Are you out here? That funny, clever, flirt of a girl? Maybe life’s just gotten in the way and you don’t feel those things anymore?

I’m looking for a friend. Possibly more. Someone I can talk to. Someone who is kind, smart, disarm me with a smile or your wit. I want someone who is genuine, and knows who they are.

I am a big bearded teddy bear. I shave my head bald. I have deep hazel eyes. I am a big guy (300ish pounds, 6’ tall), but I’m very strong and I am working out daily. I have one of those faces that draws people in. I’m the type of guy a stranger can walk up to and strike a deep meaningful conversation. My girl friends say I’m handsome.

I don’t like talking about myself 🙃. But I am smart. I’m kind. Very empathetic. I have high emotional intelligence. I am professionally successful, I have built my career for lots of flexibility and work life balance.

I am happy to stay in a read a book. I am happy to go out to a nice restaurant and have a night on the town. I like fires and hanging with friends. I have a wide variety of interests. I love hockey. I love gaming with friends. I enjoy a good board game.

I am lean more of the extraverted sides of the spectrum.

Maybe life is hard right now. Maybe you just need a friend you can talk to ground you. Maybe you are looking for more. I hope we find eachother.

Hi there Reddit!

I’m 44, married and open for the last 8 or so years. I’d love to find a new online BFF. I value the vanilla relationship just as much as the dirty, and I much prefer an ongoing connection. Compassion and empathy are key, and connection is critical.

As the title suggests, I have a ton of hobbies/interests, and I’m always looking for more of them. Some of them are cooking, cocktails, whiskey, DIY, woodworking, working out. I love movies/film, books and music is life.

PHYSICAL DESCRIPTION!

I’m conventionally attractive, 5’10”, 185lbs with brown hair and brown eyes. I like to stay in shape but don’t care about being cut, jacked or whatever. I don’t have any piercings or tattoos. My celebrity dopplehanger is Harvey from suits. Im definitely not a narcissist attorney though.

Ideally I’d like to find a stable partner, I can be monogamous in my non monogamy. My wife is aware and she does her own thing as well. If this sounds interesting, shoot me a note!

(Apologies in advance for this lengthy post… you have been warned…)

Ok, I am really starting to wonder if this is the right place to try to find a real long-term connection with a woman. Yes I am married (hopefully this will satisfy the mods), and yes I am an older man (61 MWM), so the number of responses I will get on a post are 1-2, maybe 3 if I’m lucky. And recently those responses have cover the spectrum of scammers (including two women who used someone else’s photos… yes, there’s an easy way to check that), unhinged women (someone tried to blame me for what’s happening in the world right now, just because I’m a white man), and way too many ghosters - why can’t we all be adults and just say we’re no longer interested?!?

I have actually made a great connection on here before - it started last December, lasted 6 months, and it was wonderful! But ever since coming back on here, trying to find my next great affair partner, the whole thing has become a hot mess! Now, have I made some mistakes on here? Yes I have. But why has this become so difficult? Is it time for me to find another way to meet a woman for an emotional and physical affair?

Well I try to always be optimistic and positive in the midst of whatever life throws my way. So I will continue the pursuit… continue trying to find a woman who is in a similar situation as mine (failing marriage where passion and desire are gone; tired of feeling alone, unappreciated and taken for granted; and many more reasons), to just start talking and have some fun getting to know each other better. And if after that we decide it’s just not a good match, we will wish each other all the best in their search, and move on. But hopefully we won’t need to have that talk, and we will find what we have both been looking for in each other.

So as I start to wrap up this rambling post, let me give you some more about myself. I hope I have established that I’m a real man - *notabot …and does saying this in a post actually work?!? I’m a father of several kids / young adults, live in Phoenix, AZ, and work from home playing with numbers - I’m a data analyst for a large corporation. When I’m not working, I enjoy walking and hiking, sports (baseball and football are my favorites), and binging a good show online.

I’m 5’9”, 200 lbs, with brown hair, blue eyes and glasses. I’m clean, DDF, and a non-smoker. I have been on a health journey, and can share more about that with you after we connect.

Please be from the U.S., and reasonably close to my age…and for the younger ladies reading this - no, 19 is NOT reasonably close. Discretion is important. We can share pics after we connect, and I’m open to moving this chat elsewhere if/when you’re ready.

That’s it, that’s my post… thank you for making it to the end, and I hope to see a message in my DM’s from you. Have a great day!

*notabot
*notabuyer

Anyone else get a sudden sinking feeling that you might be a damn fool posting here? Just me? 🤷🏻 

Posted a few weeks ago, felt like hit on start of real connection. Then back to silence. Well…maybe I’m stupid, maybe I’m crazy, but here I go again. 

Before get to rambly rambling, not my first journey down this road. While didn’t meet here I have had ongoing situationship (still a thing?) previously.

I’m a 41 year old married white man, 5’10, 200 with strong/athletic build, brown hair/eyes, large tattoo on one arm and thick, girthy 7.5 €@€% (Look, only one chance for first impression!) Professional, educated, ddf, very easy going with a dry sense of humor. Sense I get is in the handsome/good looking type…DILF status maybe? Work out 4-6 days a week - weights, bike, yoga, blah blah etc. 

Live in Ohio - Cincinnati to be specific - though do travel for work. That includes other parts of Ohio. When in town schedule tends to be very flexible as I WFH same when on business trips. While open to someone located a little further out, ideally you’d be within 20-30 minutes of city. Ultimately, wouldn’t it be best if we are able to maximize the time we have?

Not going too deep into the “oh woe life is bleak” deal. Honestly, for most part things are good.  However. There is a constant voice in back of my head that craves something…more. Let’s call it a feeling that can’t shake this pull to find someone to fill the missing pieces. Ideally an intelligent, funny, easy going and sexy woman who is craving passion and connection. 

Did any of this rant stir some curiosity or hit a shared feeling you’re having? Well then hell please go ahead and reach out! Glad to chat here/elsewhere for now. Definitely hope can graduate to actually talking/voice messages…maybe little ‘flirting’. Ideally we’d grab coffee or something similar to make sure feeling the attraction/connection. And then…

I’m 1.78 m tall, with a lean, athletic build, broad shoulders, a trim waist, short dark hair, dark eyes, strong eyebrows, a defined jaw, straight nose, and neatly trimmed dark facial hair. I tend to look serious until I smile, which happens fairly easily around the right person.

I’m rather fond of the parts of life that are better kept between two people. Discretion matters to me because I value privacy, and because anticipation is far more enjoyable when it belongs to the people actually involved. I have a calm life, a curious mind, and a sensual side that appears naturally when I’m comfortable with someone.

I’m drawn to women with depth—quietly confident, mischievous, reserved at first, or capable of turning an ordinary conversation into two hours without either of us noticing. I enjoy good conversation, subtle flirting, lingering looks, and the tension that develops when two people are both aware of it and neither needs to announce it.

Where you come from matters less to me than maturity, curiosity, attraction, and the way we fit together when the outside world becomes pleasantly irrelevant.

Tell me what caught your attention in the headline, and one thing about you that might make me want to keep talking.

I will be visiting Las Vegas on the strip and have some free time during the day on 10/23 and would love to find someone to spend some time with and have some fun.

Married so discretion is obviously required and I am unable to host.

White, 5’7”, short blonde hair, blue eyes, 190, alternate between clean shaven and some trimmed scruff, work out a few times a week and feeling good about the progress, hairy chest, one easily concealed tattoo, I have heard more than one compliment on my voice (for whatever that is worth). My profile is adult in nature if you decide to give a look. My sense of humor is all over the map so whatever you got, I’m probably good to go!

Chat is open so feel free to toss a message if you’re interested or have questions.

Discreet (as I'm married), respectful, DDF. Big on hygiene and clear communication. Looking for a compatible woman for a relaxed, zero-pressure escape from the daily grind.

6'4, tall, average build, 205lbs, big hands and feet, keep active weekly. HWP. Brown hair, green eyes, white.

We can start with drinks or coffee to test the vibe, or skip straight to a comfortable private spot for long massages, unwinding, and letting chemistry take the lead.

Zero pressure, no games, no rushing, no drama. Attentive and unhurried. I'm 6'4" and active. Happy to swap pics early.

If you're local to Los Angeles, DM me with a bit about yourself and how you like to unwind.

33M , 5'11", , 215lbs Hispanic, DDF in the Modesto area

Married 10+ years, and somewhere along the way the excitement just kind of disappeared. Nothing dramatic happened—we just got comfortable, life got busy, and eventually the relationship started feeling more like routine than anything else.

I miss that feeling of being wanted and trying new things that are not routine. Open to exploring with you.

If you just need someone to talk to or vent let me know.

I'm local to the area and in Modesto frequently, so I'm hoping to meet someone relatively nearby who's in a similar situation. Married, single, stay-at-home mom, single mom—it doesn't really matter to me. If you're looking for something discreet and aren't trying to turn someone's life upside down, we're probably on the same page.

We can meet up for lunch and see how things go from there.I'm open-minded when it comes to age and body type. Older women are absolutely welcome, from petite to mom bods are appreciated.

WM, 6’0”, 200 lbs, clean-cut with brown hair and blue eyes. Masters-educated working professional. Experienced, respectful, and focused on mutual pleasure.
I’m looking for one married woman for an ongoing, discreet connection. Passion and excitement have faded at home, and I’m seeking that spark with a like-minded partner who values privacy, honesty, and chemistry as much as I do. Not interested in multiple partners or drama—just one solid, ongoing arrangement built on mutual respect.
Well-endowed (8”), hygienic, and attentive.
If this resonates and you’re in a similar situation, message me. Discretion is non-negotiable on both sides.

I'm married, you're married. We're both unsatisfied with our sex lives. You look great and want to explore every bit of pleasure your body can produce.

I'm a very experienced Dominant that is tall, in good shape, thick cock, and STI free. I can take control or even set up various roleplays and show you everything in kink you want to explore or have fantasized about.

I'm located on the south shore but I'm happy to drive within a reasonable distance. If you're seeking something regular I'd prefer either closer to me or we'd all meet half-way.

About me:

• 6'3"
• 195lb
• good looking
• well hung & thick cock
• very high sex drive, quick recovery, can go multiple rounds
• white

I do have a type for the woman:

• younger than me
• CIS female
• in good shape, I'm not into curvy, bbw types
• fun and open minded

When you reach out include which town you all are in and your stats (age, height, weight, cup size).

I'm only interested in APs that are in the Boston area, have flexible schedules (late morning, daytime meets on weekdays), and are ready to meet someone in person.

I have looked before and found on Reddit. Man it’s difficult. I’m just not brave enough to try a new platform.

What I want is simple. A really good friend. Someone I can laugh with, work out with, share recipes with, vent to, and of course hear all about their world too. I know why we are all here, and yes I want those parts too, just with someone I know and trust, something long term. Eventually I want to be cuddled against you doing all those things too. But let’s try and get to know each other first…..

I’m 5’5” white female. Yes I’ve had two kids, so I’ve got work to do on my stomach. I’ve got long hair and lots of curves. You’ll love my blue eyes and my smile. On your end, I just ask that you take care of yourself, I’m not judgmental, but you should be able to keep your hair cut, beard trimmed, clothes nice, stuff like that.

I’m only interested in people who ARE READY TO MEET. Yeah I know what we do here. Yes I want to keep it discreet. But I want a physical relationship. So please only send me a message if you are willing to meet in person.

I’m here looking for a FWB. I am married and discretion is a must. I have become very unhappy in my marriage but for certain reasons I can’t leave, it’s just not an option. I probably wouldn’t want to meet right away, I would rather chat a bit first and get to know each other and make sure we click. Anyway, I’m 45 years old, white, 5’9” 170lbs, in good shape and drug and disease free. I can sometimes host in Citrus Heights most week day mornings and early afternoons until around 3. I’m usually not available nights and weekends. If this sounds like the sort of thing you are looking for then message me and we can see where things go.

Hello there ! 34 Married, White, 5'6, On the heavier side (dad bod around 250lbs), and bald, bearded male here looking for someone to talk to and get to know and see where things go. So far I haven't had much luck because I'm either looking for something not serious enough for someone (meaning that I don't want to completely upend anyone's life) or they seem to be intimidated by the situation which i totally get. I'm looking for someone that is a best friend that can turn into new experiences and more. Someone I can confide in and vent to, and talk to on a daily basis. You could say that I'm introvertedly extroverted, because once I get to know someone and there's a connection there I absolutely love talking to them. A lot of my issues stems from how I grew up and how it forced me to "grow up" at a young age just to survive. I walled myself up hard when I was younger so nowadays I crave the attention and connection I never let myself have outside of normal friends, I never let myself open up or be vulnerable to someone that I thought was attractive because of that. I always thought I'd either be too much of a burden or scare people off 😅 . I guess you can say I like trauma bonding in a sense because I can usually have great talks with people that have been through life like I have. A little bit about myself is I love to cook, I'm a huge music person, I love true crime podcasts and I love just learning about people and where they come from. I'm looking for a distraction from day to day life and would really like a new friend :) I'm a transplant to my state so I don't really have friends here and I get lonely very easily 😭. So If you like a bearded husky metalhead who has a dark sense of humor and loves to cook and nerd out to music and games we may be a match!

Fair warning..I hope that I get stuck in your brain too!

I'm 6'2" and around 230lbs. Clean-cut, married and in my mid-40s. Mixed European background, lightly olive skin, a sleeve tattoo on my arm with more to come eventually, short brown hair, green eyes, and a mostly silver beard. People have called me attractive and while of course I’m a little biased, you can be the judge.

I’m a pretty active guy. I’ve played hockey year round for years now, I love to ski out west, hike, and take long walks. I’ve got no problem chasing the good food and drinks. No interest in getting abs or being a gym rat though.

I work a hybrid role in a client facing position in the banking world, which allows me flexibility and to travel around pretty freely. Pretty settled life with a good home, teen, and wife who I get a long with really well. Great team really. Intimacy and passion left a loooong time ago and we’re more like roommates at this point. Very familiar story for anyone reading this I’m sure.

I’m definitely not looking to blow up my marriage or yours. I just want intimacy back in my life and maybe some excitement and if I can have both that's even better.

I know what it’s like to have a connection like this, and it worked really well. We both were discreet and sensible about practical stuff, very low drama, and I appreciate that while being sensible about this stuff, we kept our lives separate. It was a long term thing and worked really well.

Chemistry is important to me, and if we jive, I can be playful and flirty, and will usually take the lead. I'm not a dom, and BDSM is not for me. I'm typically in the minority on that, according to Reddit.

I’m looking for someone who is confident, funny, smart, emotionally mature and has her own life going on. Feminine and active is a big plus. Smaller or athletic build tends to be my preference, although I like curves too. I’m not expecting perfection, and I'm not pretending to be perfect myself.

Discretion is important. I’m not looking for dates at restaurants, shows, or anything else where we’re regularly out together in public. That doesn’t mean I want this to be purely physical...quite the opposite...but I’d rather keep the two worlds separate.

Daytime is usually easiest for me, although I wouldn’t call that a hard rule. We can figure out the logistics if we get that far.

If any of this sounds familiar and you’re looking for something fun, uncomplicated and genuine, say hello. We can see if there’s any chemistry before worrying about the rest! 

Hi! I’m 53 from the San Fernando Valley in Los Angeles looking to meet a fit, insatiable young woman interested in a casual fwb scenario. I’m fit, athletic, kinky, and love to pleasure. If this resonates with you, and you’re interested in meeting and having a great time together regularly, I’d love to hear from you!!

Married Life is hard enough these days so let's make this easy. I'm looking for someone to talk in our spare time, crack jokes, flirt, send spicy pics and meet up for fun when no one else is looking. Drug and disease free, 420 friendly. I'm a bit of a nerd too so any common ground there is always a plus but not required. Just good chemistry and a genuine desire to make a connection with someone who can maintain an ongoing situation. Please include age in your chat invite and since I'm married I do require discretion. 5' 9", 166 pounds, in good shape, long dark brown hair, and I'm of Italian and Irish decent. I'm told I look like Aragorn from Lord of the Rings if that helps paint a visual. I'm a sucker for some good audio books. I've been diving back into HP Lovecraft stories to get into the spooky season.

And I'm ready to tie someone down. 🔗

I'm at the point in my life where all I want is someone who's just as enthusiastic and passionate about their interests as I am. Nothing is more endearing to me than unabashedly loving something. If you're that kind of person, you're probably my kind of person.

I'm looking for a long-term thing. Someone to spend my days and nights chatting away with when real life isn't intervening. If you like attention, affection, compliments, deeply unserious conversation (except for when it matters), and that feeling where you can't wait to pick up your phone to talk to each other again, then guess what? You're probably my kind of person.

Me: great hair, blue eyes, a well-kept beard and a few tattoos. Short king at 5'4", around 76kg. Deeply unserious (except when it matters), good at remembering those little details. Musician and creative type with an IT-adjacent day job, with an array of hobbies, interests and kinks you'll just have to ask about. I take care of myself and hopefully you do too.

Obligatory: married, here in secret. Not here to change anyone's situation, just to find another attached/married person. Open talking to people from other countries as long as the time difference is manageable. Same with meeting IRL — if the logistics aren't difficult or stressful to arrange, I could be open to it. I don't have kids but don't mind if you do.

If you've read this far and you're picking up when I'm putting down, tell me what song you can't get out of your head or the last thing you watched/played/read that stuck with you.

Let’s give each other a gift of friendship, connection, and when things feel right electric desire.

Richmond, RVA

6’2”, 180lbs, size 32 waist, size 12 shoe, $275k, high EQ, dark twisted humor, generous, puts safety first, and likes to eat ass.

DM to trade pics

Thanks for stopping by and spending a second with me.

My marriage is a best-friend/roommate dynamic (not quite a dead bedroom, but more like hospice, lol). We've always had "gaps" but they were easier to ignore before the kids started leaving.

WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR:
Online only - I want the laughs, the deep conversations, the late-night early-morning chats, the memes and the silly TikToks. I want the surprise message that turns my whole day around and I want to be the one sending you that message right when you need it most.

To me it's all about taking this feeling and allowing the time to build a connection. The flirting, teasing, laughing, getting to know each other. This is the raw intimacy I crave. This is what raises everything to a whole new level.

Yes, the sexual side matters to me. A lot. I'm very sexual and need that outlet. I want us to be comfortable enough to talk about whatever we need, desire, crave sexually as build something special when we’re ready

A LITTLE ABOUT ME:
- MST timezone
- I tend to lean to the left of issues
- Obsessed with true crime and making sourdough bread
- Hopeless romantic and natural flirt
- Degrees in sarcasm and try not to take life too seriously
- Love to laugh and make you laugh
- I’m active and work hard to stay fit
- 5'8", I'm bald with a goatee and mustache @ 185
- Love being a dad and trying to adjust to an empty nest
- Passionate about music especially classic rock & jazz
- Self proclaimed foodie who loves to cook, bake and BBQ

A LITTLE ABOUT YOU:
- You’re 35 + and live in North America
- You’re active, take care of yourself and comfortable in you’re own skin
- You’re intelligent + confidence = sexy
- You can carry & contribute to conversation about anything and everything
- You stand up for what you believe in
- Sarcastic, fun and can dish it back

Once we're both comfortable, I love moving to a different app for voice notes and audio/video calls whenever we get the chance in our crazy lives.

If you’re still reading, send me a DM with a short intro about yourself. Please don't just say "hey", take a minute, make it fun, and see if you can put a smile on my face. :)

Hi!

Fall is here and I’d love to find someone to have some hot fun with.

I'm looking for a lady, 40+, married or otherwise, smart, funny, cute, can hold a conversation and communicate, looking for an emotional and sexual connection, enjoys outdoor activities, someone who has time to build something and may have done this before. Location and scheduling are always big factors so someone in the Denver, south Denver burbs or North Colorado Springs and who actually has time to break away to meet.

Key traits…

Willing to do this..

Able to do this..

No cold feet

Can make time to get away

I'm 55, married, professional, respectful, good communicator, funny and may be one of the nicest guys meet. Physically, I'm 6'4", 225, gray hair with some brown, brown eyes and strong hands.

I'm a runner, love to exercise and love to fill gaps in someone’s life. I enjoy trying new things and being outside. Having a connection is big item for\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*notabot

Life's an adventure, let's have some fun together and create some sparks.

Hi. I am from the greater Boston area southern New Hampshire and looking to find a fun female to create some fun encounters. I am white 5ft8 brown hair hazel eyes 160lbs so average to slender. Think soccer player type body.

I work for myself so I have a lot of flexibility for day time meets and planned overnights as I am married. My other half has an injury which is really impacting the sex life. It just really sucks.

Please reach out if you are looking for a normal overall good guy. I am open to ages and different dynamics. Hope to hear from someone.

I’m 36, married and living in Sweden. I miss the flirting, the chemistry and having someone who makes me silly smile when their name pops up on my phone 🤭

I love sarcasm, playful teasing and conversations that just flow. Someone I can talk to about absolutely anything, laugh with and naturally slip into flirting with when the mood is right

I’m 170 cm, curvy, with thick wavy brown hair and blue eyes and a more innocent look than you might expect 😇

I’d love something discreet and potentially long-term. Online first, but preferably someone in Sweden so meeting in person could be an option
And please, have a personality.
Your penis shouldn’t be your opening argument 🤭

Hi
50, married French guy living in the west coast, 1,85m 70kg, hair shaved, 2 days beard, brown eyes.
Rather Athletic body type as i run 5 to 6 hours a week

As many married people in there, I'm missing a
"something", that spice that makes you wait for the next notification, or next encounter.
I'm told to be a nice fellow friend. I am good at listening.
I'd like to have someone to share day to day events, thoughts and whatever. So im looking for discussions on a daily basis, obviously.
Also, flirting and more is an important part of this journey to come.
l've always had a huge sex drive and want the conversations to get this road when we both will be comfortable.
In the bedroom I'm directive, straight forward and dominant. I like it rough and imaginative, although I can also be tender and sweet if u need it sometime.
Feel free to message me if you wanna give it a try.
I don't bite... if not wanted

Physically: I’m 55, 5'11¾", about 245 lbs, brown hair, brown eyes, glasses, and a mostly-grey goatee. I’m naturally broad through the shoulders and currently getting leaner. I’m looking for something discreet, ongoing, and genuinely two-way. Not a second marriage, and not endless online flirting that never becomes real. I’d like to find one woman I can have dinner with, laugh with, flirt with, sleep with regularly, and actually give a damn about.

I’m professional, sarcastic, curious, and very hands-on. I design computer networks for work; outside work I build furniture, work on my house, cook, play music, and acquire hobbies faster than is sensible. Conversation matters enormously to me. I like quick minds, weird tangents, dry humour, curiosity, and people who have actual interests. Hot + willing + boring does not work for me.

I’m looking for warmth, chemistry, affection, honesty, initiative, and someone who actually wants an ongoing connection between dates rather than disappearing until the next meetup. I don’t require exclusivity. I’m comfortable with unconventional relationships. I do require honesty and discretion.

I’m in Toronto and around the GTA regularly and can often make weekdays, daytime, or evenings work.