r/LGBTindia • u/Difficult_Ad206 • 2h ago
Advice š/ Helpā My partner is in house arrest because she is lesbian
We need your helpšØthis is going to be long but please bare with me
My partner (25) and I (24) are in a long distance relationship. She was previously outed by her cousin few years ago but her parent chose to be in blissful ignorance and force her into marrying a dude. We have been planning her escape and to run away discreetly. But everything changed when her dad made a surprise visit to the city, found out that she didnāt live where she said she was, went berserk and started spam-calling all her contactsā¦all her plans went out the window to escapeā¦
Sheās been stuck for the past 2 weeks now. We contacted lawyers and they said itās best to call the womenās helpline but my partner didnāt want to draw attention. She took some lawyers secretly to the police station when her parents were off to work, but they said that if she goes forward with the complain the police wonāt take it seriously as she lives in a conservative area where women marry men, let alone a lesbian woman who doesnāt want to marry a man. So they suggested to wait until her parents do something really bad so that itās evidence against themā¦so we waitedā¦
She tried everything to escape whenever possible. her parents are like hawks. They are not letting her roam freely. And today, they coerced her to tell she is, in fact, running away from home and that sheās lesbian. It was horrible. They threatened her a lot. Said every homophobic thing they could say. Itās not real, mental illness, doing it to make parents suffer, she will get aids, women are made for men, this is going against god etc.
They said she will never leave the house now. They will not go forward with the marriage but in house arrest for the rest of her life. Mind you, cuz of this she had to quit her job abruptlyā¦so now sheās unemployed too.
The more we try, the more it kept getting worseā¦the lawyers and police have failed us. Our friend circle have helped but every-time they did, some bullshit happens with her family. Iām not in India and i canāt imagine what she is going through.
We are in contact here and there when she is not being watched like a hawkā¦she doesnāt have her own vehicle rn but can drive both a car and a scooty. Now her parents know sheās lesbian and will probably use it against her.
Please give me us some ideas for her to escape.