I picked up video gaming after my dead end work day to deal with stress only to revert into my old ways of dealing with stress. I belong to male dominated workspace yet i see adverts of women in skimpy outfits, be it game characters, reddit, be it X, be it billboards, TV channels and my lizard brain goes against all odds to break my discipline/ consistency.

I workout 4 days/week and i couldn't find an outlet for my testosterone. I stare at the mirror only to find soulless glassy eyes filled with self loathing. I mostly refrain from hiring escorts but still do it once a year. I refuse to find a girlfriend because the dating scene is nowhere what it was. I'm lucky to have my own place so I'm self reliant other than my compulsive sexual behaviour that I do my best to keep in check. It was worse few years back.

I spent half a decade in controlling my impulses, turned to religion, picked swimming only to achieve this pathetic result of self improvement. I guess some are cursed to never recover from raw sexual stimulation acquired by watching hardcore pornography resulting from loneliness and crippling existential dread. I can only punish myself by increasing my 4 day workout into 7 days for this and upcoming week to serve as a deterrent.

I just had one of the best weeks of my life with lots of good connection but I went limp during PIV with my lady a couple times.

She was very understanding and she knows how to get my head back in the game (punny), but that shit’s still embarrassing and emasculating.

I blame it on edging.

I haven’t been watching hardcore P for quite a few weeks now but I still fall to edging and softcore/solo content from gf or online.

The constant change from hard to soft and back to hard during edging sessions really messed with my nerves, I feel. Like, my shark is more used to fluctuating for a super long period of time than to staying hard for a reasonable period of time

P and edging are now tied for enemy #1 in my life.

It’s not the subs fault but it’s become a place where literally every guy that tells you to dm them or they dm you, talk to you like normal then after some chats they say they’re struggling too and start sending non nudes before they start sending porn links or pics 🤦‍♂️

Woke up, having a stressful morning, around 2am, I tried to go back to sleep, but I was so stressed but I got up and chose to watch the "forbidden fruit"

A seed had been planted in my mind the day prior when I had gotten curious about the "forbidden fruit."

Now im sitting here wondering what to do next, Im pretty sure my mood will be down the next couple of days.

How do you deal with getting stressed out in the morning?

Hello all,

Recovery going for well for me right now-hope yours are too.

I think the second stage of my recovery is dealing with sexuality, women, lust, nudity, sex, scantily clad clothing, etc. In the real world, away from the screen.

I find it very difficult in situations where there are attractive women, in skimpy clothing, discussing sex/relationships etc. I also find it challenging going to hobbies and clubs, for my genuine interests, only to have attractive women there and remind me of my sexless/relationshipless situation.

Overall, I think I put them on a pedestal as some kind of untouchable goddess, with no flaws.

With long-term NoFap recovery, have your feelings and emotions changed in this regard? Do you see women are humans, with flaws too? Sexualise them less? More comfortable in the situstions above?

Thanks 👍 ​​

I... I'm a 14 year old, and my birthday is in a month. I've been doing this shit for so long it hurts. For a while it was on the backburner, but now it's taken over my life. Every time I would relapse I would listen to Weezer's Pinkerton, but now... Now I can't do a single fucking thing. My dopamine is fucked, my Attention span is fucked, and my pelvic floor is fucked. I have gooned to so much nasty shit... I've discovered fetishes that make me want to vomit.

But now...

I got a girlfriend and I want to be there for her, especially as she's planning on us becoming more sexually active. I've tried pornblockers, distractions, but nothing's worked. I need a partner.

I... Please... Anybody?

Share your experiences

Peeking even for the slightest stuff is evil!
The brain is thirsty for any dopamine. So don’t allow it. Don’t stay alone.

Daily check in. Work went well. After work, I took a relaxing walk. When I got home, I played Minecraft and then read some comics. I’m still standing!

I’m a 22-year-old man. I don’t have friends, and I’m not in school. Nothing is really going on in my life. I stay home all day, and it’s been a year since I last left the house properly. I spend my days gaming, watching anime and movies, and reading fiction. I eat when I remember to. If I’m motivated enough, I clean the house or go outside, but never far, just across the street or to the convenience store to look around. Sometimes I go out at night to look at the stars and wonder what’s going on with my life and when something will finally happen to me.

I’ve tried many times to improve myself, but nothing lasted. Everything fell back to the beginning. The only thing that might save me is writing novels. I love writing them, and reading my readers’ comments gives me a sense of fulfillment, among other feelings.

My life is comfortable, and that’s probably why I want something to change. My family is kind. They work abroad, so only my brother and I are left in the house. I have almost everything other people dream of, except friends, a girlfriend, and a life outside. But I feel guilty. The country where my family works is at war, and I’m worried about them. Their jobs have been affected, and I keep asking them for money anyway. Tonight I was about to masturbate, and I choked myself because I didn’t know what was wrong with me. My mom and my sister are struggling out there in a war zone while I’m sitting here, overweight, jerking off to a screen. I hate myself. I keep trying to change things, but nothing seems to happen.

Fuck my life.

16 october 2026

6:14am MYT

No one loves me and I hate myself. I'm nothing. What's the point

It’s crazy how tempting it is, been home alone a few hours and every time I finish something my mind immediately jumps to porn and masturbation as what I should do next. It’s crazy, it just is there, unavoidable. I was doing better a couple years ago and I know how easy it is to slip really far backwards. I’m not giving up and I’m usually really positive but this is hard and I’m scared by how much I have to fight it.

Day 1 down, not sure how to feel, on one hand I want to be clean and on the other I don’t see much point in carrying on, if anyone wants feel free to dm as I find helping people helps me

After doing this for 6 years, constantly promising myself I’d stop, relapsing, stopping, and failing again, I decided to make this post to truly wake myself up and let my subconscious know this ends here. Wish me luck and positive energy ;)

Currently on day 6, and today has been the worst day so far since I’ve started. Reddit is a trigger for me tbh so please only reach out if you’re able to talk on a different platform. Was hoping to find someone who I can talk too to help me get through this and maybe someone older than me who is experienced. I’m 22 years old and in the us. Feel free to dm if you can talk. Thanks guys.

I want to stop but I’m relapsing bad right now please help

The thing is that I know there is hell loads of porn on reddit and I peeked and fell deeper and deeper and ended up convincing myself to do the deed.

Why the fuck does it feel so empty the second you've done it.

Please help suggest me ways

I cannot go past 1 day

You get out as much as what you put in. No two ways about it. It is not meant to be easy. Simply just do your absolute best.

I know ill regret it and feel dirty after but how long does it take before it gets easier

Currently at the doctors for a check up. Doctor is female. Hopefully I don’t get a boner. That would be so embarrassing

Talk about struggles

What works and what doesn’t