I'm in the middle of a hypervisor migration, like seriously who isn't right now. I don't have the smallest environment, but I'm also not a huge shop, roughly around 4,500 VMware Cores. We are making the move to Hyper-V and for the most part it's going really well. However the problem(s) are getting bigger, and the skill gap(s) are getting larger between me, and the other team members
- They cannot read/write PowerShell
- They cannot read/write Ansible/Yaml
- They have no experience with Hyper-V
- They do not make a effort to learn
- They do not attend meetings with the best foot forward
- They do only the bare minimal, and pass it back to me
- They skip meetings with MSFT, and do not get the same chance to learn as I took
- They do not setup Nested Virtualization Labs to experiment, test, learn after being asked to several times
- They send me AI code and ask if its okay to run or if it needs to be fixed
I cannot hand anything off, as most of the build processes are scripted, and require some knowledge of BASIC PowerShell to function. Along with not being able to hand items off, they do not know how to use VS Code/Git ; and I'm talking about BASIC functionality here
I cannot pass off Hyper-V anything as they don't know how, and I'm being told to sit on meetings with them, and have them shadow me as I work so that they are learning. This is physically impossible for me... I cannot sit on a call for 6 hours, and let them watch my screen the entire time, I am deploying hosts in parallel, troubleshooting deployments, deploying more Failover Clusters, writing/refactoring scripts all while doing other items.
On top of this, my personal life is struggling. My wife is frustrated (frustrated isn't the right word. Taking her emotions out on me would be better maybe) that my work schedule has imploded into 50/60/70 hour weeks; trying to make sure everything gets completed before the next round of migrations. I'm talking the frustration levels where she will not talk, and goes out of her way to make me feel her frustration and no matter what I do to fix it, nothings good enough. I am trying my best, for all area's of life, but as my therapist said "right now, you are going to drop items, and that's okay, but you have to be okay with dropping items and work on what is needed in that moment"
Also ontop of this, I suffer from depression with persistent depressive disorder, and my medicine and therapy helps a ton; but my life is roll out of bed work, eat lunch while working, eat dinner, play with our toddler after dinner, put to bed if im lucky, go back to work until 11/Midnight repeat. its unsustainable, and my wife is rightfully frustrated however she's also not doing anything to help me . We live with my parents right now, while our house is getting constructed; my parents cook, clean, laundry, help with the Kiddo. Then i get told how I'm not doing enough to help her; and I'm like what the heck is going on. I am trying my absolutely hardest and its still not good enough.
Sorry for ranting, but I figured someone here could at least relate to what I'm going through somehow
EDIT - I saw a couple questions so here are the answers
- They are FTE's; not contractors
- I am not a manager, i have no authority over them. They are direct peers
- I'm trying to set boundaries but it's not working
- My manager is a new manager, and this is his first manager job
SECOND EDIT
- i am on day 10 without a day off
- I have worked every Saturday since October started
- I have worked 3 overnight red eye shifts with expectations to work the next day (5PM-4AM sleep until 9 then back at it)