My baby is 8 months and has discovered she can scream. Like a pterodactyl in a wood chipper. She’s screaming all day from wake up to bedtime. My husband and I are about ready to sell her.

Is there a way to discourage the screaming? All I have thought of is to just not react when she does it and then interact excitedly when she’s doing her normal volume babbles and such. Basically how we taught our dog to quit nuisance barking. Reinforce the behavior you want. Problem is she does it mostly when she’s playing independently and not seeking a reaction.

I don’t know that we can take much more without going bananas. I honestly wish we’d gone to more concerts when we were younger so our hearing wasn’t so great…

I’m less worried about finding the “perfect” formula at this point and more worried about finding something my kid will take every day. For parents who’ve tried both gummies and chewables, which one actually worked better for a picky or texture-sensitive kid? My kiddo has ADHD and really doesnt eat her lunch we pack and dinner is a battle every night. Forget a balanced breakfast lol. I just need something she will actually take. reviews are literally all over the place on this.

Hi everyone, I could really use some gentle advice or perspective from parents who have navigated daycare nap transitions with babies/young toddlers who are used to nursing to sleep/contact sleeping.

​My son is 12 months old and just started at an in-home daycare full-time about a month ago. Before that he was at home with me full time. While he’s doing okay with the social and play aspects during the day, daycare naps are an absolute struggle. He is consistently only sleeping about 10 minutes max in the crib.

​Here is our specific bottleneck:

Our provider is wonderful, but she runs an in-home setup by herself. When she gets him to sleep (usually by holding him), the second she tries to transfer him to the crib (I think she is trying this as soon as he gets drowsy/falls into a light sleep), he startles awake and refuses to go back down. Obviously, she can't spend an hour trapped holding him for every nap while managing the other kids.

​At home, our routine looks very different:

• ​We bed-share / contact nap / nurse to sleep.
• ​On nights following a bad daycare nap day, he is profoundly overtired, cranky, and essentially runs on fumes until bedtime. His sleep debt also just gets worse and worse as the week goes on.
• ​When I’ve tried putting him down "drowsy but awake" or using independent sleep techniques at home, he heavily protests and insists on nursing to sleep.
• I do not want to do CIO or sleep training. I love contact napping, nursing to sleep, etc. and it has mostly always worked well for us and our life and routine at home.

​My main questions:

1. ​How do we help a 12-month-old who is used to contact sleep bridge that gap into a daycare crib when the provider can't hold him the whole time?
2. ​How much should I worry about our home routine (nursing/contact sleep) interfering with his ability to nap at daycare, or can babies just compartmentalize "Mom does x at home vs. daycare providerdoes x for nap time"?

​Any tips, gentle strategies, or solidarity would be hugely appreciated. I hate seeing him so overtired!

My 12 month old never liked being in the car seat but over the months she started to tolerate longer and longer rights (from screaming right away to nie being okay in it for 40-60 minutes). We put off all the traveling because of this. I don't want to put mu comfort over hers. But also I don't want my anxiety to prevent her from having new experience. She never slept in the car seat. At home she falls asleep rocking and breastfeeding or with my husband in the carrier.

How should we try if she's able to sleep in the car seat without putting too much stress on her?

Did you have similar experience? When did your kid start (if ever) sleep in the car seat?

My toddler is a little over two now. We cosleep and they’re still breastfeeding. I’m currently in the process of night weaning them. The first couple of nights my toddler helped me put bandages over my nipples said goodnight to them and didn’t really fuss even when they woke up throughout the night looking for milk - I’d say boobies are sleeping and they’d fall back asleep. But tonight they were adamant and kept on balling their eyes out. I didn’t cave and then my husband suggested I leave the room. He was able to put our toddler to bed. I’m not fully done weaning but I thought I’d at least night wean them so that sleep gets better for all three of us.

My concern is my emotions through all of this. I feel like a robot. I’m a pretty rational person. I’ve learned to have to be strong throughout my life. I don’t cry too easily. When my toddler cries or falls down (and I know they’re safe) I don’t really freak out. I’m ultra composed. I love my toddler more than anything in the world. But sometimes I’m like… am I broken? Why don’t I cry easily? My husband is so emotional when it comes to our toddler - he can’t take it when our toddler is crying.

I brought this concern of mine up to my sister ages ago and she said it’s likely because I know when to be strong and that when my toddler falls or cries or whatever my brain knows it isn’t anything super serious so being composed is likely a better approach.

I’m not a complete robot. I am deeply empathetic and sensitive. I cry at the drop of a hat in movies whether it’s something happy or sad. When someone tells me good news I get tears in my eyes oit of happiness. Same if someone tells me something sad. I have felt the need to be strong because my whole life I’ve felt I’ve needed to carry my family through things.

But sometimes I just wonder why I’m not like other moms I’ve seen. Or other parents, including my husband. Why am I ok with seeing my toddler cry their eyes out asking for milk (while still giving them comfort and reassurance but not giving in)?

Am I broken?

I think what’s difficult for me is that all of the stuff in the wiki just seems like no no-brainer stuff. Be nice to your kid, touch your kid, play with your kid, don’t neglect your kid. Foster an attachment between parent and child.

It kind of just seems mostly like what you should just do in general for babies. Like I don’t understand what makes it any different from just bog standard parenting?

I think that would really help me understand what makes attachment parenting a specific thing with its own label and name is if somebody could give me some examples or “for instance“ of what one would do under say a traditional parenting style versus what you would do in that same scenario with an attachment style.

Actual practical real world examples a functional differences that make attachment parenting unique would help me understand what exactly is going on here.

Hi!I am 2 weeks post partum with our 2nd and our 1st is almost 2.We have coslept since she was 11 weeks and have enjoyed it and we are also cosleeping with the newborn.
Our oldest has had mostly independent naps since 7mo and a stretch at bedtime by herself before coming to bed with us.The only problem is that she has needed a lot of support to sleep which we have been okay with but I want to start to get her to a point where she can fall asleep a little bit more independently.

It was a very long process to get her to nap by herself as a baby and with my second I can’t be nap trapped all day like I was wight my first as she is an active toddler now and frankly don’t want to be as I wasn’t able to take care of myself very well,I am all for carrier naps but I want to be a little more intentional about sleep with our second (without CIO sleep training)and I just don’t know where to start.I love cosleeping but I also want her to have an independent stretch at night and naps as going to bed early with my first majorly took a toll on my mental health because I barely spent time with my husband until she was 7mo.Obviously as a newborn and through different things going on they need a lot of support but what are some gentle ways I can support both of my babies sleep better as they get older?

Here I am, looking for some solidarity with this sleep, or lack there of, situation, again.
I posted a month or so ago encouraging the tired moms to give change a try when it comes to night weaning if it’s what they felt they needed to do. My baby handled it amazingly, and her sleep only got better and better- right until she turned one.

Suddenly, she wouldn’t accept rocking as a soothing method, and will only accept nursing. She wakes up right in the middle of the night, every night, and takes a very long time to fall back asleep, followed by a few more wakes. Will not accept being placed back in crib.

For context, she also JUST GOT her first tooth at 12 months and several seed to now be coming at once. I’m having a hard time being here for her (at least without moping) when it comes to how fragmented the second part of the night is, with how exhausting it is to be lying awake for what feels like hours.

Is it a schedule issue? Is it her rapid development? Teething? Is it ALL of it??

Looking for other 12-13 month stories and support, and words of encouragement.