I’m 31 and married to a 33 year old man. We’re both from Hyderabad. Two weeks ago we went to Thailand for eight days; the last four were in Pattaya.
A 27 year old guy from Hyderabad overheard us speaking Telugu at the hotel. He introduced himself, said he was traveling alone, and my husband invited him to join us at the beach that day. We all got along well. While my husband was farther out in the water, the guy told me he wished he had a girlfriend who looked like me. The comment stayed with me.
After the beach we walked around a bit, then went back to our rooms. Once my husband fell asleep, I went to the guy’s room and asked why he said that. He started describing what he found attractive about me. Things escalated quickly from there. I stayed for a couple of hours, we exchanged numbers, and I went back to my room. We were flying home the next day.
The next morning we saw him at breakfast, then my husband and I left for the airport. A week later he returned to Hyderabad and texted asking if I’d go on a date with him.
I want to meet him. That night was the best physical connection I’ve had in years, and my husband and I aren’t very active in that area. At the same time I’m scared and don’t know what to do.

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Okay guys, I had a pretty interesting conversation with one of my close friends recently, and now I'm genuinely confused about my own opinion on this. 😭

So last month, one of my friends went to Vietnam and ended up having sex with a sex worker. He paid for it, had his experience and came back to India.

Now here's the thing. He has a girlfriend. They've been together for quite some time, they're pretty close, and honestly, they're a cute couple.

But apparently, he hasn't been completely satisfied with his sex life.

He told me that he has certain sexual fantasies, especially involving a particular body type and stuff like lifting his partner during sex. His girlfriend is on the heavier side, so some of those things aren't really possible for them.

He has discussed his preferences with her before, but she isn't interested in changing her body or going to the gym. And fair enough, that's completely her choice. Nobody should have to change their body just to satisfy someone else's fantasies.

Anyway, while he was in Vietnam, he met a sex worker who matched the physical type he'd always fantasized about. And he decided to pay for the experience.

After coming back, he confessed everything to me. And man, he was feeling extremely guilty about it.

I could see that he was genuinely struggling with what he'd done.

Now, as his friend, my first instinct was to calm him down rather than make him feel even worse.

So I told him something like, "Bro, it's just a paid service, right? You weren't emotionally involved with her. You didn't fall in love, go on dates or develop a connection. You paid for an experience, and that was it."

In my head, I was comparing it to any other service. There's no emotional attachment, no romantic involvement, nothing beyond the transaction.

But then he asked me a question.

"Okay, imagine your girlfriend went somewhere, paid a guy to have sex with her, and came back. Would you be okay with that?"

And I actually thought about it for a while.

Then I told him, "I think I would be okay with it."

For example, suppose my girlfriend had some particular sexual fantasy involving a guy with a different body type or physical characteristics that I simply couldn't offer. If she paid someone to experience it, with absolutely no emotional involvement, I don't think I'd have a huge problem with it.

But if she secretly started talking to another guy, flirting, going on dates, building an emotional connection or maintaining some kind of relationship behind my back, that would genuinely hurt me.

And I wouldn't do those things either.

That's where I personally seem to draw the line.

But after coming home, I started questioning my own thinking.

Am I being too casual about this?

Because when I think about it, paying for sex doesn't automatically mean your partner would be okay with it. Just because there's no emotional connection doesn't mean there's no betrayal, right?

And another thing is, I was looking at the situation from my friend's perspective because I wanted to make him feel better. But I haven't really thought about how his girlfriend would feel if she found out.

Maybe I'm just separating sex and love more than most people do.

I personally feel that physical intimacy and emotional intimacy are two different things. But I also understand that for many people, sex itself is something exclusive to a relationship.

So now I'm curious.

Do you guys consider paid sex cheating, even if there's zero emotional attachment?

Does the fact that money is involved change anything?

And if you genuinely wouldn't mind your partner paying someone for sex, does that mean you have a different understanding of monogamy?

I'm not trying to justify what my friend did. I'm genuinely trying to understand where people draw the line.

Because right now, even I'm questioning my own logic. 😭

I’m \[27M\], and the woman I’m talking about is \[30 F\]. We were in a relationship for around six months.
She is divorced and was previously involved with another divorced man. Before we started dating, she told me that he understood her situation because he had also gone through a divorce.
Eventually, she and I grew close and started a relationship. She continued talking to him because he was helping her with her divorce-related court proceedings. I trusted her and didn’t want to stop her from receiving support during a difficult time.
At one point, she told me she had left him and unexpectedly asked me to marry her. I loved her, but I felt six months was too early to make such a big decision. I asked her to give us more time.
She was hurt by this, and eventually she went back to him. At that time, I didn’t fully understand what was happening or how close they had become again.
Later, after thinking seriously about our future, I realized that I wanted to marry her. I told her I was ready to commit, but by then she had chosen him.
She now tells me that she wants me to move on. At the same time, she wants to keep talking to me, sharing her problems with me, and having me as someone who understands and supports her. She no longer wants me as her boyfriend, though, and wants to build a future with him.
I still love her, and I keep wondering whether their relationship is based on genuine love or whether the difficult circumstances and the support he gave her brought them together. I know I might be thinking this way because I’m hurt and still hope she will choose me.
I’ve even thought about speaking to him and explaining my side, but I don’t know whether that would help or make the situation worse.
This situation is affecting my peace of mind and my ability to concentrate on my studies and career. I want to move forward, but part of me still hopes that she will realize we could have had a good future together.
**What I need advice on:**
How can I understand and accept her decision when she still wants emotional closeness with me but has chosen someone else?
How do I set boundaries without feeling that I’m losing her completely?
What practical steps can help me stop hoping for reconciliation and focus on rebuilding my life?

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We're in a long-distance relationship. She's recently started studying MBBS, while I'm in my UPSC preparation phase, and lately, I've been feeling increasingly distant from her. Before she started college, we used to talk a lot more. Initially, when she hadn't made many friends, she'd call me after almost every lecture. It wasn't that I expected her to spend all her free time with me, but those little moments made me feel connected to her.

Now she's made friends including male friends, and spends time hanging out and playing cards with them. I understand that this is a normal part of college life, and I genuinely want her to enjoy it. But I can't deny that it makes me insecure, especially because we're long-distance.i feel bad that we don't communicate like we used to. Earlier she'd call me whenever she had some free time. Now i sometimes feel like I'm no longer the person she instinctively thinks of. A few days ago, I called her while she was in the library, and she didn't pick up, which was unusual for her. I called her out of jealousy and insecurity because she was with her male friends.I start overthinking whether her feelings or priorities are changing.I realise that some of this might be my own anxiety. She's entering a new phase of life, meeting people and building friendships, while I'm in a preparation phase. Sometimes, it feels like her world is expanding while mine is staying the same, and I'm scared we're slowly growing apart.

I've talked to her about how I feel, and I don't want to become controlling or make her feel guilty for having male friends or enjoying college. At the same time, I miss the closeness we had, and I don't know how to deal with these feelings without repeatedly seeking reassurance from her. She also wants to fix this. It was her who started feeling distant first, now she doesn't feel it but I do.

How do you deal with jealousy and insecurity when your partner makes new friends, including male friends? How do you distinguish between your own anxiety and genuine emotional distance from your partner? Is it reasonable to ask for consistent time and effort, and how do we rebuild our connection without making communication feel like an obligation?

I love her, she loves me and want her to enjoy this phase of her life. But I'm feeling neglected and unwanted. I don't want my insecurities to damage our relationship, but I also want to feel connected.

Me (22m) and my gf (23F) are in a relationship of two years, we vibed very well as friends for 6 months and then we started dating officially.

She is very sincere simple and pretty straight forward girl, she was a topper from her school, she never gave slangs never got into fights she was sort of ideal “good girl“ kind of girl.

We were kidding today and the convo goes like this:

**GF:** Bhai, ladkiyon ke saath kya competition karta hai?
**OP:** Are, ladkiyan bhi ukhaad sakti hain. Girlfriend ke saath kar sakta hoon.
**GF:** 🤣 Doosron ke saath karna hota hai, competition. Tu mere saath hi ladta rehta hai, bas yahi achhe se aata hai tujhe. Ghar mein hi dikha ki tu kitna bada sher hai. Ghar ke andar hi ladai kar.
**OP:** Bahar ke logon ke saamne dum nahi hai. Gharwale mujhse isliye ladne aate hain kyunki main kuch bolta nahi hoon.
**GF:** Lekin tu ladkiyon ke saath kya competition kar raha hai? Tujhe samajh aa raha hai ki ye kitna bada downfall hai? Haan?
**OP:** Bro.
**GF:** Tu khud ko itna weak samajhta hai kya ki ek ladki ke saath competition karke tujhe lagta hai ki tu usse behtar hai?
**OP:** Haan na.
**GF:** Oh. Theek hai, phir.
**OP:** Hmm.
**GF:** Beta, mujhse panga mat lena.
**OP:** Bro.
**GF:** Ladki hai! Dobara aisa bola na, toh utha ke seedha phenk doongi.
**OP:** Ladki hai. Ye pata hai.
**GF:** Abhi gaali de deti, lekin chhod, jaane de.
**OP:** De beti. Aaja, de. Dum hai toh. Maa ka doodh piya hai toh de.

How offensive is the last line as we were kidding, how a girl would react with the preety famous hindi dialogue “Maa ka doodh piya hai toh “ is this just normal kr

F24 here. I am working and in a relationship. I accept I am not perfect. I am a bit chubby and my current bf has made some comments has affected me. I have already posted about that (shared the link to that post at end). I have tried to move on from that. Still the comments kept coming. I got fed up.
So I decided to feel good on my own. I have already had a fling with a colleague. So I tried talking to him. He thought I was asking for a help regarding office work and he asked me to contact his another friend.
I was determined to do something and I talked to the friend and soon we got together for coffee and needless to say we spent the night together.
I am not gonna lie. He really made me feel good. Especially on what my bf commented. He made me feel worthy and precious.
I felt so good and even begged him for more. He treated me well and made me happy.
I don't know if he will continue seeing me. But for now I am happy that I got together with him.

The previous post link : https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/s/L2JPOAEcZ8

Me and my gf (or ex) of 6 years recently decided to take a break. We practically grew up together but have noticed since last year that we were branching out. Both our families know about us and have been welcoming. We are both doing well on our careers and pretty much had a very successful relationship so far. Since last year we have been talking about marriage, kids, family, house and everything about our future and I slowly realised that we have a very different outlook on how our future looks.

That caused us to have a lot of arguments and some nasty ones too where we have abused and yelled and even our parents got involved. These fights slowly became more frequent even ones that were unrelated to our future plans became ugly quickly. We both reached a point where we stopped respecting each other and just threw words at each other like it was a competition. To stop this from getting worse she decided to take a break from us. I was fine with it since it was very bad and we had to make it work so anything was fine with me.

Then 2 months into our break she made a plan to travel with her friends to a different city for 10 days(all girls). And 1 day before the trip she asked me if I was fine with her seeing other people, I said I was fine with it (I didn’t think she would actually do it), but after her trip I picked her up from the airport we had a nice dinner, kissed on her stairs and it was looking positive. But later in the night she told me that she went on a date while she was in another city. And that she didn’t do anything with the guy. She just wanted to see how it felt, and in her words she said “it was the worst feeling ever, we didn’t do anything not even hold hands, I realised during the date that I want no one other than you”. My heart sank. I cried. But I was like okay no worries we will make this work. We both said we were sorry and that we will work on it.

We started dating again and for 2 months we were doing well. We went for a small vacation has endless moments and it was all well. But once we returned things started to get ugly again we started arguing and fighting again. There is no specific thing I can point to that will help but just normal couples fights always led to us yelling and abusing at each other. This time I decided and told her we need to take another break cause this way we will get divorced after we marry each other. She said okay.

Now 3 months in i see her going out with friends, partying, working and doing things as usual. And I am out her depressed, I don’t have any friends that would call me their no.1. I had no plans nothing. I was slowly starting to lose respect for myself aswell. But slowly I started working on myself. My fitness. My work. My friends that I hadn’t spoken in years. I was building myself to have self respect before I expect anyone else to respect me.

But during this time I realised that I was horny aswell. So I called her asked her if she was okay with being in a FWB situation (I know dumb but I didn’t know what else to do we were high school sweethearts) she immediately rejected saying she needs to be mentally present and her libido isn’t high enough to suppress that. So I told her I’m gonna see other people casually. And as soon as she heard this she started crying and told me that she could never take me back if I slept with someone else. I reminded her that she went on a date and even though nothing happened you still did and told me that you were fine with me going on dates then why sudden change of heart. She kept crying and told me that we need to make this work and work on ourselves.

Fast forward to today it’s been 6 months since we last slept together. And day by day I can feel my mind explode due to lack of intimacy and attention. Is it wrong for me to see other people while we are on a break?

I’m a woman in my late twenties, North Indian, and my boyfriend is 30 and South Indian. We met abroad and both live abroad.

I told my parents about him in March, and my dad initially said okay. My boyfriend then spoke to his parents, and it took him around three months to convince them. By June, they agreed too. We’ve also had both sets of parents speak to each other over the phone.

But when I went back to my dad after his parents agreed, his attitude suddenly changed. He said my boyfriend doesn’t come from a rich background and he wasn’t okay with the match. We’re middle class too, so I don’t understand this objection.

There was a lot of drama after that. My dad brought up cultural differences between North and South India, the distance between our families, etc., to his dad. He asked his parents for a couple of months to think and said my boyfriend and I should take more time to reconsider our decision.

It’s October now, and my dad hasn’t brought it up again. We barely talk these days, and when he contacts me, it’s usually to ask me to help my brother with something or handle a task.

What makes this especially frustrating is that, for the past five years, my dad has constantly reminded me that I’m getting older and need to get married soon. He kept pushing me to look at the rishta profiles he sent. Now that I’ve found someone I actually want to marry, suddenly there’s no urgency and he’s completely silent on the topic.

Meanwhile, my boyfriend’s parents are getting impatient and asking him for an update, and he’s asking me. I don’t know what to tell him because nothing is moving forward on my side.

When I speak to my mom, she suggests we have a court marriage abroad. She thinks my dad would then have no choice but to agree to a wedding celebration in India.

Personally, I don’t care much about society’s opinions. I’d actually feel relieved if we had a court marriage here. We’d be legally married and could move forward with our lives. Even if my dad took another year to agree to a wedding celebration in India, I wouldn’t be panicking about when we’d finally get married.

But my boyfriend doesn’t want to do a court marriage first. He wants a traditional Indian wedding, even if it’s simple. So we’re also struggling to agree on the next step.

I know I want to marry him. I just feel stuck between my dad avoiding the conversation, my mom suggesting a workaround, and my boyfriend and his parents wanting an update.

Has anyone dealt with something similar, especially in a North–South Indian relationship? How did you handle a parent who initially agreed and then kept delaying? And how did you and your partner agree on a way forward when you wanted different approaches?

I am 19F and I recently started seeing this guy(20M) on hinge and we got into relationship about a month ago and I had told him about my ex on the first meeting but forgot to tell him that we still talk sometimes basically once every 1-2 weeks and recently I told him about it and at first he didnt say much but next day he said that I should stop talking to him.

Me and my ex dated for hardly 5 months and we only met couple of times, didnt get much intimate(just kisses) but it was long distance and he was 3yrs older than me so he didnt took me seriously ig. We broke up 2yrs ago and we still follow each other on both my public and pvt social media. Basically text each other on occasions like birthdays, new bike/car,tattoo, piercing stuff like that after breakup.

The convo continues for couple of days so recently he texted me to congratulate me about something and the convo kept going for 3 days and he showed me new tattoos he got and to make my bf feel assured that nothing is going on between us I showed him our chat and he saw his pics in dms and how often we used to talk and he freaked out cuz it matters a lot to him ig. Later that night he said how insecure he feel about this thing and how I should stop talking with my ex.

Me and my bf really like each other but I dont want to block or unfollow my ex after staying in touch for last couple of yrs. It will be rude right? I doubt my ex cares about me anymore and he only text cuz of the bonding between us. He got a job now so I doubt he cares about me.

How should I handle all of this and make my bf feel reassured

So I have this childhood best friend, we’re really close grew up together. Back in school years back there was a phase where our dumbasses thought to date and we did which lasted for 20 days. We ended it since it wasnt the right thing for us and we were better off as friends. Nothing sexual has ever happened except for a one time peck ( which was like half a lip as we pulled out of it ) .
Other than that we ended up being same old bestf shes like a sister to me and its been like 5 years to that incident.
What i am wondering is if future partners would have an issue with this? Really confused

My boyfriend’s female friend always seemed jealous of me. They met on a dating app and developed a so-called “sibling dynamic,” yet she would ask him whether men pursued him the way he wanted me to. Once, at dinner, she asked how our relationship was going, and when he excitedly said we were doing great, I noticed a visible drop in her expression. It felt as though she had been waiting for us to fall apart.

And he kept claiming “ OH SHE LIKES YOU yada yada” but like I knew they don’t. A single woman with no man and orphaned by the universe never instinctively like a happy woman with a very good man. Woman are woman’s biggest enemies. I know I’m sounding salty, but I have great intuition on this.

The moment we hit a difficult phase, she stepped in as the mature, understanding adviser. The day after he broke up with me, I spoke to her on the phone, crying, while she sounded completely nonchalant. I had no idea she had been discussing our relationship with him. The indifference I felt from her was striking.
Minor issues were magnified, distorted, and turned into something far uglier than they needed to be. In my desperation to save the relationship, I kept apologising, surrendering my self-respect, and accepting blame, only to feel increasingly criminalised rather than understood.

I gave this man everything. We shared so much and did so much for each other, yet when things became difficult, he seemed willing to let others fill his head with garbage about me. I suspect she was jealous of my place in his life, perhaps even disappointed that a man she might have wanted romantically was now someone she had to call a brother. I also question whether his other friends genuinely care for him or simply enjoy having a seemingly sweet, resourceful man around, while resenting the woman who occupies his heart.
Perhaps I will never know how much these people influenced him, but I cannot shake the feeling that I was unfairly portrayed, judged, and ostracised without being given a fair chance to defend myself.

I feel like I am living through Kafka’s The Trial—condemned by an invisible court, accused without clarity. I loved, I tried, I apologised, and I fought for us, only to find myself cast as the villain in a story I never intended to write. God is watching.

So I (24M) went to play dandiya at an event with my girlfriend (22F) and her family/friends

We were a group of 15 people and by the end of it when i was resting i saw my girlfriend comes up to a guy who is her family friend and asks him to dance together one on one

They go to a separate corner away from the group and did a few garba steps

Being a possessive/jealous kinda guy i felt uncomfortable and when we got back home i texted her that i did not like that and felt uncomfortable

To which she says i get it, but it wasn’t a big deal

Maybe it wasn’t but i just cant take this out of my mind since last few hours.

Also, when we reached the venue we first entered into the general area and there was railing separating it from the VIP section

That family friend guy tried to talk to one of the volunteers there to let us into the VIP section just with gestures and the volunteer agreed

When i asked my girlfriend does he know him, she says “nahi vo aise hi baat karke karwa leta hai, seekho kuch huh” turns out the guy’s father gave some money to the volunteer the day before to let them in VIP section

All i want from my girlfriend is to be a lil considerate of my feelings and if iam trying to talk about it and not just sideline it by saying its not a big deal

TL;DR: My girlfriend danced one-on-one with a male family friend in a separate corner at a dandiya event, which made me uncomfortable. I told her how I felt, but she said it wasn’t a big deal. I understand that my jealousy might be a factor, and maybe the situation wasn’t that serious, but I wish she would be a little more considerate of my feelings instead of dismissing them when I try to communicate. Am I overreacting, or is it reasonable to expect more consideration from my partner?

Dating apps feel like hookupDotCom, and I've already had my DU experience. To me, college was the perfect place to meet someone: working together on projects, preparing for exams, doing our assignments, exploring new things, and somewhere along the way, unexpectedly becoming more than just classmates.

Now college is over, and the usual alternatives don't seem much better.

I'm open to dating, I just don't want dating to become a full-time job.

I met a girl during college who kinda raised the bar for me, so maybe that's why dating feels a little harder now.

Any suggestions?

I’m [23F] and I have a boyfriend [23M]. We have been together for a while now and both of our families know. We were in a live in relationship as well. But he is moving to Europe for his Phd and he will return after 4-5 years. I’m planning to get a masters, but I don’t know where.

My family recommend we get married and move abroad and live together, and I can get my masters in EU as well (they don’t know we were in a live in relationship).

My boyfriend was a bit reluctant and so was I. It feels like we are too young. But if I get to go to the same country as him, I think it’s good ? But I’m very confused? Is it too early? Will I regret it?

PS: My parents won’t send me with him if I’m all alone on my own or if we aren’t married

I’m 30M, and I’m in an arranged marriage setup with a 28F. We’ve met several times, and I genuinely like her. However, I’m noticing some things that are making me question whether we’re emotionally compatible and ready for marriage.
Initially, she wasn’t very interested in this match, but gradually things improved, and she started showing interest in me. Things have moved forward, but I still have some concerns.

1. She frequently likes sad reels about her ex.
She has a main Instagram account and a second private account. I don’t have an issue with her having a private account; everyone deserves privacy.
What bothers me is that on her main account, she regularly likes reels about heartbreak, being abandoned by an ex, wondering why he left, and other depressing relationship content. I’m talking about 2–3 such reels almost daily.
I understand that people take time to heal from breakups, and liking reels doesn’t necessarily mean someone still loves their ex. But it makes me wonder whether she’s emotionally ready to move on and build a future with me.

2. She’s very sensitive and gets hurt easily.
She sometimes gets upset over relatively small things and cries easily. I feel she might have some unresolved emotional pain or past trauma, but she’s not comfortable sharing much about it with me.
I don’t expect her to reveal everything about her past, and I don’t want to diagnose her. However, I’m concerned about how we would handle disagreements and stressful situations after marriage.

3. I’m always the one initiating communication.
I almost always initiate calls and messages. She rarely reaches out first.
I understand that people have different communication styles, especially in arranged marriages where feelings may take time to develop. But sometimes I wonder whether she genuinely wants this relationship as much as I do.

4. The effort to meet feels one-sided.
I’ve travelled to her city around 10 times to meet her. She has come to my city only once, and that was to see my house.
I don’t expect everything to be exactly 50–50, but I’d like to feel that she’s also making an effort to spend time with me.
My dilemma:
I genuinely like her, and I don’t want to walk away from a potentially good relationship because of overthinking or insecurities. At the same time, I don’t want to ignore important concerns just because I’m emotionally invested.
I’m particularly worried about whether she’s emotionally available, whether her feelings for me are genuine, and whether the lack of initiative will continue after marriage.
I also recognise that I might be interpreting some things incorrectly. Her private Instagram account, sensitivity, or interest in sad content doesn’t automatically make her dishonest or unsuitable for marriage.

I’d appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have been through arranged marriages or experienced similar situations.
Am I overthinking the Instagram reels, or is it reasonable to discuss emotional readiness with her?
How do I distinguish a reserved person who takes time to open up from someone who isn’t genuinely interested?
Should I continue giving this relationship time, or pause the marriage process until these concerns are resolved?
What conversations should we have before making a lifelong commitment?
I don’t want to judge her unfairly, but I also don’t want to enter a marriage hoping that these issues will magically disappear afterward.

I’m 28M from India, a marine engineer, and I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years. We have a good relationship, she’s loving and caring, and we’re planning to get married next year. I genuinely enjoy being with her and don’t regret choosing her.
The thing is, I’ve always had a tendency to seek out other women. I was in a previous relationship for 6 years and had the same pattern then. Even now, I deliberately use dating apps, flirt with other women and look for opportunities to hook up. I’ve also been with escorts in the past.
It’s not because I’m unhappy with my girlfriend or because something is missing in our relationship. Even when things are going perfectly, I still feel attracted to the idea of being with someone new. I enjoy the chase, the flirting, the sex and the excitement of a new person. I don’t necessarily want another relationship, sometimes I just want someone for sex.
I’ve tried stopping, especially after fights when my girlfriend found chats with other women, but eventually I start again. Honestly, I don’t feel much guilt, and if I knew for certain that she would never find out, I don’t think I’d stop.
I know there’s a double standard here because I would never accept her doing the same thing to me. I want her loyalty, but I also want the freedom to explore other women. I know that’s hypocritical.
I love my girlfriend and want to marry her. At the same time, I feel like I haven’t explored enough sexually and emotionally, and I don’t want to give those experiences up. I don’t want an open relationship either. I want to keep my relationship as it is while having these experiences privately.
I’m not posting this to justify cheating or to get validation. I want to understand why I feel this way, especially when I’m genuinely happy in my relationship.

Our relationship is very new, 2.5 months but it doesn't have any spark or lost all of it recently. I feel like everything he does is halfheartedly. Recently there was an event and I dressed in a traditional form, he complimented me and everything but deep down I wanted him to do something special. Around 1 month I actually asked him to give me flowers out of the blue and he immediately agreed and said he'll buy them tomorrow for me but he actually never did. If I'm ever sad or not feeling well he will show care only by words but never do anything to make my situation better or offer any help. We both work and in the middle of such a hectic schedule I've started feeling that he doesn't make my life any easier or happier. Some days it feels good to see and meet him, other days I don't feel any emotion at all. He is a very good person overall, honest and hardworking but I don't want to continue this at all

I 27F am in a good relationship with a guy since four- five months and everything is fine except the fact that i feel I’m too much into him which makes me want to be touchy touchy with him all the time out of love. He on the other hands also enjoys it but not to my extent and probably gets overstimulated at times. Although I do understand where he is coming from, it still hurts my feelings when he refuses my advances.

What should I do ? Has anyone been in my situation? It’s taking up my mental space and idk what to do. I want him only so don’t want to break up

It was around May when I started working for this company, being new to the corporate, I was nervous and scared yet wanted to give my 110%. A girl (24) comes to me and introduces herself. She was supposed to give me an intro about everything , the company, the project, my role etc. I’m completely focused and trying to understand the project since it was very complex. The girl started including me wherever she could , lunch, her group, and I genuinely felt she’s being real nice to me and I was open to it since she was the only one around my age. We vibed pretty well and then one day she out of nowhere asked me what I thought about her. I casually said I like her, we vibe pretty well so yeah I do. Then she asks do I want to fuck? I was shocked and I couldn’t say anything since she asked this during lunch. Then she said she was kidding and it was a joke. But then later than night she texted me again and asked me if I actually wanted to. So I casually said yes I do, because I thought she must be casually asking again but then she asked me to come over.

And we did. I asked her where this is going she said we can keep it casual, like fwb. So I said if any of us gets attached we’ll stop it and she agreed. We got soo into each other that we were hooking up 3-4 times a week post office and I started staying at her place during weekends as well. After 3 months she went home and posted a pic with a guy to which I asked who he is. She said it was her boyfriend. I said we are hooking up since 3 months and you never said anything, she said it didn’t matter since it was long distance and she liked spending time with me more than talking to him and she enjoyed having sex with me.

I haven’t talked to her since then but now I’m craving that intimacy. I crave everything we had since it was so intense and just the way we both wanted it. Idk how to deal with this. I sometimes keep imagining all those things in the middle of the office too.

My partner had apparently made several “sister-like” friends through dating apps who eventually became his chief advisors, despite him refusing to acknowledge their influence. I believe one of them couldn’t stand seeing how deeply he loved and prioritised me, especially when she lacked that kind of love and devotion in her own life. Perhaps seeing him genuinely happy and invested in me triggered her jealousy, prompting her to subtly plant doubts, distort perceptions, and influence how he viewed me. What makes it worse is that he seems incapable of recognising how supposedly well-meaning outsiders could have shaped his opinions, amplified my flaws, and undermined our relationship. I believe he was manipulated into seeing me differently, yet he will probably never acknowledge that someone he trusted may have played a role in turning him against me.

So I (32/M) have been talking to this girl for the past 2 months. We met through arranged marriage setup,have met only once though since we live in different cities. We don't have many common interests, but as far as we have talked i found her to be pretty nice. Now the things are moving pretty fast, like families are planning next steps. But the problem is I like her, but I don't know if I am able to see her as a lover yet. It's not like I don't like something about her or I have found any faults in her. I have had a bad breakup a few years back and I haven't been in a relationship ever since. I like her character and family is also quite nice. So married guys, please help!!

Should I proceed further? Does love really happen after marriage?

I don't want to miss out on someone who is really nice and have a good character.At the same time don't want to spoil our lives too!!

Hi Guys,
So I have a very close friend who got married Nov last year.
She had a love marriage.
They were also living together for almost 6 months before getting married.
We always found her husband to be pretentious and someone who has a lot of rage but carefully hides it.
She confessed to us that he pushes her in rage.
Last sunday,they had some disagreement and when she was going to the washroom to cry,her husband pulled her,took her to their bedroom,shut the door and the curtain and pushed her and she hurt her head.There were blood clots on her wrists as well.
And then the guy sat down and started crying saying he will take therapy and handle things because he has some childhood trauma.And she told this was the 4th incident so far.

He drinks a lot with his friends,sometimes goes to the gym and then straight away goes to his friend’s house and comes back at like 12-1 am while my friend has dinners alone while waiting for him and eventually she goes to sleep.

We were also hanging out with her and her husband’s friends where one of his friend’s gf told that she was there in the party which my friend’s husband had claimed to be a boy’s night and when confronted he told” you wouldn’t let me drink and enjoy”.My friend had tears in her eyes.

Thing is he is also forcing her to get pregnant and they have also bought a home together now.
She is unwilling to tell her parents about it because they will stress out and her father is a heart patient.

Sorry for ranting but what do you guys suggest in such a scenario?

Me (22M) and my gf (22F) have been together for 3 years, and our relationship is great apart from one issue.

She wants to wait until marriage for physical intimacy, and I completely respect her decision. However, I have strong sex drive and msturbate around twice a week while watching p*rn.

Her problem is that she wants me to stop watching p*rn completely, but I'm not comfortable agreeing to that. I'm not addicted, and it doesn't affect my daily life.

N*des and intimate video calls aren't an option because she's uncomfortable with them, which I respect.

Sometimes she gets upset about this, and I don't know how to resolve it. I love her, but I also think my feelings matter.

Am I wrong here? Is this a compatibility issue, or can we find a middle ground? I'd appreciate honest opinions.

Hi, I’m 26 years old and need some advice. I’ve been in a relationship since 2023 with a girl who truly loves me. We’re really compatible, we care deeply for each other, and hardly ever fight. Overall, I feel happy and lucky to have her in my life.

But there’s something that’s been bothering me. We come from very different financial backgrounds—her family is extremely rich, like 100 times richer than mine, maybe even more. I don’t care about caste or status, but I’ve heard things during our calls conversations, her mom, sisters, or other family members are classist—that make me feel anxious. They seem to look down on people who aren’t as wealthy, and I fear being judged by them, not just now but also in the future when it comes to marriage, family expectations, and living standards.

This really gets to me because I’m quite sensitive when people judge me for things beyond my control. I often end up feeling really bad, even if I haven’t done anything wrong. The thing is, my girlfriend is nothing like them—she’s kind, understanding, and doesn’t treat me any differently because of where I come from. But I still worry a lot about how her family sees me and whether I’ll ever be “enough” for them.

I’m sharing this because I genuinely want to understand what really matters in the long run. Has anyone faced something similar? How do I deal with these feelings of insecurity and judgment? What should I focus on moving forward?

Has anyone dealth with this? What did you do?