My gf and I (both 24) are leaving on a big trip next week, we’ll be away for 5 months. We’re trying to see all of our friends before we leave but it seems like none of them truly care to see us.

Almost none of them except two reached out to us to see us. All the others didn’t say a word until we asked them to meet. On top of that it’s been a hassle, it’s hard to find a time to meet, everyone wants to do things on their own terms.

I’m also confused because a lot of them tell us we’re some of their closest friends, and yet they don’t act like it.

We have two couple friends that we hung out a lot with respectively this summer. We live in a big city, commutes can take up to an hour, but it’s pretty normalized bc the housing market is tight so you can’t really choose where you live. These two couples happen to both live in the richer part of town (which is ofc rather central but not the most central either), while my gf and I live more on the edge of town. We are always willing to go places for people (but from a lot of areas it also “only” takes 30min to us), but for these two couples we always go to their area or their house.

Their neighborhood is incredibly expensive, it takes us 50min to get there but they won’t even come to a different neighborhood half way. One couple works full time, we don’t, so I understand, but we also have to organize a lot of things for the trip. One of them came to our apartment once months ago and then said jokingly (not jokingly) “I came now, so you can’t say anymore that I never come your way”. She never came again. Every time we meet they ask us to come their way. They’re leaving over the weekend to a city 2h away and asked us to come to them bc they have to “pack” (for a weekend trip). We’re leaving on Tuesday, for 5 months. We have to pack. Both of these couples are also financially super comfortable, they take Ubers everywhere. My gf recently graduated so she doesn’t have her student ticket anymore, she pays for every train fare which is now 4€ one way. We are saving 50% of our salaries for our trip. The other couple makes 7-8k after taxes. No kids. I wish they’d just take their damn Ubers to our apartment once. Or an area in the middle.

The thing that pisses me off the most is the entitlement. They expect us to come. They say “but we’re working” as an argument all the time. I work tonight, longer than they are, in a service job. And I’m still going to their place only to take a damn 50min train at 10 in the night. There is no compromise.

I know we probably won’t be friends with them when we come back, but I’m a little angry. I feel taken for granted. While one of them keeps telling us we’re the only friends she actually wants to see.

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Soo im danny 24 im from the Netherlands although i live in Sweden and my friends tell me im a sweet, caring and respectful guy that likes to be right haha and loves discussions. Other than that my interested are science, nature, animals, getting to know new people, fun facts and Lego. Over all im a pretty normal guy with a odd disability because.. im left handed.... Buut but ehm i also have green eyes so that makes me pretty special right?? Haha other than that im a open book and have no secrets so feel free to ask whatever is on your mind!

I love meeting people from diff cultures n backgrounds, talking about literally anything, or just sharing reels lol

I’m interested in history, psychology, sociology n geopolitics

I’d describe myself as open-minded, a good listener, nonjudgmental n emotionally aware

My hobbies include reading, sketching, gaming, listening to music and watching movies

I don’t mind your age, ethnicity, or gender

lol i need friends i dont have any so uh yeah i like video games (my fav is hollow knight) my fav color is purple im a femboy and a furry >w< hmu (im 17 dont be weird)

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19.Hey! I thought I’d try meeting some new people here. I’m into games,video editing, movies,and music. If you’re also interested in making new friends,looking for someone to talk to,feel free to DM me 😄

TL:DR - I like yapping with people and I think I'm pretty lovely, though I am a bit biased. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, so message me and maybe we get on well? :D

Pretty much title! I have a cold and just feel a bit rough, its super early here and I woke up to go to the toilet, made the terrible mistake of checking my phone and now I'm just laying awake regretting my life choices that have led to me being unable to sleep despite being unwell at 6.30am. Sooooooo, I thought I'd post so I can at least pass the time until I pass out/give up the sleep ghost and go about my day. Location doesn't matter, part of the charm of internet friends is meeting folks that I'd not meet day to day but I'd like long term friends, a long time vibe is the goal as opposed to just one off or short convos

As for myself, I work from home doing a travel insurance job, its mostly mid, but its full WFH and that saves it. My big interest is travel, my wallet hates me so much for it. I've been to Philippines/Singapore/Malaysia over two Asia trips, a lot of Europe as well as Jamaica and Canada. Last year I did Istanbul, Portugal and a Norway cruise, plus a Asia trip. Visited Serbia, Madrid and Poland this year then Budapest on friday next week! I have a cruise with family next year to Greece/Turkey/Malta and a friends wedding in Greece and I'm hoping maybe Asia or Africa next year, fundds permitting, I'm always down for trip buddies so if we vibe I'm in! Beyond that, I'm a pretty keen reader, plus the usual smattering of videogames/sports watching/tv shows/gym (but mostly to offset meals out and a problematic keenness for chocolate). I live at the edge of a town and some of the walks are lovely here too. I've dabbled with painting, taken up and dropped the piano a few times (I used to play when I was younger and was decent and sometimes get the urge to play again).

I always prefer a bit of closure, if we've spoke for a while and your situation changes and you won't be chatting anymore, I hate the ghostly exit, if its early on then fair can't vibe with everyone, but if we've spoke for a while I always feel disappearing is a bit of poor form, but its the internet so it happens.

In terms of where to talk, I do prefer to move to apps, I use most of the usual ones but staying here is fine too if necessary. Include your basic details in your message, the usual about me stuff is fine, don't feel the need to match the rambling essay above! :)

You know when you come across something completely stupid and your first thought is, I need to send this to someone and then realise you do not really have anyone to send it to?

Yeah. That is pretty much why I am here.

I am looking to make some new friends and hopefully find a few people I genuinely click with. Not just the usual few messages, exchanging interests, and then slowly becoming strangers. I mean an actual friendship where talking to each other eventually just becomes a normal part of the day.

I like those friendships where you can randomly send a meme, complain about something that happened at work, recommend a movie, talk about something completely pointless for an hour, or somehow end up having a surprisingly serious conversation at 1 AM.

A little about me: I am 29 and from India. I work as a technical trainer, so most of my weekdays are taken up by work, but outside of that I am into movies, horror, cricket, casual gaming, reading, working out, and generally going down random internet rabbit holes.

I can talk about movies for way too long, especially horror, but I am also perfectly happy talking about something I know absolutely nothing about. You do not need to have the same interests as me. In fact, I would rather hear about something you are obsessed with that I have never tried.

I am usually a little quiet when I first start talking to someone, but once I get comfortable I can become surprisingly talkative. I like conversations that do not feel like an interview where we can jump between completely unrelated topics without worrying about keeping the conversation interesting every second.

I am not expecting anyone to be available 24/7 either. We all have our own lives. I just want the effort to feel mutual and hopefully build something that lasts longer than a few days of “hey, how are you" conversations.

Maybe we end up talking regularly. Maybe we watch something together, play a game, exchange ridiculous memes, or just become the person with each other randomly messages when something happens.

No pressure to force anything. Let's just talk and see if we actually get along.

When you message me, tell me something about yourself instead of just saying hey.A movie you love, something you are currently obsessed with, your favourite game, a weird opinion you have, something that happened today,literally anything works.

Bonus points if you can carry a conversation and occasionally send me something completely random for no reason. 😄

Hi! I'm Benji and, as the title said, I'm 20M/NB(basically a demiboy), from Canada, and I speak both English and Japanese, however the latter language I feel I'm a bit rocky/not that great with admittedly(and am kinda sorta looking for others who speak the language more fluently than I do so I can likely get better at it).

I like a lot of things from Dinosaurs, Marvel and random bits of trivia to Anime, Tokusatsu and Mythology. I mainly have drawing and writing as my hobbies.

Admittedly I'm very nervous in posting this lol.

Feel free to DM or Comment if interested at all-

Hello, my name is Alexander, I'm 21m, from South America. My hobbies are playing videogames, listening to music, working out, reading and watching series or movies. I have a cat. I speak English and Spanish. Comment or DM me if you want to be friends and chat. I also play on PS5 so DM me if you wanna be PSN friends too.

Just sitting here thinking about that’s the one thing I wanna do. Figured it be a good prompt for and icebreaker when looking for friends.

My name is Mel I’m 31 from the US. I go back and forth between days and nights and love to have more friends to chat with from both sides of time.

I’m huge into art, I digital paint creatures and people. I like to make little creature with digital sculpting and sometimes 3d print them. I’m a bit of a nerd to so I read manga/manwha watch anime etc. love rpg as well.

I’m a bit of a caring extrovert and like to be there for people but also just to make sure people know they matter and are important. So expect some sappy ness.

I’m happily married and have 3 cats, 2frogs and a gecko.

I’m just a little greedy and want more people to care about and root for. So I’d love tot all to anyone who wants too. Long time or short time. All I ask is just be yourself cause that’s the best kinda people!

Anyway feel free to dm if want! Please I’m really bored at work haha

I’m in college and pretty bored, so I figured I’d chat with random people. I love video games, movies, and TV shows and I like going on walks and study chem. 

(Please, read this post If you want to send me a message)

Finding a bestie Is my dream... I would love to finally say "Goodbye" to my loneliness and start smiling, again. Not with someone random, but with someone who wants what I want...

(I'm a REAL PERSON! Bots are taking over Reddit but I'm not one of them so don't accuse me of being someone/something I'm not)

I want you to read everything because my expectations aren't the same as other people's expectations. I also want you to know what to expect because even though we're all here to spend time with others, not everyone needs new friends. Some people want to find someone to play games with & It's just an example. 👇🏻

(This post Is for people who live In Europe because I would love to meet my new friends In real life, In the future)

I made this account In 2021 and even though I'm really active on Reddit, I can't make new friends... Not everyone on Reddit Is toxic or rude but there's ALWAYS something missing because I don't feel any emotional connection... I would love to change my life & finally wake up excited to text someone I really, really like 🙁 But... Life Isn't easy and I'm not sure If there's still a chance for me to find someone with exactly the same expectations as mine, someone who wants to meet someone new...

• I'm DEFINITELY NOT Interested In small talk! I had to use capital letters because I don't like low-effort messages and I don't even want to read them. Repetitive questions like "How are you?", "What are you up to?" or "What are your plans for the weekend?" aren't enough to start a conversation with me.. Don't get me wrong - Questions like these can be an Interesting addition to conversations about something else, but whenever people ask me the three most common questions In the world - my answer's the same because my life Is quite monotonous and I don't really know what people expect to hear 🙁 I also don't like abbreviations. Abbreviations are shortened forms of words or phrases. Why? I just don't like them because I see no reason to use shortened forms of words that are already short enough, you know? Abbreviations are common among minors and bored adults but I'm neither a minor, nor a bored adult. I want to see emotional maturity, warmth and kindness In conversations with others.

• I don't need to see your list of hobbies to know If you're someone I would get along with! You can tell me what you're Interested In but.. Believe It or not - I'm not like others and even If you're Interested In something I'm not - we can still be friends! What matters to me Is what you're like (If you're honest, talkative, kind, understanding and If your outlook on life Is similar to mine)

• I don't want to talk to minors and people way older than me. Why? I don't want to talk to minors because I'm an adult & I don't want to talk to anyone over fifty for example. Emotional maturity doesn't necessarily come with age so you can send me a message even If you're 20 (It's just an example) but please, don't contact me If you want to remind me that I'm older than you. I want you to feel comfortable & I want to feel comfortable myself. When I read messages like "Hi, I'm younger but I hope you don't mind" I always say to myself "If my age bothers you, you should've contacted someone else" I absolutely don't mind talking to people younger than me If they know how to communicate with others 🌸

• PLEASE, Don't use AI to talk to me! I Can't stand AI generated messages! If I wanted to read AI generated messages, I wouldn't be here! I read AI generated messages and comments all the time and I'm sick of It!

• I don't want to get any messages from people whose accounts are NSFW! Please, respect my decision! It's none of my business If you're here to find someone to flirt with or If you're an Internet exhibitionist but I don't want to see you with no clothes on - If you want to be my friend & I don't want to know what you want to do with other women In bed. If you are on Reddit to flirt with others, be on Reddit to flirt with others but... don't make an alternative account to hide who you really are just to send me a message. Pretending to be someone you're not - Isn't good for anyone

• I'm not a fan of sarcasm! I do - have a sense of humor but I'm not someone who makes fun of everyone and everything... Jokes about disabilities, death, religion or someone's financial status - are unacceptable to me!

• I also want to meet people who don't mind listening to negative stories and sharing them with others. My life's not easy so If you want to be In my life, you should be prepared for a realistic or even pessimistic outlook on life. I'm definitely not an optimist and I know I wouldn't get along with optimistic people who always tell others "Just believe In yourself and everything's gonna be OK" or something. We don't always get what we want & and It's completely normal to lose hope "for a better tomorrow" after many failed attempts. Not everything's as easy as It seems to be so If all you want to say to someone who needs emotional support Is "Don't complain" or "Find a therapist" Please.. don't send me a message. Not all sad people need therapists and let's be honest - Would a therapist replace a true friend? Absolutely not! Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on! I also don't mind listening to sad stories (even If they're repetitive) because I know what It's like when no one wants to listen to you...

• I would love to meet people who also don't have anyone, you know? There's absolutely nothing wrong with having friends and not being single but I'm single and I don't have anyone special In my life... It's just easier for me to get along with others If there's some common ground. I just feel better talking to people who know what It's like to be completely alone & let's be honest - People who have friends or partners, have less time for others...(which Is completely understandable) and I? I don't want to feel like an option, again. I'm not here to meet as many people as possible because I choose quality over quantity 🌸

• If your comment history Is full of comments "If you want to talk, hit me up" don't send me a message. I don't want to be rude but If It doesn't make any difference to you who you want to chat with - I'm definitely not for you. I want you to be my friend because of who I am! (If after reading my post you think you'd get along with me) I don't need emotional support from someone who doesn't even want to read my post.

• I want to talk to people who love and use emojis 🤭😊 Why? Emojis help us express our emotions even If others can't see our faces. Two emojis "😊" and "😔" are completely enough. You're probably surprised but.. text messages without emojis are really emotionless... I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea" as it sounds dismissively! First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even In a text message

Ps. I don't like kids and I don't want to ever become a parent. I just thought everyone should know that just In case. I don't want any unpleasant conversations with anyone. Not everyone wants to be friends with people who don't want kids so.. It's better to be honest. 🌸

Ps.2 I don't reply to messages I'm not Interested In even If they're long! I'm not on Reddit to pretend anything and I'm not here to be everyone's best friend. Some people lie & make empty promises to get attention. I? I'm quite selective because I know what I want.

Ps.3 I admire sensitive people who are not ashamed of crying In front of others! Crying Is not a weakness! It's not a weakness even If you're a guy 🧡

Please, If you want to talk send me a private message.

Hi, I'm 22M from England, looking to make genuine friends. Ideally looking for someone to talk to frequently so definitely not a one time chat & obviously to become friends naturally can’t force a friendship yk. I’m quite comfortable moving to snapchat or insta as i feel it’s much better for texting and such so if you aren’t comfortable with either at all kindly don’t dm me

Some of my interests are - doing casual photography, gaming/watching gaming, baking & cooking often, i love listening to music, going to new places, long walks, having voice calls, working out, going out for food, travelling and trying different cafe’s

I’d like find people who are also open conversation wise & mutually want to share things about ourselves like how we are, stuff about our life/days, interests etc, etc not the biggest fan of small talk i prefer eventually having a friend i can speak to about most things tbh

As long as you’re actually looking to make friends & not just a one time chat feel free to dm me! If you’re from another country please include it in your message so we can workout time difference!

well. here i am speaking into the void hoping someone responds. finding reliable, strong adult friendships is proving to be a little difficult lol so im giving reddit a try! im located in iowa! doesn’t matter where you are, just as long as if we hit it off we are both willing to travel to the other/travel together!!!

things about me: i love music! love going to concerts! reading, writing, and misc hobbies are my thing! i love to go for a night out every once in awhile but i am also 100% content doing nothing and just sitting on the couch. im a yapper lol i love talking and would love a bestie who’s similar in that aspect. i dont want to feel like im talking AT someone ☹️

what im looking for: honestly, i just want that one really close best friend! someone i can text random things throughout the day, facetime, send silly videos to, and eventually show up at each other’s houses just to sit on the couch and do absolutely nothing together lol. but also someone who’s down to grab drinks, go to concerts, plan little trips, or do random things just because! i want a genuine, long-lasting friendship where we both put in the effort. 💗

things about you: be 26 or older (maybe not older than 40??), preferably childfree, and someone who enjoys getting to know people and putting effort into a friendship! be passionate about something, doesn’t matter what really. you can have whatever hobbies or interests you want! 🤩 would love if you were also a queer person but not required!!

also, im strictly looking for friendship only. i am in a relationship, i wanted to be up front about that.

send me a dm with your favorite current song and favorite food!!

see you soon bestie 😇✨

Hey all! I'm Helena, a 25-year-old trans girl from Europe.

You know the feeling: it's raining outside, you feel cold, you just want to get a hot cocoa and play some board games, but there is no one around. Let me be the bestie to be around (online) during those times! We can have silly calls, solve puzzles, play board games, and do loads of other fun things online!

I like to spend a lot of time in nature! I go birdwatching, go drive with my ebike, camping or just go on a little walk with my puppy. I also have an ebike to make exploring nature more fun and easier! Another thing I enjoy is listening to podcasts and music. The styles I enjoy is indie and indie folk and for podcasts science and true crime.

D&D is my current hyperfixation, I'll also (co)DM my very first campaign very soon! I am super excited about it so if anyone wants to talk about dmming 101 or other cool things you are always welcome!

I also do loads of research for silly topics, code, tinker with electronics, or make graphic designs. I also enjoy making loads of puzzles, like sudoku, Rush Hour, word searches, jigsaws, Hoppers, ...

In school I study electromechanics! This I do full-time. On Monday the new academic year will start, so I am very curious what that brings. I'll only have 4h of class each week tho so loads of time for many talks as well!

On the days I don't have classes (so rarely sadly enough) I volunteer on a farm, this is super fun and rewarding. I really hope to do it for a long time. Recently I have also been putting up trail cams around the farm, so if anyone wants to see a wild hare, pigeon or roe deer, you just have to ask!

I am very interested in meeting people with whom I could talk about anything and everything, from how uni was to how funny that one random childhood story is. Maybe we could also study together or work on little projects together online! You could be painting while I solder on a new electronics project! I’d also love it if we could, for example, do some puzzles together or play a board game online, whatever you are up for!

For now, I would like to thank you all for reading!

And maybe I'll see you soon.

Helena

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helloo my name is christy ! im korean american with a little chinese and i live in the northeast

i genuinely need some friends that arent fake 😭😭 i can be super awkward / shy around people i dont know so pls be understanding i guess 🙏🏻🙏🏻 i can be kind of picky (dont be corny pls)

i like : beauty, drawing flowers, pilates, shopping, beauty, researching things, psychology, 2000s / y2k stuff, collecting, and fashion but i can talk about anything ! plss talk to me if u have any interests that are similar

pls comment / dm with a detailed introduction or i may not respond (NO CREEPS)

Here's a bit about me. Hi! I am looking for someone to spend time with, give all my attention to (!), and someone to play games with. I will preface saying I'm very, very into Project Zomboid, and I'd love someone to play with.

As for my interests: I enjoy sci-fi, researching crime, psychology, and biology/neuropsychology. I have a fixation on the Chernobyl disaster, and radiation as a whole. All types of zombie games OR survival games, too. Lately, I've been very into Life is Strange, too. I have an interest for movies of the apocalyptic and/or thriller kind. Terminator (1&2) is a personal favorite.

EDIT: Send me an actual message, not one introducing yourself like it's a job interview, where there's little i can go off on to start a conversation. throw an icebreaker, something!

Hey there everyone!!

I'm not sure how to start describing myself, I'm not great with words but I'll try my best.

(I'm so sorry for the extremely long post ahead!)

I apologize if I don't reply to your message, but I don't reply to short/low effort messages, stuff like "hey, let's be friends" , "I didn't read your whole post but I'm up to talk" , etc. I want to hear about you, what you like, what you're interested in. I like meaningful conversations. I also don't reply to people that don't have much in common with me, I would like to find someone that's similar to me and has similar interests and likes. I'm sorry but even if your message is long, if we don't have anything in common it's just not what I'm looking for. I'm also not interested in people that aren't looking for a real connection and are just looking to pass the time or have a light chat.

I think some of my most defining characteristics are that I'm very shy, awkward, "weird" and "different" or at the very least I feel weird, different and often misunderstood. I struggle to function most days and I don't always understand societal norms or how to properly function in society. I definitely think there's something wrong with me and I'm pretty sure I'm broken in some way. I'm honestly kind of a huge loser lmao. I've never been able to achieve anything in life, I'm not good at anything whatsoever and I'm pretty useless overall. I would also say I'm extremely cringy and I love edgy stuff, not in a bad way, I don't think, but more like, I love Shadow The Hedgehog and Tomura Shigaraki kinda way cause to me, they're genuinely so cool and I wanna be like them jahshshdh

I'm unfortunately not very smart and I'd say I'm down right stupid.

I am very ignorant about many things in life, I'd say I'm somewhat innocent and naive and I still don't understand my purpose in life.

I sometimes say things that offend people or I say things that are wrong. Sometimes I don't completely understand what I do wrong but I don't do it on purpose and I try to improve to the best of my abilities.

I don't go out often at all. Touching grass isn't for me 😭 Whenever I do go out it's only to buy groceries or to go to school and such but I don't enjoy it, I much rather be at home, in my room most specifically, which is my favorite place in the world.

I don't have any IRL friends but I do have a handful of online friends, I'm not super close to any of them, except for one who's very valuable in my life!

I enjoy many things like sculpting for instance! I do digital sculpting for fun. I'm pretty bad at it but I try my best.

This year I also started jewelry school (yeah, that's a thing) and I'm having fun with it but it's another thing I suck at 🥀🥀🥀

I like to watch anime! my favorites change from time to time but I really like Bleach, Dragon Ball, Demon Slayer, AOT, Naruto, Ancient Magus Bride (I really love this show!) and I LOVE My Hero Academia among many others!

I like to collect action figures.

I really like masks!

I like all kinds of music, I don't really have any artists that I like in particular other than David Bowie and I like to listen to most genres of music but some of the genres I like the most are alternative, vintage, video game music and jpop and jrock and I also like old VK And I'm always happy and open to new suggestions!

I like to doomscroll through TT and to watch long essay style videos on YT about random topics. I love brainrot and I'm very much into early to mid 2010s aesthetics. I miss that era so much!! Seriously, the early 2010s were the greatest time in human history kahdhshdhs

I love video games!! I don't play too many modern AAA games, especially nowadays with how bad the video game industry is but I LOVE indie games!! Some of my favorites are indies like Spelunky my beloved 🖤 I also really like older stuff, like, ps2 era games, particularly survival horror stuff. I also really like very old platform games and side scrollers. I'm a pretty huge Sonic the Hedgehog fan!! The most recent games I played were Sonic X Shadow Generations and before that I finished Sonic Superstars and Sonic Frontiers. Sonic Boom is also my favorite show ever made lmao. It fits my kind of humor perfectly and it's peak comedy imo. I'd be open to play anything and I'd love to try co op games with someone!! playing Stardew Valley with a friend is a dream of mine lol (if you also play Stardew please tell me who's your wife/husband)

I adore animals!! I have cats and dogs and a stray chicken lol they're my babies and my world!

I think it's important to mention some of the things I don't like too.

I don't like cruelty or mean spirited people, I hate I people in positions of power that use said power to affect other people, animals, or the environment for their own gain.

I hate bugs!! I'm deadly afraid of them!!

I really dislike conflict and arguments, I believe we can disagree and have discussions as long as we're calm and civilized about it and as long as we have respect for each other and try our best to understand the other person's point of view.

lastly I'd like to mention some of my defects and shortcomings.

I'm extremely anxious, I'm always very nervous about one thing or another, I'm also extremely weak of mind, I tend to react with my feelings a lot and I'm often very emotional.

I can be very selfish at times, I have an awful tendency to get bored of things quickly and sometimes I also get bored of conversations and people.

I think I'm immature.

I can be extremely lazy, I struggle a lot with doing basic things like cleaning or cooking. when I'm anxious or afraid I can get paralyzed with fear and stay in bed all day doing nothing feeling awful about it.

As I mentioned before sometimes I can say bad things without realizing. I'm very dumb and ignorant so I promise I don't mean anything bad I say and I'm trying to improve!

I am extremely annoying. I'm very loud and I think I scream a lot. I don't really understand what constitutes screaming exactly but I think I often raise my voice a lot and especially when I'm excited I can't control myself very well.

I'm very afraid of life and I don't understand how the "real world" works exactly. I'm really bad at small talk and I think I'm really bad at speaking in general, I also digress a lot.

I have the bad habit of not replying very fast, sometimes I'll even wait for weeks or even months, I think it's one of my biggest problems when it comes to keep in touch with people, sometimes it's simply because I don't have the energy, other times it's because I'm not sure about how to continue a conversation. Not sure if this is a defect necessarily but I also never send the first message, I just hate to be annoying.

I have a tendency to ghost people for different reasons. As I mentioned, sometimes I get bored of conversations or people and I'd ghost them. This is by far one of my biggest defects and as I said, I wanna be honest and mention it here for everyone who reads this to know.

I tend to be a bit clingy when I like someone.

I'm full of defects in general, and I do believe I'm a bad person. I try to improve and I try my best but if I'm bad for you in any way or a burden I promise to stop talking to you and not bother you!

I have many other defects but I think those are the main ones I can remember right now.

Finally, I'd like to reiterate that I'm looking for is a real connection with someone, a person I can talk to, have fun with, watch stuff with and play games together! I think I can be a very passionate person when it comes to the things I love and I'd like to find someone that shares that passion and love with common interests. I wanna be able to share our days and even be able to help each other and be there when we need each other. I know I'm a mess of a human being and I'm looking for a very specific close bond with someone which I think I'll never honestly find but I'll keep trying cause I hate to give up!! And you honestly never know :)

Another thing that's important is that I don't want to talk to people that are discriminatory or awful in anyway.

Also think I prefer audio messages, it's easier for me to send audio notes rather than to type cause I type a lot (and I kinda hate to type lol). Thank you very much to anyone that has taken the time to read my extremely long post and considers messaging me!!

Men, women, trans, nb, gay, straight, queer, ace, black, white, latino, asian, an alien from outer space or whatever else you might or might not be (maybe not a robot or AI), shoot me a message.

Im a 30yo dude from sweden and I am looking for new friends, preferably in the same timezone or an adjacent one. (Bonus point if you are in the nordics, extra bonus for Sweden and Norway). But if we click we might make it work anyways.

I am not into anime or manga. I game occasionally, I like tech and to go out and touch grass, also reading.

I am great at planning stuff and never executing my ideas. I would like to hear about your crazy ideas as well.

I am searching for open minded people. I try to fight loneliness for myself and others.

Disclaimer; I have pretty strong values that some people might find offensive, if you find them offensive just go away I am not interested in a pointless debate. My values: leftist, feminist, LGBTQIA+ inclusive and ofc anti-fascist.

In the future I am open for voice calls, maybe gaming or if we are close even meeting in person.

I don't play any social mind games, if I see a message notification and I have the time I respond. If I am busy (almost never, thats why most of us are here after all) I might take a bit to respond.

If you managed to read this far without getting offended: send me ur age and timezone. Ask a stupid or deep question or anything to get the ball rolling, share your conspiracy theory, vent.

Also: men/boys/dudes we always complain that we are lonely. Many of you look for/harass women so you get to talk about your feelings with someone. We have to take care of each other as well. Shoot me a message if you are down or need to vent I can talk feelings and support as well!

Before anyone gets any ideas:

I am straight and a single dad, just looking for friends. 🤘

At the time I am posting this I will probably go to sleep as it is late here, send DM anyways so that we can connect later.

Hurry up while stocks still last. Best opportunity in this world. To give a quick rundown I am a 20 year old student from the UK who is also working because even breathing costs money in this economy. I am the introverted edition and also have many hobbies as I can't seem to make up my mind on what I like. I mainly like working out, gaming and listening to music but I have probably done it all. I am looking for someone who actively engages in conversations and is a friend that feels like I know them for decades even tho we met recently. I usually like to voice call and say endless random things that come into my hollow head but I don't mind texting as well. Happy to answer any questions.

Helloooo! Looking for some cool online friends 2 talk to! I really love drawing, singing and producing music and im a choir kid lol. Im also super into horror movies!!! Obsession and backrooms were amazing! I listen to mainly Kesha, Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, Melanie Martinez, Kim Petras and Charli XCX. Might post this in a few other subs but yeah! Hit me up if ya wanna be friends!!!

Hey y'all, I'm Boggy, 26F, in Oklahoma. I work from home as an insurance agent, keep me company while I drone away about deductibles and copays to clients who don't really care anyways.

I've got a lot going on, it's flooding outside, I've started a new business, I've started writing a new book, my oldest step kid is getting her first piercing today and I'm on day five of quitting smoking.

I'm 420 friendly, a whole lot of weird, sarcastic, blunt, and extremely empathetic. I am not interested in literally anything other than friends. I prefer to chat on discord, just ask for the username!

Howdy! The title says it all. I want a deep connection in which both sides feel comfortable with each other, seek each other for support, etc. I have plenty of hobbies, ranging from sports, writing, and geography to history, music, and gaming. I am a pretty curious person, so feel free to nerd out to me! As for gaming, I play lots of indie games like Hollow Knight, Ultrakill, the Portal series, the Hotline Miami series, etc. As for music, I tend to listen to lots of experimental stuff, but I can elaborate on that more later on, especially if you are into music. It'd be pretty nice if I got a pretty clingy bestie, and I am also in GMT+2, so it'd be nice if you were close to that time zone. Oh, and I am also 19/M. So yeah, I am pretty excited to talk with y'all, and have a nice day wherever you are!

I have had this friend for 7 years (I’ll call her E). She was my closest friend, my “best friend”, and we did absolutely everything together. She spent Easter with my family, came on family holidays, went to dinners with my entire family, etc. We were incredibly close, and throughout high school everyone knew we were attached at the hip. During my final year of high school, I had another best friend who E would constantly bitch about. She would tell me how horrible this girl was, how she didn’t care about me and only cared about herself. Eventually, I cut ties with this friend, and looking back, I genuinely believe E was a major contributor to that decision. I’ve regretted it ever since.

A year later, we both started uni, doing separate degrees. I made a really great group of friends and started spending a lot of time with them. E made a couple of friends too, but she always made a point of saying they were exclusively uni friends and she wouldn’t see them outside of uni. At first, she didn’t seem to have an issue with my new friends. However, when I started hanging out with a couple of the girls outside uni, she began asking questions like “who are you with?” and “what are you doing?” I didn’t think much of it initially, until I noticed that these conversations would almost always be followed by a fight about how I was “replacing her” or “must hate her”. I constantly reassured her that she was being silly and that I would never replace her. Fast forward two years, and the behaviour never changed. I repeatedly told her that I couldn’t keep dealing with it because it made me uncomfortable and it was unfair for her to expect me to isolate myself from other friendships. She would always say she understood and didn’t expect that of me, but her actions never reflected that.

For some additional context, E has severe anxiety, which has contributed to a lot of attachment issues. I’ve always tried to be understanding of this, and I know that a lot of her behaviour likely comes from a place of fear and insecurity rather than intentionally wanting to hurt me. I’ve spent years reassuring her, trying to make her feel secure in our friendship and being mindful of her feelings. However, it eventually got to the point where I felt responsible for managing her anxiety and constantly proving that I cared about her. I don’t blame her for having anxiety, but I also don’t think it’s fair that I’ve had to sacrifice so much of my own independence and peace of mind trying to accommodate it.

This year, things got even worse. We’re in the final year of our degrees, and E will eventually have to move interstate to complete her master’s. Once she realised that our lives were going in different directions, her behaviour escalated. She would constantly ask me to hang out and wouldn’t take no for an answer, even when I was doing 40-hour placement weeks as a student nurse and was completely exhausted. She would get upset when I spent time with other friends, including girls who were literally on the same placement as me. She constantly needed reassurance that she was still my number one, that I would never replace her, and that I didn’t like any of my other friends as much as I liked her. It felt like I was forever having to prove my loyalty to her, regardless of how much time, effort and love I’d already put into the friendship.

A couple of months ago, I told her that I’d be moving across the state at the beginning of next year to work at one of the state’s top hospitals. I also told her that one of my uni friends, who I’m incredibly close with and who E has always had an issue with, would be moving in with me. E told me that I didn’t actually care about the hospital because our local one was just as good, despite that not being true, and that I was only moving because of this friend and was “blowing up my life” by doing so. She also said it was unfair that I hadn’t asked her to move with me because she would have done it, despite the fact that the universities here don’t even offer the master’s degree she needs.

Recently, I was doing 40-hour placement weeks in a busy emergency department. I was exhausted, dealing with incredibly confronting situations and seeing things that no one should have to see. I genuinely didn’t have the emotional capacity to see people or talk to anyone most days. Instead of understanding that I was struggling and giving me some space, E decided that I was pushing her away and that I hated her. When she confronted me about this, I finally told her that I needed a break from the friendship because it had been unhealthy for a really long time and I genuinely couldn’t do it anymore. I also cancelled a trip we had planned together for November.

I feel horrible for effectively ending a seven-year friendship. We have so much history, and she was such a huge part of my life for so long. I still follow her on everything, and lately she’s been reposting TikToks about missing your ex-best friend. Seeing them makes me feel awful because I know she’s hurting too. I hate that i feel SO much better since stepping away from this friendship. My mental health has genuinely improved, and I feel like I can finally breathe without constantly worrying about upsetting someone or having to justify who I spend my time with.

I don’t think E is necessarily a horrible person, and I know she is hurting. I also understand that her anxiety and attachment issues make this situation difficult for her. But I feel like I’ve spent years putting her feelings before my own, constantly reassuring her and trying to make her feel secure in our friendship, while my own feelings and boundaries were repeatedly ignored. I can empathise with why she struggles without feeling like I should have to keep sacrificing my own wellbeing to manage it.

I guess I’m struggling with the guilt of knowing that someone I cared about so deeply is hurting because of a decision I’ve made, even though that decision has been so good for me. Part of me feels awful seeing her posts because I know she’s grieving the friendship, but another part of me feels relieved that I no longer have to deal with the constant pressure and guilt.