Im post this here cuz i dont have any karmas for post in r / disability even though it maybe go better there. but i am in a wheelchair so it still kinda fits/related ok.
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GUYS THE PROGRAM I AM ENROLL AT THIS COLLEGE YOU SPECificaley HAVE TO APPLY & BE ACEPT TO THE PROGRAM WHEN YOURE ENROLL ITS NOT LIKE A CLUB ITS A DIFFERENT COURSE! THE LUNCH IS A SPECIFIC GROUP FOR MY COURSE I CANT JUST SIT AT A DIFERENT TABLE. IF I COULD I WOULD DO THAT THANK YOU. THEY COULD SIT ANY WHERE ELSE BUT THEy ARE SIT IN OUR MEETING AND ALSO TALK WAY MORE AND FASTER THEN MY GROUP CAN SO IT IS NOT FAIR I AM LEFT OUT OF THE MEETING FOR MY OWN COURSE
ALSO I FORGOT TO ADD SORRY: THEY SRE NOT EVEN REALY TRYING TO TALK TO ME OR THE GROUP MEMBERS BUT INSTEAD THEY TALK TO MY CAREGIVER AND THE GROUP MENTORS MOSTLY BECAUSE THEY ARE TALK TO FAST FOR ME OR ANY US TO UNDERSTAND WHICH MEANS NONE OF PEOPLE IN PROGRAM REALY HAVE TIME TO TALK AND WERE GET LEFT OUT OF CONVERSATION. WHICH FEELS HOT FAIR BECAUSE PLEASE INCLUDE US NOT JUST CAREGIVER BECAUSE SHE TALKS BETTER
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i am freshmen at college. i go to a not-sped/reguler college. and i am doing the sped program there for people who has got intellectuel disability.
my program have lunch at same time every school day at the same spot. my caregiver comes with me to college and to the lunch.
AND there are some people who are not in my program at all (doing reguler collage) but still like to come to our lunch spot to have lunch with me & the other program ppl. im call them S & N & Z for this ok
those are the people who are cause this problem for me nobody actualey in my program is the ones doing this!!
i CANT do health / medical conversation topics it huge stress to me
OK SO HERE IS MY ISSUE:
these people at lunch keep bring up health topics and mental illness and stuff even when i keep asking them not to! i have literely said very very clear "change the topic i cant do medical topic" "im done talking about meds please change topic" "i can't do health topic i hate to talk about it" ETC ok. also they are just totally talk over all of us that actualey in the sped program and take up the whole conversation and make it go too fast which is not fair cuz it's our lunch meeting not theres!
S will not stop bringing up that she on psych meds and keep bringing up ocd and keep bringing up that she did a sewerslide attempt once. N is her boyfriend so he talk to us about that stuff kinda too. i meet her friend Z today and first she would not quit talk about her service dog which it was right there. which at first was ok because i wanted to talk about my pet cat and dog to everybody. but she keep bring up her medical issues when i ask her to not!! we were talk about french fries and she went on this whole story about how she need to eat salt for pots but she's allergic to pickles and kept talk about her heart rate. then i try talk about the aquarium and she start talk about how she use a scooter because she can't walk alot cuz pots and that she fell out of it once and broke her glasses so she got new glasses. i try talk about horses and she talk about how she did horse therapy at a mental health treatment. i talk to my friend C about his seal tattoo and she show me her eating disorder and suicide logo tatoo. and when we talk about dog she bring up that she had a mean dog that she couldn't keep cuz she was disabled. NOTE I LITERELY ASKED OVER 7 TIMES TODAY FOR CHANGE TOPIC BUT THEY KEPT DID THIS!!!
it stress me so bad i could not even go to class today!! i had go home early cuz obviusly health stuff is stress to me!!! i made it realy obvius by say PLEASE STOP!! and tbh it realy realy obvius just by look at me that im disabled cuz i am in a big powerchair i look different physical and i have mental disabilitys that obvius so it should be realy clear i have reason i not comfy with health topic it very stress to me!!!
i telled my dad everything i said here today and he is send email to my programs leader at college so hopefuly she can fix it! but im realy upset i want to have friends and have fun at lunch but i dont want to get upset at lunch by be told so much traumatizing stuff!
idk why they are tell this to me! idk even how they want me to respond.... idk if they see me and think oh it ok to talk to you about disabled stuff cuz you look disabled or idk if they want me like relate & tell them my stuff (i will not its not there business!)idk if they want me validate them or what... im very stress over this im worry i can not go to my programs lunch anymore and i worry i will lose all my friends if i cant go!!