I’m 29 and a friend gave me an old coffee machine a few months ago when he was moving. He said he didn’t need it anymore and asked if I wanted it, so I took it.

I used it for a while but honestly barely touched it after the first couple of weeks. Recently I bought a different one, so I listed the old one online and sold it for $60.

My friend found out because he saw the listing before I took it down. He messaged me saying he would’ve taken it back if he knew I didn’t want it anymore.

I told him he gave it to me and never said anything about wanting it back. He said he wasn’t expecting me to keep it forever, but he thought I’d at least ask him first.

I get where he’s coming from, but I don’t really see why I needed permission to sell something that was mine.

We haven’t argued about it since, but the conversation was a little awkward.

AITBF?

my nephrologist had to literally beg me to quit working. I've decided to end my schooling too. I'm trying with disability but I can't make that go any faster. She's planning to kick me out all because I'm not giving her anymore money. It's not fair. I’m 20F by the way

This is complicated situation. My ex and I shared a friend group, we all came together around the time we started dating so they didn't feel like his friends or my friends at the time. After the breakup, I was quiet about what I went through but internally I felt I was wronged, possibly even abused.

My ex was extremely manipulative and dishonest during our relationship, which led to many hurtful betrayals. I was naive and thought it was only bad habits learned from childhood, so I tried to make the friendship with him work after.

Once he decided he didn't want to anymore, he told me he was moving on. To my surprise, the friends also said they were going to move on without me in their life. I'm not sure what my ex told him, but I have a feeling he convinced them I was crazy. I asked if I could share my story, and told them all the things he did to me. (Long story short: ex completely fabricated his life and used lies to do things behind my back, gaslight me to tears, and treated me worse on purpose. He would ignore me or be entirely unaffectionate, then act like I was crazy for asking him "what's wrong?" He would talk to other guys behind my back and lie about where he was, saying I am crazy for thinking he was lying)

When they heard my story, and still took his side (after weeks of "thinking on it") I got really hurt. I bluntly asked them "why is what he did okay to you? Why don't you care that he lied about his entire life to me? Why did I deserve that? Do you support abuse?"

On one hand, my ex treated me like dirt and a couple professionals indicated it may have been emotional abuse, if not at the least an unfair, traumatizing relationship. It hurts that my friends I'd spent over two years talking to every day can easily forgive him and cast me out. On the other hand, I'm sure it is a tough situation being between 2 friends, and I feel bad for bluntly talking to them and implying that supporting my ex means they support abuse. AITB?

I have a close group of male friends, and we regularly tease each other about crushes, exes, and relationships. Our humour can be immature, but it's generally understood that we're joking around and don't mean everything literally.

Recently, one of my friends, Sam, was being teased about hanging out with my ex. The group was joking about them spending time together, watching movies, and going shopping. Everyone was already teasing him about her, and I joined in by jokingly saying, "Bro, go on, sleep with her too if you need to."

I wasn't being serious or actually encouraging him to sleep with her. I was extending the joke because we were already teasing him about spending time with her. To me, it was just immature banter between friends, not a genuine suggestion or a reflection of how I felt about her.

For context, my ex and I were on a break at the time. We still had feelings for each other, but things between us were complicated.

She later read the group chat while I was asleep and was extremely upset by my comment. She said she didn't want to live with someone who said things like that and that the person she had fallen in love with wasn't who she thought I was.

I tried explaining that I hadn't meant it literally and that I was just joking around with my friends, but she felt that the comment was disrespectful and made her question my character.

My friends and I regularly tease each other in similar ways about relationships. She had also seen us joking about other friends and their situations without having an issue with it. That's part of why I didn't think much of my comment at the time.

I understand that the wording was crude and that she might find it disrespectful, especially because she was the person being discussed. But I genuinely didn't intend to disrespect her or suggest that I wanted anything to happen between them. If she had made the same joke about me to her friends, I honestly think I would have laughed it off.

I'm not asking whether she's allowed to feel hurt. Of course she is. I'm trying to understand whether the joke itself was genuinely out of line, given the context, or whether it was immature friend-group banter that came across much worse than I intended.

So, AITB for making this joke, even though I didn't mean it seriously?

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i have two best friends, masha (7 years) and dana (5 years). they’re friends but not especially close, and masha has never seemed that fond of dana. ryan is dana’s brother, and masha has been talking to him since around march.

when masha first told me about him, she called him weird and said she felt uncomfortable talking to him. but she kept talking to him, calling him awkward, corny and embarrassing n has said he’s ugly 😬she didn’t want our other friends to know because it would ruin her image. she also told me she wasn’t into him and was “just playing around,” and admitted she liked the attention.

i told her to tell dana if she felt so uncomfortable and to let her know when she went to the movies with ryan. masha pretended to text dana and told me she’d done it, but i recently found out that wasn’t true. dana was overseas when they went out, and masha only told her afterwards, claiming she thought dana was coming too. masha had also cancelled plans with dana to see ryan and lied about why.

last week, dana asked if i knew about them. i said yes because i thought masha had told her. dana explained that ryan had become distant and angry with her, accusing her of having something against masha whenever she gave him advice. he’d told dana that he and masha argued and things were getting toxic, so dana advised him to define the relationship or take a break.

ryan was working two shifts and spending money on masha, while she wouldn’t say she liked or loved him back. that’s her choice, obviously, but from what masha had told me, it seemed like he was more invested than she was.

dana asked me to help explain things to him because he kept accusing her of lying. i helped her write messages based on what i knew, and ryan thought they were entirely from dana. i wasn’t quoting masha word for word, and i know it wasn’t great to get involved without ryan knowing. he suspected it might’ve been me, but dana denied it and said i’d ghosted everyone.

i didn’t do it to break them up or because i cared about ryan. dana is my best friend too, and her family has always treated me kindly. it felt wrong to lie to her, especially when masha had told me dana already knew.

my friendship with masha has also been rocky for a while. since she started talking to ryan, she’s stopped making an effort with me, even though we used to message and call daily. she’s also spoken badly about dana and ryan to me, and i think that affected why i chose to help dana.

now i’ve heard masha and ryan are on a break, and i’m worried my involvement contributed or that masha will find out. i feel guilty about helping write the messages, but they were already arguing and dana was already trying to advise him.