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27M USA.

Looking to start my No Fap journey. Addicted to masturbation because I haven’t had a girlfriend in a while. Looking for a partner or someone to chat with to start my journey, preferably around my age/location.

Thanks

So I was on nofap the last 10 days. Mostly just semen retention as I was attempting to train my skin to improve skin level pleasure, but fully stroking was a no go. I know my sensitivity seems weak and always assumed I just fapped too much and needed to fix things with nofap. It's mostly pleasurable, but internally not skin level pleasure. I've been using this lotion for repairing skin as I already had it thinking it would help. Seemed the same. I was also feathering with this feather and using a feathering like touch with hands/caressing to attempt to train the skin. Just helped arousal not pleasure on the skin.

Well last night I showered and decided to try this CeraVe foaming face cleanser I already had to clean down there and used my hands to make sure it gets good. Nothing sexual just cleaning of course. Usually I use my regular body wash with a loofa type thing and it was just regular washing. never noticed anything different . Not the scratchy plant based one but a softer version. Well after using CeraVe my sensitivity was way better. I tried to put the lotion on thinking I needed it so I don't dry out after washing, but It actually dulled the pleasure when I tried training so I went and washed it off with the cera ve.

I went from like 2/10 to like 5 or 6 level of pleasure. I ended up relapsing as it was a huge improvement but it's ok I'm starting over as I'm going on vacation. Won't be touching or being involved with anything relating to pmo for the next week. For me this was to improve skin level pleasure sensitivity.

If you guys are struggling with sensitivity you might need to find a soap that helps you down there and the lotion you are using may not be what you need. Obviously if touching is too much for you then be cautious. For me I haven't felt a level of improvement in a long time and I'm talking years so i kind of failed due to that but it's a learning lesson.

Just thought I'd speak on my situation and what I learned about it. Hope it helps someone

Day 2, today I felt great but now I'm getting crazy urges and I just got home 💔

16 october 2026

6:14am MYT

It’s crazy how tempting it is, been home alone a few hours and every time I finish something my mind immediately jumps to porn and masturbation as what I should do next. It’s crazy, it just is there, unavoidable. I was doing better a couple years ago and I know how easy it is to slip really far backwards. I’m not giving up and I’m usually really positive but this is hard and I’m scared by how much I have to fight it.

This evening, once again, I have foolishly tripped, all the while my sanity feeling slipped. All the while, my family is unaware, it is repulsive to me, that I hide like a hare. "Why, why do I continue?" I say, the reason eludes me and still runs away, The cause of my choice, I can't understand, or why it keeps on, although the feeling is bland. Dreaming, dreaming, dream I still do, of the day I break the cycle, and lie under a sky most blue. The sounds of cool waters, the warmth of the sun, that is why I keep going, and why I still run. And the tall palm trees, of a most beautiful sight, I hope to one day see, and stand under that sun so bright. So once again, I draw my sword, alert and aware, I then hop on my horse, get on the road, and have on my face a most determined glare.

Everything goes well in life, but the only thing that carries me again down is mastrubation. I seriously want to stop it , I think I know how to do it , but also then the temptations take control . I've been trying for a year now to be honest, dome for a month and then again relapsed. Please, if anybody can give me any advice I'll try it.

Day 1 down, not sure how to feel, on one hand I want to be clean and on the other I don’t see much point in carrying on, if anyone wants feel free to dm as I find helping people helps me

Peeking even for the slightest stuff is evil!
The brain is thirsty for any dopamine. So don’t allow it. Don’t stay alone.

Like, songs to comeback stronger!

I’m a 22-year-old man. I don’t have friends, and I’m not in school. Nothing is really going on in my life. I stay home all day, and it’s been a year since I last left the house properly. I spend my days gaming, watching anime and movies, and reading fiction. I eat when I remember to. If I’m motivated enough, I clean the house or go outside, but never far, just across the street or to the convenience store to look around. Sometimes I go out at night to look at the stars and wonder what’s going on with my life and when something will finally happen to me.

I’ve tried many times to improve myself, but nothing lasted. Everything fell back to the beginning. The only thing that might save me is writing novels. I love writing them, and reading my readers’ comments gives me a sense of fulfillment, among other feelings.

My life is comfortable, and that’s probably why I want something to change. My family is kind. They work abroad, so only my brother and I are left in the house. I have almost everything other people dream of, except friends, a girlfriend, and a life outside. But I feel guilty. The country where my family works is at war, and I’m worried about them. Their jobs have been affected, and I keep asking them for money anyway. Tonight I was about to masturbate, and I choked myself because I didn’t know what was wrong with me. My mom and my sister are struggling out there in a war zone while I’m sitting here, overweight, jerking off to a screen. I hate myself. I keep trying to change things, but nothing seems to happen.

Fuck my life.

I... I'm a 14 year old, and my birthday is in a month. I've been doing this shit for so long it hurts. For a while it was on the backburner, but now it's taken over my life. Every time I would relapse I would listen to Weezer's Pinkerton, but now... Now I can't do a single fucking thing. My dopamine is fucked, my Attention span is fucked, and my pelvic floor is fucked. I have gooned to so much nasty shit... I've discovered fetishes that make me want to vomit.

But now...

I got a girlfriend and I want to be there for her, especially as she's planning on us becoming more sexually active. I've tried pornblockers, distractions, but nothing's worked. I need a partner.

I... Please... Anybody?

Currently on day 6, and today has been the worst day so far since I’ve started. Reddit is a trigger for me tbh so please only reach out if you’re able to talk on a different platform. Was hoping to find someone who I can talk too to help me get through this and maybe someone older than me who is experienced. I’m 22 years old and in the us. Feel free to dm if you can talk. Thanks guys.

Working from home is crazy when it comes to NoFap.

It's, actually hopeless. Like, how am I supposed to beat this addiction, when:

1)the people around me are (secretly) addiction

2)the majority says it is normal and part of the body's function

3)the internet oversexualizes (literally) everything

4)algorithms are pushing this type of content (because it gets a lot of attention)

5)it's FREE and available EVERYWHERE (and easily accessible)

6)I already destroyed my mind watching this content

7)every urge that hits turns into a tormenting psychological and physical battle

8)curiosity can't stop having it's way

9)the determination and methods go wasted after 2 days

10)I realize that there is just no way back

11),the worst, I have no one close to trust them with my addiction.

I'm really scared that I won't be a normal human being anymore. I just cant stop looking at women's bodies and I'm afraid that it's starting to change my sexual preferences against my will.

There is no salvation. I'm doomed to live this way from now on.

I want to stop but I’m relapsing bad right now please help

My thoughts have been deeply introspective and sometimes irrational. My sleep is not getting better. It’s not that I’m tempted I just feel like I’m going crazy. I’m juggling a lot right now and it’s hard to stay on track when I feel like this. I even forget things more than I used to. Sex and my relationship with my girlfriend is hard too. I feel detached and I’m just trying to make it through this awkward stage in my life. I want to have sex at random times and sometimes it gives me so much anxiety that I can’t get it up. I’ve never had that problem before.

On the bright side though for the first time in my life I feel like I’m truly living. Everything just seems so meaningful. It’s almost like I’ve elevated my consciousness and it’s difficult for me to get used to.

Don't send weird pics or all, it's could be cool to have motivation. I have some Ai addiction and I'm constantly edging because of this. So yeah I'm kinda struggling

I don't know, I can't stop m23

Daily check in. Work went well. After work, I took a relaxing walk. When I got home, I played Minecraft and then read some comics. I’m still standing!

The thing is that I know there is hell loads of porn on reddit and I peeked and fell deeper and deeper and ended up convincing myself to do the deed.

Why the fuck does it feel so empty the second you've done it.

Please help suggest me ways

I cannot go past 1 day

This is the longest streak I’ve had in months so my urges are insane right now and I can’t get them to go away even with distractions. Could really use some advice or help

Hey everyone, I was on this app before and I decided to quit porn for my gf a while ago. Quitting was easy as she stayed home with me (she wasn't working at that time) a lot when I quit and I didn't have enough alone time to relapse.

But since she started to work again it got a lot harder to control my own mind even though I thought I'm over all of that. 🥺

It turned into a real struggle whenever she was gone but I got over it after a while.. until now.

At one point I decided to delete the app but now I had to download it again because I really need help.😥

I really could need someone to talk to or to distract me for a while as I can't get my mind to stop thinking about things that I don't wanna think about.😢