My Baby is 6 month old and we startet sleeptraining 4 Weeks ago and now have our first successful night starts without crying 😍 but the better night sleep comes with much much more hours in the night. Usually he would wake up after 10.5 h of sleep at 7am. Now he sleeps sometimes till 9.30 am! This ~12h sleep at night is interrupted by his feedings. He gets 3 bottles at night whenever he wakes up for them.

How do I handle the day after such a long night?
Bcs he has ~12h for the night but I cap the amount of sleep to 13h-13.5h so he has enough wake time during the day!
Can he sleep nap his 3h in the day or should I cut it to 1h bcs he had already 12h in the night? 🫶🏻

Hi everyone,
I’m looking for some advice, personal stories, or encouragement from parents who have sleep trained highly sensitive babies, especially those transitioning out of a co-sleeping setup.

Current situation: Baby is currently 3 months old, and we are co-sleeping. She either falls asleep nursing or laying on her own beside me.

The Goal: I plan to sleep train when she hits the 5–6 month mark.

My Dilemma: I successfully sleep trained my toddler (now 2) at 6 months using full extinction, and he took to it beautifully in just two days. He’s an amazing sleeper now. But my daughter feels entirely different. She seems like a very emotionally sensitive baby, and because we’ve been co-sleeping, the contrast feels massive. I’m honestly scared to start when the time comes. She cries intensely whenever in the car (one time for an entire 70 minute drive to visit my parents in another town), she startles easily and it brings her to tears (like full flowing down cheeks heartbreaking tears) if she hears a loud noise. When she’s alone, eg if I leave her on a playmat to go pee, she cries quickly. My son conversely never cried in the car or when left alone for a few minutes, and I never saw full tears down his face. It’s just a different level of heartbreaking with her.

I don’t need schedule advice right now (I feel comfortable managing wake windows), but I would love to hear from anyone who has been in my shoes:

For highly sensitive babies: Did you use CIO/extinction, or did you find a "gentler" or more gradual method worked better for their temperament? Did gentler methods just drag out the crying, or did they actually soothe your sensitive baby?

Co-sleeping transition: How did you handle the transition from your bed to the crib? Did you move them to the crib first, or did you do the move and the training all at once?

I want to set her up for success while honoring her personality. I’m just so scared that extinction will lead to her having sleep anxiety or something, like I don’t want it to backfire. But for me CIO is a fast rip the band aid off effective strategy as opposed to dragging things out with a gentler method.

Thank you so much in advance.

Link to yesterdays post: https://www.reddit.com/r/sleeptrain/s/ynYObLJpXR

Night 4 and after 20 minutes of screaming I just can’t do it anymore. I’m giving up for now and will try again in a few weeks.

Today’s WWs were: 3/4.5*/4.5
Nap 1: I logged as 1.5 hour but I think she woke up at some point and put herself back to sleep based on her positioning when I checked on her at an hour. I don’t have a camera and I never heard her cry or babble so not sure how long she was potentially awake.
Nap 2: 25 mins

I asterisked the second WW because I think she fell asleep in the car for like 10-15 mins between that during school pick up. I don’t have a mirror or camera in the car to know for sure but I think she dozed off because it was very quiet. So it’s possible there was a short nap between there.

Last night I gave up at the 90 mins mark and when I went in she was sitting up in the crib just level 10 crying. I picked her up and she fell asleep in my arms in less than a minute and slept until 6:30, ate and dozed off another like 45 mins.

Tonight I put her down after routine and she immediately went to level 10 screaming and crying. I told myself I’m giving it 20 mins to see if she calms down at all or I’m throwing in the towel. I took a long shower and when I came out she was still screaming. Showing zero signs of calming or soothing. I went in and she was again just sitting up in the crib. I picked her up and held her and she was out in less than 5 minutes.

She already sleeps through the night before ST. I just really wanted her to fall asleep independently but I’m going to call it quits for now, take the fact that she STTN for now even if I have to assist her to sleep for a little longer. I’m going to try and cement a better schedule and be more consistent with it before trying again.

Hit a regression at 3.5 months and has gotten worse. My almost 5 month old will now only sleep at night if we’re holding him. He’ll go down in his crib for the first stretch for about 1-2 hours, and then will wake immediately every time we put him down after that. Is sleep training the only thing that will help?

Daytime naps are also still mostly contact naps.

Wake windows are 2/2/2/2/2

Hi!
In need of some help.
My son has always been a good sleeper from about 8 weeks was sleeping from 7 to 4am and then back to sleep from 5 to 7am.
Around 6-7 months started sleeping from 7ish to 5:30am sometimes to 6am depending on what time we went to bed.
We traveled last week of September and he did okay with that.
He had his first tooth that popped up during the trip that could have contributed to some sleep disruptions. When we came back from trip we transitioned to two naps and he was initially doing very well sleeping 10.5 to 11 hours without interruption at night.

In the last week now we have been having middle of the night wakings anywhere from 11PM to 1am ish. He has had 5 additional teeth pop up in the last 1-2 weeks. One top front tooth working on erupting still.

Sleep this last week
Night 1: up at 11PM- took 1.5 hours to go back to sleep. Slept until 7 am once back to sleep; did some CIO (stands in crib now), finally gave some Tylenol in bottle and rocked to get him back to sleep

Night 2: up at 11PM - self settled himself back to sleep within 30 minutes; slept until close to 7am

Night 3: woke up at 11PM, standing. Did some CIO, wouldn’t go back to sleep. Went in and was able to soothe him back to sleep in his crib without picking him up within 30ish minutes

Night 4: brutal; woke up around 1am; did some CIO and wouldn’t resettle; did some soothing in crib without picking up and wouldn’t resettle; picked up and rocked immediately stopped crying fell asleep and on crib transfer was up and crying and couldn’t soothe him back; gave 1 oz with some Tylenol and fell back asleep; transferred to crib and woke up immediately did some more CIO and finally went back in; he pooped (changed him); decided to give 1 more ounce with Motrin this time and rocked back to sleep; went to sleep for another 45 minutes; woke up after one sleep cycle around 445. Picked up and got him back to sleep; now hoping he will sleep for a couple more hours but not holding my breath. (Gave meds bc didn’t know if teething is contributing)

I’m not sure what’s going on. He puts himself to sleep independently but sometimes I also rock to sleep after his bottle and he falls asleep immediately.
He has never been a middle of the night waker like this.

Naps sometimes suck and are a combination of crib naps and contact naps depending how long crib naps go wbu h can be anywhere from 35 minutes to 1hr 15 minutes. We aim for 2-2.5 hours of naps a day. Wake windows never extend beyond 3-4 hours. Aim for 4 hours before bed.

Should I do more formal sleep training and putting him to bed completely awake consistently. Not sure if that will help. Not sure if this is just a phase I have to ride out.

Any help appreciated.

Hi all—baby will be six months this week and I’m worried she will not get enough day sleep to sleep train.

Baby went down independently and slept beautifully with one night wake until about six weeks ago when older sibling started preschool with hard drop off and pickup times, right in the middle of naps. With issues falling asleep in the car, interruptions by older sibling, etc., we’ve devolved into feeding / rocking to sleep and holding for all naps, which have had essentially no rhyme or reason. She is exhausted in the morning after waking all night, which is then compounded because she can’t take her first nap until after preschool drop off.

I understand she has to have appropriate daytime sleep in order to start sleep training; looking for advice as she is so tired all day long that even contact napping she will shoot awake after a half hour (most typical) or an hour twenty (best case). I can’t seem to get her to what would be a workable schedule given the timing constraints, ideally:

Wake - 6:00 am
Nap 1 - 9:00 am (1.5 to 2 hours)
Nap 2 - 1:30 pm (1 to 1.5 hours)
Bedtime - 7:00 pm
She seems to favor ~11 hour nights.

Question is twofold:

1. Is 3/3/4 a workable schedule for a brand new six month old? Wake windows seem really long for that age.
2. How does overtiredness factor in—if she has terrible naps, do we need to wait for a few consecutive days of naps approximately adhering to the schedule above before working to help her fall asleep independently?

Thanks!

When can we move on from training the morning nap to training the midday nap?

LO is just 6MO. We used CIO for nighttime. It took a while but for the past 3 nights she has settled herself with no crying.

We have been using the same method for the past 6 days with the morning nap. She cries for 15 - 25 minutes and sleeps for about 40 minutes. It's hard! Before training we walked the morning nap and most times she only ever slept 40 minutes.

When can we move onto training the midday nap? At the moment she feeds to sleep and it's a contact nap. The midday nap is more the one we want to have in the crib as walking the morning nap is doable for us. We started with the morning nap given that's the general advice.

Thank you!

I seriously may just die from sleep deprivation. My now 9 month old baby has been getting up in the middle of the night screaming anywhere from 1-3 hours every single night for 6 weeks now. We did do sleep training starting at 6 months. She still falls asleep great for both naps and bedtime but every night between 1-2 am she wakes up angry. I’ve tried re initiating sleep training for a few weeks and those times it just ends up on a 3 hour battle until she’s too tired to keep screaming. If I hold her she immediately calms and her eyes stay closed like she wants to sleep and when I transfer her to crib she’s originally fine until 5-10 min later when the screams start again. I don’t think she’s in any pain, I don’t see any new teeth coming. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Her daytime naps and wake windows are all well within the normal range for a 9 month old. It’s 3/3.5/4 with two naps. Bedtime is between 6:45-7:30 depending on how long she napped.

I’m so so so tired.

Edit to add: sleeps independently in crib. Bedtime routine is bath, book, bottle, burp, lay down to sleep and she’s usually sleeping on her own Within a few minutes with no screaming.

Our 9mo boy falls asleep for naps and in the evening so well, we have also started leaving him alone until he is ready to put his head down and it has gone well.

We try to feed him only twice a night at 11ish and 2-3ish. Additionally he still wakes up around 10pm and a fourth time in the early morning. His wake up time is 6am.

Usually feeding puts him back to sleep. Except lately. The second feed can last forever so he drifts off or if I take him off the boob he will start crying. And of course putting him in his crib makes him cry.

With the extra wakings he starts climbing and walking along the sides while crying bloody murder and no amount of heavy hand or stroking helps him back to sleep.

Last night only being held calmed him down but placing back in the crib made him cry again.

I ended up taking him to bed with me for a 3rd feed, then he slept nice almost 3 hours next to me and woke up at 7am.

He obviously wanted to be held but it took 40min to get him to fall asleep in his bed before I gave up.

We are still not getting longer than 2-3h stretches of sleep at night.

It would be nice to get rid of the extra wakings.

Daytime tends to go like 3-3,5/3,5/3,5. If he wakes up earlier than 6am then we do a 10min catnap, aiming for it to finish 4.30pm latest. Nap average has been lately 2h 27min (we had some shorter nap days last week) and night average is 10h.

Bedtime routine: bath, then reading the same book, milk (bottle or boob), sleep sack on, to bed in his own room still awake or drowsy and singing a lullaby. If he is fussy, stroking his back and head. If he is content but still not ready to fall asleep we let him move around until he falls asleep on his own. Rarely goes to bed crying.

Baby is 9 months old and wake windows are 3/3/4 (well, that’s the goal)

She was having great two hour naps in the morning but still waking twice a night to nurse.

We hired a sleep consultant to help drop the night feeds and help make bedtimes a bit smoother and things went disastrously.

First night we did the check in method and she cried so hard she vomited. After 90 minutes I gave up and held her and transferred her to her crib. Second night the coach had us try the chair method to avoid the hyperventilation and vomiting.. this worked for bedtime after about an hour but then at midnight she was awake and I returned to sitting by her crib and 2 hours later she was still not asleep. I caved and brought her into bed with me.

The next morning I quit the sleep training program. She had cried so hard she had lost her voice and I had completely lost my nerve..

Since then things have fallen apart. Now she won’t link ANY sleep cycles. All naps are 30-40 mins and sleeping in her crib is a source of mega anxiety for her. She has ended up in our bed every night since the attempt because we are all so sad and sleep deprived. I can’t follow proper wake windows because her naps are now only 30 minutes long! The whole thing is spiraling out of hand.

Things are so much worse after attempting sleep training. I know I didn’t stick with it long enough but her poor squeaky voice broke me. I was also a nervous wreck after the whole ordeal too.

Now that she is not napping well she is overtired and that’s making it harder to fix anything. And now that she is in bed with me she is nursing 3-4 times a night rather than 2. Basically everything has gotten worse in every way possible.

Where do I go from here? My instinct is that the chair method might work better for her than the check in method but she is waking every 30 mins all night long if she is in her crib.. how the hell do I keep going back to that chair every 30 mins and then stay there for up to 2 hours?!

Do I just give up and wait out whatever developmental regression this is? Is this just my life now? I think I broke my baby.

So LO just turned 12 months and we got as far as I think we could on a 2 nap schedule. We were doing 3.5/3.5/4 with first nap 1.5 hours and second 30 mins. We were doing this for a while but for close to 4 weeks now he was taking around 10- 20 mins to fall asleep at nap time and always 20ish mins at bedtime. He has also been having false starts about 30-60 mins after bedtime but no early wakes.

We have had 4-5 1 nap days and half the days he took a 1h 15-1h 30m nap and then id rescue until he hit the 2 hour mark. The other days it was the same 30 min mark. During the day he was happy, didn’t seem overtired at all and nights were good maybe had one wake at 5am.

Now I really do think he is ready for one nap or at least in that awkward stage of somedays needing 2. The issue is that I think his need for rocking/co sleeping is not helping at all. He used to be pat to sleep and would sleep through for all naps and overnight. This stopped around 7 months old when we took an overseas trip for a month. Since then I have to rescue naps around the 30-50min mark by contact napping most naps. He is also rocked to sleep for all naps and bedtime and has a dummy. Nights are sometimes okay and he will sleep through, otherwise if he wakes its usually after 4am and we have been bringing him to our bed, I know we’ve basically enforced this habit.

My question is though is if its an appropriate time to start sleep training, or should I continue to offer contact naps during the day in order to get him through to a comfortable one nap schedule and then sleep train?

My 18 mo was sleep trained at 9 months by cio after failure with any gentler methods. Has been a consistently good sleeper since with short day naps but long nights.

From 17 mo, went on holiday and everything has gone downhill.

Before these troubles routine was
Wake up 6.15am to 6.30am
Nap 12 to 12.40 or 1pm
Bedtime 6.30 - asleep by 6.40pm

From 17 mo started waking at 5am to 5.30am. The daylight savings saved us. So bedtime moved to 7.30pm with 6.15am wake up.

After a month of early wakes. Last week she was back to independent sleep with 11.45 hour nights but short day nap again.

Last 3 days/nights - various bedtime attitude,sometimes ok other times needing to have a hand on her. Last 3 nights been going to sleep around 7.30 to 8pm and waking at 1am screaming. Awake for 2+ hours. Refuse to lay down, absolutely distraught unless in mums arms. Have been responding given the level of crying and not laying down.

Now refusing to nap unless being held.

Do we need to re sleep train or keep responding given its highly likely caused by separation anxiety.

If we sleep train, is cio ok at this age or should we attempt check ins or chair method?

Fingers crossed someone has some ideas. I’m 4 months pregnant and the night wakes are triggering me being sick. Very exhausted!

I feel like I've always been 10 steps behind the nap game and so far behind on any sleep schedules etc.

I'm purely just curious lol

Okay so my baby is 9.5 months and is currently on 2 naps and goes to bed at 7pm.

When do most babies go to 1 nap? How do you know? How do you transition? How long does the transition normally take? When they are on one nap how long does that last for like how many hours? What time of day usually? How long do most kids need between nap 1 and bedtime? How long does the one nap stick around?

How does bedtime change over time? Changes to routines? Timing? Etc. what are typical bedtimes at different ages?

When do we need less strict white noise and blackout curtains?

I feel like when I was a kid I was always up to see fireworks and sunsets and stuff. Right now my baby is asleep in bed before anything like that lol

I’ll start by saying he’s been waking hourly for almost 4 months.

2 weeks ago we moved him into his own room, he done fine for 3 nights then we ditched the dummy. Fast forward 4 days he got a cold and it disrupted sleep, even when put into bed with us he cried out every 30mins

Now he is better, he’s doing an hour stretch at first then after that it could be 10/20/30 mins.

He will sleep fine next to us but I can’t do it any longer - my reasons are I coslept with my daughter and only recently at 5 year old has she started sleeping well in her own bed. Now my partner won’t co sleep, so he would sleep downstairs. Obviously I can’t sleep with both of them if she comes into my bed and my partner to go in hers. She will not sleep with her Dad next to her either! It’s logistically not going to work for us.

He will go to sleep ok if I pat his bum - I want to be responsive as I feel like separation anxiety is his issue here. Last few days he cried even if I place him on the floor to play.

How do I do it without feeling so bad? How do I do it at all 😂 feel like there’s so many things I don’t know where to start and I absolutely want to be consistent

We have already decreased his nap and pushed bedtime by 15 mins

Daily schedule is
Wake 6:15
Nap 1 9:15-9:45
Nap 2 2-3:15
Bedtime 7:45/8pm

My baby is almost 1 year old and still waking up multiple times a night. I feel I have ruined my chances of getting any sleep because she has to be rocked to sleep. So multiple times a night I’m up rocking her or giving her a bottle. Sometimes I’ll get lucky and I can pat her butt or give her the binky and she’ll go back to sleep but those are few and far between and still require me to wake up and it takes me forever to go back to sleep. I wanted to get her off the bottle soon after her 1st birthday but if I don’t give her a bottle through the night she’ll be up 2-3 hours. I’m so tired. I didn’t sleep train her at the regular age of 4-6 months old because she actually slept pretty decently then. Usually got up once through the night but would occasionally sleep through the night too…

Now she has separation anxiety and I wake up to her standing in the crib and she refuses to lay down. I feel like sleep training now will be a nightmare but I don’t know what else to do. Last night was one of our bad nights, in bed by 8, fussed before I could even go to sleep - sometime after 9 - woke up at 11:30 and 12:45 and got back to sleep with butt pats all of those times and then was up at 1:30. I tried to put her back to sleep without a bottle, ended up giving in and giving her a bottle at 2:30 and it was nearly 3:30 before we were back in bed. My husband wakes up for work a little after 4 so his alarm woke me right back up and then my daughter was up for the day at 7.

She usually naps around 10 or 10:30ish (unless she’s at my moms while I work then it’s more like 12-1 if even - Idk why my mom can’t give her a nap until she’s on her last legs. I’ve tried talking to her about it, it’s only one day a week)
She usually naps around an hour to an hour and a half.
Her second nap is usually at 3, again sleeps for an hour or hour and a half
And then bedtime starts at 7:45 -she gets a bottle, then we get her ready for bed, bath every other night, diaper, nightgown, book, sleep sack, teeth/hair brushed, dark room, white noise, bed.
Usually asleep in a matter of minutes once that’s all done and then I lay her down in her crib by 8:30-9

I need sleep. I feel like I’m in the newborn trenches again some nights, and it’s catching up to me. I can’t remember things, I can’t focus. I’m exhausted most of the time. Oh, and she’s a contact napper during the day so sleeping while she naps is a longshot. I’m just exhausted and don’t know what to do.

What do you do when you sleep train and after 1hour and 45 min of crying baby eventually gets tired and is falling asleep standing and then sitting. But not really fully asleep. They are bobbing around sitting up. At what point do you lay them down? It’s sad to watch and I’m concerned it’s going to back fire when the next day they are completely sleep deprived.

What to do??

13 months this week
3.5/3.5/4
Generally Up at 7am and down at 8pm

My baby is now 7 months old and feeding to sleep for naps, at bedtime, and night wakes. I resorted to feeding to sleep when she was quite young as it was the only way she would go to sleep peacefully without crying hard. It was working for us until she was 4.5 months old. Since then she wakes every 2 hours (mostly), but the range is waking every 45 min- 4 hours. I'm exhausted and need to change this. I've been putting off sleep training as I'm terrified it will be too brutal to handle.

I have one experience with CIO - I have a 26 month old that after CIO at 8 months old mostly sleeps through the night since then. He was never fed to sleep though (just pacifier war all night). I'm scared to do it with my 7 month old as it seems like such a huge leap from being fed/cuddled to sleep for every wake/sleep time to not. Also, I have tried to move the feed to the beginning of the bedtime routine and put her in the crib, but she cried so frantically (almost seemed in a panick) I got her out after a few min. I've also tried smaller changes but anything that isn't feeding/pacifying on me to sleep already leads to a lot of crying and twisting to find my nipple. I've felt too exhausted to feel mentally prepared to CIO but I'm really struggling with the sleep deprivation I'm needing make a major change.

Baby wakes up between 630-730 (I wake her up by 730). Wake windows are 2.75/3/3.25ish. She naps from 45min- 2.5 hours long, usually over 1 hour each. I've been stretching the windows when naps get short and she wakes up happy. Bedtime aim is 7/730ish but can be as early as 6 if naps are short. Occasionally she will have 3 naps if they are very very short (usually if we've had to be out or she's had to do a carrier nap- those are generally 20-30 min).

She has shown that she can fall asleep on her own- usually it is when she wakes up crying at 6ish am and I feed her and put her down awake but calm. Occasionally she'll roll around a little and go back to sleep. Nights just are nothing like this.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and provide any tips/stories (good or bad) with CIO with a baby with strong feed to sleep association. :)

Is this the 4 month sleep regression…. 15 week old woke up multiple times last night. He was hysterically screaming even when we picked him up everytime. He would take a while to calm down and go back to sleep. Sometimes I nursed him if it was time for him to eat and he went back to sleep relatively easily after that. Tonight we put him in bed at 7:30 and at 8 he was screaming. My husband picked him up and he still screamed for a few min while being held. Not sure what the issue is.

My 11 month old who is sleep trained is screaming bloody murder this evening trying to put her down.

She had the 3-4 hour wake window before bedtime but is screaming and crying like crazy going on 3 hours after I initially put her down tonight doing a regular sleep routine.

For a bit of context she had a fever last night but it was gone this morning (the day of this bedtime debacle).

She’s completely normal when we turn on a light and just put her on the ground or on us to sit and relax with us. As soon as we do things we often do to put her down, and turn off the light, she begins screaming again. She’s just sitting in her crib absolutely screaming.

Is this normal? Is this separation anxiety (it’s my guess)? Any tips to deal with this?

Edit:

Baby is on 3/3.5/4 schedule

When would bedtime be ? Or would you keep bedtime the same ?
15m old due to visiting family naps are off & slept for 35mins 11:50-12:25 & then took a short nap in the car for 30mins maybe less 4:30 ish she’s on a 5/6
Normal schedule is 7:30a , nap 12:30-2:30 bed 8:30. But with 2 short naps wasn’t sure if I should keep bedtime the same or move it to 9pm as she had a late short 2nd cat nap.

I've been doing my own approach to sleep training with my almost 5 month old

I started to leave him.in his crib at nap time instead of fight him for God knows how long by bouncing and shhing until he gave in. He's been falling asleep between 10-15 min after being in his crib. However at night time when I try this approach he will not give in. Any tips or advice?

My LO turns 5mo next week. I know her recommended wake windows are 2/2.5/2.5/3 with 10 hours awake, 3 hours of naps, and 11 hours at night.

We were doing 1.75/2/2/2.25 when I last posted and was told we needed more awake time during the day. So I jumped to the 2/2.5/2.5/3 and she lost it half way through her last wake window. She did her normal routine of scream crying before bed, but it started in the bath after only 1.5 hours into her wake window, resting in the same scream crying for an hour before bed with or without sleep training as well as frequent wake ups overnight. Was it wrong to jump to the longer wake windows so abruptly and that’s why they didn’t work?

I went back today to reading her cues which meant shorter wake windows, and were still back to scream crying for hours before bed and frequent wake ups overnight.

Should I more slowly adjust to longer wake windows over a few days? Should I just force the longer 2/2.5/2.5/3 until she can do the 3 at the end of the day? Is the scream crying before bed just a phase that I need to power through?

I have a 6 month old who I can’t seem to sleep train. He has slept through the night since 3 months old. No need to wean night feeds. From 3 mo to 5mo he would fall asleep unassisted after I read him a story and stay asleep until roughly 6-7am. I should mention I cosleep and would put him down in our bed where he slept wonderfully, until recently. Once he started rolling I knew I needed to do something else. I also stopped breast feeding at 6 months. He started to wake slightly through the night and fuss or kick his legs up and slam them down on the bed. Maybe we hit the 4 month sleep regression late? Now it’s his arms and the only thing that helps is putting the paci back in. I have tried the Ferber method with no success. If I leave too many times he cries harder until he’s hyperventilating. I’ve tried the chair method. Seems calmer but he never falls back asleep. I’m talking he shuts his eyes for a minute and is back up. This has gone on for 1.45 hrs until I finally give up. I’ve tried rocking to sleep and transferring to crib with no success. Best stretch I had there was early on and he was asleep for 45 mins then awake with no success going back to sleep. I feel like it is only getting worse the more I try and he has associated the crib negatively. I can no longer put him down awake or asleep. He is up and screaming immediately. WW’s are 2.5/2.5/3 roughly. Bedtime routine is Jammie’s, lotion or bath starting at 7pm. Bottle and hopefully asleep by 7:30 or 8. Naps during the day are getting harder to obtain. 20 mins at worst and 1 hr at best. Contact naps only. I can’t get him to sleep in the crib during the day either. I have tried play time in the crib during the day to get him familiar with the space. I feel like I have royally messed this up. I have some very serious things going on in my life right now, on top of grieving a loss. I need this to work so bad I cannot express it. I am at the point where I just need to stop trying because I causing myself emotional stress. Is he just not ready? Am I asking too much of him? Am I causing this to be worse with my emotional load right now? I see others say the initial battle to get to sleep is long and hard but then baby sleeps till 3 am and the next day is slightly better. I can’t even get past the first asleep/wake up. He never returns to sleep. When I finally give in and hold him he’s asleep in less than a minute. Please help.