r/r4rNYC • • Sep 14 '25

🏙️ Welcome to r/r4rNYC – New York City’s Premier R4R Community 🗽 NSFW

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Whether you're in Manhattan, Queens, Brooklyn, The Bronx, Staten Island, or anywhere else neighboring; r/r4rNYC is your go-to place for real, local connections.

No matter what you're seeking whether it be platonic friends, non-platonic friends, friends with benefits [fwb] / casual encounters, soulmates, travel mates, smoking buddies, groups to join, activity partners, etc. This is the place on Reddit to find and seek others in NYC.


✅ Posting Guidelines:

The titles of submissions must be properly formatted or they will be deleted. The format for post titles is:

<age> [<r4r>] <your location/time zone> - <title>

Examples:

21 [M4F] #Manhattan - Looking for a FWB for more

26 [F4R] #Bronx - I want a gamer buddy and somebody to chat with

28 [MtF4F] #Brooklyn - brighten up my work trip

30/29 [FM4FM] #Queens - Married couple looking for roleplay with another married couple.


🚫 What NOT to Post:

  • Spam, scams, or fake posts — Let’s keep it real.
  • Selling services or promoting ads — This is a community for connections, not business.
  • Harassment or inappropriate comments — Be respectful in posts and DMs.

🌐 Partner Community – Expand Your Reach!

Looking to explore primarily New York state instead of NYC? Check out our partner community for more SFW and NSFW connections. It’s a great way to meet more people and widen your scope across NY!

Feel free to join and post to expand your reach and connect with even more like-minded locals across NY and NYC!


💡 For Successful Connections:

  • Be honest and clear about what you’re looking for.
  • Include SFW photos (if comfortable) to make your post more engaging.
  • Respect boundaries in the comments and DMs — no pressure, no pushy behavior.

Welcome to r/r4rNYC — where New York city meets its perfect match for fun connections of all types.


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r/r4rNYC • • 3h ago

31 [M4M] #Manhattan Recently single and looking to explore, I’ve never played with another cock and have fantasized about stroking one NSFW

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If you’re down for some safe play / to let me explore my curiosity, DM me :)


r/r4rNYC • • 23m ago

27 [M4F] #Brooklyn - Muscular East Asian NSFW

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Hi there,

Will be in Brooklyn and looking to have some fun. I’d love to chat first and see if we share similar interests and chemistry. Experienced in BDSM.

Requirements:
- Clean and with testing proof (I am tested and clean with proof)
- Willing to verify (I will also verify)
- Good vibes :)


r/r4rNYC • • 2h ago

24 [M4M] #NYC #Brooklyn - Looking for fit fwb NSFW

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Interested in finding a fwb. I want to get head and make out. Also looking to top for the first time. Interested in a chill muscular bottom bro.

I've messed around with head before but still need to find the right guy for more. Spoke with some people here but nothing came of it.

Ideally want something more chill and intimate for my first time. Fine with something quick if that's the vibe.

Fit Asian guy here. No complaints about down there. I travel.


r/r4rNYC • • 2h ago

28 [M4M] #QueensNYC car play? NSFW

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Cannot host. Looking for someone with a car with tinted windows who is down for a stroke session.


r/r4rNYC • • 3h ago

45 [m4f] #NYC - Hot dad looking to explore an age-gap fantasy NSFW

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I’m in my mid-40s and looking to explore an age-gap fantasy.

I love the idea of being with someone younger (18+!).

I'm told to be handsome. Average height, HWP. I take care of my body and appearance.

Your pic gets mine! Let's chat.


r/r4rNYC • • 4h ago

41 [M4F] #NYC - Dominant man looking for BDSM or CNC with big breasted submissive women NSFW

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My body - https://ibb.co/Y4d6SmF6

I'm looking for submissive women that are into BDSM and CNC and can meet up / hook up. I'm able to host at my private home, usually on weekends or weekday afternoons. I live in Staten Island and can provide transportation back and forth if necessary, I can travel to any borough. If you can drive yourself, or also live in Staten Island, that's even better.

I'm dominant, I like rough sex, and most kinks and fetishes involving BDSM. I use safe words, safety procedures, and we can discuss limits and boundaries before meeting up.

Send me a message if you're interested briefly telling me about yourself.


r/r4rNYC • • 4h ago

31 [M4F] #Manhattan, fit and clean with a big thick D looking to have fun NSFW

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Looking to have discreet fun in NYC, near Midtown. I’m fit, athletic with a big thick cock. I love having good convos, food, music, adventures and sports. Lets talk and meet up if we vibe :) open to consistent fun/FWB. I love watching movies, outdoors, working out and also open to gym buddies if you’d like. Basically looking for someone to do different activities with and have fun with in the area :) I’m pretty easygoing, laid back and funny. I can host.


r/r4rNYC • • 4h ago

42 [M4F] #NYC Looking to get ghosted NSFW

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The so-called "Spooky season" is now upon us and although I'm not really a big "Halloween guy", I thought this would be the perfect time to invite some paranormal activity.

Maybe you're the jump scare kind of ghost; appearing just to say "hey", then vanishing as if you never existed at all. Or perhaps you're the haunting type; emerging at the most unexpected times to remind me that you exist, only to leave me wondering if you'll ever return after each apparition. Or maybe you're the most frightening of all... the confused spirit like those people in Beetlejuice. You carry on normal interactions like a real person, building connections with the living, until you realize you're actually a ghost and suddenly return to the nether regions, never to be heard from again.

Which ever kind of ghost you are, just know that you are seen and loved. This is your moment, and I'm ready to be afraid.


r/r4rNYC • • 8h ago

47 [M4M] #NYC midtown bi bottom hosting tonight NSFW Spoiler

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Hey NYers

Looking for a clean chill top this evening! Me clean ddf dl oral bottom in the city can host at a hotel. My plan is the watch the dodgers game have a few beers and then you show up. Into mild to wild if your squeaky clean. Poppers are cool not into drugs. I’m sane educated, easygoing here. Hit me up let’s chat and set this up


r/r4rNYC • • 5h ago

46 [M4F] #NYC - Are you a good girl? NSFW

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If you clicked, I'll bet you are. It's probably been too long since anyone told you so. We should fix that. Tonight.

46, NYC (I’ll come to you), white, 5'9", avg body, daddy type. Creative for a living, and creative about giving you a few hours where you can completely let go.

I want to turn your brain off and put you to incredible use — and to tell you exactly how well you're doing the whole time. I talk. A lot. And I have so many ideas for us.

Your comfort and safety are the most important thing here. Ask me anything.


r/r4rNYC • • 5h ago

35 [M4F] #NYC - Easy going guy for FWB NSFW

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35 years old 6'2" athletic build easy going white guy looking for a new friend to get to know, explore, and have fun with. preferably looking for something consistent. Open minded and very kink-friendly. would be nice to make a real friendship out of it.

i am 7in, thick, uncut, and big cummer.

reach out if looking for something similar. would be great if you give a quick description of yourself and what you would be looking for and share some kind of pics. Have a few on mine pinned on my profile.


r/r4rNYC • • 11h ago

28 [M4M] #NYC - Asian bro hosts Jo sesh NSFW

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Hey guys
28 M straight fit Asian here in nyc.
Into Gangbang DP Creampie porn.
Looking for chill bro to share porn and jerk together.
I can host something tonight or tomorrow.


r/r4rNYC • • 9h ago

23 [M4M] #NYC fem smooth bottom in sexy lingerie looking to worship DL BWC in manhattan - make me your personal sex toy NSFW

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23, 118lbs, 5’7 tight smooth submissive fem bottom - i’d love to find a man who needs stress relief and wants me all dolled up with make up and in lingerie and show him how talented i am on my knees….. love to service and worship so lay back, relax, close your eyes and let me take care of you

into fit alpha finance bro white collar type men who need some stress relief and want to use a fem sissy after a long day - looking for guys in manhattan


r/r4rNYC • • 6h ago

#brooklyn [M4M] 27 m btm visiting can host for a masc fit pleasure dom who will have his way with me NSFW

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In a hotel 😇


r/r4rNYC • • 10h ago

41 [M4M] #Queens #RegoPark - Looking for TOP to have fun/experiment with NSFW

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I’m 41 Asian male here. 5’9” 180lbs (somewhat in shape) 5.5” uncut. I’m clean with great hygiene. I’ve been told I have a nice ass and hole. Not fem or passable. I am discreet and DL. Can’t host but we can split a motel/hotel.

Looking for a top to have fun with who’s ok with someone thats discreet. Could be an ongoing thing if we enjoy each other’s company.

I can dress up a little with some cute thongs and dresses or just dress normal like another bro. Still somewhat new to the sissy/CD world.

However, not new to bottoming and sucking. I enjoy using toys but always loved the real thing. Would love to practice and experiment more!


r/r4rNYC • • 7h ago

48 [M4F] #NYC - Tri-state area. Looking for someone trustworthy to keep things quiet and fun. NSFW

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I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun.
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
What is your favorite 80's or 90's comedy.


r/r4rNYC • • 8h ago

37 [M4F] #NYC - Who else loves autumn/spooky season and wants to grab seasonal pumpkin/apple hot drinks? NSFW

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Ok so I don't have anything specific in mind, but since you clicked on this post you were clearly thinking of something, too! I just want to check out a nice cozy cafe I haven't been to and even if we just both read a book or brought a sketch pad along to draw, that would be a good time for me. I'm also open to suggestions/plans if you think of something else autumn-y to do! Of course, let's definitely get to know one another a bit on here first :)

Just a little bit about me:

I bake! Cookies, brownies, pies, muffins, and cakes of varying sizes.

I draw stuff on my phone! Trying to get better at figure drawing mostly, humans and animals alike.

I usually eat very healthy, despite my love for baking sweets. I'm always in need of a taste- tester haha. I also work out to keep in shape.

I'm nerdy! I love things like Lord of the Rings, Dark Fantasy stuff like Dark Souls, and D&D.

Anyway, if you think we'd have fun conversation and possibly a meetup, shoot me a DM! Cheers!


r/r4rNYC • • 8h ago

28 [M4F] #NYC - does anyone just wanna go out and see if we’re a good match for a winter fling or more? NSFW

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Hi, I’m a wildfire responder and ranger who currently works in urban and utility forestry. It’s been really cold and lonely lately, especially cuz I was working the last few weeks doing storm response in Suffolk County.

Now that I’m home, I’d love to just hang with someone? Whether it’s for one night or something more consistent.

We can grab some food, go for a drink, and keep each other warm through the storms?

Please lmk if Anyone wants to join me and see where things go?

I’m not super tall, but am relatively fit and used to be a ranger and wildfire responder.

I’m liberal. I like reading romantic and history books along with comics.

I really love going to Indy theaters to watch movies, shows, and comedy. I’m actually going to be at one tonight!

Also I haven’t really explored Staten Island yet so I would love to find someone to guide (and host) me.

I can host and travel to most places in nyc and Long Island. Anywhere in northern NJ and westChester-area is fine, but I’ll need time to plan.

Let me know if you’re down?

I’m currently single and we can keep things casual or go a more serious route.

Thanks and send a dm if interested. I’m ddf, but I’m ok you use. Just be around my age (20s-40)

(There are pics in some previous posts)


r/r4rNYC • • 13h ago

28[M4F] #Williamsburg - Looking for somebody to rave, drink and dance NSFW

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Hello everybody!

Like my title says, I'm pretty much looking for somebody ! can consistently go out with to rave, or go to small places just to dance and drink. I work a lot and I go out just to relax. Places I frequent are Bossa Nova, Mood Ring, Knockdown center, basement and etc etc.

I'm a 28 Latino male, 5'8 who frequently goes to the gym.

I'm not shredded, more on the bigger side. I'm more of a geek than anything but love yapping and listening.

If you are interested feel free to shoot a message! We can exchange pictures and info. Thank you!


r/r4rNYC • • 9h ago

35 [M4F] #Manhattan Toss you around NSFW

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Sane, disease free, full head of hair 6'0 white male. Accomplished white collar professional. Just looking for someone who likes to be tossed around, bent over, and fucked well. Ideally, it can be an ongoing thing. Obviously can't put something like that on a dating app, so here I am.

Looking forward to hearing from you.


r/r4rNYC • • 12h ago

32 [M4M] #Brooklyn - any young bull want to coat my throat? NSFW

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I host a private, seated GH for DL discreet, no faces shown just come in, get sucked, cum n go.

Location: Bay Ridge, BK
When: Today

Send me a chat message with your:

  1. Age
  2. Location
  3. D pic (uncut & hairy to the front)

r/r4rNYC • • 12h ago

46 [M4F] #Queens - mature white male aviator in town soon seeking chill female in desperate need of casual fun NSFW

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This might not be right post for everyone but it is for just the right person:

Hey ladies, chill middle aged white daddy here seeking unique female in desperate need of casual fun.
I’m looking for very shy, inexperienced, introverted, awkward, nerdy or even a virgin ready for her first time.
Even better if you are very hairy, petite, small or flat breasts.
Looks, age (legal of course), size not as important as personality in my opinion.

I travel for work and can host at my hotel when I’m in town.

If you are very shy or insecure we can keep the lights dimmed low or off. We can start with making out, touching and groping and go from there. No expectations and we can go as slow or far as you desire.

I’m down to earth, tall, dad bod, hairy chest, handsome, well kept appearance, always very clean and presentable, non smoker, no drugs or diseases, amazing tongue skills. I am not hung downstairs but small/average sized. Perfect if big hurts or it’s your first time. Size queens need not apply.

If you are tired of getting off by yourself and the thought of having fun with a chill older guy intrigues you then please respond with a description of yourself, what you think you would like to do and your favorite food so I know you actually read this post.


r/r4rNYC • • 12h ago

37 [t4m] #brooklyn - spit on me while I suck you NSFW

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fem sissy to worship a dude and his bwc

Into makeout or simply serving or kinks


r/r4rNYC • • 13h ago

37 [m4m] #brooklyn - straight and want hands and mouth all over your body? NSFW

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down to lick you all over, give you a rubdown with oils and hot towels, rim, etc.

Don’t do this often

Attractive , friendly , slim, white