Hi there. I am nonbinary and I really really want bottom growth but I do not want the other masculinising effects that testosterone can have, so I am pretty certain I don't want to just take T.

I have heard of many cis women and nonbinary people using topical DHT creams on their clitoris to achieve bottom growth without the other effects.

Is this something that can be legally obtained from a doctor in Australia? Specifically I am living in QLD.

Hey all, hope you're having a good Thursday! I'm just hoping to get a second opinion about my experience with my GP. For context, I've talked to her in the past about potentially exploring a formal autism diagnosis as I'm fairly certain I'm autistic. Apologies if this is a bit too long and rambly, I've also come off a night shift so my brain is fried lol.

I came out to her at my appointment today, hoping I could work through the first steps towards a concrete plan to finally start testosterone (eg through the informed consent model as I'm over 30, being referred to an endocrinologist, or even being pointed in the direction of another GP who's more experienced in this area if she's not comfortable).

At first she was great, very supportive and lovely about it even though she admitted she hasn't had much to do with trans folk in the past.....and then she spent the rest of the consult telling me that so many trans men are just "women with autism" who can't live authentically due to masking as well as their neurodivergence making it difficult to connect with "other women" and making them feel out of place due to not wanting to conform to traditional gender roles. She also briefly spoke about some trans men detransitioning due to the above reasons as well.

She said she feels like she has a duty of care to ensure I have my autism diagnosis before exploring this further, however she did also say she'd look into other GPs at the clinic who have treated trans patients.

Basically I'm just frustrated and want to know if this is normal or not, because all that really sucked to hear. I've been dreaming about finally starting my transition for over ten years, but I've only recently entered a living situation where I can finally start after all this time. I'm not sure how much longer I can keep waiting, especially when the autism assessment she wants me to consider costs two thousand dollars, and my next appointment with her is six weeks away.

My girlfriend is trans as well, and recently got her first script for estrogen within three weeks of bringing it up to her GP (he immediately transferred her to a endocrinologist who specialises in transitioning) so I guess I was hoping I'd have a similar experience.

The thing is, my GP was so nice despite everything and was more than happy to ditch my dead name on my file and replace it with the one I want (she changed my pronouns to they/them instead of he/him, though). I'm seriously considering cutting my losses and finding a different doctor, but I'm also wondering I'm just overreacting, especially if this is coming from a place of genuine concern from her. She even thanked me for trusting her enough to come out.

All I know for certain is that I nearly broke down ugly crying in the Hungry Jacks drive through on the way home, which was very embarrassing lol

I’m an 18 year old trans woman, and I wanna start hrt as soon as possible, but I think it would be a good idea to store sperm first. How long does this process usually take? Will it significantly delay my hrt start date?

hi,

got an email saying i needed to do a credit report (i don’t have a credit card so i just screenshotted that). question is where do i upload it? cause when i go to upload documents the only options are medical or medicare and this doesn’t fall under either.

also, once everything is submitted, will they confirm that its being processed?

it’s getting ridiculous, I had to set up a dentist appointment and they now specifically ask for sex at birth, not sex or gender.

i lied of course and will never comply with this transphobic terf system but it just goes to show that Australia isn’t safe.

This sex at birth thing is appearing everywhere

Hi team,

In July I had 3 x 100 mg estrogen pellets inserted. By August my levels were good at 1019 pmol/l, but dropped off very rapidly to 409 in October. My doctor approved a script for another 3 x 100 mg to be inserted asap while supplying me with Sandrea to subsidise in the mean time.

I know 2 x 100 mg is the standard high dose, could the dosage be the reason for the fast drop off? Is another 3 x 100 too much? Any thoughts appreciated.

I have been aware that my parents where emotionally abusive and was starting to move past it, but due to certain circumstances I've had to move back in with them into the middle of the wheatbelt into a town of 200~ people, many of which are very backwards and unpleasant, but I have managed to grin and bear it until recently, I had a suicide attempt one month ago that broke the fragile peace I had with my parents, with them withholding my medication except for my hormones, and two weeks ago I woke up in a fright in the afternoon to my dad slamming the pointy handle of a rake into the dog, and I just reacted and hit him in the ribs to make him stop, he's always kicked and thrown dogs around that we have had when he's angry at them, even when they can't help it, afterwards they brought me inside where my Mum said she's sick of walking on eggshells around me, and dad pointed a knife at me and told me if I ever hit him again he'll kill me, and mum just stood by his side and let him say and act however. I'm at my boiling point of being too angry/scared to be around them in the same room, but I have no other family and no friends left, and I don't have my license or a car, I can either stay and try and avoid them for the rest of my life in this small country town without any other queer people (I think) or I can pack what I can, take anything of value I can think of and catch the weekly bus back into Perth tomorrow morning, I'm sneaky and will be able to get the larger bags out tonight and just say I'm going to the shops in the morning or something, but I'm terrified, and I only have 2.5k~ in savings to survive by myself. I don't know what to do and I can't take it anymore, if anyone can offer advice or give an opinion with a clearer head than mine at the moment that will help please do.

Many of us know Genspect and the work they do. They are listed as a charity in Australia... We are able to raise a concern with the ACNC about the validity of this, and I would encourage as many of us to flag this with the ACNC as possible. The first link is their organisation details which you will need to report them via the second link.

https://www.acnc.gov.au/charity/charities/0158a4ac-9e9f-f011-bbd2-7c1e528a8d67/profile

https://www.acnc.gov.au/raise-concern

I’ve just come out of my consult for top surgery with Lisa and first thing I thought was how delightful she was. She is extremely well informed and does everything to make sure you are as well, explaining everything in thoughtful and thorough detail. We ended up bonding over her dogs and dinosaurs after i noticed several Trex’s around the room. The only thing I stepped out thinking could’ve contributed to peoples negative experiences I had read and was concerned over was that she is very forward with asking you to take off your shirt so she can look (this is obviously an incredibly important aspect! I had no issues with taking off my shirt and bra and having her touch). If you’re uncertain in seeing her I implore you to do so and consider her as your surgeon.

I feel an important aspect of a top surgery consult is being mentally prepared for the fact that this appointment is as much for a surgeons understanding of what will be performed as it is for you, meaning looking at you bare chested is necessary, however awkward it may feel it’s a professional space and allows surgeons to best understand your individual anatomy and how to give you the best results! She does also take before and after photos so another thing you probably know. Shirtless and photos of you bare chested.

Overall I sought her out as she works under informed consent rather than needing psychologist and other approvals before and was extremely pleased with the experience and time we spent in the office. She covered all aspects of survey I had questions or reservations about so I didn’t have any questions.

Just started my E via patches due to age but why do manufacturers make Cypro in such high doses?Needing to cut up tablets into 4 parts is just meh even with a pill cutter.Anyways thats my minor rant for the day.Hope everyones having a great day.night:)

Hi all i have just started my transition and im putting together my care plan for mental health support.Does anyone know if the psychologists at kaleido do Telehealth?

Due to living in the southern highlands and my caring responsibilities travel is extremely difficult for me and it would be helpful to know if the psychologists there do telehealth and also if anyone knows if any of the Doctors are experienced and accredited with WPATH requirements towards my wpath assessment for SRS further down the road.Thanks for any advice help.

I have two binders that I don’t need anymore and I’d like to pass them on. I’d prefer to give these to people that can’t afford to buy one. The binders themselves will be free, I just ask that you cover shipping costs (~$15-20 but that can be negotiated depending on location and circumstances).

They were bought several years ago but they’re in fairly good condition as I didn’t wear them that often (a couple times a year for specific outings). I can send pictures of them on request and they’ll be washed before I send them. Description for each is below. Send me a DM if you’re interested.

3XL Underworks Short Binder (Black)
Purchased in 2020
Bust Measurements: 132-140cm

5XL GC2B Tank Binder (Light Beige)
Purchased in 2021
Bust Measurements: 119-132cm

So I don't really have anybody I have known for 12 months for my supporting statement... I am assuming its fine, its only faith based... but has anyone ever experienced issues if they didnt actually know the person on their supporting statement for 12 months?

I’m 19ftm, living in regional NSW, and I’m aiming to get an apprenticeship to become an electrician. I originally wanted to get an apprenticeship by early 2027.

I’m 1 year on T though I’ve had somewhat subtler changes than I hoped so far, I’m mostly passing but as a 13yo boy lol. I’m not open about being trans and once I start passing better I’ll go completely stealth, for now though I’m too clockable.

2027 is coming up and I expected to be about to start applying by now. An apprenticeship is 4 years of minimum wage so I do want to get it done asap. However since I’m still not passing as well as I wanted, I’m nervous and thinking should I put it off until I pass better? Obv tradie culture can be a huge cishet blokes club and with your average random dude’s opinion on trans ppl getting progressively less friendly and also being from a regional area, I’m especially worried how they will react and treat me.

If anyone knows anything about what it’s like being trans in trades, especially trans masc and/or a sparky and/or in a small town, pls share your experience.
Should I hold off my whole apprenticeship or should I just cope and get started? I also wonder if I might have better time in a smaller business than a big one with tons of employees, or maybe learning from a female electrician?

Hey beautiful people.

I've been struggling with body dysmorphia for a long time and have been openly NB for a few years. I think I've decided I'd like to start HRT but I don't know where to find GPs in my area who would help with this.

I'm based in the Hills, so if anyone has advice for doctors in the west I'd be really thankful.

Hello, posting of behalf of my friend who is has his top surgery booked in for the end of November with Dr Ran Li, we can't seem to find any trans men who have had their surgeries done by him and he would just like to hear if anyone has any experience.

What are your opinions on your results?

If you had to go back in time, would you go to him again.

Located in WA

Hello beautiful and wonderful people. Cant hold back my sheer joy and happiness' wanted to share it with the wonderful community. Finally saw a gender a affirming GP today and got my scripts to to start E.After 49 years battling my dysphoria it was the experiences and stories of so many beautiful people within the community that gave me the courage and strength to finally be and recognize my true self. Have a beautiful day everybody and remember its never ever to late to become who you want to be. Fear is the worst thing it will hold you back from realizing dreams but always remember you are the master of your life and fears.

I wanted to post this for people who live in the wollondilly shire looking for informed consent GPs.I was referred too Dr georgia Mcmahon in bulli.I wanted to say this doctor is absolutely wonderful and highly supportive. I had all my bloods pre done, a care plan set up and explained my dysphoria and after a relatively short consult was able to start my treatment plan.If sydney isnt on your agenda i highly recommend this doctor after so many months of dealing with bad gp's and endos finally seeing a Dr who understood me was a welcome relief and got my scripts first consult although she did mention she normally does at least 3 consults but due to my age and organization a was happy to help.i hope this post helps anybody living within the bowral,mossvale,mittagong Wollongong areas.

Hi all!

im dealing with a peculiar issue and im unsure how to handle this

i started T at the start of this month and me and my spouse have been very happy!

me and my spouse went to a convention out of the city with a mutual friend we have known for a while who had just had a break up prior to this holiday.

this friend has also just started E a little while before.

the weird thing is that she has stated that she WLW but she has admitted since ive started T ive smelt alot better. and had admitted that while i was out with my spouse she sat in the bathroom while on call with someone and just sat in my scent refering to it as boysmell.

im not interested in her whatsoever. my spouse is uncomfortable with this but im just lost for what to do

edit: just stating some stuff i said in comments

she drunk half nights we were there and when she wasnt she was whining and basically begging to drink

i think she said she said she told multiple people about how good i smelt. and after the messages she said not to show/tell spouse and me.

she constantly wanted a build a bear i bought on the trip and that it smelt alot like me.

will add more when i can remember.

I started estrogel and Spiro on the 30th of September. Current dose is 2 pumps per day, rounding out to about 1.5 mg of estradiol, plus 50mg of Spiro taken with food. I began by applying the gel to my abdomen, but have since started putting it on my thigh, since that seems to be where it’s most recommended to put it.

It’s been nearly 2 weeks and I’ve not been feeling any changes to my mood or anything like that. Physical changes are still ages away but I don’t really feel like this stuff is working.

I have what I assume is keratosis pilaris on both of my legs, and I’ve been concerned from the start that it might be causing issues with absorption. Am I just worrying about nothing?

Hi all, just need some advice for some next steps to get help/support. I am a 35yo cis presenting “man” from the macarthur region in Sydney, and due to factors and reasons I cannot transition to my preferred gender. I have reached out to the only lgbt/gender diverse support group in my area and have been turned away because it is run out of a women’s shelter(absolutely fair enough). Trouble is I have nowhere else to go to seek support or advice and have zero friends. Is anyone aware of any services/groups that would be able to help me out? I am seriously struggling atm but I seem to fall through the cracks of what the established charity groups offer. I feel so incredibly alone in this.

Coming from a place of deep care and not tone policing in any way - please consider carefully how you are using Reddit at the moment.

Connecting and communing is critical for our health and wellbeing. Reddit is a vitally important platform for all the reasons BUT anti-trans actors are desperate for content right now.

It’s clear they are skimming and baiting looking for particular themes to set up their next social media hate machine cycles…it’s very bad vibes to watch these predators at play content farming our lives.

Sure it’s always been this way but maybe suss posters and commenters sincerity of intent extra closely before engaging in super public exchanges for next little while. Checking in with homies you know irl to get a vibe check if your instincts are telling you to help posters out but you are not sure if they really are legit.

ofc it’s predictable chaos on various other subs rn - just giving bad faith actors what they want is beyond cringe. obvi I’d never dream of posting like this on those subs lol.

I got the raddest healthcare of my whole life coz of reddit subs like this so thanks and really keen to ensure they don’t take this from us too!!✌️💜