r/AskLE • u/_MrShakedown_ • 3h ago
Did I ruin my chances at becoming a LEO and should I give up? (Southern California)
*This is not a joke post, and I would appreciate serious answers only.
Almost six years ago, I did something stupid. I had recently gotten out of my first relationship and I decided to go on dating apps. I ended up matching with two different girls where we chatted for a bit. The conversations started off innocent, but then they started getting suggestive. We started talking about hooking up and we agreed to meet up. On both occasions, both girls asked me to send money just to make sure I was real and was not going to do something bad to them. I foolishly sent money thinking they would finally tell me a date and time to meet. Then they kept asking for more money after that, claiming I had to pay more fees before hooking up. At this point, I realized I was being scammed and that what I was doing was dumb and I blocked both girls.
In the beginning of 2026, two of my work friends decided to apply for the Long Beach Police Department and they convinced me to apply as well. When I was filling out the personal history statement and background questionnaire, I got to the sections about illegal sexual activity. One of the checkmarks was soliciting prostitution. I put yes and wrote down the same story of what happened with the two girls. I had also checked yes on the other section regarding work history where I admitted to attendance issues and unexcused absences from work.
I attended the physical abilities test where they had a team of background investigators going through the background questionnaire and PST packets for every applicant. Eventually, my name got called and the BI briefly glazed over my story about the prostitution. He never questioned me about it for some reason. What alarmed him more was my attendance and unexcused absences. He brought my paperwork to the LT and Sergeant in charge of recruitment and he came back with a decision. He gave me the option to voluntarily withdraw instead of getting a disqualification and so I withdrew.
Do I have any chance of becoming a cop or will I always get disqualified because of what I did? I would rather know now instead of wasting time and getting my hopes up. If I still have a chance, what can I do at this point? If there is any helpful advice at all, I am open to DMs. Thank you.