It is affecting my home life and anything else, I now can’t tolerate movements/sights well either. I want to be able to have control over things which would be to do with this worsened state, it feels hard to manage stress with how my life is. It’s same at college where I have a low attendance, I can’t decide on what career or if would be fit/manage to work. I failed GCSEs and wasn’t in education for two years (19M) after taking them and before starting college.

2 - I have been told deafness could worsen it, unable to tune out/ignore noise and reading about others’ triggers can cause more to develop including noise produced by their own self and other senses like touching or smelling too. One of my worst triggers is windy weather, I had wanted a summer house for my backyard or maybe something else and to be soundproofed but don’t know anymore. I hope to move out and be done with college.

3 - It would be nice if it was possible for someone to be able to select noise they want to hear. I don’t know if some strategies I thought of would work or if a doctor would be of any help who I can mention more details about this to but I don’t want to have to make diet or lifestyle changes

Not really looking for an answer but an outlet; I work in a tight/small office and my OPP literally smashed his keyboard when he types, is so aggressive with clicking the mouse, and I feel like it’s so EXCRUCIATING to be in the same space as them. My other colleague seems to never notice. I wish I could tune them out!

I've been responding with a version of this to many struggling sufferers who complain of unsupportive families or partners. I post this now to all.

I am a father with a child who suffers with misophonia. Yes, it's a real thing, and can be unbearable. When she first started exhibiting the symptoms, it was very difficult to understand, no one had ever heard of such a thing. Her trigger sounds mostly are chewing, sniffling, and the clinking of dishware and silverware. Once we understood what misophonia was, our family agreed that we did not want to cause any undo misery for our child. Yes, it was quite an adjustment, we no longer could have family meals with all of us. But we accepted the situation, and everyone fully supports our daughter. We didn't force our child to withstand an experience which is intolerable. And because we accepted it, we didn't have any arguments or bad feelings. Credit goes to my wife who educated herself, spread her knowledge to the rest of us, and drove our adoption of the necessary accommodations.

Misophonia is a condition your whole family is going to have to accept and deal with for the long term. You can choose to ignore the pain it causes your child, which will ultimately lead to a strain in your relationship. Or you can learn everything you can about it, support your child, and let him/her know just how much you love and care for them. We have figured out how to cope with it for family gatherings. Everyone is aware of the trigger sounds and makes a best effort to prevent them. At meal time our daughter is first to fill her dish and disappears to her room with noise cancelling headphones. Because the clinking of dishes and silverware are some of her triggers, we either delay doing the dishes until after bedtime, or we'll do them immediately after the meal while she is still in another room with the headphones on. We can then all enjoy everyone's company. Your child isn't looking for special treatment, he/she is looking for support and understanding of a condition that science hasn't figured out yet. The worst thing you can do is pretend it doesn't exist or ignore the suffering that it causes.

A Dad

like the title says, i had a semester test today and towards the end i just hear this horrific sort of teeth scratching sound? kinda like when you scratch nails against a chalkboard

i look up and i see its just someone filling in an mcq form with a mechanical pencil and like yeah cool whatever but it kept throwing me off and there were like 15 questions so you can just imagine how long that went on for. it was just so frustrating because i was almost done with my paper but everytime i heard it i had to stop because i literally could not function

and on top of that there was a guy behind me who kept whispering calculations to himself which wasnt as bad but it sort of sounded amplified with the mechanical pencil

It's misophonia when you can hear the smacking sounds made by the guy behind you while singing in the choir. A loud choir.

so basically my trigger is sneezes and eating sounds and i j cant have dinner w my family (i do sometimes but since i have working parents we j have dinner less together) if i do i endup ruining everyones mood i also have this thing when my sister makes any specific sound again and again j to be quirky or whatsoever it j gets me to a breaking point and i dont see it getting any better it has j been getting progressively worse and i started noticing it more after puberty im 18 now. It specially gets triggered when my mom sneezes and the worst part is she has allergies and its not her fault at all im the one with the problem and i know people around me shouldnt suffer for it but i just cant help it. there are times when she sneezes i have to cover my ears or i j keep opening and closing my ears with my fingers as fast as i can till the voice goes away its like its stuck in my head and it plays on repeat and i get this heart sinking feeling and it kinda gets hard to breathe. Idk if anyone else does it but sometimes to replace the voice in my head i try to imitate the voice the other person makes and it does kinda help buti feel guilty afterwards for imitating a person it feels like bad manners or j disrespectful (ofc i dont do it on their faces).
One thing i always do when only my mom or dad sneeze is tht i scream and she finds it disrespectful sometimes and i cry bcs i cant control it in my mind either i have to scream it out or hit something or someone like theres so much fear rage and diff emotions at the same time in a span of seconds.
Ive also had a lot of family issues my parents almost getting divorced and abuse fights all i saw it all idk why but i think it did contribute to this in one way or another

i havent seen another person around me or met anyone in my life w the same things i go through and knowing it has no cure makes me feel really helpless im scared of the life that is to come ahead and how ill survive with my partner will he hate me for this or will we have issues bcs of my personal problems i am a very big people pleaser and i j dont know how ill have a job have a family or will i endup giving my kids mommy issues bcs of misophonia
i am also scared bcs my parents are in their 40s rn and soon they will be old and old ppl have yk health issues and yk how they are so im scared god will punish me for being disrespectful to them in the future if i am j trying to survive and kinda do crashout on them bcs ive always been the respectful kid even after all these issues

My largest trigger for Misophonia is my dad.

Whenever he makes a throat clearing noise I instantly get filled with anger, even if I try to not let it bother me as much. Sometimes I try to go to sleep early. But when I heard the door of the fence open, I instantly get filled with anxiety. I just know then that I won't be able to sleep for another hour or so because of the noises. I feel like I can never peacefully sleep with him around and it's infuriating.

Besides that he makes these random whistle noises. It's not even real whistling. He makes those incoherent random chaotic noises which are annoying as hell. This also makes me instantly super annoyed. He might act happy while doing this but it's making me miserable and want to flee to a different room. I've asked him multiple times if he could be more quiet but he just does these things automatically.

And when he finally sleeps, he snores like a chainsaw. I can hear him loud and clear even if there are two large walls between us. It's ridiculous. Besides that, he sneezes in a really exaggerated way, he makes loud farts, loud hiccups, loud eating noises and then asks me what's wrong when I look at him with anger and disgust. I feel like my relationship with my dad is getting worse and worse because of this by the day. It will be such a blessing when I'm finally able to buy my own house which I'm saving for currently.

I just had to get this rant out of my system. I don't want to hate my dad but it's difficult.

This show has the loudest swallowing noises and crunching throughout the series. Be prepared

Both of us are neurodivergent, which is relevant. My RM constantly is chewing gum because it helps with regulation and ADHD a LOT. Which, whatever, as long as I can’t hear it. Except I CAN because 1) when he thinks he’s alone he loves to smack it as wide as possible, and 2) he CONSTANTLY is coming in my room and talking to me with gum in his mouth. He also NEVER waits until he’s finished chewing to talk to me. IT IS DRIVING ME INSANE. I HAVE TRIED SO MUCH. HE KNOWS!! There’s been multiple times that I straight up left the room while he was talking while chewing, because I literally can’t deal. I get shot to level 7/8 so fast that I GOTTA get outta there before it reaches 10.

It’s been years now. And I feel like such a dick being on his ass about it, but it makes my life so fucking miserable. I get tense every time he comes in my room, because he’s just going to talk to me for giant chunks of time with the gum in his mouth. I don’t like chilling with him the moment food is involved. He chews quietly, thank FUCK. But he does also scrape bowls/plates a LOT, which bugs the fuck out of me but it is nothing compared to the RAGE and full body upsetting discomfort I get. No matter how many times I have asked for him to finish chewing, he’s got severe ADHD and struggles soooooo much with holding onto a thought long enough.

Idk, I’m mostly screaming into a pillow so I don’t take it out on anyone irl. It’s not his fault I’m like this, and I don’t wanna nag too much about chewing and shit. He’s got rejection sensitivity really bad too, so that’s also a factor in all this. It’s just a lot for my brain to try and regulate, especially with the misophonia levels. The only fix so far has been for me to wear earplugs any time I’m around him, but we live together so that’s also somewhat unreasonable. Especially since he comes in my room a bunch & talks for long periods of time.

I have quite severe misophonia symptoms, the main trigger being loud nose breathing (which obviously comes with its own difficulties lol). But I’ve realised recently that certain words really just cringe me out - there’s no other way to describe it. I upset my girlfriend yesterday as I told her it cringed me out how much she said the word “nauseous”. I know it sounds minor and dumb but she said it so much and I felt like “sick” would’ve sufficed. I built up telling her about it but felt like it had got to the point where I needed to as I felt her using that word unintentionally put me off being able to have appropriate sympathy for her when she’s ill. I did explain myself and said it is just this one small thing but she’s obviously and understandably unhappy.

I thought this was just an odd thing that only bothered me and I then didn’t handle well (I certainly shouldn’t have said to her that it cringed me out, not my finest hour) but after a Google search it was suggested that this may be a misophonia symptom. Misophonia has already taken a significant toll on my relationship as it’s quite hard to explain to someone you love how the sound of them breathing makes you want to leave, but we’ve got past that with lots of patience and understanding. Has anyone else experienced this word association as a symptom?

A friend of mine suggested asmr for better sleep. It didn't help me sleep better... it made it worse. I had a mental breakdown. So I researched about this because who cries because of asmr. (Mind you i had never heard of misophonia before). I mean there were other signs I had misophonia but never paid that much attention to cuz I was annoyed/enraged but I never cried.

Example. Sitting in a restaurant and a song comes on a resturant, or riding with someone, or even watching a YT video with music playing and not being able to tell what it is.

Wishing folks in a restaurant would be quiet so I can tell what that song is that the resturant is playing.

Apple has a background noise feature on all their devices that I use daily and its amazing. Currently when I use my windows desktop I just have youtube on a seperate tab playing white noise on a low volume and it does the job but just never hits the same. I was wondering if there is an app or extension that is similar to the apple background noise feature.

This happens the more I dislike people but there is one person in my family who since quite literally before I can remember, the sound of their voice is like nails on a chalkboard. Everytime I am around them, which unfortunately is quite a lot, I am in physical pain. I can’t think, I can’t sit still, and I am filled with rage and anxiety. it’s been like this my entire life, there is not a time I remember where I didn’t isolate myself in the back of the house with constant background noise to try and keep myself calm. Nobody seems to get it and I have always been treated like there’s something wrong with me, or at least that’s how it feels. Is there something wrong with me? Has anyone else experienced this?

oml I just spent the last week with muffled hearing and being able to hear my own heartbeat due to both ears being blocked… I just had my ears syringed and I truely have never felt more relieved to hear someone chew loudly, but I guess that won’t last long 😂😅

worsting fucking combination ever.

my sibling does this *sniff* *smack* *sniff* *smack* *sniff* *smack* thing and it makes me want to shrivel up and explode. GOD i hate it. sometimes they mumble during it too. i have to exit the room, i just can’t do it

Would you rather everyone only make squishy squelching sounds or shattery loud crunchy sounds when they eat?

I cannot stand the vast majority of songs with just human voices. Some voices are worse than others, but generally almost all voices are quite bad.

I feel like they force my brain to focus in on them and listen to what they're saying and it's very overstimulating. If there's repetitive lyrics it's like torture. Anything with bass is esspecially horrible, hip hop is horrible, rap is horrible, country is horrible, going to grocery stores sucks lol.

Trying to socialize and just be a normal human while hating music it's proving very tricky.

Instrumental classical type music is all right, still a bit agitating, but not on a level I'd consider misophonia. Same thing with elevator music. I don't like most electronic and techno because they're fast, but if they were slow and smooth maybe I'd find them bearable.

Weirdly enough I can find certain types of extreme metal soothing, but its needs to be slow and steady, more in the realm of Bolt Thrower or Abhorrence, as Opposed to Dying Fetus (I do like this band but I can't do anything else while listening to them otherwise it's over stimulating).

I can't do heavy metal or thrash metal either, which is unfortunately the most common metal to hear. The clean vocals still get too me. And the guitars are usually higher and that somehow makes them more overwhelming for me.

But no one play Death Metal at the grocery store, and none of my neighbors play it when they have their loud parties, no one plays it when I get in their car. It's all just overstimulating pop music, so I tell everyone I can't handle music at all because I'm worried extreme metal being my one exception makes me sound like I'm faking this condition.

I feel bad about it, but I just cannot STAND watching people eat. Especially my dad, who is one of my biggest triggers with noises. It grosses me out so much.

Right now I'm hiding in the bathroom with the fan on because he was eating pasta and it was just so gross. Something about the way he just shovels it in, I don't know. I could just look away, but I could still hear him chewing so I went downstairs. But then his fork kept clanging against his plate, and then he let out the loudest burp and I just wanted to scream and was so close to hurting myself out of pure frustration.

I feel bad because like... Everyone needs to eat. and it doesn't bug me when others do it but when it's him, oh my God, I don't know? We are going on a trip in a few days and I'm stressed about it because there will be no avoiding it.

I just need to say it out loud, because I’m going crazy. I wouldn’t struggle as much if it weren’t for the fact that he does that nasty middle man kind of cough, if you get what I’m saying 😭
It’s been going on for SO long that I will drag a doctor by their hair to fix it soon.
Momma said that my dad is struggling the same way so I dread the moment he comes back from overseas, I don’t need TWO of that.
On top of that my cat has been an absolute tantrum thrower lately so I’m already overwhelmed from all the meowing 😵‍💫 I’m a shut-in but it might rage bait me to go on a walk just to leave atp
Fingers crossed to me not going crazy 🥹

And it’s not just the barking noise, it’s everything. Nails tapping on the floor, collar jingling, the sound of them licking/eating.. it’s all so irritating. I don’t hate dogs or anything but damn the noises bother me.

My husband LOVES popcorn and he eats is obnoxiously. Like not a second break in between bites. So going to the movies with him is like sitting through hell. A 90 minute movie feels like 90 days. He knows it triggers me so he started to try eating it super slow which just makes it worse because it makes it longer and I’m just unwillingly anticipating every move. From his hands moving around in the popcorn to the first crunch in his mouth. I can see him genuinely trying to not trigger me and I feel so bad and guilty that he has to do that. Now most of the times he’s fine with going to the movies by himself and I have my moment of silence at home while he’s at the movies. Yesterday, my mom came to visit and he planned for a movie. I opted out 1. I was too sleepy and had an early in the morning the next day. 2. The popcorn 3. The guilt of making him feel bad about the popcorn 4. Whenever we go to the movies at night I almost always fall asleep no matter how interesting the movie is. 5. I didn’t want to express my triggers in front of my mom because she just doesn’t believe misophonia is a thing and just believes I’m crazy and have anger issues. Anyway, my husband kept bugging me to go after I told them they should go I want to stay back and sleep early. So finally, because he would stop, I told him I’ll go if he doesn’t get popcorn and if I fall asleep don’t wake me up just let me sleep. He agreed. We go to the movies, half way through the movie, he gets up and gets popcorn. I told him to please just hurry up and finish it or I can just sit somewhere else. He dramatically puts the popcorn on the floor and my mom gave me a stare like “what happened” and he goes to her “she told me to hurry up and finish or she’s gna leave.” I felt guilty as helllll, embarrassed and at the same time I felt angry for him promising me something wasn’t going to happen and then doing it and acted like a victim. Idk which of those feelings are valid but I felt both very very strongly. Then I started noticing every single sound around me including my mom’s loud breathing. When we came home I walked straight into the bathroom and silently cried and whisper shouting.
Point is, misophonia is 100% of my life and I need it to leave me the f alone so I can be happy and not feel like people owe me silence.

This ones different and relatively new (within a few years). I can’t stand being able to hear people (particularly dudes) piss. At work when my boss goes (it’s a small office with 2 bathrooms) I have to cover my ears, I tried not covering my ears but couldn’t even last a second. And some dudes piss for so long too! Can anyone relate?