The Boy From Venus 16

[u/shenanigansen]

It's really really cozy in the box btw ...

[u/RedditUser000aaa]

Oh lord. This is actually how incels and femcels think! Like, they believe that every stare they get is directed at them in disgust! Poor Val!

Being trapped in those thoughts is not good!

I genuinely wish Val would value herself more. She's looking too much into the eyes of the crowd. To the point she thinks Audrey is the only one looking at her normally.

She's fallen into the trap of every gaze directed at her being negative and that is seriously sad and tragic! Audrey can only help Val get out of it, but Val has to be the one to do the hard work!

Hopefully she'll be able to regain her confidence!

[u/T_alsomeGames → u/RedditUser000aaa]

I don't think this is strictly an incel thing. I've felt this way on many occasions, and still very much do from time to time. Its just a low self-confidence thing. These feelings are normal, but you can't let them consume you. Never let those thoughts go unquestioned and never give up on yourself.

[u/sweetTartKenHart2 → u/T_alsomeGames]

It ain’t strictly an incel thing, but it is part of what makes incels tick. It’s kind of a square rectangle situation

[u/stilljustacatinacage → u/sweetTartKenHart2]

it is part of what makes incels tick.

There's a weird potential crossroads between low self esteem and narcissism. The "everyone hates me" thoughts can be traced back to self esteem, anxiety, trauma... But where some spiral or some cope, there are others who turn it into a victim complex (I'm using these terms for brevity; I'm not a doctor, not medical advice, etc).

These are the ones at risk for falling into -cel rhetoric (among others) because it soothes and coos the ego, saying "there there, you've done nothing wrong, it's all their fault". Externalizing your problems generally has a lot of success because it's the lowest bar for entry - there's no introspection needed, and no or little effort is asked of you. The quote comes to mind: "Unlike the cruel Leonidas who demanded that you stand, I require only that you kneel."

[u/T_alsomeGames → u/sweetTartKenHart2]

Yeah, that's accurate.