Are you out here? That funny, clever, flirt of a girl? Maybe life’s just gotten in the way and you don’t feel those things anymore?

I’m looking for a friend. Possibly more. Someone I can talk to. Someone who is kind, smart, disarm me with a smile or your wit. I want someone who is genuine, and knows who they are.

I am a big bearded teddy bear. I shave my head bald. I have deep hazel eyes. I am a big guy (300ish pounds, 6’ tall), but I’m very strong and I am working out daily. I have one of those faces that draws people in. I’m the type of guy a stranger can walk up to and strike a deep meaningful conversation. My girl friends say I’m handsome.

I don’t like talking about myself 🙃. But I am smart. I’m kind. Very empathetic. I have high emotional intelligence. I am professionally successful, I have built my career for lots of flexibility and work life balance.

I am happy to stay in a read a book. I am happy to go out to a nice restaurant and have a night on the town. I like fires and hanging with friends. I have a wide variety of interests. I love hockey. I love gaming with friends. I enjoy a good board game.

I am lean more of the extraverted sides of the spectrum.

Maybe life is hard right now. Maybe you just need a friend you can talk to ground you. Maybe you are looking for more. I hope we find eachother.

i hate that im back here but alas… life can be bitter sweet.. \#notabot

i wont waste too much of your time so ill save the deep conversation for private messages…

about me.
-physically im tall (6ft).. about 215lbs… a sprinters body.. muscular and lean. drug and disease free. i drinks socially… maybe one or two a month? one parent is irish .. the other is from the south of spain… but can pass for north african. i was born in the states and have been in socal my entire life.. im left leaning politically and have traveled a lot.. so im a lover of all cultures and peoples. i do have my bachelors (finance) and have a stable career. not making a ton of money but the job is recession/lay off proof.

my desires- i dont care about age, size, ethnicity, fashion etc… personality is everything to me.
id like to meet one person, i can connect with who actually has a PULSE. someone with personality… hobbies… a high libido… someone who is positive and humerus… a person to match my energy and who i leave feeling better about the day after communicating or spending time with .. someone who can carry a conversation, who can make small talk and banter but who can also get deep at times

… my free times to hang in person are usually any evening after 5pm… im local to the los angeles and orange county area (i dont mind driving)… and i can stay out as late as needed..texting and communicating is ok with me all day long…

im big on mental health and being a good human. im not here to play games, waste time or energy or lead anyone one. if i find someone who i click with.. im all im. effort, attention, accountability.. and im looking for the same effort in return

if you would like to know more or exchange pics dont hesitate to message

Hi there Reddit!

I’m 44, married and open for the last 8 or so years. I’d love to find a new online BFF. I value the vanilla relationship just as much as the dirty, and I much prefer an ongoing connection. Compassion and empathy are key, and connection is critical.

As the title suggests, I have a ton of hobbies/interests, and I’m always looking for more of them. Some of them are cooking, cocktails, whiskey, DIY, woodworking, working out. I love movies/film, books and music is life.

PHYSICAL DESCRIPTION!

I’m conventionally attractive, 5’10”, 185lbs with brown hair and brown eyes. I like to stay in shape but don’t care about being cut, jacked or whatever. I don’t have any piercings or tattoos. My celebrity dopplehanger is Harvey from suits. Im definitely not a narcissist attorney though.

Ideally I’d like to find a stable partner, I can be monogamous in my non monogamy. My wife is aware and she does her own thing as well. If this sounds interesting, shoot me a note!

(Apologies in advance for this lengthy post… you have been warned…)

Ok, I am really starting to wonder if this is the right place to try to find a real long-term connection with a woman. Yes I am married (hopefully this will satisfy the mods), and yes I am an older man (61 MWM), so the number of responses I will get on a post are 1-2, maybe 3 if I’m lucky. And recently those responses have cover the spectrum of scammers (including two women who used someone else’s photos… yes, there’s an easy way to check that), unhinged women (someone tried to blame me for what’s happening in the world right now, just because I’m a white man), and way too many ghosters - why can’t we all be adults and just say we’re no longer interested?!?

I have actually made a great connection on here before - it started last December, lasted 6 months, and it was wonderful! But ever since coming back on here, trying to find my next great affair partner, the whole thing has become a hot mess! Now, have I made some mistakes on here? Yes I have. But why has this become so difficult? Is it time for me to find another way to meet a woman for an emotional and physical affair?

Well I try to always be optimistic and positive in the midst of whatever life throws my way. So I will continue the pursuit… continue trying to find a woman who is in a similar situation as mine (failing marriage where passion and desire are gone; tired of feeling alone, unappreciated and taken for granted; and many more reasons), to just start talking and have some fun getting to know each other better. And if after that we decide it’s just not a good match, we will wish each other all the best in their search, and move on. But hopefully we won’t need to have that talk, and we will find what we have both been looking for in each other.

So as I start to wrap up this rambling post, let me give you some more about myself. I hope I have established that I’m a real man - *notabot …and does saying this in a post actually work?!? I’m a father of several kids / young adults, live in Phoenix, AZ, and work from home playing with numbers - I’m a data analyst for a large corporation. When I’m not working, I enjoy walking and hiking, sports (baseball and football are my favorites), and binging a good show online.

I’m 5’9”, 200 lbs, with brown hair, blue eyes and glasses. I’m clean, DDF, and a non-smoker. I have been on a health journey, and can share more about that with you after we connect.

Please be from the U.S., and reasonably close to my age…and for the younger ladies reading this - no, 19 is NOT reasonably close. Discretion is important. We can share pics after we connect, and I’m open to moving this chat elsewhere if/when you’re ready.

That’s it, that’s my post… thank you for making it to the end, and I hope to see a message in my DM’s from you. Have a great day!

*notabot
*notabuyer

Anyone else get a sudden sinking feeling that you might be a damn fool posting here? Just me? 🤷🏻 

Posted a few weeks ago, felt like hit on start of real connection. Then back to silence. Well…maybe I’m stupid, maybe I’m crazy, but here I go again. 

Before get to rambly rambling, not my first journey down this road. While didn’t meet here I have had ongoing situationship (still a thing?) previously.

I’m a 41 year old married white man, 5’10, 200 with strong/athletic build, brown hair/eyes, large tattoo on one arm and thick, girthy 7.5 €@€% (Look, only one chance for first impression!) Professional, educated, ddf, very easy going with a dry sense of humor. Sense I get is in the handsome/good looking type…DILF status maybe? Work out 4-6 days a week - weights, bike, yoga, blah blah etc. 

Live in Ohio - Cincinnati to be specific - though do travel for work. That includes other parts of Ohio. When in town schedule tends to be very flexible as I WFH same when on business trips. While open to someone located a little further out, ideally you’d be within 20-30 minutes of city. Ultimately, wouldn’t it be best if we are able to maximize the time we have?

Not going too deep into the “oh woe life is bleak” deal. Honestly, for most part things are good.  However. There is a constant voice in back of my head that craves something…more. Let’s call it a feeling that can’t shake this pull to find someone to fill the missing pieces. Ideally an intelligent, funny, easy going and sexy woman who is craving passion and connection. 

Did any of this rant stir some curiosity or hit a shared feeling you’re having? Well then hell please go ahead and reach out! Glad to chat here/elsewhere for now. Definitely hope can graduate to actually talking/voice messages…maybe little ‘flirting’. Ideally we’d grab coffee or something similar to make sure feeling the attraction/connection. And then…

I’m 1.78 m tall, with a lean, athletic build, broad shoulders, a trim waist, short dark hair, dark eyes, strong eyebrows, a defined jaw, straight nose, and neatly trimmed dark facial hair. I tend to look serious until I smile, which happens fairly easily around the right person.

I’m rather fond of the parts of life that are better kept between two people. Discretion matters to me because I value privacy, and because anticipation is far more enjoyable when it belongs to the people actually involved. I have a calm life, a curious mind, and a sensual side that appears naturally when I’m comfortable with someone.

I’m drawn to women with depth—quietly confident, mischievous, reserved at first, or capable of turning an ordinary conversation into two hours without either of us noticing. I enjoy good conversation, subtle flirting, lingering looks, and the tension that develops when two people are both aware of it and neither needs to announce it.

Where you come from matters less to me than maturity, curiosity, attraction, and the way we fit together when the outside world becomes pleasantly irrelevant.

Tell me what caught your attention in the headline, and one thing about you that might make me want to keep talking.

I will be visiting Las Vegas on the strip and have some free time during the day on 10/23 and would love to find someone to spend some time with and have some fun.

Married so discretion is obviously required and I am unable to host.

White, 5’7”, short blonde hair, blue eyes, 190, alternate between clean shaven and some trimmed scruff, work out a few times a week and feeling good about the progress, hairy chest, one easily concealed tattoo, I have heard more than one compliment on my voice (for whatever that is worth). My profile is adult in nature if you decide to give a look. My sense of humor is all over the map so whatever you got, I’m probably good to go!

Chat is open so feel free to toss a message if you’re interested or have questions.

Discreet (as I'm married), respectful, DDF. Big on hygiene and clear communication. Looking for a compatible woman for a relaxed, zero-pressure escape from the daily grind.

6'4, tall, average build, 205lbs, big hands and feet, keep active weekly. HWP. Brown hair, green eyes, white.

We can start with drinks or coffee to test the vibe, or skip straight to a comfortable private spot for long massages, unwinding, and letting chemistry take the lead.

Zero pressure, no games, no rushing, no drama. Attentive and unhurried. I'm 6'4" and active. Happy to swap pics early.

If you're local to Los Angeles, DM me with a bit about yourself and how you like to unwind.