I've been responding with a version of this to many struggling sufferers who complain of unsupportive families or partners. I post this now to all.

I am a father with a child who suffers with misophonia. Yes, it's a real thing, and can be unbearable. When she first started exhibiting the symptoms, it was very difficult to understand, no one had ever heard of such a thing. Her trigger sounds mostly are chewing, sniffling, and the clinking of dishware and silverware. Once we understood what misophonia was, our family agreed that we did not want to cause any undo misery for our child. Yes, it was quite an adjustment, we no longer could have family meals with all of us. But we accepted the situation, and everyone fully supports our daughter. We didn't force our child to withstand an experience which is intolerable. And because we accepted it, we didn't have any arguments or bad feelings. Credit goes to my wife who educated herself, spread her knowledge to the rest of us, and drove our adoption of the necessary accommodations.

Misophonia is a condition your whole family is going to have to accept and deal with for the long term. You can choose to ignore the pain it causes your child, which will ultimately lead to a strain in your relationship. Or you can learn everything you can about it, support your child, and let him/her know just how much you love and care for them. We have figured out how to cope with it for family gatherings. Everyone is aware of the trigger sounds and makes a best effort to prevent them. At meal time our daughter is first to fill her dish and disappears to her room with noise cancelling headphones. Because the clinking of dishes and silverware are some of her triggers, we either delay doing the dishes until after bedtime, or we'll do them immediately after the meal while she is still in another room with the headphones on. We can then all enjoy everyone's company. Your child isn't looking for special treatment, he/she is looking for support and understanding of a condition that science hasn't figured out yet. The worst thing you can do is pretend it doesn't exist or ignore the suffering that it causes.

A Dad

Both of us are neurodivergent, which is relevant. My RM constantly is chewing gum because it helps with regulation and ADHD a LOT. Which, whatever, as long as I can’t hear it. Except I CAN because 1) when he thinks he’s alone he loves to smack it as wide as possible, and 2) he CONSTANTLY is coming in my room and talking to me with gum in his mouth. He also NEVER waits until he’s finished chewing to talk to me. IT IS DRIVING ME INSANE. I HAVE TRIED SO MUCH. HE KNOWS!! There’s been multiple times that I straight up left the room while he was talking while chewing, because I literally can’t deal. I get shot to level 7/8 so fast that I GOTTA get outta there before it reaches 10.

It’s been years now. And I feel like such a dick being on his ass about it, but it makes my life so fucking miserable. I get tense every time he comes in my room, because he’s just going to talk to me for giant chunks of time with the gum in his mouth. I don’t like chilling with him the moment food is involved. He chews quietly, thank FUCK. But he does also scrape bowls/plates a LOT, which bugs the fuck out of me but it is nothing compared to the RAGE and full body upsetting discomfort I get. No matter how many times I have asked for him to finish chewing, he’s got severe ADHD and struggles soooooo much with holding onto a thought long enough.

Idk, I’m mostly screaming into a pillow so I don’t take it out on anyone irl. It’s not his fault I’m like this, and I don’t wanna nag too much about chewing and shit. He’s got rejection sensitivity really bad too, so that’s also a factor in all this. It’s just a lot for my brain to try and regulate, especially with the misophonia levels. The only fix so far has been for me to wear earplugs any time I’m around him, but we live together so that’s also somewhat unreasonable. Especially since he comes in my room a bunch & talks for long periods of time.

This show has the loudest swallowing noises and crunching throughout the series. Be prepared

It is affecting my home life and anything else, I now can’t tolerate movements/sights well either. I want to be able to have control over things which would be to do with this worsened state, it feels hard to manage stress with how my life is. It’s same at college where I have a low attendance, I can’t decide on what career or if would be fit/manage to work. I failed GCSEs and wasn’t in education for two years (19M) after taking them and before starting college.

2 - I have been told deafness could worsen it, unable to tune out/ignore noise and reading about others’ triggers can cause more to develop including noise produced by their own self and other senses like touching or smelling too. One of my worst triggers is windy weather, I had wanted a summer house for my backyard or maybe something else and to be soundproofed but don’t know anymore. I hope to move out and be done with college.

3 - It would be nice if it was possible for someone to be able to select noise they want to hear. I don’t know if some strategies I thought of would work or if a doctor would be of any help who I can mention more details about this to but I don’t want to have to make diet or lifestyle changes

Not really looking for an answer but an outlet; I work in a tight/small office and my OPP literally smashed his keyboard when he types, is so aggressive with clicking the mouse, and I feel like it’s so EXCRUCIATING to be in the same space as them. My other colleague seems to never notice. I wish I could tune them out!

like the title says, i had a semester test today and towards the end i just hear this horrific sort of teeth scratching sound? kinda like when you scratch nails against a chalkboard

i look up and i see its just someone filling in an mcq form with a mechanical pencil and like yeah cool whatever but it kept throwing me off and there were like 15 questions so you can just imagine how long that went on for. it was just so frustrating because i was almost done with my paper but everytime i heard it i had to stop because i literally could not function

and on top of that there was a guy behind me who kept whispering calculations to himself which wasnt as bad but it sort of sounded amplified with the mechanical pencil

My largest trigger for Misophonia is my dad.

Whenever he makes a throat clearing noise I instantly get filled with anger, even if I try to not let it bother me as much. Sometimes I try to go to sleep early. But when I heard the door of the fence open, I instantly get filled with anxiety. I just know then that I won't be able to sleep for another hour or so because of the noises. I feel like I can never peacefully sleep with him around and it's infuriating.

Besides that he makes these random whistle noises. It's not even real whistling. He makes those incoherent random chaotic noises which are annoying as hell. This also makes me instantly super annoyed. He might act happy while doing this but it's making me miserable and want to flee to a different room. I've asked him multiple times if he could be more quiet but he just does these things automatically.

And when he finally sleeps, he snores like a chainsaw. I can hear him loud and clear even if there are two large walls between us. It's ridiculous. Besides that, he sneezes in a really exaggerated way, he makes loud farts, loud hiccups, loud eating noises and then asks me what's wrong when I look at him with anger and disgust. I feel like my relationship with my dad is getting worse and worse because of this by the day. It will be such a blessing when I'm finally able to buy my own house which I'm saving for currently.

I just had to get this rant out of my system. I don't want to hate my dad but it's difficult.

so basically my trigger is sneezes and eating sounds and i j cant have dinner w my family (i do sometimes but since i have working parents we j have dinner less together) if i do i endup ruining everyones mood i also have this thing when my sister makes any specific sound again and again j to be quirky or whatsoever it j gets me to a breaking point and i dont see it getting any better it has j been getting progressively worse and i started noticing it more after puberty im 18 now. It specially gets triggered when my mom sneezes and the worst part is she has allergies and its not her fault at all im the one with the problem and i know people around me shouldnt suffer for it but i just cant help it. there are times when she sneezes i have to cover my ears or i j keep opening and closing my ears with my fingers as fast as i can till the voice goes away its like its stuck in my head and it plays on repeat and i get this heart sinking feeling and it kinda gets hard to breathe. Idk if anyone else does it but sometimes to replace the voice in my head i try to imitate the voice the other person makes and it does kinda help buti feel guilty afterwards for imitating a person it feels like bad manners or j disrespectful (ofc i dont do it on their faces).
One thing i always do when only my mom or dad sneeze is tht i scream and she finds it disrespectful sometimes and i cry bcs i cant control it in my mind either i have to scream it out or hit something or someone like theres so much fear rage and diff emotions at the same time in a span of seconds.
Ive also had a lot of family issues my parents almost getting divorced and abuse fights all i saw it all idk why but i think it did contribute to this in one way or another

i havent seen another person around me or met anyone in my life w the same things i go through and knowing it has no cure makes me feel really helpless im scared of the life that is to come ahead and how ill survive with my partner will he hate me for this or will we have issues bcs of my personal problems i am a very big people pleaser and i j dont know how ill have a job have a family or will i endup giving my kids mommy issues bcs of misophonia
i am also scared bcs my parents are in their 40s rn and soon they will be old and old ppl have yk health issues and yk how they are so im scared god will punish me for being disrespectful to them in the future if i am j trying to survive and kinda do crashout on them bcs ive always been the respectful kid even after all these issues

It's misophonia when you can hear the smacking sounds made by the guy behind you while singing in the choir. A loud choir.