Hello,

Im new here.

I am just like all the rest in the group and i just want to navigate life and find what im comfortable with.

I was thinking that maybe having someone going through the same things as me would help me understand what i want and what im going through.

If anyone is looking to chat that preferably lives in UK. Im here.

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I'm 21 years old, and I've known that I'm attracted to women since I was around 10. I've never felt attracted to men, and I can only ever imagine myself being romantically and sexually involved with a woman.
But despite knowing this about myself for so long, I still struggle to accept it because of the religious guilt I've carried with me for years. I constantly find myself fighting my own feelings and desires, even though I know they're a part of who I am.
Every time I think I've finally made peace with myself, I fall back into the same cycle of guilt, depression, and self-hatred. I start questioning why I am the way I am and why something as simple as loving someone has to feel like such an internal battle.
I know my sexuality isn't something I can just change, and deep down, I don't think I even want to change it. I just wish I could exist without feeling so much guilt for something I never chose.
The thought of having to marry a man and spend my life pretending to be someone I'm not fills me with so much despair that it becomes unbearable.
I feel like I'm constantly torn between my faith and who I am, and no matter how hard I try to reconcile the two, I always end up feeling like I'm betraying one side of myself. I don't know how to make peace with that, and I'm exhausted from feeling like I have to fight myself just to exist.

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Hey everyone! I’m 21M from Hyderabad india, looking to meet a guy who’s genuinely interested in a serious relationship.

I’m 5'11", and I’m looking for someone around my height or taller, preferably around my age or a little older.

I’m into guys who are loyal, caring, emotionally available, and know how to maintain a good conversation. Someone I can talk to about anything, share random thoughts, gossip, laugh over silly things, and support each other through good and bad days.

I want a connection where both people put in equal effort, communicate openly, and genuinely want to get to know each other. I value consistency, honesty, affection, and someone who means what they say.

I’m not really into casual hookups or situationships. I’d rather take my time getting to know someone, see if we vibe, build trust, and hopefully turn that connection into something meaningful and long-lasting.

If you’re from Hyderabad or from any other state in India, that’s completely fine! I’m open to meeting someone who’s genuinely interested in building a serious relationship, regardless of where they’re from.

Feel free to DM me! Let’s talk, get to know each other, and see where things go. ❤️

Slms everyone.

I know this is not related to LGBT but I am struggling to post on progressive Islam reddit.

So I suspect I might have undiagnosed adhd and for ages I have always struggled with prayer. To the point where I have stopped doing it consistently this year. Maybe one prayer or two if lucky. Years ago at one point I had OCD regarding wudhu and salaah and in later years, I would suffer what I suspect would be executive dysfunction resulting in me delaying prayer for long periods of time. I have tried to keep praying more consistently but I have been struggling.

However I can feel it mentally taking a toll on me. I do not feel at peace, my moods feel terrible and I want to be connected to Allah. Any advice?

I know I’m gonna be told not to do this but it’s my only option if I want to keep my family around! Im under so much pressure to drag an innocent soul (straight man) into this

Hey everyone. I'm 17M from India, and lately I've been caught in a lot of doubt and overthinking about a part of myself that I've struggled to understand and accept.

I've enjoyed wearing sarees and other traditionally feminine clothes for a long time. I'm a guy, and I generally present masculinely in everyday life, but this feminine side of me is genuinely important to me. Wearing these clothes gives me a sense of comfort and peace that's difficult to explain. It's not something I want to simply grow out of or abandon. I've tried pushing it away before, but the feelings keep coming back.

Growing up in a fairly strict Muslim household, I haven't really had the freedom to explore this side of myself openly. That leaves me wondering what my future will look like. I want to be able to build a life, become independent, and eventually have a relationship with someone who accepts me as I am.

And that's where a lot of my doubts begin.

I want a relationship with a girl someday, but I don't want to hide something this important from her. I'd want to be honest before things get serious, rather than develop a deep emotional connection and reveal it much later. At the same time, I'm scared that being open about it will make finding someone compatible much harder, especially in the cultural and religious environment I grew up in.

There are also some personal preferences and curiosities that I worry a future partner might not understand. I don't want to get into explicit details here; what matters is that I'm afraid of being rejected for parts of myself that I don't feel I can simply switch off.

Sometimes I wonder whether I'm overthinking my future, whether I should accept myself more confidently, or whether I'm being unrealistic in hoping to find someone who could genuinely understand me. I don't expect everyone to be comfortable with everything, and I know compatibility goes both ways. I just don't want to feel like I have to choose between being loved and being honest about who I am.

How have you dealt with these doubts? Have you found ways to reconcile your identity with your faith, family background, or hopes for a relationship? And how do you keep yourself from spiralling into the belief that your future is already decided?

I'm not looking for someone to tell me what I should be. I just want to hear from people who might understand what this feels like.

(I would like it if we can be friends or something)

Hello, I wore the hijab when I was 10 years old. Before I had to accept myself in the queer muslim umbrella, but it seems like I feel less like a guy when I wear it, and advice appreciated

all the men around me are sex addicts and losers, very few take islam seriously.

Tried the lgbt arab dating sub and got nothing but lazy immature pms, I'm just tired.

Assalamualaikum

I'm not queer myself but I do not believe that a merciful god would forbid two people of same gender from loving each other. I still struggle with some objections I've encountered from more traditonal people

1. Quran frames relationships around heterosexual relationships. Who gives Mahr for example and who gets it in a homosexual relationship?

2. If god allowed homosexuality he would adress it, say that it's halal, since he is all knowing. Since god only talks about women that men can and cannot marry (2:24-2:25) only heterosexual marriage is accepted

3. This one bugs me the most. Quran says who men cannot marry, for example their mother. The argument is that this explicitly assumes/means that men only marry women. If a man could marry a man - then god would've said that marrying a father is haram but that everything beyond that is ok.

An often counter argument is that well there is no list of who a women cannot marry, we just use analogical reasoning. I do find that response convincing but only partially. But because in the case of women it still assumes the OPPOSITE gender. Not the same gender

P.s If anything I said is somehow homophobic or offensive I'm deeply sorry. I mean no offense. To me homosexuality will always be permissible - I'd rather leave the religion then follow a religion that forbids it. But I want to know whether the Quran actually forbids it.

Feel free to dm me

hello! i’m so sorry in advance if this is the wrong place to ask this!

I am not muslim, but the islamic center in my small upstate new york town is having an opening ceremony for their beautiful new mosque this weekend and I would love some advice on an appropriate gift to bring. We share a neighborhood block and although i am not muslim they are my neighbors and we know each other through passing smiles, the mosque has been under construction for many years and I want to pass along a token of my support and congratulations without making a cultural faux pas or social blunder or accidental offense. Would a bouquet of flowers be welcome? Is there anything I should avoid? I am a woman, should I bring something to cover my head in case I’m invited in? Thank you very much for your time and help!

salaam y’all! I am 27 years old and from Michigan I am asexual and I’m looking for someone who is kind of the same I guess, I’m Bengali Muslim American and Sylheti, so if any sisters are open to talk pls dm me ty.

As I heard from a hadith, a strangers dua is incredibly powerful. This is a safe community to me so i believe someone will stop by and make a sincere dua for me. My stepmom and father are in an incredibly abusive relationship, they want to get back together, but must see a sheikh in order to see if it will be valid and if this counts as a third divorce for them. I pray it is a no and even if it isn’t, it doesn’t work out for them and she leaves once she for all with my half brother. I pray for this because of the physical abuse both my stepmother and little brother(from her) have endured from my father. He is incredibly resentful towards them. It’s not like he loves us instead, and he’s done terrible things to us as well, but it’s somehow worse with them. My stepmother does not stand up for herself. All she craves is attention from a man. She takes it out on us when our father doesn’t give us it. My life has been a living hell especially seeing how affected my little brother is from it. Each time she leaves, she comes back with him completely different- calm, not angry and afraid, well mannered, etc.. he is only two. And we won’t be alone with my father, we will be with my grandmother. I feel safer with her as my stepmother is a lot more passive and enabling of my father. Please pray for me, for the sake of my loved ones- my two little brothers, the sake of their safety, and even for the sake of my stepmoms, that this marriage is completely destroyed. Please pray hard with me that my little brother lives with his mother in a much more merciful, loving home far away from my father’s resentful hands. Thank you.

salamalikum everyone, im in love with this girl for a year and a half, and i genuinely never felt this way before, at first my attraction towards girls started as a joke with my exbsf n then i realized that it really wasnt a joke n that was 5 years ago. ive never done anything haram kisses or more or even hugs, my feelings were just feelings for both pf my exbsf n this girl that im in love with. but now with this girl i can imagine my future with her n im crazy bout her i think if her all the time, everything reminds me of her n i really want to marry her. do i choose god or my happiness, if i do choose my happiness id be outcasted, sinner n disowned but if i choose god id be too selfish not to choose the loml even if i chose my happiness n not caring bout anything at what cost? the guilt will still eat me alive. if i chose god id be selfish for not choosing what i want n not making myself happy. and yes i do pray n make duah to get wrvr im feeling fixed. its been 5 years. 5.

this will be all if anyone was in my situation please reach out or hmu please help me. thank you.

Assalamualaikum,

After reviewing the work of scholars such as Kugle, Jahangir, and Zahed, a key question remains: How would these scholars (or others in progressive/reformist Islamic thought) interpret and address these specific verses?

Traditional commentaries generally view these verses as explicitly prohibiting any sexual relationships outside of heterosexual marriage, thereby framing non-heterosexual or LGBTQ+ relationships as a transgression.

Here are the verses in English :

In the Name of Allâh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Successful indeed are the believers.

Those who offer their Salât (prayers) with all solemnity and full submissiveness.

And those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk, falsehood, and all that Allâh has forbidden).

And those who pay the Zakât.

And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts)

Except from their wives or (the slaves) that their right hands possess, — for then, they are free from blame;

But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors; (Surah Al-Mu'minun, 23:1-7)

Thanks for any solid contribution. 😘

I was born female and I’ve practically had no friendships or familial interactions with any cis men due to our county’s culture of segregation. I was pretty sure I was a lesbian for maybe 6 years. I never wanted to be with a man. I never thought about them. The closest thing really was thinking a guy in my schools theatre practice 4 years ago who looked really similar to me but much nicer + played better than me was cool but I think I was just jealous especially since I’m masc aligned.(?) he got a haircut and looked much different and I immediately stopped to gaf. Consciously I still don’t want to be with one at all. I can’t help but feel that I’m lying behind my back. Pretty much every man here is really masculine and patriarchal so no wonder I wouldn’t have any interest in them. I have this thought maybe when I leave this country I’ll find a decent man who’ll make me actually want to be with men. Or that although I know I’ve been and loved women before I’ll find out that I’ve been lying to myself to “rebel” in some way against the horrible way women are treated. I often gravitate towards more androgynous or male characters in fiction and I’m afraid this is some sign of repression(????). None of this really matters I know I don’t have to have anything figured out but it does feel nice to. I just really Do Not want to be one of those instances where someone says they are proudly lesbian for years then gets with a man one day, but I really do Not want to be with a man so more inclusive labels don’t help much. Not sure if this is the right sub LOL. Has anybody been through this

Hello everyone! I really am desperate for answers so I hope someone will comment. So I am a Muslim woman who has identified as bisexual since I was 13 I believe? And i decided to wear the hijab when I was 19 voluntarily, I am now in my 20s.

Although I am struggling with the hijab, I honestly don't ever see myself taking it off. When I first wore it, I became more pious and was at peace with the fact that I will never be in a relationship. Although I am bi, marrying a man is not something I'll probably ever do due to previous trauma and how deeply integrated unconscious misogyny is in a lot (not all but almost all) of Muslim men even if they consider feminists (rare to find anyways lmao). And this is where my problem begins.

I've always believed that homosexuality itself is not a sin but rather the act (so kissing, sex, and so on...) is forbidden. & so I made peace with the fact that I'll always be single but I don't think I'm as okay with it anymore.

I wanted to ask wlw hijabis their thoughts on this, is it truly Haram? If you ever decide to get into a relationship or are already in one, how does it work? Is it purely emotional & not physical? I know this may be invasive so obvs I don't expect full details but I truly want to hear from others because I've recently found myself yearning for love.

Does the hijab hinder your dating life in any way? Do you date Muslims only or are you open to people who don't believe in islam? How do other non Muslim people react when you come out?

I've also seen Muslim women married so how does that work? Is it recognized in islam? And if not then obvs it's zina right? I am scared that even if I find someone accepting of me & shares my beliefs, with time my desires for more will grow.

I am not asking these questions out of judgement but out of a true desire to understand not only others but myself! I honestly don't see anyone who is in a relationship any less & just want to know what the Deen says so I can decide what's okay for me personally. I am moving abroad for my masters to the west next year and I feel like I might have a chance at love since I've seen more queer Muslims come out there.

I don't know but please be kind lol. I've seen the frequently asked questions with answers so I'll check it out but I always wanted to ask but never found any safe space to do so & would love to hear from others (personal stories& experience rather than just broad answers, I guess what I'm looking for is hope that I can experience love like others one day) 🤍🤍

Maybe, bear with me, we can be gay as long as we dont deceive-marry anyone else over it? (If lavend-er, all parties should be informed transparently and consent, so that no one is leaving anyone)

Hey there, I'm 22M Bi, from India. I'm always struggling with my faith and sexuality.

Being Bi, I never hooked up, I got alot of chances from both genders, but i want one partner for life.

Dating a boy is difficult for me coz of my faith, and dating a straight girl is like lying about myself to her for my whole life.

I want to date a bi girl or straight girl who accepts me, with whom I can share everything without any filter and faking sexuality.

But it is very difficult to find a bi girl as well as I had a bad experience with apps. Not sure what to do.

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Hey everyone! I’m 21M from Hyderabad, looking to meet a guy who’s genuinely interested in a serious relationship.

I’m 5'11", and I’m looking for someone around my height or taller, preferably around my age or a little older.

I’m into guys who are loyal, caring, emotionally available, and know how to maintain a good conversation. Someone I can talk to about anything, share random thoughts, gossip, laugh over silly things, and support each other through good and bad days.

I want a connection where both people put in equal effort, communicate openly, and genuinely want to get to know each other. I value consistency, honesty, affection, and someone who means what they say.

I’m not really into casual hookups or situationships. I’d rather take my time getting to know someone, see if we vibe, build trust, and hopefully turn that connection into something meaningful and long-lasting.

If you’re from Hyderabad or from any other state in India, that’s completely fine! I’m open to meeting someone who’s genuinely interested in building a serious relationship, regardless of where they’re from.

Feel free to DM me! Let’s talk, get to know each other, and see where things go.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,

I’m writing this because I feel the need to do a "virtual coming out."

I’m a young Muslim guy living in Europe.
Over time, I’ve discovered that I really enjoy dressing in feminine clothes and exploring a femboy style. I also identify as queer/bisexual and feel attracted to both men and women.
It’s definitely a complex path to navigate alongside my faith and background. I try not to overthink all the religious debates, and instead, I’m just trying to express myself in my own personal way - discreetly, respectfully, and peacefully.
I haven’t shared this side of myself with any other Muslims yet. I’m making this post in hopes of connecting with open-minded people, making friends, or simply chatting with anyone who can relate or wants to talk.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,
I’m writing this because I feel the need to do a "virtual coming out."
I’m a young Muslim guy living in Europe. Over time, I’ve discovered that I love wearing lingerie and dressing up like a femboy. Bisexually/sexually speaking, I feel equally submissive toward both men and women.
It’s definitely a complex path to navigate. I try not to overthink all the fatwas or religious debates surrounding this, and instead, I’m just trying to live my truth in my own personal way , discreetly, respectfully, and without causing any friction in public.
I haven’t met or told any other Muslims about this side of me yet. I’m sharing my story here in the hope of connecting with like-minded people or anyone who is interested in talking, sharing experiences, or simply having a respectful conversation.

Sorry, I can't take it anymore. after 5 months of struggling with my faith and identity it's time to say goodbye, I will probably come back during Ramadhan or when the time is right.

I'm Noor a guy from Palestine. I thought about my future and I realised I want to be with someone who's similar to me and I can be my true self with. So here I am looking for a Muslim girl who's from the LGBTQ community. I'm not looking for a marriage without love I want a to be a good husband and have a great family. I just want my wife to be someone who can understand me and I want to understand her and be her safe space. I'll be the man that she needs I just don't want to hide this side of me.

More about me:

I'm bi

Gender fluid

By the time we're married I'll have a steady income (family business) and I'll have my own apartment (not rent)

Ps: it feels like Ai wrote this I know

i am a 25 year old girl, looking for connections with other cis girl lesbians who are practicing to some point and spirituality and religious beliefs are an important part of their lives in general

i am currently looking for a friendship only and i DO NOT do any dating online or offline and its not in my intention to pursue a relationship

i want meaningful conversations and share normal things with someone in the same situation as me

i DO NOT accept messages from men and i will not reply to those

i had a reddit account a long time ago but deleted it and i recently made this account