’m 16 and It’s been rough since 2020 and honestly before that too. My parents are religious, and when they looked through my phone I got yelled at for looking at a lot of queer content. It’s been really bad with my parents, I wouldn’t say we fight a lot but they get really mad at me and yell/lecture me until I’m sobbing, I’m always to scared to talk back and if I do they always turn it against me. Honestly I’m scared of them, and I think they’re scared of me, my mom told me she believes I am possessed by a demon. My dad wants to disown me so I’ll live on the streets, but my mom won’t let him. All of this because I’m queer or just didn’t dress femme enough or used they/them pronouns or whatever.

I don’t think those punishments were fair, but the new ones definitely are. My mom looked through my phone randomly one day, she found out I vape and was selling. My parents have a rough history with that, my grandma is a drug addict and my uncles in jail. So my parents grounded me for two years, took my phone, tv, all the money I saved and said if something like this happens again they’ll throw away all my art supplies. I want to be an art teacher someday, If they threw away all my art stuff I’d be devastated. Also it wasn’t just that, they also found out I had a gf for a month and were pretty upset. Please don’t report me to the police or anything, I quit a month ago and I’m already dealing with a lot at home. I honestly don’t know if I’ll even make it to 18.

Anyway it’s a good thing we broke up she was toxic. She was always getting me to buy her stuff, and didn’t really respect boundaries. She would “jokingly” call her a friend a racial slur and that really bothered me especially because I’m black and idk I just hate slurs. Most of all she just made me feel really fat. I’m 145lb now and 5 foot 3 but I used to be 170lb, the healthiest weight for my height is 140lb. My ex is 130lb and 5 foot 5 so underweight for her height, and constantly complaining about being fat and other people calling her fat. She never eats lunch and I do, but I need to eat lunch because I have and intense workout every day. But she’s still make small comments on my weight and how much I was eating.

That did a lot of damage. My mom also talks about my weight a lot, she literally shamed me for eating cake on my birthday. So for a while I just didn’t eat most of the time and basically starved myself until I lost 30lb in about 3 weeks. It’s still not enough, I won’t feel like a human who deserves to live until I’m 100lb. I hate my thighs and stomach, I wear really uncomfortable shapewear to make them smaller. I also hate my small shoulders and I wish I didn’t have boobs. I honestly just wish I was born a cisgender man everything would be so much easier. Obviously I’m young and don’t really know my identity, but I’ve been figuring out four years now and transmasc feels right.

When I went to the doctor and they told me I’m obese I just started sobbing. Idk how to explain it my body doesn’t feel right to me, and I guess I feel like maybe if I just lose that 40lb everything would be okay. But I know I would still feel miserable. The reason my ex broke up with me is because she said she’s straight and doesn’t like girls. It’s been a week and she’s already hooking up with guys even though she said she was taking a break from love and stuff.

I thought i found the perfect girl for me, a different girl who I’ll call Sarah I guess. She’s kind, pretty, funny and we’re honestly perfect for each other. She flirts with me a bit sometimes. My ex really doesn’t like her, idk why probably cause we’re constantly together. She’s a bit heavier than me, and the same way my ex would kind of shame me for my weight I accidentally do it to sometimes. I promise I don’t mean to.

Anyway yeah sorry for the rant thanks for making it to the end. I remember saying on here I’d post again if I survive to 16 well I’m 16 now I’ll post again if I make it to 18. Have a good day, advice appreciated. Sorry about the grammar I’m dumb.

(I could go to any sub Reddit for this but I like the safety and honesty I’ll get from fellow trans men.)

this guy, let’s call him donut, has been doing weird stuff. lots of banter, starring, teasing, and commenting on little stuff I do. he’s exactly my type and we have a TON in common.

there are two issues. first, im not completly sure if donuts just like that or if he’s into me. He’s very sarcastic and plays stuff off so its very hard to get a read on him. second, he’s definitely not out. ( donut is cis and im starting to think he’s maybe bi because of this behavior) He’s talked about some girlfriend from the past, but other than that there’s no prior relationships to go off of.

knowing he had a girlfriend in the past makes me feel more reassured that he wouldn’t have potential issues with my body, as that’s something I’m very insecure about.

my friends say just to keep the banter going and see where it goes but I’m already losing my mind. I really want this to work out. I’ve never felt like this before, but I need some help figuring him out first.

I will be completely disowned if I come out as trans. I've known I'm trans for 10 years now but I'm utterly terrified to tell anyone

I've been taking 50mg of testosterone cypionate 1x week for ~1 year. I feel great, I'm passing pretty frequently, and I have achieved the voice change and most of the body hair growth I wanted. I've got sideburns, but that's mostly it on the facial hair standpoint. Recently though, my hairline has started moving, and the hair on the top of my head has begun thinning. It's not noticable yet because I had extremely thick hair to begin with. I fear I need to choose between growing a beard or keeping my hair. I know most of what I've already achieved is permanent. I also know that while there are drugs to prevent msle pattern baldness my insurance will likely not cover them. I'm already paying out of pocket for my t and endocrinologist. I will not be able to afford the hairloss drugs on top of that. Has anybody else made this choice? Does anybody have experience pausing their transition for long term periods? If I do stop hrt, I'll likely pick it back up in my 30s or 40s (or whenever I get better insurance).