r/NYr4r • • Sep 14 '25

Moderator Approved Welcome to r/NYr4r – New York’s largest R4R Community 🔥 NSFW

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Whether you're seeking platonic friends, non-platonic friends, friends with benefits [fwb] / casual encounters, soulmates, travel mates, smoking buddies, groups to join, activity partners, etc. /r/NYr4r is the place on Reddit to find and seek in a community of 75K New Yorkers!

For any redditors in New York (Buffalo, Syracuse, Albany, NYC, Westchester, Ulster County, etc.): this is the place for you. - no complications, just real connections.


✅ Posting Guidelines:

The titles of submissions must be properly formatted or they will be deleted. The format for post titles is:

<age> [<r4r>] <your location/time zone> - <title>

Examples:

21 [M4F] #Manhattan - Looking for a friend

26 [F4R] #Bronx - I want a gamer buddy and somebody to chat with

28 [MtF4F] #SuffolkCountyLI - brighten up my work trip

30/29 [FM4FM] #Albany - Married couple looking for roleplay with another married couple.


🚫 What NOT to Post:

  • Spam, scams, or fake posts — Let’s keep it real.
  • Selling services or promoting ads — This is a community for connections, not business.
  • Harassment or inappropriate comments — Be respectful in posts and DMs.

🌐 Partner Community – Expand Your Reach!

Looking to explore primarily NYC instead of NY? Check out our partner community for more SFW and NSFW connections. It’s a great way to meet more people and widen your scope across the city!

Feel free to join and post to expand your reach and connect with even more like-minded locals across NY and NYC!


💡 For Successful Connections:

  • Be honest and clear about what you’re looking for.
  • Include SFW photos (if comfortable) to make your post more engaging.
  • Respect boundaries in the comments and DMs — no pressure, no pushy behavior.

Welcome to r/NYr4r — where New York meets its perfect match for fun connections of all types.


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r/NYr4r • • 20m ago

[M4F]#brooklyn 43M looking for a FWB NSFW

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I'm 6ft 1 Afro latino and fit and very will hung I have post on here before giving this a another chance not expecting anything but here it goes so artsy guy here single body that looks like I was made for porn but a shy guy I open up fast very high sex drive shy and a high sex drive recipe for disaster lol and I work a lot so not many opportunities to meet woman and online dating is a nightmare in NYC so looking for a like minded woman looking for a guy to see here and there and enjoy each other's life is short and there no reason to be alone that what I think at least willing to meet over drinks or food can face time to prove I'm real and open to sending pics I your open too that real let chat and make some plans I'm free tonight tonight after 11pm for drinks and free tomorrow I'm me if interested let see where the night takes us


r/NYr4r • • 22m ago

32 [M4M] #NYC — normal massage + optional edging/release (no recip) for lean guys + gym bros 18–36 | straight/curious welcome | fitness instructor (I stay clothed) NSFW

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I do this ongoing, so there’s never a bad time to reach out! I like to plan in advance, when I can — I’m usually available Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.

Please be 18–36, lean, clean-cut (no stache/beard), well-groomed, with minimal upper-body hair.

The experience is a real, unrushed massage on a massage table. If you’re comfortable and interested, I can slowly edge you to release — you can wait until we meet to decide on that part.

The vibe is friendly, discreet and low-pressure. I stay clothed the whole time (tank and shorts). There’s no reciprocation, no surprises, and no hidden agenda.

I’m 32 (look more late 20s), very fit/athletic, clean-cut, white, and work in fitness. I host in Williamsburg and do this for fun. I also have a post with more details on my profile with a photo of the setup.

If you message, please lead with your age, build, general availability, and a little about yourself.


r/NYr4r • • 58m ago

33 [M4M] #Westchester: Bicurious looking for lean/ripped or super skinny guys NSFW

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Into guys with very little body fat. Either super skinny or lean/ripped guys who like to flex/show off their biceps and abs (into muscle worship). PM me if interested


r/NYr4r • • 1h ago

35 [M4F] #NYC - Easy going guy for FWB NSFW

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35 years old 6'2" athletic build easy going white guy looking for a new friend to get to know, explore, and have fun with. preferably looking for something consistent. Open minded and very kink-friendly. would be nice to make a real friendship out of it.

i am 7in, thick, uncut, and big cummer.

reach out if looking for something similar. would be great if you give a quick description of yourself and what you would be looking for and share some kind of pics. Have a few on mine pinned on my profile.


r/NYr4r • • 1h ago

31 [MM4M] #Brooklyn 2 throats NSFW

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Two guys here:

A: 31 chill/ handsome/ 5'9 / 165 / slim smooth Puerto Rican guy

B: 37 chill/ handsome/ 5'5 / 175 / stocky hairy Puerto Rican guy

Very respectful of privacy and discretion.

Can host in Brooklyn.

We love sucking, getting throat fucked, jerking off, worshipping, and servicing. We take safe sex very seriously - open to providing test results and/or using protection.

STI-free and vaccinated for COVID and MPOX. Hoping to have a safe and fun time with someone. Contact info in profile. Good luck and happy blowjobs.


r/NYr4r • • 2h ago

31 [M4F] #Poughkeepsie - Who needs it rougher than most… NSFW

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This post is directed to the ones who crave that extra oomph…that takes it the next level and see if they tap out. Looking for a gal that needs to be used rough and hard. You will be humiliated, objectified, spanked, opened up, tied down, slapped, toyed, and face fucked upside down until you are covered in your own slop.

And no, these are not the only things that will be done to you…

31, 5’10” 200lbs, muscular, regular gym goer, short clean beard, short brown hair

Goth/emo/alt looking or older than myself +++++


r/NYr4r • • 2h ago

64 [M4F] #NYC - YOU WANT MUCH OLDER. I am on Long Island and can travel. NSFW

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For a variety of reasons you've always wanted much older but have been afraid to take the plunge. You desire much older and your curiosity meshes with my love of younger women - shy and/or inexperienced to the front. However experienced is fine too. 

At my age, it's not easy to meet a younger woman seeking something casual whether short or longer term. Your status does not matter to me as I am very discreet. .I'm tired of the games and fakes.who respond to my posts. I'm real, serious, truly looking to meet and then I'll stop posting.

I'm white, 6'', 210, look good for my age, with a dad-bod build, size 35 in Levis, still have my graying black hair, clean shaven, non smoker, do not drink, but very very sexual. I'm very communicative and want my partner to tell me what she wants in bed.

Your experience level with men does not matter to me. In my prior Age Gap relationships, I have found the most rewarding moments to be with less experienced/repressed/shy/introverted partners, helping them explore their sexuality and truly blossom. Or you could be dating, like the guy but your sex life suck as he is not take charge, cums too quickly and does not eat your pussy for as long as you want.

If you are inexperienced I am fine teaching you and mentoring you in the bedroom and have done that before.

If you are experienced in bed, but bored I am wide open, Besides the obvious Age Gap dynamic, Praise Kinks, Showing Off/Being Shown Off, Exhibitionism, Voyeurism, Bondage, Three ways, Semi-public play, are all things that interest me. And bi/bicurious girls go to the front of the line.

I am very oral and my cock is very thick (6" girth), cut, groomed and I last a long time. Plus I can get it up 3X.. I can host at motels on LI and in Queens. Manhattan takes more time to find.

.You lack experience or your sex life sucks. I am on Long Island but can travel all over.

For a variety of reasons you've always wanted much older but have been afraid to take the plunge. You desire much older and your curiosity meshes with my love of younger women - shy and/or inexperienced to the front. However experienced is fine too. 

At my age, it's not easy to meet a younger woman seeking something casual whether short or longer term. Your status does not matter to me as I am very discreet. .I'm tired of the games and fakes.who respond to my posts. I'm real, serious, truly looking to meet and then I'll stop posting.

I'm white, 6'', 210, look good for my age, with a dad-bod build, size 35 in Levis, still have my graying black hair, clean shaven, non smoker, do not drink, but very very sexual. I'm very communicative and want my partner to tell me what she wants in bed.

Your experience level with men does not matter to me. In my prior Age Gap relationships, I have found the most rewarding moments to be with less experienced/repressed/shy/introverted partners, helping them explore their sexuality and truly blossom. Or you could be dating, like the guy but your sex life suck as he is not take charge, cums too quickly and does not eat your pussy for as long as you want.

If you are inexperienced I am fine teaching you and mentoring you in the bedroom and have done that before.

If you are experienced in bed, but bored I am wide open, Besides the obvious Age Gap dynamic, Praise Kinks, Showing Off/Being Shown Off, Exhibitionism, Voyeurism, Bondage, Three ways, Semi-public play, are all things that interest me. And bi/bicurious girls go to the front of the line.

I am very oral and my cock is very thick (6" girth), cut, groomed and I last a long time. Plus I can get it up 3X.. I can host at motels on LI and in Queens. Manhattan takes more time to find.


r/NYr4r • • 2h ago

48 [M4F] #NYC - Tri-state area. Looking for someone trustworthy to keep things quiet and fun. NSFW

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I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun.
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
What is your favorite 80's or 90's comedy.


r/NYr4r • • 3h ago

33 [M4M] #Brooklyn - talented throat hosting for blow and go NSFW

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Hi

Normal dude
Clean
Walk in
Unzip
Lay back

Willing to suck 2 loads out of you.

Leave.

Safe space.
Clean here

You must be clean :)

Send details.
Looking for now as long as this is up


r/NYr4r • • 4h ago

28 [M4F] #Hamptons #NY You! Yes you! Have you always wanted to try ANR/Suckling? NSFW

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I've spent quite a lot of time in the kink community fantasizing about the day I'd make this post and finally start the search for an ANR/Suckling partner who loves this kink just as much as me and today is the day that search starts!

I'm a 28yr old, very tall white guy out on the island and I'd love to find a (preferable regular) partner to either nurse from or possibly try to induce. This is something I've craved for a loooong time now and whether you're experienced in the kink or this is just something you've thought about from time to time I'm open to all walks of life!

I'm very open to partners of all shapes, races, ages and sizes so don't hesitate to reach out! My dating history shows a preference for shortstacks usually (Big tiddies, smaller height) but don't let that dissuade you from shooting your shot. I will respond to everyone regardless ❤️

I do have a pretty busy schedule nowadays but ideally I'd like to line up at least one session a week if not more. The closer to me the better, as I'd prefer to drive to you if we do end up clicking and if possible I'd like to set something up for this coming Monday but i can be flexible.

I'd like to be as transparent as possible and say I'm open to all sorts of arraignments, if we both decide we'd like to include more kinks in this then I'm more than willing to work with that but as a baseline I'd like to have this primarily based around ANR/Suckling.

Send a message my way, don't be shy. The worst that can happen is a fun conversation :)


r/NYr4r • • 5h ago

37[M4F] #watertown Handsome 6’4 stud in an open married looking for a sexy younger North Country girl to share my fat 7.5 inch cock with on a side quest next week. NSFW

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I’m traveling next week and looking for a playful ONS. Heading to our camp in Star Lake and then to Watertown. Could travel to Potsdam, Abay, Lowville, or watertown for the right girl.

I’m 6’4, 215, go to the gym daily, and have a thick 7.5 inch cock I know how to use (profile for pics). I’m into public play, anal, 69ing, shower play, cucking, bdsm, lite d/s, throat fucking, and facials.

Available tue/wed/thur.

Would love to fuck a horny college girl or a woman who needs some attention.


r/NYr4r • • 9h ago

27 [M4A] #Queens, NY - Looking for Fleshlight DP While Watching Porn NSFW

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Hey! Like the title says, I'm looking to connect with chill people to chat and eventually meet, throw on some porn, and frot our cocks inside a fleshlight. I'm open to more if we click as well.

I'm a 5'10 South Asian guy, muscular but stocky/chubby, 6" heavy cummer that can go back to back rounds. Into all kinds of porn as well. Send me a message if you're interested!


r/NYr4r • • 6h ago

23 [M4M] #NYC fem smooth bottom in sexy lingerie looking to worship and service DL BWC in manhattan - make me your sex toy NSFW

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23, 118lbs, 5’7 tight smooth submissive fem bottom - i’d love to find a man who needs stress relief and wants me all dolled up with make up and in lingerie and show him how talented i am on my knees….. love to service and worship so lay back, relax, close your eyes and let me take care of you

into fit alpha finance bro white collar type men who need some stress relief and want to use a fem sissy after a long day - looking for guys in manhattan


r/NYr4r • • 6h ago

31 [F4M] #Brooklyn- Dinner Date then Creampies NSFW

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I’m 31, black, in Brooklyn, huge tiddies, \\\\\\\~220lbs (so only message if u like chubby girls!)

I’m looking for a fwb to take me out to eat and show me a good time. If we had fun, I’d love to make it a consistent thing.

Kinky - want to be dominated, choking, sleep play, cnc, etc.

Prefer non-white men who have updated test results and are well endowed.

Disclaimers: I cannot host, if you do NOT have a full panel of STD AND HIV test results to show me, I will not be meeting you. This is an ad for dinner AND sexy fun.


r/NYr4r • • 7h ago

24 [MF4M] #long island in the next few weeks I need a few male extras, early 20s, athletic, who would be actually willing to do a semi nude photoshoot with my gf! NSFW

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I don’t have exact dates yet, but I need someone actually willing to show up lol lots of people wanna see pics, some even said they were “on their way” and then no showed. Need some fr extras please!


r/NYr4r • • 10h ago

29 [m4m] #bronx - im into smoking cannabis and circumcised cock with their pubes shave NSFW

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What I'm looking for in you;

Respectful, no diseases, circumcised, hairless cock and balls and has a good cannabis so i can smoke chill and suck dick swallow cum and do it again and again. Dm your dick pic with the cannabis in the photo for meet. I'm seeking a regularly ongoing dick to play with


r/NYr4r • • 11h ago

39 [M4M] #Bronx #NYC Bottom hosting right now NSFW

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Just got out the shower, douched and ready to get my ass eaten and/or fucked. I am drug-free, disease-free and good hygienic so you must be too. Vers is fine but I prefer total tops or oral tops. Serious guys only please! DM if interested. I am looking for as long as this is up.


r/NYr4r • • 11h ago

45 [M4F] #White Plains - 5'11" Fit hunk Daddy to manhandle the fuck out of you tonight. NSFW

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Very clean, safe, hygienic and DDF. Strong arms and hands to bounce you on my handsome, hard cock. Heavy cummer. Happy to make those kinks happen for you and make that mascara run.

Can cum to you or host. Can be as discreet as you need. DMs open.

ps - No men unless for MFM or Cuck while I fuck your gf.


r/NYr4r • • 13h ago

24 [T4M] #NYC Bronx- Pink Bussy ready to be used by Str8 and married Top guys. NSFW

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Im hosting by Morris Park Bronx
Stop by, unload and leave


r/NYr4r • • 19h ago

32 [m4f] #NYC w wide BBC looking to stretch a woman's pussy NSFW

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Wanna hookup and stretch stretch a girl's pussy out from nyc. Please be ddf except weed. Must be in the 5 boros, or near the 5 boros. No cuck shit, don't ask. Please be at least 25+ years old ;)


r/NYr4r • • 21h ago

30 [m4f] Local 420 friends?👀 hmu #Longisland #Queens #Brooklyn NSFW

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M30 6ft 180lb mobil and can supply and host if needed🤷‍♂️


r/NYr4r • • 1d ago

21[M4F/MF] Looking for Tomorrow morning can host Would love to meet moms, hotwives, and couples#longisland Suffolk NSFW

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Pm


r/NYr4r • • 1d ago

41 [M4F] #NYC - I'm looking for easy free-use hook ups with submissive women at my place NSFW

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my cock - https://ibb.co/MycgvF9n

I'm a fit and single 41 year old man that lives alone based in Staten Island, I can host at my private home, and am willing to drive to any borough to pick you up and drop you off if necessary. If you live on Staten Island, that's even better.

I'm looking for submissive women for easy hook ups at my place, I prefer free-use and I'm into being rough, dominant, with BDSM and CNC kinks and fetishes. We can negotiate any boundaries or limits before meeting up, and verify with each other that we're both real via face time or something of that sort.

If you're interested, just shoot me over a message using reddit chat.


r/NYr4r • • 1d ago

46 [M4F] #Queens - mature white daddy seeks younger female in desperate need of casual fun NSFW

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This might not be right post for everyone but it is for just the right person:

Hey young ladies, chill middle aged white daddy here seeking unique female in desperate need of casual fun.
I’m looking for very shy, inexperienced, introverted, awkward, nerdy or even a first time virgin ready for her first time.
Even better if you are very hairy, petite, small or flat breasts.
Looks, age, size not as important as personality in my opinion.

I travel for work and can host at my hotel when I’m in town.

If you are very shy or insecure we can keep the lights dimmed low or off. We can start with making out, touching and groping and go from there. No expectations and we can go as slow or far as you desire.

I’m down to earth, tall, dad bod, hairy chest, handsome, well kept appearance, always very clean and presentable, non smoker, no drugs or diseases, amazing tongue skills. I am not hung downstairs but small/average sized. Perfect if big hurts or it’s your first time. Size queens need not apply.

If you are tired of getting off by yourself and the thought of having fun with a chill older guy intrigues you then please respond with a description of yourself, what you think you would like to do and your favorite food so I know you actually read this post.