r/weddingshaming • u/Over-Clue-8469 • Jul 23 '25

Dressed like a Bride (Re-Upload) Wedding Guest wore custom-made gown

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Reupload to blur out the faces. She double down and made a FB post about how women shouldn't tear each other down.....

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u/framedjunction Jul 23 '25

Okay so I saw the original post and I have been thinking about it ever since lol. The side by side of them is crazy-the custom dress chick genuinely looks like the bride. And if she was gunna do a custom dress she should not have picked something so close to white.

That being said, the bride wore a non traditional wedding dress. Which is fine! But it makes the custom dress look WAY worse. It also makes her look insanely over dressed. If the wedding was true black or white tie, and the bride was in an extravagant gown, this custom dress wouldn’t look as bad.

I would never wear this, and I’m not defending her pick-me, narcissistic mean girl behavior in response, but just bringing a different perspective.

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u/turtle_yawnz Jul 23 '25

Maybe there is another post that I missed but the bride’s dress to me looks like a reception dress that people change into if their dress is too heavy/extravagant to wear all night.

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u/minicooperlove Jul 23 '25

Maybe, but it still means the dress code is unlikely to be black tie - a bride wouldn't wear this even just for the reception if the dress code is black tie and everyone else is wearing ball gowns. What is the point of having a black tie wedding if you're not even going to wear black tie yourself to the reception? I could see a dress change if the dress was heavy and difficult to dance in, but I think she would still choose another black tie dress to change into, just a lighter and more flexible one.

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u/turtle_yawnz Jul 23 '25

For the record, I think the guest’s dress is totally inappropriate regardless. But anecdotally I’ve seen quite a bit of 1) brides wearing a far more casual reception dress (including many who change into sneakers) than the dress code and 2) weddings that state a “formal” dress code on the website or invite when it’s clear the bride/groom don’t actually know what formal entails and just don’t want people to show up in jeans.

I’ve worn gowns (NOTHING like this) to weddings with a stated “formal” dress code and been totally overdressed so that one is a particular bugaboo.

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u/minicooperlove Jul 23 '25

brides wearing a far more casual reception dress (including many who change into sneakers) than the dress code

Absolutely, but I've never seen this at a black tie wedding.

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u/turtle_yawnz Jul 23 '25

I’ve been to 2 black tie weddings where the bride did this! This is not something in particular that bothers me. I feel like the bride kind of gets a pass on whatever. It’s not something I’d do, but I don’t have much thought of it.

I think with Tik tok/instagram reels brides these days are so oversaturated with “trends” and try to just muddle all the things they like together. Like they see these videos of these gorgeous gala weddings and go “ooh I want that” and then also people posting about the fact that it’s their day and they should get to be comfortable. Like I said it’s not for me but it something I’ve seen across my social circles.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '25

I think some people (the hosts/bride & groom) truly don't know what black tie formal means.. so they put it so no one shows up in jeans, but then those who know what it means show up overdressed.

My fiance & I went to a wedding & it said black tie... he was the only one in a SUIT & no one was in a tux. It was dress pants & slacks/ cocktail attire at best. He felt awkward & overdressed, despite being under dressed for a black tie event.

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u/lilac_blaire Jul 23 '25

I did some stalking and the bride’s dress for the ceremony was definitely more elaborate and this was a less formal reception one, you’re right!

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u/lizzieamc Jul 24 '25

I just dug a little more and saw pics of the wedding party. The bride has a fancy dress on, not the one in these pics. I think she might changed into that dress for the reception. Also, there’s like a full picture of the venue and it looks decorated a bit fancy. Also there’s a pic with the groom and he is wearing a whole fancy suit and whatnot.

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u/ladancer22 Jul 23 '25

Yeah, you can see in the fb post the bottom of a photo where the bride is clearly in a floor length wedding dress.

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u/coldknuckles Jul 23 '25

No, that’s the guests outfit still, it’s the same as another pic in the album 😥

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u/dimmidummy Jul 23 '25

Yeah if it were a completely different color (like red or blue) and less bridal-esque/didn’t have a train, it probably would’ve been fine.

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u/Tanyec Jul 23 '25

Ish. Depends on the dress code. It’s an over the top dress only appropriate for a very formal/black-tie wedding.

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u/PuzzleheadedFrame439 Jul 23 '25

Yes this is true. But the train on the custom gown, and the color... should never be worn to someone else's wedding.

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u/green_ribbon Jul 23 '25

bride did wear a traditional dress, just changed out. its on her fb

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u/Acrobatic-Set9585 Jul 26 '25

Yeah I was thinking in some cultures, it is very normal for wedding guests to wear gowns like this. Idk if the aunt and bride are both from such a culture and that's why the aunt turned up dressed like that BUT as the aunt how would you not know that your niece is going to wear something low-key to her wedding. But judging from what the bride said and what the comments said, her aunt was the only one overdressed so I doubt it was an honest mistake of the aunt.

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '25

I honestly think that it's just the differential between the bride's non-trad dress and hers. The color of the custom dress is champagne/rose/light pink. If it was my wedding, she'd look totally well-dressed standing next to me. Even if I had changed into a short reception dress, it would be clear that I was the bride.

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u/4everal0ne Jul 23 '25

Agreed. Brides dress is also...a choice. You literally could not pick a less "bridal" dress.

The up stager still sucks massive dong.

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u/mintardent Jul 24 '25

But the other guests weren’t dress in black or white tie. This was evidently a “sunday best” type of wedding and the aunt just decided to be over the top.

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u/framedjunction Jul 24 '25

Not sure where you got the info that she was the aunt, but I saw the original photos and they’re like the same age, if not the bride is actually older.

Also, people are speculating this whole thing is AI anyway lol. Some of the photos seem like that.

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u/weedwhores Jul 26 '25

I mean age doesn’t determine familial status. I became an aunt at like 9 years old lol there are definitely people out there with aunts/uncles that are their age or even younger.

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u/framedjunction Jul 26 '25

I’m aware of that. I became an aunt at 11. But she looked drastically older than the bride, I’m not saying it’s impossible, but it would be less likely.

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u/GoonOnGames420 Jul 24 '25

Honestly the dress is fine if it didn't have the stupid ribbon fluff on the back. People wear just a fancy outfits in big cities for dinner and cocktails.

Also, I would have expected the bride to wear a more flashy gown if attire on invite was formal.

Really seems like the bride and guest are probably from very different backgrounds with different expectations

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u/mintardent Jul 24 '25

The guest is the brides aunt. they are from the same background.