r/SoCalR4R • • Jul 01 '26

META Read The Rules + Spot the Bot + State of the Sub NSFW

84 Upvotes

Howdy folks. I know it's been a long while since we've had one of these chats. As some of you may have already noticed, we've recently implemented a new mod tool called Read The Rules as part of the neverending fight against the bots. You must complete this acknowledgement before you can post/comment in the subreddit.

How to complete the RTR Acknowledgement:

  • Click/Tap on the 3 horizontal dots on the subreddit page or any post/comment, and you'll see RTR in the dropdown menu.
  • Open RTR and check off each rule as you read them and click submit once complete.
  • That's it. You can happily resume participating in the subreddit.
  • Users on old.reddit can submit an acknowledgement by sending their sub a mod mail. You must use the subject "Read The Rules" and the body text "Acknowledged". Doing so will submit an acknowledgement automatically without mod involvement. Users will immediately receive a reply from u/read-the-rules if it was submitted successfully.

Things to note about RTR:

  • There are 13 rules total. If you aren't seeing all of them, you need to scroll with the cursor within the middle of the acknowledgement panel where all of the text is.
  • Some platforms/browsers are causing an issue where the tool is automatically unchecking some of the boxes when a user tries to submit their acknowledgement. If this happens to you, try using a different browser or submit your acknowledgement using the old reddit method. As far as I know, Reddit's mobile app and Safari on Macbook are the only platforms that have this problem. I've personally tested it and been successful on Google Chrome, iPhone Safari, Brave Browser, and Microsoft Edge (yuck).

That's the basic gist of it all. I know it may seem like an annoying inconvenience, but I've definitely observed an improvement in the bot presence (or lack thereof) on the moderating end since we implemented this. Hopefully, it'll get more people to actually read the rules too. One can dream, right? Please actually read them. I'm begging you. Now, onto the fun stuff. I'm about to put you all on game because there are way too many oblivious horndogs on here that comment "DM'd you" on very obvious bot posts.

Common Identifiers of Bot Accounts:

  • The poster is a 23-30 year old female looking for males.
  • The post sounds like it was written by AI (because it most likely was).
  • If the post contains the same buzzwords/phrases as other F4M posts, chances are they're all most likely bots. The current flavor of the week is "feeling/getting relaxed." They also use "Netflix and chill" and/or mention something about chemistry.
  • The account itself is 4+ years old. My personal theory is that the people behind these bots are targeting and hacking accounts that aren't protected by two-factor authentication, which is why they seem legit.
  • There's a big gap in post history. For example, if the last legitimate post/comment on the account (aka not in a r4r type subreddit) was over 1 year ago.
  • The account simultaneously has r4r posts in multiple locations (Houston/DFW, North Carolina, and Florida are the most common).
  • Posts in the following subreddits: r/LongBeachHookUp, r/eastbayhookups, r/SanFranciscoNSFW, r/DtfLosAngelesPeps, r/riversidensfw
  • If they respond to your chat telling you that they're getting too many messages and want you to message them on Telegram.

Use the tiniest morsel of common sense and intuition, and you'll avoid 97.34% of the bots on here. Basically, use the head that has a brain and not the other one, and you'll be golden, Ponyboy. Anyways, feel free to comment your thoughts, feedback, suggestions for the subreddit, and/or life opinions. As always, be kind to one another and yourselves. Love you.


r/SoCalR4R • • Jun 01 '24

META In order to post in this subreddit, your account must have 10 post karma AND 10 comment karma NSFW

144 Upvotes

10 + 10 = 20. Even though it's explicitly stated in the sidebar rules, we get a number of messages in the modmail everyday from people asking why they cannot post. If you have 100 post karma but only 1 comment karma, you will not be able to post. If you have 20 comment karma but only 1 post karma, you will not be able to post. No, we will not manually approve your post even if you message the modmail to claim you're a real person and not a bot. It's that simple, folks.


r/SoCalR4R • • 16h ago

F4R 28 [F4A] #LosAngeles - Looking to show off in cute outfits! NSFW

53 Upvotes

hi! i'm 28, half-filipina and half-chinese and live in LA. i'm 5'5" with tanned skin, a curvy/pear-shaped body and dark hair with pink/red ends. i come off as cute and pretty innocent in my day-to-day life, but i bought some cute lingerie pretty recently and would love to show it off and feel sexy! i also love getting dressed up and also appreciate having people compliment my outfits, and i'm always down to compliment people right back! also, just down to have interesting conversations with people and see what's out there.


r/SoCalR4R • • 2h ago

F4F 36 [F4F] #SanGabrielValley - goth Latina looking for a bestie to kiss and hump NSFW

2 Upvotes

Hey ladies!!!

Hope it’s going well for y’all.

A bit about me: 36 years old, poc Latina, 5’3, goofy nerd and gothy. I’ve been told I have cute dark nipples and a nice butt!! Super into getting coffee and chatting, flirting and making out/humping.

What am I looking for?

Another girl that’s 5’3 OR taller! Someone that likes making out and humping. We can hump pillows together and make out. Getting tired honestly of humping my bed alone. I’d love to have another girl grab my hips and hump my ass like she’s gonna breed me like the horny little slut I am <3

Something that I really do like that I want to try is the tongue kisses that they do in the JAV vids, god those women look so fucking hot when they kiss each other.

No pillow princesses.

Outside of that I am looking for a woman that’s near the same area!!

I do not drive.

I’m free Sundays and Mondays! I prefer something slow though, and something fun and chill. We can get coffee and see how it goes.

I cannot host at the moment but I love car play!!

I am non-monogamous! NO threesomes, it’s just one on one.

NO MEN NO COUPLES. LADIES LEAVE YOUR MAN AT HOME

WOMEN ONLY


r/SoCalR4R • • 1m ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #Irvine - Anyone interested in helping me out this week. NSFW

• Upvotes

Hello! Thanks for reading my post! I am a 43 year old man visiting family in Irvine and I am looking for a woman to have some fun with while I am here! I would be happy to reciprocate if you're open to it!

Something about myself. I am 5'10" tall, have a good build dark eyes and brown hair about 150lbs. I am open to F/TF as well. I just want to make this trip memorable.

I hope you are having a great week. I look forward to connecting.


r/SoCalR4R • • 2m ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #SanDiego - charming, well hung business traveler seeks amazing blowjob NSFW

• Upvotes

Hi all - I’m in San Diego this week for business. So naturally I’m in the mood for an amazing blowjob while I’m in town. And If you’re on here I bet you want to give one?

As for me I’m 46, white, 5’10”, in shape, well educated, even more well hung, mindful, safe, and fun. I’m into creating art, exploring the world, and generally bringing positivity to life.

I’m into women who’re smart, quirky, and a bit wild. Is that you?

If I’ve sparked your interest then send a chat my way and we’ll go from there!


r/SoCalR4R • • 4m ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #HuntingtonBeach - searching for a gf who likes threesomes and playing with other couples NSFW

• Upvotes

Hi! I’ve always liked having threesomes and group play. I would like to find a gf who is interested in being apart of that with me. I’m disease free and I don’t do drugs. I live alone with my dog. I have my few hobbies and keep busy.

If this sounds like something you’re interested in send me a message, we can exchange some pics and set something up.

If you’re a couple and interested in play, hmu


r/SoCalR4R • • 34m ago

M4F 37 [M4F] #OrangeCounty - Looking for a girl turned on by cheating NSFW

• Upvotes

Like the title says, I’m a clean and attractive M in Anaheim looking for a girl turned on by cheating. My partner enjoys this, no drama guaranteed. You can be single or attached, as long as there is no drama

Please be local, have time to chat and willing to share photos

Stats:

6’2

200 lbs - fit

7+ inches


r/SoCalR4R • • 1h ago

T4F 21 [TF4F] #RiversideCounty - or anywhere! Looking for someone irl and kinda nervous 🫠 NSFW

• Upvotes

Hi! As I said, I’m a bit nervous but I am looking for someone to meet up with irl for kind of anything! Mainly just looking to explore and make a friend… well more than a friend ofc lol! Come say hi :)


r/SoCalR4R • • 2h ago

M4F 60 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Looking for F18+ Sub or Sub Curious NSFW

1 Upvotes

If you are submissive, or curious about submission, and interested in an erotic relationship with an experienced dominant man, then we should discuss your desires and fantasies.

We will establish boundaries and a safe word.

Discreet or anonymous meetings are welcome.


r/SoCalR4R • • 2h ago

M4F 24 [M4F] #Oxnard - Fit & Bigger Than Soda Cans, Looking For A Fuck Buddy: [can't host] NSFW

1 Upvotes

Age, Sex, & Location first. I'm looking for someone in the Ventura County area, or that can travel to it.. Can't host. I'm about 5'10" got a cock bigger than tall soda cans, and a bunch of kinks. Final thing: I'm not into having kids, so birth control is a must; it can be condoms, implants, etc.; it doesn't matter to me.


r/SoCalR4R • • 3h ago

Couples 29 [MF4F] #InlandEmpire - looking for friends NSFW

1 Upvotes

Looking for friends in the Rancho Cucamonga area. 29M and 29M. Would be fun to have people to hang out with. Hit us up


r/SoCalR4R • • 3h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Gardengrove - FWB. Southern California. NSFW

0 Upvotes

I am looking for a FWB. I would love to go on fun dates like the beach since it's so close by or perhaps try out some restaurants that I have been wanting to try. I prefer to keep things casual however I am willing to entertain something longer term if we fit well together. Regardless, I prefer something regular and ongoing even if it just stays casual.

I very much believe in the male role of leadership. Things like responsibility always fall on my shoulders and it's my duty to make sure that everything that needs to be handled is handled. In exchange, I seek a woman who looks up to a man like the one described and naturally falls into her submissive feminine role. Things like submission can only be earned when their is a mutual respect between us. I believe that having a masculine presence is very important and I do not need to make you feel small to make myself feel big. I understand the physical power imbalance between the sexes and it is my duty to make sure you always feel safe in my presence.

When we are behind closed doors, I am very much a dominant. I will put you in a mindspace where you will never have to think about what comes next. It will just happen. This will be your opportunity to fully clear your mind and not worry about any of life's challenges. It is always my goal to make sure you are just as satisfied as I am.

I have a lot of lived experience, have led an interesting life, and can have conversations about most subjects especially those that involve the inner workings of how the world works and life in general.

I am 5'10 and weigh 160 lbs. I am white with brown hair with some grays peaking out and hazel eyes. I very much care about my health and how I look and have been working out for years. My body type is somewhere between fit and muscular and I am pretty lean overall.

STD free.


r/SoCalR4R • • 4h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #CulverCity - Attractive man seeking attractive woman for Full-Body Massage NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hello!

I'm an attractive, single, olive-skinned, man who lives on the Westside with Finn the senior dog. Here's a picture: https://imgur.com/a/ktmjAIZ

I'd like to give you a full-body massage with no expectation of reciprocation. If you'd like me to make you cum too that'd be great! Happy to just work out your kinks (lol) if that's all you're looking for.

Please DM me with what you'd like, and a picture to make sure we're compatible, and let's go from there.

I have done this before and truly enjoy just being able to touch a woman and make her feel good.

xoxoxo


r/SoCalR4R • • 5h ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #OrangeCounty - California - Would you like an older mentor? Are you a younger girl into older men? Do your friends’ dads or dad’s friends turn you on? NSFW

0 Upvotes

Whether you are shy and this is your first time flirting with an older guy or you’ve done it before, be a good girl (please be 18 or over) and say hi!

Even if you’re shy or nervous, I’d love to gently teach you and mentor you. Let’s enjoy flirting with each other and getting to know each other this summer/fall.

I’m white, 6’1” weigh 195 lbs and I have brown hair and brown eyes. I’m also looking to actually meet and not just talk online.


r/SoCalR4R • • 5h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #SanDiego - The truth is… NSFW

0 Upvotes

Let’s be honest…. I don’t want to date you.

And you aren’t looking for the love of your life on Reddit.

I want fun and excitement. I want it to be safe. You know.... like... without all the diseases and creepy vibes (I’m lookin’ at you old Craigslist).

But here’s the thing. I’m an upstanding member ofsociety. I have a very nice job and as much as I want to get my rocks off, I’m certainly not willing to compromise my career or reputation.

I can’t exactly walk up to a pretty lady at the coffee shop and say “Hello there fellow sexual deviant. May I throw my disease free 7 inches into your mouth?”

I’m married. I have a job and a life. I’m a non-smoker and non-ugly.

If you fall in to similar categories, maybe we should chat.


r/SoCalR4R • • 6h ago

F4M 28 [f4m] #Redlands - black cat princess looking for golden retriever to fall in love with (ltr) NSFW

0 Upvotes

*don't waste your time messaging me if you just want to sext/hook up. NO ONE under 25.

Hey there! Im Kai (like hai) im not looking to rush into anything. Im more into just flirting and seeing where things go naturally. Im going to get my hard nos out of the way first so you dont have to waste your time reading haha

Hard nos(non-negotiables): NO trump supporters or voters. And im talking ANY election, idc if you've found the light recently.

NO gun owners

Zero tolerance for bigotry.

Anyone who struggles with their mental health but refuses to go to therapy and/or start medication

No nicotine/tobacco users.

No military or police (security guards can stay but youre on thin ice 👀🤣)

No one who already has or wants kids

No one looking for something poly/enm

About me: I teach preschool but I am happily childfree and intend on remaining childfree

Huge stoner and weed nerd. I love learning about and discussing the science behind different cannabinoids and our endocannabinoid system. (I also make a ton of edibles)

Introverted homebody who likes the occasional spontaneous adventure

Big animal lover. My cat Milo is my whole world

Diagnosed Audhd so expect direct blunt communication and questions on clarification haha

Definitely have a thing for nerdy gamers. Specifically those that play d&d, mtg, rpgs, etc

Half weirdo half brat. You'll never meet someone like me again. Whether that's good or bad depends on you 😉

Certified yapper

About you (hopefully): silly and goofy. Please dont take yourself too seriously

Full of whimsy ✨️ let's have a picnic in the park and frolic

Guy who loves being held and his head/back scratched

A guy comfortable enough in his masculinity to get a little girly sometimes but still able to treat me like a princess

Goes to therapy!!!!!

Bonus points if you play rpgs or tabletop games AND let me watch

PLEASE be willing to send face pics right away. Im not going to pretend physical attraction isn't important. I have pictures on my profile and will gladly provide more

Anyway if you're someone who isn't looking to jump into anything right away but just wants to casually get to know someone and see where things go and my post resonates with you send me a message ☺️. Just include your name, age, location and youre favorite Pokémon (if you don't have a favorite Pokémon you can tell me your favorite fun fact) low effort messages will be ignored ✌️


r/SoCalR4R • • 7h ago

M4M 28 [M4M] #Cerritos - Cocksucker for DL/Bi/Gay/Married/Str8 Curious Men in North OC NSFW

0 Upvotes

Driving down to Cerritos this afternoon for a couple hours. Looking for masculine men in the North Orange County area that need an expert throat to use.

I'm also fine with edging you, if you prefer to just get jerked off with my JO cream. I'm open to carplay unless you can host. I have limo tint on my car for public play. For the str8 curious/married men, I can also wear a hooded face mask to make you feel more comfortable receiving a BJ.

My Stats: 28 yrs old, light-skinned Latino, 6'1, 183 lbs, slim build, clean shaven, smooth butt, HIV/STI negative (last tested 10/2/2026).


r/SoCalR4R • • 7h ago

M4F 54 [M4F] #Ventura - 6’2, 195, Supremely Confident, Intelligent Dominant Looking for a Submissive, Feminine Female to Completely and Monogamously Sexually Objectify NSFW

0 Upvotes

https://imgur.com/a/SuQwAHC

No maga-types. That’s a non-negotiable dealbreaker. I’m ideally looking for someone between 30-45, but 20s is okay as well as long as you’re mature and intelligent. If you text in acronyms, if you’re a “dtf”, “hmu”, or “wya”, type, don’t bother. I’m not interested in that kind of immaturity. Make sure you read this entire post, and if you’re interested, show me so by responding as instructed.

I’m a SWM (no kids), 6’2, 195, 8”, D/D-free, non-smoker, very intelligent, well-read and articulate, charismatic, slender, broad-shouldered and muscular. I’m a really laid-back and easy-going guy, self-aware and sure of myself, at ease around anyone and anything. I’m very protective of others, and have an intimidating physical presence, but I’m a good guy, and nothing to be afraid of. You’d always feel safe and looked out for with me, and you’d always know where you stand. I’m practical, pragmatic, and realistic.

I’m looking for a submissive female for a monogamous relationship - I’m a one-woman guy - that would involve you being completely sexually objectified, and the more feminine you are, the better. You don’t have to have any experience with this kind of dynamic. My interest in you and attraction to you is all that matters. It doesn’t matter to me if you have no experience at all with this sort of thing, but if you have insecurity and/or validation issues, this probably isn’t for you. A certain amount of self-awareness and self-confidence would be required given how you’d be often be made to be taking selfies of yourself.

You would be trained to do what you’re told at all times. You’d be trained to be accountable to me at all times, keeping me informed whether I’m responding at the time or not. You’d tailor your appearance per my commands, growing your hair out how I like it, doing your nails how I want them done, wearing the kind of lipstick I want on you, and so on. You’d be trained to send me regular selfies showing me how you’re looking.

I know what I like, and while you don’t necessarily have to have any of these traits, these would get my attention: nice smiles, long hair, nice breasts, painted nails, knowing how to accentuate your looks, being selfie-friendly, playfulness, nerdy tendencies, and girlishness.

I’m not into anything that you’d most likely consider hard limits. Nothing extreme or hardcore, no whips or chains, I don’t do ‘sessions’ or go to events.

More details about all of this will be discussed in chat, where you’ll always be encouraged to be completely open and direct with me, even if you think I might not like what you say.

I play baseball in adult leagues on weekends and you’d come to as many of my games and tournaments as you could, not to be a cheerleader, just to be dolled up as my eye candy.

I’m not into BBWs, and any kind of smoking or vaping is a dealbreaker.

If you’re interested, respond by describing yourself physically with your age and where you live, and tell me about what turned you on and made you want to respond. Don’t hold back, and don’t worry about saying too much. The bolder and more expressive you are, the better.

If you’re going to send pics, do NOT send anything naked. I am not into naked pics, ever.

If I’m interested, I’ll take it from there. If I’m not, I’ll tell you so. I wouldn’t just ghost you.


r/SoCalR4R • • 17h ago

M4M 27 [M4M] #Fontana - Looking to be your affectionate and nerdy boyfriend NSFW

3 Upvotes

Hey there everybody! 27 year old gay male here, hoping to find that special someone I will fall head over heels for. I am 5'6" and 165lbs with long black hair and glasses. I would best describe myself as a fun-loving nerd who is very affectionate.

I'm someone who enjoys the little things in life as opposed to grand adventures. I’m very much one to "stop and smell the roses” as the saying goes. While I may be a bit more introverted overall, once I get comfortable around someone, you’d never be able to tell. There's nothing I enjoy more than spending quality time with the people I deeply care about. I love hearing them talk about their interests, hobbies, and experiences. I also love giving physical affection; I'm all about cuddles, kisses, and holding hands. It’s my main love language and the way I will always let you know just how much you mean to me, and that I will always be there for you.

Music is easily the most important thing in my life. I’m a singer, and have been performing in one way or another ever since elementary school. It's a talent I am very proud of, so expect me to sing some songs just for you!

I enjoy getting out of the house to go on long walks, either just through the neighborhoods, at a nearby mall, or hiking out on a trail. I also love listening to music in my free time. I mostly enjoy rock, some metal, and lots of alternative. Ghost is my favorite band. As for other hobbies I play PC games on Steam, my favorite being ARPGs like the Diablo series or Last Epoch, as well as collecting some LEGO sets and Yugioh cards. I love watching older horror movies from the 70's and 80's. I'm a bit of a writer as well, creating my own characters, stories, and even fanfiction from time to time.

There are only a few deal-breakers I have. I am deathly allergic to cats, and get bad allergies to most indoor animals. Pets could only be outdoors with me around, and absolutely no cats. No drugs or smoking either. Yes, this includes weed and vapes. I have asthma and any kind of smoke will make it flare up. I'm a leftist politically, and not interested in anyone right of center.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read all this! I hope to hear from you soon if you’re at all interested. Let's make this the start of something wonderful!


r/SoCalR4R • • 14h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #Upland - Looking for something exciting, no pressure. Check out some of my confessional posts! NSFW

0 Upvotes

5’11, athletic, White/Hispanic, easygoing and drama-free. I take discretion seriously and prefer a natural vibe—no rush, just seeing where the chemistry goes.

Open to meeting women in all kinds of situations—single, attached, or somewhere in between. I respect boundaries and value privacy.

If you’re clean, chill, and want something that feels good without complications, we’ll get along.

I can host or travel. Let’s talk, feel it out, and take it from there.


r/SoCalR4R • • 15h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #BeverlyHills - Married dad looking for a sneaky link NSFW

0 Upvotes

Looking for Cis Females only. No drama guaranteed I’m very discrete.

If you are into cheating kink or just wanna have some fun. Not looking to change my situation so this is no strings attached, one time or ongoing.

I require a recent test and have one to share. No cream pies or unprotected sex.

I'm 30, 5'10, 160 lbs, sane, down to earth, recently tested last month.

Got a picture in my profile for those looking for the D pic. Average size, good for those that want to practice DT.

Please be cis female, femme, 18+, HWP, clean, DDF and recently tested.

Can’t host but can come to you, get a hotel or Carplay works too.

Must be able to verify and be discrete. My hours are limited due to family obligations.

If interested, please respond with age location and stats as I won’t be responding to low effort messages.


r/SoCalR4R • • 16h ago

M4F 50 [M4F] #OrangeCounty - Do you like scary movies? NSFW

0 Upvotes

It’s spooky season, wanna cuddle up and watch a scary movie tonight? Maybe you can wear your comfy pj’s and we can get cozy under a blanket, does that sound good?

If you’re local and interested, send me a chat with the name of your favorite scary movie so I know you read this far. Be ready to send normal pictures and meet soon.


r/SoCalR4R • • 17h ago

M4F 25 [M4F] #OrangeCounty - Looking for a Nerdy FWB to Run Some Experiments With NSFW

1 Upvotes

Hey! Thanks for stopping by.

I'm 25, East Asian, 5'8", 150 lbs, average build, clean, respectful, and easygoing.

I'm looking for the kind of FWB where we're just as excited about grabbing dinner or boba as we are about getting each other's clothes off. Ideally, I'd love something ongoing where we text during the week, flirt, laugh, hang out, and build real chemistry instead of feeling like strangers who only meet when we're horny.

I'm especially hoping to find someone who's a bit of a nerd. Not necessarily stereotypically nerdy—just someone who's naturally curious, gets really into random interests, enjoys going down rabbit holes, and thinks "wait, what if we tried this?" is a fun sentence.

And yes, that applies to the bedroom too. I've been getting interested in experimenting with different techniques and seeing what actually works, including some personal goals around increasing my volume. I'd love to find someone who's amused by the idea of being my enthusiastic research partner—and I'm more than happy to return the favor. If you're curious about figuring out what makes you tick, experimenting with different approaches, or seeing how far we can take our little science experiments, I'm game.

No spreadsheets required.

...Although I can't promise I won't eventually make one.

Outside of the bedroom, I have not just a touch, but a full whack of AuDHD, so I have a ton of hobbies and nerdy interests we can talk about and maybe explore together. I'm into photography, cooking, trying new restaurants, boba, walking, random drives, exploring new places, Genshin (I sorta play), 3D printing, and generally getting way too interested in whatever happens to catch my attention.

My ideal Saturday is probably finding a new ramen spot, wandering around somewhere we've never been, getting distracted by something random along the way, then spending way too long arguing about what movie to watch because neither of us can decide.

I'm happy to chat and get comfortable beforehand, but I'm ultimately looking for something in person. If we seem like a good match, I'd rather actually make plans—grab boba, get dinner, go for a walk, whatever—and see if we click than spend weeks texting without ever meeting. No pressure to rush into anything; I just want the conversation to eventually lead somewhere in real life.

I'm naturally a pretty giving and attentive partner. I really enjoy focusing on my partner's pleasure and taking my time rather than rushing through things. I'm big on making out, plenty of foreplay, and figuring out what my partner enjoys because everyone is different. Good communication, mutual enthusiasm, and feeling comfortable with each other make everything so much better.

I'm open-minded and enjoy exploring new things together. If you're the kind of person who likes experimenting, communicating about what works, laughing when something definitely doesn't work, and trying again, I think we'd probably have a lot of fun.

I can sometimes host depending on the situation, but if you're able to host, that's definitely a plus. Otherwise, I'm happy to split a hotel.

I'm East Asian, wear glasses, and I'm happy to exchange photos early on so we can make sure there's mutual attraction. Attraction is subjective, so no hard feelings if we're not each other's type.

If you've made it this far, send me the word "peach" in your first message so I know you actually read the post. I'd also love to hear what you're nerdy about, what you enjoy doing, or what random topic you could talk about for three hours without realizing it.

I'm not necessarily looking for a relationship, but I am looking for something genuine and ongoing—where we actually see each other, enjoy each other's company, have great chemistry, experiment together, and look forward to hanging out again.

If you're a quietly nerdy woman who thinks this sounds more fun than a conventional FWB setup, say hi. :)

P.S. Yes, I speak Chinese.


r/SoCalR4R • • 17h ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #Fullerton - Have you been fantasizing hooking up with someone older and technically off limits? NSFW

0 Upvotes

I’m married and in a dead bedroom and hoping to explore, have fun and experience my first blow job (looking for 18+ women only). If you’re nervous about messaging me, it’s ok, I don’t judge (or bite haha) and it would be fun to get to know each other.

This is a little long but some background. I’m married (I’m open to married or single) and I hi grew up in a very conservative, strict family. The idea of no sex until marriage was pushed very strong on me and because of this I really didn’t experiment sexually in high school or college and didn’t have sex until I was married.

My wife has a very low sex drive (the last time we had sex was several months ago) and even though I give her oral sex when we have sex (and I’d like to think that I’m quite good at it and bringing her to orgasm) the longest blow job I’ve ever received from her was about 5 seconds and she’s never made me finish from a blow job. She says she just isn’t into it and the idea of giving a blow job grosses her out, and she is grossed out by the idea of me cumming in her mouth.

I’m looking to meet (in real life) someone fun and flirty and who actually enjoys giving blow jobs and who will help me experience something I’ve wanted for so long but never had the opportunity to enjoy. I’m completely fine with reciprocating and I’d love to give you oral in return and pleasure you to thank you for helping me to experience this.

I’m open to all ages as long as you’re at least 18. If you knew me, I’m the last person that you’d be expecting to do something like this and because I’m married I need to be discreet. I’m happy with getting to know you before we meet. Maybe you’ve wanted to have a man give you oral for a long time and we can do each other a favor.

I’m completely fine with trading pictures and I’m excited (maybe a tiny bit nervous too) about the possibility of meeting someone that can make this happen.