Happy Mother’s Day to everyone!

You know, this day has me wondering: Ladies, when did you decide that marriage wasn’t for you? I’m in my late 20s, and I decided that marriage isn’t for me. The thought of getting married and becoming a mother and wife someday feels like taking on additional responsibility basically. More work, more labour, and more sacrifices compared to men generally. Think about it, especially in a dual-income household where both you and your husband are working professionals. Pregnancy alone places a significant physical burden on the woman, and beyond that, there’s childbirth, recovery, and often a disproportionate share of childcare and household responsibilities regardless of you paying bills just like your husband.

Honestly, if we could choose between earning an income and carrying the burden of all the other responsibilities traditionally expected of women in marriage, I wonder how many of us would willingly choose the latter, regardless of gender.

So, in light of Mother’s Day, I’m curious: How many other Malawian women have genuinely considered the possibility that marriage and motherhood might not be for them? I’d love to hear your thoughts, ladies. What has shaped your perspective on marriage

This other day some girl called me lover boy just because I said am planning to take her friend out . Which made me hold back , I didn't proceed with the plan . But it got me thinking what's really being a lover boy ?

Girls be saying they want guy who will be taking them out and buying them gifts but once they find the guy they call him a lover to their friends. What's wrong with these girls 😅😅.

I asked a friend one day he said don't give a girl what she wants that's the trick ....

What's really being a lover boy ?

AND IS NOT GIVING GIRLS WHAT THEY WANT THE TRICK TO MAKE EM CRAZY ABOUT YOU?

This is the day every year that we get reminded that enafe masten anaduwa, lol 😁....this day limawawa coz you always see anthu ena doing all sorts of things to theirs mothers and most especially whe you open whatsApp and checking ma status, umangoona zomwezo....not envy but it just feels so weird.

Man married People with kids always get money. It Doesn't matter if it's small money or not

Why ? The answer is simple

Pressure. These motherfuckers can't afford to be lazy

They always do whatever it takes to get money

Am not saying you should get married and have kids thou 😂

What is a normal cab/taxi price for a 3-4km ride in Blantyre?? Particularly with the current fuel shortage.

Inviting y'all to this dating sub for Malawians in Malawi, Disapora or for those from other countries wishing to date in Malawi.

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I had an interesting conversation in a group with a man who said that if a woman rejects him now because he is broke and chooses another man who can provide financially, he sees no reason to return to her when he becomes successful in 2040. Instead, he plans to date younger women, even her younger sister or daughter, provided they are 18 or older.

He argued that this is not revenge but simply how relationships work today. He also brought up sugar mummies, sugar daddies.

Here are some points I raised:

- The impact on younger men: When older, financially established men frame dating younger women as a way to prove themselves after being rejected, they reinforce the idea that younger men are not good enough unless they have money. This creates unnecessary competition between generations of men.

- The age gap question: Why would a 35-year-old man specifically pursue an 18-year-old because he was rejected when he was younger and broke? At 18, someone may just be entering adulthood, while a 35-year-old has had considerably more time to develop emotionally, financially, and intellectually. What exactly is the motivation beyond having the money and opportunity to do so?

- Is it really business, or is it revenge? If the intention is to prove that you can now afford the women you couldn't attract before, is that genuinely about compatibility, or are you trying to compensate for past rejection?

- The sugar daddy comparison: Sugar relationships exist, but that does not automatically justify the original argument. Someone choosing to date a younger person because they genuinely want to is different from someone planning to do so to prove a point to a woman who rejected them.

- The double standard: If a woman rejects a man because he cannot provide financially, does his eventual success justify targeting younger women or even fantasizing about dating her daughter? And if the man identifies as a Christian, how does this attitude align with the values he claims to uphold?

My main argument was that being rejected because you lack money should not become a reason to build your future around proving your worth through younger women. Success should be about personal growth, not getting even with people who did not choose you.

I also challenged him to answer the original questions rather than introducing other examples to make his position appear normal.

So, Reddit, what do you think?

Is a man who plans to date younger women after becoming financially successful simply exercising his freedom to choose a partner, or does the reasoning behind his decision reveal resentment and a desire for revenge?

And more importantly, is there anything wrong with pursuing an 18-year-old at 35, or does the motivation behind the age gap matter just as much as the age gap itself?

Happy mother's day to all loving And caring mothers in this community

Anyone who knows to deactivate/remove this stuff DM help me

Hi everyone, I have this low end wine business but I'm failing to penetrate ,the market is saturated with ma wine ama Burundi..Feel like giving up despite having product ya bho..it breaks my heart 💔

How do you finally get through a job interview?

It's one rejection after another, and honestly, I've started losing hope that I'll ever pass a job interview.

I've attended several interviews and put effort into preparing for each one, but the results have been disappointing. At this point, I'm beginning to question what I'm doing wrong. Is it the way I answer questions, my ability to sell myself, or something else entirely?

For those who struggled with interviews before eventually getting a job, what changed for you? What helped you move from repeated rejections to finally getting selected?

I'd appreciate honest advice, practical tips, and experiences from people who have been in a similar situation.

As men, what happened for you to stop being simps. And women too, what happened for you to stop caring much about men?

Your experiences may help someone who is currently doing what you were doing.

I think almost any primary school book I have read during primary school days had him as editor-in-chief but who is the guy and what position does he hold. In all my adult life i havent seen him on news or anything

Not that you charge fellow Malawians in dollars, but you actually have a market outside of Malawi? without having to say the business(unless you want to) how did you get started? how long have you been doing it? what's revenue like monthly? i'd really like to learn a thing or 2.

I see people ask about remote jobs, and jobs that earn them dollars, im curious about the business side of it though.

I'm considering buying a new DJI Mini 3 drone for about $378, with approximately $40 shipping to Malawi. At checkout, Amazon says no import duty is required.

I'd really appreciate hearing from people who have actually ordered from Amazon and received their packages in Malawi.

A few questions:

- Did your parcel arrive safely?

- Was it delivered to your address, or did you have to collect it?

- Did you have to pay any additional customs duties, VAT, or courier fees after checkout?

- Did you experience delays, missing parcels, or problems with customs?

- If you ordered something expensive, such as a phone, laptop, or camera, was the process straightforward?

Thanks!

This discourse is sooo funny to me because women who are taking this stance are being publicly executed. The thing is sons have been preferred for years so why is it a problem when women prefer daughters?

I'm having trouble getting back money that I lent to someone last year. The usual cycle of false promises, ducking, then dodging has been in effect for over 14 months now, and I've never been more frustrated with another human being in my entire life.

To make matters worse, I found out too late that he has a reputation for this kind of thing, and this is his usual M.O. 🤦🏾‍♀️. Apparently, the last time this happened, his rich uncle had to pay off his numerous debts. I'm a step away from considering blasting his name, as it doesn't sit right with me that he's out there on socials masquerading as a stand-up guy when I'm on my knees begging for my own fucking money smh.

My question is, how much would engaging a debt collector set me back? If anyone can recommend someone reputable, please DM me with their contact information. The last time I reached out to one, they ghosted me after a bit, and I'd rather not get my hopes up again.

For those who got jobs abroad through the internet without using agents, which websites did you use, and what criteria did you follow to increase your chances of landing an opportunity?

Things are really not making sense here, and I'm honestly trying to find a way out. I randomly apply for jobs on different websites, but I haven't received either an interview invitation or a rejection letter.

What am I doing wrong, and what should I be doing differently? I'd really appreciate any advice from people who have successfully secured jobs abroad this way.

Hi everyone!

Does anyone know which fuel stations in Malawi sell 95

RON petrol (premium unleaded)?

I'm specifically looking for petrol with an octane rating of 95 RON rather than the standard 93 RON.

If you know a specific filling station that sells it, preferably in Lilongwe, please let me know the station's name and location.

Also, if you've bought 95 RON petrol in Malawi recently, I'd appreciate it if you could confirm whether it's still available.

Thanks in advance!

Hi everyone!
I’m a 29-year-old entrepreneur currently based in South Africa, with a background in digital marketing, business operations, finance administration, international customer relations, and humanitarian and development work in Malawi and abroad.
I’m working on developing a fashion and lifestyle brand with plans to establish a presence in South Africa and eventually expand into Malawi and other markets.The vision is to build a distinctive brand with a diverse product range, a strong identity, and the potential to appeal to different customer demographics, from premium fashion to everyday casual wear.At this stage, I’m interested in connecting with potential angel investors, business partners, or entrepreneurs who have experience in fashion, retail, manufacturing, distribution, or growing consumer brands.I’m particularly interested in building meaningful business relationships with people who understand the Malawian market and see potential in developing homegrown brands with regional and international ambitions.I’m keeping the specific concept and brand details private for now, but I’m happy to discuss the opportunity with genuinely interested people and arrange a private introductory meeting.For personal security reasons, I’m posting anonymously at this stage.
If you have experience in investment, entrepreneurship, or fashion business development, I’d appreciate connecting with you. Please send me a private message with a brief introduction about yourself and your area of interest.
I’d also welcome advice from anyone who has successfully launched or grown a business in Malawi.
Thank you!

agent mpaka kufuna 0.4 of rent as commission????????????? cant even shit on them cause the economy sucks but GADAMNNN

This subject gets a lot of mixed reactions. Ena akuti ndikwabwino. Some say our brothers and sisters are struggling…

Anyone to help with real info? Zimati chani kumeneko?