Iām not posting this because I feel lonely or have an urgent desire for friendship. Iām not much for social activities and generally prefer my own companyāin fact, Iām quite content being by myself. Iām simply curious to see if this post might reach people whom I admire and who, in turn, might appreciate me.
While I did make some close friends growing up (though very few), most of them eventually confessed romantic feelings for me. Iāve tried to maintain purely platonic friendships in the past, but it didnāt work out. So, Iām hoping to connect with someone who is also looking exclusively for a platonic friendship.
What you need to know about this relationship:
NO ANY NSFW
I place great importance on the stability of the relationship and on communication.
I am AuDHD, so I find it genuinely difficult to deal with people who aren't upfront or who long silences, ghosting. That kind of behavior leaves me wondering what I might have done wrong. If you feel a conversation isn't working out or you simply don't want to chat anymore, Iād really appreciate it if you could just say so directly, that way, we could at least say goodbye. I don't want to be a social burden to others.
Iām not very good at coming up with topics to talk about, or I worry that my messages might be intrusive. However, once the conversation gets going, Iām always able to keep it going.
You can talk about whatever you like. I also hope to get to know someone who is sincere, gentle, patient, accepting and respectful of others.
We'll probably start with text chat. Once we're more familiar with each other and willing to continue, we might switch to voice calls or even video calls (though I'd prefer text or voice).
About me & my hobbies:
I am a mellow and curious person...I actually dislike defining myself or others with labels, as this can easily lead to prejudices built upon the stereotypes associated with them. However, it is undeniable that labels serve as an efficient and convenient way for people to make sense of the world and the people around them.
I am an undergraduate student majoring in Computer Science and Technology. I am currently learning competitive programming, with a particular interest in number theory and game theory.
I enjoy going for walks, anime & comic (but NO NSFW), I love ID:INVADED, Frieren: Beyond Journey's End, Clevatess, 86 -Eighty-Six-, SAKAMOTO DAYS, Lucky Star, Daily, Vinland Saga, Rurouni Kenshin, Sonny Boy, Fate series, Boogiepop Doesn't Laugh etc.
Exploration, puzzle games (like Outer Wilds), sandbox games, and reading. I also like taking casual photos, though I haven't had any formal training in photography.
I enjoy badminton and have undergone basic training as a hobby. My coach assesses my skill level as upper-intermediate amateur.
I enjoy listening to music and explore a wide range of genres, including classical, jazz, rock, Touhou Project music, Vocaloid musics, and anime or game soundtracks.
I am also interested in philosophy and have an understanding of the basic history of philosophy and the ideas of various philosophersāincluding Nietzsche, Foucault, Lacan, and Heidegger, as well as most of the renowned ancient Greek philosophers.
Expectations of friends:
I do not drink alcohol, smoke, use marijuana, recreational drugs or other drugs, and you don't either. Occasional and completely controlled alcohol consumption is acceptable.
People who habitually make lewd remarks or vulgar jokes, objectify or harass others and racist are NOT accepted.
I hope you speak fluent English, as I want to improve my English proficiency (B1āB2 level) by integrating the language into my daily life.
I hope we share some similarities in our fundamental values and outlooks, though I certainly remain open to and willing to reflect on differing perspectives. If you've read this far, please include an emoji of any food item in your dm.
I don't care about your gender identity, sexual orientation, etc., but please be 18+.
Some information about me that you might be interested ināthough it may not be particularly important, so you can choose to skip to save your attention:
At school, I tend to keep a certain distance from most people, though I have one or two close, steady friends. Overall, I get along well with others. My approach is simply to avoid interacting with those I don't click with. I'm pretty stoic and dislike conflict. But if conflict is unavoidable, I will not run away. As for expressing emotions, my close friends describe me as someone who doesn't wear their feelings on their sleeve in daily life but is capable of expressing them directly.
I am very loyal to my friends. once I acknowledge a friendship, that person becomes a true friend. It was only later that I realized most peopleās approach to friendship isn't quite so "vertical."
If we were closer, we could have some real-world interactions, such as mailing each other letters or items. I enjoy traveling, and perhaps Iāll visit your country in the future. :)
If you are interested, please dm me. Please include a personal introduction covering details such as your personality and hobbies. A detailed and relevant introduction is greatly appreciated, and I will read it carefully. :)
You are welcome to include any questions youād like to ask me in your message. Of course, I hope for a reasonable balance of information, so it would be great if you could share similar details about yourselfāthough it is perfectly fine if you prefer not to disclose that information. Simple greetings may not receive a reply.