r/AskAnEscort • • Dec 07 '23

PSA for clients How to Find a Safe Provider - READ BEFORE POSTING! NSFW

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r/AskAnEscort • • Mar 28 '24

THIS IS NOT A PLACE TO FIND ANYTHING ILLEGAL NSFW

160 Upvotes

At all. If you ask about illegal services, you will be banned. If you are trying to sell those services, you will be banned. If you are DMing people for either of the above reasons, you will be banned.

"oh well it's not illegal in my..." shut šŸ‘Œ

I'm not American either, but this is an American site. We follow American laws here.

 

This place exists because sex workers have been silenced and erased for millennia, and we want to do our part to educate and end stigma. It is for discussion and debate only.

Thank you.


r/AskAnEscort • • 29m ago

Penile Inplant NSFW

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I'm about to get a penile implant. Do you have any concerns with them? Do you notice them? If so how is it different? Do I need to say anything before or during booking?


r/AskAnEscort • • 22m ago

Another screening question. NSFW

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So i am a customer and the escort I am in contact with ask Me for a dick pic for verification? She said I’ll send you some photos back to. Well I’m beating around the Bush on it cause I’ve never heard of that To be a way to verify and the pics she send are the same one in her adds. What do you think? Legit or nah


r/AskAnEscort • • 5h ago

What to do about periods? NSFW

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What if your period is irregular and you’re not sure when it’s coming, and then it comes either like a day before a date, or during the date?

Do some men pay extra for period sex?

Do you usually just not work on your period?


r/AskAnEscort • • 12h ago

Are there services that can help with inexperience/shyness? How would someone find this? (Melbourne, Australia) NSFW

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I'm a rather shy, sexually inexperienced man in Melbourne, Australia, and I'm hoping to get some advice from people in the industry.

Most of my sexual experience was back in my teens and early 20s. I used to be reasonably confident, but some health issues when I was younger caused me to gain a lot of weight, and over the years I've become incredibly shy and self-conscious. I ended up going about 13 years without a relationship or any sexual contact before finally working up the courage to visit a brothel a couple of years ago.

I've visited brothels a few times since, but found they were a bit too focused on getting straight to sex, so lately I've mostly been going for massages instead. I actually prefer those, but I think part of the reason is that I can just lie there and let things happen without having to worry about what I'm doing. šŸ˜…

My shyness has gotten so bad that I've pretty much given up on the idea of finding a partner. Even with sex workers, I struggle to ask if I can touch them, let alone actually do it. And even when I do get permission, I'm so worried about doing something wrong, making them uncomfortable, or just embarrassing myself that I end up awkwardly fumbling around.

What I'd really like is to find someone who enjoys taking a more active, instructional role with inexperienced clients. Someone patient who can guide me through intimacy, encourage me to participate, offer feedback, and help me gradually develop some confidence and experience.

I'm not expecting therapy or anything beyond what a provider is comfortable offering. I'd just like to find someone who genuinely enjoys this kind of experience rather than someone who's simply willing to tolerate an awkward client.

Is this something certain escorts specialise in? Are there particular terms or types of services I should be looking for? I'd especially appreciate any insight from people familiar with the industry in Australia.


r/AskAnEscort • • 13h ago

What do escorts feel about guys with callouses in their hand? NSFW

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So I meet escorts every now and then and I have started doing pull ups a month back and because of that I have started developing callouses in my hand and it's only getting worse although I'm applying moisturize and stuff to keep it as okay as possible but part of my palms are developing callous that makes my hand hard and rough.

Like most guys I grab and do stuff during the session and now I'm wondering if most escorts would find that off putting. Would appreciate if escorts can share if it's something that bothers them or is it not a big deal?


r/AskAnEscort • • 15h ago

I want to go from a sw to sugarbaby help NSFW

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I have been talking to this millionaire sporadically since may. The last month we’ve been seeing each other more. We do hookups he gives me a great amount and as far as he tells me I’m one of the only girls he talks to. I want to transition into a sugar baby. We met at my job and it was then I realized he was a hard working self made millionaire. He’s cool but stingy with money how do I make the switch?


r/AskAnEscort • • 1d ago

Referral NSFW

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Is it a dick move to ask an escort you've been seeing if she has anyone she can recommend if she's not available during the time frame I'll be in town?


r/AskAnEscort • • 1d ago

Outcall start times NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hi everyone,
I’m an escort asking other escorts, what time do you think makes sense for an outcall to start? I’ve had someone request to book me for 10 pm until 1 a

I will expect money for an uber on top of that. It’s Ā£25 there and back.

Would you request money for an Uber or would you use that from the deposit they gave you ?


r/AskAnEscort • • 1d ago

Retirement NSFW

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Just curious if some SPs will retire for a time and then decide to come back to it or when retired it’s done and final?


r/AskAnEscort • • 3d ago

How do you do sh*t during a session? NSFW

47 Upvotes

I’m asking this as a sugar baby lol. When I meet my sugar daddy for a sleepover at a hotel and I need to do my business, I get very very anxious. Especially when he tries to be intimate and I’m just holding it in. Thankfully he goes out to smoke or call, so I quickly run in the bathroom and quickly shower after. Pleaseeeee help me.


r/AskAnEscort • • 2d ago

In Call Same as Residence NSFW

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This has been a curiosity of mine as I’ve seen providers that use their place of residence as their in call.

I understand the economic advantages of such arrangement but the obvious issue in my mind is the provider’s safety.

Does additional security come into play with these clients? I know of instances where some of them have mentioned stalking.

Not being judgmental here - just curious.

TIA for any insight.


r/AskAnEscort • • 6d ago

SWer recovering from an injury NSFW

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I'm a long-term client of a sex worker who strictly offers FBSM and HE. She recently had surgery on her hand and stopped seeing clients generally while recovering, but continued to see me.

I booked an appointment knowing she was still recovering. She had said at an appointment before her break that she wouldn't be able to use her hand. At the start of my appointment I asked if we could cuddle while I masturbated. During the appointment, she ended up giving me a handjob, but stopped partway through because her hand was hurting. I told her I was happy to finish myself off, but she switched hands and continued.

In retrospect, I'm wondering whether I handled this appropriately. I didn't want her to feel obligated to continue an activity that was causing her pain, and I was happy to finish on my own. At the same time, she made her own decision to switch hands and continue.

Curious on your thoughts about the best way to handle this. Should I have more explicitly encouraged her to stop, even after offering to finish myself?


r/AskAnEscort • • 7d ago

Client moaning your name during sex NSFW

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Is it weird if a client is moaning your name during sex? I know it’s usually the other way around with the provider moaning the clients name as part of the performance. Is a client moaning ā€œyes nameā€ or ā€œname,name, name too performative on their part? .Just curious what your thoughts are on this.


r/AskAnEscort • • 8d ago

Why would a provider switch to BBBJ? NSFW

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I've been seeing this provider every 4-6 weeks for a bit over a year. Our regular sessions are for 2 hrs but recently we did an overnight. She advertisesa as only offering covered services. However during our overnight she started a bare BJ. I stopped her and asked if she was sure she wanted to do that and she said 'yes'. She also asked me and I was fine with it too. We finished the booking and it was incredible, she also said she had a great time. I'm an anxious person and this situation has so many questions running through my head mostly, why?

A few bits of additional info/questions:

  1. I feel like I'm a pretty good client. I tip well, I buy occasional gifts, I'm always on time, I only text about booking, I thoroughly shower at her incall, I'm respectful. I have never asked for or even hinted at any bare services. Do providers sometimes bend boundries for 'good' clients?

  2. After a few sessions I asked to use a female condom and we've been using them ever since. Now because it would be a hassle to switch between male then female condoms we just haven't done BJs. I haven't asked and she hasn't offered. To be honest I wasn't getting much from CBJs. Maybe during a longer booking she wants to go above and beyond but didn't want the awkward switch?

  3. I live about 2 hours away and have been pretty clear there isn't room to increase the number of appointments. Maybe she is trying to encourage longer appointments?

  4. Is it possible she doesn't like taste of condoms and she feels I'm clean enough and the risk is low enough that she would prefer to not use a condom?

  5. Can I expect this to be the norm going forward? Would you reestablish a boundry, that you bent, with a client? To be clear I would accept that and move on like normal.

I know she is the only one who can answer these questions and I do intend to ask her. I just wanted to gather the collective wisdom of some providers who have been in a similar situation.


r/AskAnEscort • • 8d ago

Planning a social only date, what are details clients often overlook? NSFW

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I've been seeing the same provider regularly for well over a year but due to budget reasons I rarely book more than two hours. During our last session she brought up doing a longer social date since her social rate is significantly lower and we both agreed that it would be fun.

I'm comfortable planning a date around our mutual interests, but is there anything escort specific I should keep in mind? Is there anything you wish more clients were aware of when making plans?

(We've had public social time before, but just brunch or dinner kind of stuff. I'm pretty confident my general behavior is fine since this was her idea to begin with and we've already covered her rules about PDA etc.)


r/AskAnEscort • • 8d ago

Wearing cologne NSFW

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Should I wear cologne/aftershave when visiting an escort? Does that even matter? Or should I just arrive showered with no scents?


r/AskAnEscort • • 9d ago

Is a night market a bad idea? NSFW

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I'm scheduled to see her later from 7pm to midnight. There's a tiny night market that's less than a 5 minute walk from the hotel. I think it might be interesting because it's a relaxed environment and she doesn't have to worry about making herself up. But I also think that greasy food might not be a good idea. Any thoughts?


r/AskAnEscort • • 9d ago

Any tips for all day date NSFW

11 Upvotes

Spend an hour with this gorgeous lady on tour in my city. Busy today but tomorrow I be with her from 12:00 pm to Thursday 12:00 but really she asked if I’ll take her to airport afterwards our date. Never booked longer than an hour and half.

Update thanks for all the tips. Meet up and went for my haircut, lunch and some shopping at the mall. Went to the room and drop off shopping bags before heading to couples massage. That evening got a quick bj while we went to a comedy show for dinner and few drinks afterwards. Went to the room and had amazing fun til like 2:00. Woke up at 8 for breakfast and her surprise included a discount for her friend the last couple hours til I drop them off at the airport.


r/AskAnEscort • • 10d ago

Is it common for a guy to want to go back to the same escort a week later? NSFW

48 Upvotes

Recently I visited an escort for a GFE. It was really fun, good conversation, clean, hygienic, etc. Had a good conversation after the bedroom stuff.

The hour flew by honestly. I would like to see her again even though it's only been a week later.

Is this a pretty common occurrence?


r/AskAnEscort • • 9d ago

Agency vs Indie NSFW

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I've used a couple of agencies recently, the providers I've seen have sometimes exchanged numbers with me and told me to book them as indies. I've looked and I don't see their ads posted on any other popular sites. Maybe they use a different name, who knows. When I ask the rate it's higher than what I would pay booking them through the agency, rate varies from $50 to $250 higher from what I've seen. Just curious why the rates would be higher, is there some unspoken rule about not undercutting agency rates? I personally don't see the need to go that route seeing that it's more expensive and the booking is not as straightforward. I book 100% Indys but these hybrid ones are a bit confusing.


r/AskAnEscort • • 10d ago

Is a make out session before sex part of the package or something you avoid entirely? NSFW

14 Upvotes

Im curious about how sex workers feel about kissing clients.


r/AskAnEscort • • 10d ago

Has SW led you to notice any recurring self-sabotaging traits or behaviors in clients that they're oblivious to? NSFW

8 Upvotes

I don't mean to imply all clients' lives aren't going great or anything. Of the subset who seem to have low self esteem or are only able to find intimacy through a provider, do you ever find yourself thinking: 'buddy, it's so obvious; why are you doing this to yourself?' If so, how are they typically getting in their own way?


r/AskAnEscort • • 10d ago

Hours and times NSFW

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I think its a bit of a no brainer, so I'm not asking cause im totally oblivious and yes i am aware depends on the provider as each one sets their own hours, I just wanted to get a better layout of what are your hours are like as a sw. Are you always available 24 hours? And if not what times do you find are more preferable/have more success in?

How often do you provide services at like the butt crack of dawn at like 7 or 8 am in the morning vs during 12pm or even at like 12am? what are your preferences and why? Im just curious about times is really all. All perspectives are welcomed.