I'm just gonna leave this here. Open thread..

This other day some girl called me lover boy just because I said am planning to take her friend out . Which made me hold back , I didn't proceed with the plan . But it got me thinking what's really being a lover boy ?

Girls be saying they want guy who will be taking them out and buying them gifts but once they find the guy they call him a lover to their friends. What's wrong with these girls 😅😅.

I asked a friend one day he said don't give a girl what she wants that's the trick ....

What's really being a lover boy ?

AND IS NOT GIVING GIRLS WHAT THEY WANT THE TRICK TO MAKE EM CRAZY ABOUT YOU?

Man married People with kids always get money. It Doesn't matter if it's small money or not

Why ? The answer is simple

Pressure. These motherfuckers can't afford to be lazy

They always do whatever it takes to get money

Am not saying you should get married and have kids thou 😂

I used to hear rumours about how a bunch of ladies in their twenties would rent a house mu 49 mu and live together while doing zama blessers.Until last week when a new neighbor moved into our compound (has 2 houses) eei koma ziwaro zawo sizipuma like the number of anyamata achikulire akumabwera kumeneko 😂 ndima rings awo pachala chete like wow guys.Even lunch time mukati mwa week 😭 like no chill or whatsoever man.

Heya, it's your token white man from the UK.

Part of the charitable stuff I do, is to assess emerging projects and their potential to profit generation, scalability etc.

recently a potential funder has mentioned interest in a Telescope Ranch as an idea in malawi, the idea would be that the profits generated are funds for the charitable endeavours.

Does anybody live in a really remote area, can any of you verify what the sky is like at night, if you have a telescope, how is it in Malawi? I'd love to hear as many inputs as possible so please chime in!

I live in a city, on a hill, we get some good views but nothing like what telescope enthusiasts get at a telescope ranch. The income comes from renting the space for remote controlled, generally very expensive, telescopes to westerners who spend a lot on their hobby

The idea area is very remote, ideally at altitude but plenty of telescope ranchs aren't. No large lights for many miles. And obviously incredible views of the sky.

If anyone has any sky pictures from within malawi, especially from telescopes or any equipment for night time, sky/ space photography, id love it if you could share them.

Anyone who has or knows a person who has an available spotify family slot ?

I would like to ask for suggestions for any places that offer printing services on sunday in blantyre CBD.

I recently watched this video and found it interesting. It's about how Chile got out of poverty by opening up their economy. For context, Chile's GDP per capita was $940 in 1970 (around when the video starts) and it's gone up to $17,994 in 2025, whereas Malawi has gone from $200-$300 to just $671 over a similar period (https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/NY.GDP.PCAP.CD?locations=CL-MW)

But the caveat is that their government was a military dictatorship, and a big concern from what happened there is that of inequality, as some people have not benefited as much from the development compared to others there.

So I've been thinking about the tension between overall prosperity vs inequality, because it seems to me that oftentimes policies meant to boost economic growth tend to create inequality, whereas policies that try to reduce inequality often slow down economic growth. Like we see in a lot of the discussions of capitalism vs social welfare systems/redistribution.

But I don't think they necessarily have to be so opposed; like in the Nordic countries. They have pretty free and robust private markets but they collect high taxes from it to fund their generous welfare programs and government services. And they are quite prosperous, there's low inequality, and the people there tend to rank very highly on measures of happiness.

Though of course, it wouldn't be easy to emulate them here, because a lot of why their system works is their high-trust culture. People are okay handing over significant amounts in taxes because they know it will not be wasted (unlike here), and the government also trusts their private sector to do things without always standing in their way.

But ideally I think we could learn from them when trying to reform our own country. What do you guys think?

First off, I am a pure Malawian. Born in the republic of Lilongwe (I know🥲). Anyway, I have two biological sisters who were raised in a different manner from most. I will explain below..

Growing up, I always wondered why my father had a strong dislike for weaves and artificial hair. He constantly said that it's unnatural to feel pretty with hair texture that isn't your own. And my mom was on the same page. So my mom is skilled at styling African hair on a professional level. No fancy chemicals or "hair specialist" fluff.

Now, as I matured into a grown man, I appreciated women who rocked their natural hair. Whether it was cornrows or some other type of style. I can blame it on my upbringing but honestly, weaves, artificial hair and wigs are the foreign material anyway. This stuff was imported. The default formular was men liking natural black African women.

This is not an attack by the way to my Malawian ladies. I want to know why you consistently feel the urge to spend significant sums of money to wear hair that isn't your own. No other race seeks to wear an afro wig or African textured hair extensions or wigs. It's always our women trying to have a look that doesn't truly resemble them. Why? And don't deflect by bringing up counter arguments about the tanning practiced by whites or lip injections etc..lets stay on the topic.

Why do you feel beautiful whenever you look like something you are not? Why?

I know that westernized men also influence your choices indirectly. For example, they will appreciate a lady wearing the fake hair. But in my observation, most men don't care about the fake stuff including the fake nails.

Can't you do better if you were more comfortable in your own skin? Rocking the natural hair that grows out of your scalp? I know this is sensitive but talk to me in the comments.

Don't assume I am a low budget person in any way. Wealth is highly concentrated among races that are minimalistic in terms of cosmetic usage.

Thanks

Chonde ngati muli online tiyankheni fast fast it’s urgent
Kodi pa black market dollar ilipa bwanji?

What is a normal cab/taxi price for a 3-4km ride in Blantyre?? Particularly with the current fuel shortage.

Happy Mother’s Day to everyone!

You know, this day has me wondering: Ladies, when did you decide that marriage wasn’t for you? I’m in my late 20s, and I decided that marriage isn’t for me. The thought of getting married and becoming a mother and wife someday feels like taking on additional responsibility basically. More work, more labour, and more sacrifices compared to men generally. Think about it, especially in a dual-income household where both you and your husband are working professionals. Pregnancy alone places a significant physical burden on the woman, and beyond that, there’s childbirth, recovery, and often a disproportionate share of childcare and household responsibilities regardless of you paying bills just like your husband.

Honestly, if we could choose between earning an income and carrying the burden of all the other responsibilities traditionally expected of women in marriage, I wonder how many of us would willingly choose the latter, regardless of gender.

So, in light of Mother’s Day, I’m curious: How many other Malawian women have genuinely considered the possibility that marriage and motherhood might not be for them? I’d love to hear your thoughts, ladies. What has shaped your perspective on marriage

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I had an interesting conversation in a group with a man who said that if a woman rejects him now because he is broke and chooses another man who can provide financially, he sees no reason to return to her when he becomes successful in 2040. Instead, he plans to date younger women, even her younger sister or daughter, provided they are 18 or older.

He argued that this is not revenge but simply how relationships work today. He also brought up sugar mummies, sugar daddies.

Here are some points I raised:

- The impact on younger men: When older, financially established men frame dating younger women as a way to prove themselves after being rejected, they reinforce the idea that younger men are not good enough unless they have money. This creates unnecessary competition between generations of men.

- The age gap question: Why would a 35-year-old man specifically pursue an 18-year-old because he was rejected when he was younger and broke? At 18, someone may just be entering adulthood, while a 35-year-old has had considerably more time to develop emotionally, financially, and intellectually. What exactly is the motivation beyond having the money and opportunity to do so?

- Is it really business, or is it revenge? If the intention is to prove that you can now afford the women you couldn't attract before, is that genuinely about compatibility, or are you trying to compensate for past rejection?

- The sugar daddy comparison: Sugar relationships exist, but that does not automatically justify the original argument. Someone choosing to date a younger person because they genuinely want to is different from someone planning to do so to prove a point to a woman who rejected them.

- The double standard: If a woman rejects a man because he cannot provide financially, does his eventual success justify targeting younger women or even fantasizing about dating her daughter? And if the man identifies as a Christian, how does this attitude align with the values he claims to uphold?

My main argument was that being rejected because you lack money should not become a reason to build your future around proving your worth through younger women. Success should be about personal growth, not getting even with people who did not choose you.

I also challenged him to answer the original questions rather than introducing other examples to make his position appear normal.

So, Reddit, what do you think?

Is a man who plans to date younger women after becoming financially successful simply exercising his freedom to choose a partner, or does the reasoning behind his decision reveal resentment and a desire for revenge?

And more importantly, is there anything wrong with pursuing an 18-year-old at 35, or does the motivation behind the age gap matter just as much as the age gap itself?

Happy mother's day to all loving And caring mothers in this community

Anyone who knows to deactivate/remove this stuff DM help me

Inviting y'all to this dating sub for Malawians in Malawi, Disapora or for those from other countries wishing to date in Malawi.

Abale a mzanga I have a piece of land. But I need some advice from you guys who built your own houses or bought an already finished house. In your opinion what cheaper given current economic situation pa ground.

Ideally a 4 bedrooms house

This is the day every year that we get reminded that enafe masten anaduwa, lol 😁....this day limawawa coz you always see anthu ena doing all sorts of things to theirs mothers and most especially whe you open whatsApp and checking ma status, umangoona zomwezo....not envy but it just feels so weird.

I plan to start a hardware shop, but am not very well informed in this business. Tithandizeni ndi data, any data on materials, suppliers, risks, advantages, and any data ingapezekeyo. Thank you

Background: Malawian male here just clocked 34 some 3 weeks ago , looking for other streams of income to sustain myself. I work at one of the ‘good parastatals ‘ but salary only last one week because as you know in Malawi most of the good salaries and benefits kick in when you are in middle management or top management and am outside of that bracket worst still not connected so promotion is out out of the question. One of the company benefits is a loan that you can get up to 35 mil at 8% interest.
Community request: i wanted to humbly request some business ideas from this community as i have observed that people here are very sharp in this area, Am in the tech Domain so am biased towards tech businesses but with the forex issues am interested to try other avenues.