r/PoursTea • u/Veshaad Timendi Causa Est Nescire • 8h ago

⚠️Trigger Warning⚠️ There's a clear difference.

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u/Moonlitfloraz 8h ago

Exactly! It’s not about agreeing with someone politically cause nobody deserves to be physically attracted for their beliefs. You can disagree with someone without resorting to violence

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u/Hazeharmonyx 7h ago

Woman can’t even be safe in there own house anymore and that’s very bad

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u/eris_kallisti 7h ago

When were women safe in their own homes? Isn't most violence against women perpetrated by partners or family?

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u/InevitableHorror1342 7h ago

Most violence on most people is perpetrated by partners, family or someone they know personally.

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u/No-Guard-7003 7h ago

Never. Yes, most violence against women is perpetrated by partners or family. 

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u/M_A_D-Dominatrix 7h ago

"Anymore"- uhhhh when were we safe in our own homes? In the past when father's would sell their daughters into marriage? Or the eras where people believed rape can't exist within marriage? When they were making laws & regulations on what you can & cant beat your wife with? Or the days when they'd be accused of witch craft for being an herbalist or midwife on the outskirts of town? Pellets, tell me of this mythical time

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u/andthensilencefell 6h ago

Around the same time straight people were oppressed enough to require straight pride events I imagine.

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u/ArtemisiaOrthia 7h ago

Yes they can. Don't doomspiral just because of some violence somewhere else. You are safe in your own home 99% of the time unless you have violent partners or roommates.

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u/VinesOverScars 7h ago

I hate to be that person, but what % of women live or have lived with violent partners? 

About 1 in 3. Is the answer 

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u/ArtemisiaOrthia 6h ago

And that's a real problem that we have to work together to solve. But panicking or thinking you're always going to have to be in "survival" mode, even in your own home, is not productive or healthy. Being a feminist isn't about being afraid of men and broad statistics, it's about dismantling the systems that encourage all that violence.

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u/disdkatster 6h ago

I am very sorry to break this to you but most violence against women is done by a man they know in their own home. It has gotten worse with the overt anti-women's rights preached by the GOP.

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u/ArtemisiaOrthia 6h ago

Oh, I know. I'm just saying that panicking or spiraling and saying things like "Women can't even be safe in their own homes anymore" is not helpful to the person saying them or anyone believing them. And it might be a language issue, because when someone says "their own home" I am picturing a person living alone or holding more power in the household.

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u/barrosoOso 5h ago

But this is like saying that if they don't live alone or "hold more power" then they don't live in "their own home"

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u/ArtemisiaOrthia 5h ago

Maybe. Just a quirk in how I think about that phrase. If I said "my own home" while living with roommates or partner(s), that seems wrong to me. I would say "In our own home" or "in my roommates'/polycule's home."

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u/Hazeharmonyx 7h ago

Apparently we can’t say the same thing for women in other countries take Afghanistan as an example

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u/ArtemisiaOrthia 7h ago

No, we can't. And that's sad and worthy of whatever help we can give while we're in our own storm. But you and me and other women are not suddenly at risk of violence or death in our own homes. We have agency and ability. Panic/hysteria is the mind-killer.