r/BecomingOrgasmic • u/emilysantana13 • 54m ago

Small orgasms?? NSFW

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I’m 23F. I recently figured out how to have an orgasm for the first time—using vibrators. I feel a sudden pleasurable buildup and then involuntary muscle contractions. It does not feel as amazing or life-changing like people describe? When the contractions starts it doesn’t feel like much. Is this normal? 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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r/BecomingOrgasmic • u/RyobaAishiLover • 14h ago

Why doesn't fingering myself feel good at all? NSFW

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Just for some context, I (19f) have not experienced penetrative sex before.

I can have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation and i absolutely love it. I have tried multiple times to enjoy fingering myself, but having an orgasm aside, i can't even enjoy the sensation.

It just feels like im touching my insides and i have seen a lot of women here complain about this in here.

I don't expect to have an orgasm through fingering, but just feels like im missing out by not enjoying it. It just feels like nothing before it starts to hurt.

And no, curling fingers doesnt do shit for me either. Is this a lost cause?

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