Last week my job hosted an event & a client showed up with a few friends, all Chinese men. I thought one was really attractive, but other than a short glance & quick hello, he didn't really look at or speak to me? Totally fine, I figured he just wasn’t interested or had a girlfriend/wife… fast forward to the end of the night & my coworker was talking to their group in Mandarin (she’s Chinese) as they were heading out, & they kept glancing over at me. When I brought it up later, my coworker told me that they were asking about me because they thought I was pretty, & the one I thought was hot said I had beautiful eyes… ok, that’s nice, but I’m totally confused! Why didn’t he ask for my number/ask me out? Or even look at me for more than five seconds? 

Anyway, I was complaining to my friends about it & we realized that none of us have ever had an Asian guy ask us out. We’re all white women, I think pretty attractive, but that feedback is mostly from white guys, so… do white women tend to do something that is a turnoff for Asian men? Is there some sort of green light we’re not communicating? Am I reading too much into the calling me pretty/beautiful eyes thing... like is that a compliment an Asian guy would give to a friend/doesn't necessarily mean anything? One of my friends said I should’ve asked that guy for his number… I’ve never done that & would like to avoid it, but if that's really the only way, I guess I'd at least consider it. Any advice/criticism/opinions are appreciated.

Also: should go without saying, but I'm not trying to do anything that even hints at me being a "-boo" or fetishizing Asian men... I'm bringing this here because attraction/approach kinda seems related to masculinity, & I don't trust/care to hear what non-Asian men have to say about this situation.

Comedian Shane Gillis recently went on SNL and basically “sl*t shame” women for dressing inappropriately to the gym. This is currently getting a lot of heat from him and is getting cancelled

What no one talks about that he was hired on SNL several years earlier but was fired due to racist videos of him talking down on Chinese people.

Of course you look at the comments on video entire comment section of WM defending him, how typical…

When someone is talking about the racist clip against Asians, apparently it only matters if other groups of races get more attention and people care about it.

Racism against Asian people are normalized and this just proves it