r/weddings • u/NMCICT544 • 8d ago

Ideas to include fiancé's stepbrothers in wedding

My fiance has two stepbrothers who are 19 year old twins. Fiance has gotten closer to them in recent years. My fiance has picked six groomsmen. We are thinking about having them as ushers. We are looking at other ideas except for readers because we are having a Catholic wedding and fiancé's stepmom and stepbrothers aren't religious at all.

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u/Prestigious-Fan3122 8d ago

I think making them usher is PERFECT! Ring bearers our children, and ushers are adults. I think that would be a lovely way to include them!

Short of that, could you have one of them escort the Groom's mother to her seat, and the other one escort the grooms grandmother (if there is one, or another close, female relative or dear family friend who has a seat of honor) to her seat?

Could they be "greeters,"so to speak, standing at the door welcoming everyone to the wedding and handing them a program, if you were going to have printed programs?

If you're having assigned seating at your reception, and you have one or two tables where you're going to have some single individuals who weren't invited to bring a plus one, or didn't have a plus one or partner to bring, you could ask each nephew to be a "Table host". He would be sort of an unofficial escort/host to the people at the table, male or female, and, if inclined to, he could ask the ladies (men, if he prefers) to dance and so on. Offer to get them another drink, you know: the host stuff.

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u/NMCICT544 7d ago

We aren't doing assigned seating. My fiance's mom will be escorted by her husband. My fiance's remaining grandmother has dementia and is unlikely to attend due to multiple health issues and she lives in a memory care facility.

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u/Prestigious-Fan3122 7d ago

If it's a small facility, and if you and your husband have the energy and resources to do so, could you speak to the director and set up a time, maybe on a Sunday afternoon shortly after your wedding, for both of you to get dressed back up in your wedding Winery and get some sort of white, frosted cake, even a sheet cake from Sam’s, with one of those old school, traditional "bride and Groom" toppers, and go and share "wedding cake" and punch with all of the residence? She would be the STAR of her memory care facility! It wouldn't be terribly expensive. Hell, if I knew you, I'd pay for the cake and punch, and some paper plates and forks to serve it with so it's not to make trouble for the staff. Of course, you'd have to get permission. Maybe even play your first dance song, and do a little first dance in front of the old folks.

They would probably ADORE that!

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u/NMCICT544 7d ago

My fiancé's grandmother is several hours away in a neighboring state. She doesn't remember my fiancé anymore, and if we tried something like that it would just be more confusing for her.