r/weddingshaming • u/Over-Clue-8469 • Jul 23 '25

Dressed like a Bride (Re-Upload) Wedding Guest wore custom-made gown

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Reupload to blur out the faces. She double down and made a FB post about how women shouldn't tear each other down.....

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u/MizzyvonMuffling Jul 23 '25

Who’s the bride???

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u/achayah Jul 23 '25

The girl in the white dress on the left.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '25

Oof, it doesn’t help that the actual bride’s dress is… not at all bridal… it’s like a TJ Maxx dress which is fine but would make most people look overdressed unless the dress code was “casual.”

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u/Somecrazygranny Jul 23 '25

The non-brides husband wore a polo shirt - the dress code WAS casual

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u/456name789 Jul 24 '25

HAHAHA! Hilarious 😂

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u/clueless_mommy Jul 24 '25

Nope, op said there was no dress code communicated

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '25

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u/clueless_mommy Jul 25 '25

But look at the venue. At the decorations.. The guest is a better match than the bride

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u/just_a_person_maybe Jul 27 '25

At least some of the backgrounds of these pictures are AI generated. Look at the bench she's holding onto in the garden pic. She tried to edit the pictures to look fancier.

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u/clueless_mommy Jul 27 '25

That bench is really something different.

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u/Spiritual-Can2604 Jul 27 '25

Please can you tell me what country they are from? I’m trying to logic myself out of having a stroke here. In some cultures guests are encouraged to go all out. Please help me.

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u/Best-Firefighter4867 Jul 27 '25

I did a little digging and she speaks Hmong - a language spoken by ethnic groups in China, Vietnam, Laos, and Thailand.

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u/Born-Location-7475 Aug 18 '25

Then they're probably in the US, Hmong wedding attire are very distinct so they're most likely just going for a standard American wedding.

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u/IdgyThreadgoodee Jul 23 '25

It looks like a reception dress for dancing to me. Based on the amazing flowers behind her I have a very hard time believing it’s a cheap dress. Likely one of 2 or 3 she wore that night.

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u/VioletB2000 Jul 23 '25

I saw The Facebook posts of the woman in the fancy dress with the train and she is going absolutely over-the-top with rationalizing that anyone who says anything bad about her or her dress is trying to take women down

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u/Medium_Medium Jul 24 '25

Isn't her blatantly upstaging someone else on their big day taking women down?

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u/[deleted] Jul 25 '25

her entire "women who can't compete with you" comment implies that she's just so amazing and beautiful that she simply can't help but upstage other women!

no, bitch, you're literally wearing a wedding dress.

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u/leladypayne Jul 26 '25

At least she is letting all of her friends/family know that they ABSOLUTELY cannot invite her to any wedding ever again. Hope she enjoyed being a guest for the last time ever!

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u/labor_day_baby Jul 27 '25

Going off of Facebook posts, the actual bride on the left did have a fancier gown for the ceremony but changed to a more simple reception dress.

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u/Anuki_iwy Jul 24 '25

Or bachelorette party

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '25

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u/curlykale00 Jul 23 '25 edited Jul 23 '25

Do we know what the dress code was? Maybe the bride was confused about the dress code she told everyone. Not-bride's dress is clearly not white and if the bride was next to her in an equally extra gown in white it would be clear who the bride is in my opinion.

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u/p333p33p00p00boo Jul 23 '25

In the original post, a lot of people thought the rude one was the woman in the short white dress. Including me.

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u/Over-Clue-8469 Jul 23 '25

My sister said based from Facebook comments, the guest here is the aunt to the bride. And generally, in this very specific culture wedding, it's frowned upon to have a dress code and RSVP. And the usual unspoken dress code is to just wear something nice (no Black Tie unless it's requested). And judging by the video on Facebook, the rest of the guests just wore formal colored dresses (nothing fancy like this specific guest).

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u/On_my_last_spoon Jul 23 '25

Oh this isn’t you then.

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u/On_my_last_spoon Jul 23 '25

Unless it was black tie, that dress on the right is too much. It isn’t cocktail. It isn’t formal. That is black tie. And you only do that formal when it is black tie.

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u/Over-Clue-8469 Jul 23 '25

Wedding like these (it's cultural specific) don't have any dress code other than wear formal dresses

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u/Brynhild Jul 23 '25

Isn’t that pretty formal? Like black tie formal? The bride is underdressed if she asked everyone else to wear formal

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u/Over-Clue-8469 Jul 23 '25

Not black tie formal.

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u/Brynhild Jul 23 '25

So like cocktail dresses or like summer dresses kind? Saying it’s “formal” is so vague. That guest is obviously way overdressed for sure with that awful train. But some cocktail dresses can even outshine the bride because hers is quite casual. I am so curious what the other guests were wearing. I would 100% crawl into a hole if i wore a nice-ish cocktail dress and got told to leave 😭

If the bride is wearing that, i hope the dress code was more like summer dresses

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u/LadyMRedd Jul 23 '25

I wonder if this was a reception or going away dress. Some brides have a formal dress for ceremony and dinner and change into something more comfortable for dancing or leaving the venue.

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u/Humble-Grumble Jul 23 '25 edited Jul 23 '25

If the only instruction was "formal," then whoever wrote that was painfully vague. If there's a cultural issue here, it needs to be explained in the OP, otherwise it doesn't matter. If the bride is going to wear a knee-length white dress while insisting that everyone else dress for a formal wedding, then she's part of the problem.

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u/WithoutDennisNedry Jul 23 '25

It’s white enough, imo. Lots of brides wear super light shades of other colors like champagne and super light lavender instead of white. I’d think the woman on the right was the bride any day.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '25

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u/curlykale00 Jul 23 '25

I have seen discussions here several times about people confused about what certain words mean in dress codes, so I think it's possible the bride was too. And how was anyone supposed to know what the bride would be wearing?

Yes, more likely the dress code was more like what the bride is wearing, I am just saying it's possible and we don't know for sure and I would like to!

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '25

I don't think it matters what the bride said the dress code was to be. The woman in the custom [very bridal] gown is the type who wouldn't GAF what the "code" was. She was hell-bent for leather about being the showstopper and making sure all eyes were on her.

That's an "it's all about me, all the time" kind of bish, right there.

"I'm a woman, dearie; I know my sex." - Mary Haines' mother in "The Women, (1939)" played by Lucille Watson.

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u/jlmk74 Jul 23 '25

Plus she flaunts it. If I walked in wearing that dress and saw everyone else dressed nicely but not evening and the bride’s simplicity, I would be horrified and hiding. Not POSING for photos at someone else’s wedding like it’s a photoshoot.

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u/Lampadas_Horde Jul 23 '25

Bride told them formal based on another comment. Bride reminds me of a prom formal and not a formal event.

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u/LittleFairyOfDeath Jul 26 '25

Tbf almost any dress would have been much more fancy than what the bride wore

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '25

This was exactly my thought. Next to my wedding dress this would honestly be no problem. It’s not white, it’s just light colored and too formal.

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u/calling_water Jul 23 '25

And has a white tulle train. That’s an obvious no-go at a wedding for anyone who isn’t the bride.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '25

True the white tulle is never okay

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '25

It's some form of off-white, which is just too close for a wedding. especially with how bridal the whole thing looks with the tulle. I'm looking for a wedding dress now in similar off-white shades, and I find a decent variety at bridal shops.

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u/BotiaDario Jul 24 '25

Oh she didn't fail to understand, she did this deliberately for attention.

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u/TrustyBobcat Jul 23 '25

Maybe this is a reception dress that the bride changed into for optimal boogying potential

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '25

That's not her wedding dress, this is a pic from the after party

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u/OpeningVariable Jul 24 '25

I went on a detective spree... The bride posted on facebook that she doesn't mind the dress at all. And I guess this short white dress is her second dress or something, because on her profile she has photos with the wedding party in an actual wedding gown dress. OP should delete this and leave these women alone.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '25

Ohhh this makes so much sense. And yeah, you’re right. Sounds like it wasn’t a problem.

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u/gonnafaceit2022 Jul 23 '25

Yeah that's a frumpy, very cheap looking dress. Even a necklace would have helped.

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u/GrappleLacquer Jul 25 '25

I just turned to my husband and was like “so I obviously would never wear a white dress to someone’s wedding but if we showed up and I was dressed at that level of formal and the bride was wearing that…” and he jumped in without missing a beat and was like “oh we would be leaving as quickly and quietly as possible, yes”

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u/xxblackwindowxx Jul 27 '25

okay...not everyone can afford a few hundred dollar gown for their wedding, if that's what she wanted to wear for her wedding then its her bridal dress. Besides, why the heck are you degrading her dress, she looks good in it and there's no reason to tear her down.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '25

It's definitely prom-off-the-rack, which is completely fine, but with that I'd cry being next to this girl. You stabbed me in the heart at my wedding, so mission accomplished??