r/mildlyinfuriating • u/LSShoat • 11h ago
Infuriatig This girl won’t take no for an answer.
This girl has been on and off texting me for months. Every two months ever since my last relationship ended this girl I met through my old job has been taking wild shots for almost a full year now. At first I was nice and friendly with her, but we didnt really vibe well and she lives far away, so I told her I didn’t like her, she and I didn’t talk for about 3 months.
Now every 2 months is the same thing. She texts me “u up?” As I’m literally closing my eyes and begs me to reconsider. I’ve tried being nice and letting her know I’m not into her, I don’t think we’d be good friends, but I wish her all the best. I tried being distant and obviously disinterested, and at this point I’m just being blunt. Finally, I blocked her, maybe now she’ll get the message.
Over all, these texts don’t ruin my day, but I’d be lying if this girl didn’t infuriate me with how often she blatantly ignores how many times I say no.
The image was the last thing we said to each other before I decided to finally pull the plug.
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u/A-Money-Lover 11h ago
Look at you putting in more effort than her in those long ass replies LOL
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
One time she told me ask her about her opinion on something so I did, her response was “I hate that shit.”
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u/umhie 7h ago
"So uhhh what do you think of fondue?" "I fucks with it, but its nasty kind of--" "I don't fuck with it, NOT AT ALL!"
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u/Lopsided_Panic_1148 Dude, wtf... 46m ago
Block her, or answer as someone else and tell her you're someone else.
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u/Danny2Sick 8h ago
It resonates with me as I used to do this with lots of little interactions, arguments about small things, drama with 'friends'. I still am working onmyself as a semi-old fart now, but I've gotten a lot better at just going 'ahh well' to myself and not engaging with bullshit when you don't have to. It feels freeing on some level
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u/glytxh 6h ago
knew a girl like this once
just block her. it'll get fucking weird and intense and you'll wake up at 3am with her in your garden one day, handing you a tape her medium recorded explaining how you are soul mates
and then you'll go to the police and they'll laugh at you
for real just stop responding. block her on everything.
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u/LSShoat 6h ago
That’s…oddly specific are you ok? But yeah I blocked her.
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u/glytxh 6h ago
this was near enough 20 years ago
I was naive and polite and she would NOT take no for an answer. it got real ugly and freaky
low key fucked me up for a bit. I just wanna share my experience in a hope someone else doesn't have to go through the same, cos that message string looked unnervingly similar to what I remember reading from her
you will become the villain in every story she tells about this for years to come though. just be prepared for that
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u/LSShoat 6h ago
Well I’m ok with being the villain in her story. We don’t have a mutuals and we don’t even live in the same state. Hope you’re doing ok though, sounds rough.
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u/JohnnyS1lv3rH4nd 8h ago
The mildly infuriating part for me is the persistence mixed with the lack of effort. It just comes across as such a half hearted shot in the dark, like why?
For the record I’m talking about her not you, not sure why you’re taking so much shit in the comments. People get so pedantic in this sub
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u/LSShoat 8h ago
Some people say it’s cause I’m a dude, which I don’t think I ever said so they just be assuming. And yeah totally, if she put a bit more effort into trying to get to know me all the way back when we first met then maybe we’d be friends, but she waited till I was literally at my lowest and instead of supporting me just asked me to love her. Idk, I wish her the best though, just can’t handle her.
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u/Cuckdreams1190 8h ago
She's attempting to keep him on the line in case she ever wanted to reel him in.
Of course this is a complete guess, but it's not an uncommon thing for people to do, unfortunately.
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u/somerandomdude419 11h ago
That makes too much sense
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
I literally blocked her, said it in the post.
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u/duckballista 7h ago
So dumb that a gif from someone who didn't even read is top comment
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u/LSShoat 7h ago
I honestly thought it was kinda funny at first. But yeah, a lot of people just didn’t read the post then give their two cents.
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u/ElectronicRabbit7 5h ago
it's for future reference. this is not the last crazy person you will encounter.
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u/duckballista 6h ago
It says they're a top 1% commenter so obviously just quantity over quality. Anyway, nice work being as gracious as you could with rejection but also having limits for yourself. All the best!
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u/notappIicabIe 6h ago
i think its the fact you didnt block sooner. wild to complain about smth you let go on for over a year when you couldve nipped it on the bud after the second or third rejection 🤷🏻
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u/bacillaryburden 6h ago
I think the message is “should have blocked her long ago, how is this happening more than once let alone every two months?!?!”
That was my reaction.
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u/Danny2Sick 8h ago
block way earlier, don't let it get to you! It took me a long time to learn this and I am still working on it, but try not to let little things like that stress you out! It makes life easier for yourself to just go 'ah well' and block and go have snack and forgeddabouteeet!! (to be read in problematic Super Mario voice)
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u/Cynical_Farewell 11h ago
Good thing you blocked her
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
Some people don’t think I did in the comments. Bruh.
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u/Photoshopdoge 10h ago
OP I’d be more infuriated with the people in the comments than the girl at this rate because what are these replies from half these people. Damn seagulls repeating the same thing.
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u/nuancebaby3 10h ago
No people are saying you should have blocked her the first time. Not after she bugged you for months on end. "BuT i DiD block HeR" Yeah. Eventually. Much too late.
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u/LSShoat 10h ago
And when people said “you should’ve blocked her sooner.” I respond with “you are right, I should have.” Because yeah, I should have. At the end of the day though she should’ve taken no as an answer, and either way I did block her.
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u/shiyalovely 5h ago
Yeah this here - it's not on you for not blocking sooner, how is this your fault?? It's on her for not taking your no for an answer, and continually following up on it. It is disrespectful on her end, and she is the one looking a fool. You were kind, and that's that. Everyone blaming you here is wild.
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u/JennyferSuper 10h ago
I had a guy do this to me over a decade ago. I remember I was at work texted him a response along the lines of “sorry not interested.”
Then I turned, with my phone open in my hand, to my boss to talk about the texts. I said something out loud along the lines of “don’t know what to do to get this guy to leave me alone, it’s starting to get creepy.” I looked to my phone to see I sent that e tire conversation as one of those Apple voice recordings. And he listened to it and I got the notice he SAVED it. It was a legitimate accident on my part I’m sure no one would ever believe was accidental. I was so embarrassed and I felt so bad. But he did stop messaging me. 🤷♀️
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u/by_the_window 10h ago
This comment section is so strange
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u/FinancialTrade8197 10h ago
Seems like it's cause of the gender dynamic. It's bullshit.
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u/by_the_window 10h ago
Yep, seems like a bunch of people are mad a man could be not interested in the woman pursuing him, and they somehow take it personally (and quite aggressively)
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u/FinancialTrade8197 10h ago
It's because a lot of them are people who can't find a partner and are desperate, I think.
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u/LSShoat 10h ago
I feel like I’m going crazy rn. I know I should’ve blocked her sooner, my b, but at the end of the day I still feel like she should’ve taken no as an answer?
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u/by_the_window 10h ago
Definitely, I think you went about it perfectly fine. She should have heard your "no" and not kept pushing, and you don't have to block people if that makes you uncomfortable.
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u/CallMeRudiger 4h ago
People are pretty nutty about blocking these days. It's okay to be more patient than others or need more time to figure out how you feel, and block someone when you're ready to. I don't tend to block someone unless they're bombarding me with texts, being abusive, sending unsolicited nudes, or something along those lines.
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u/EverettSeahawk 11h ago
At a certain point, you just have to block the number and move on. It sounds like that point was a while ago, but it’s never too late.
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u/Annie640 7h ago
Reddit in general lacks basic reading comprehension, in my experience. Some of these responses in here are extra wild. Good on you for blocking her. In future, do that sooner. You shouldn't have had to block her though, she should have stopped after the first time you said no. It's the same thing we expect of men. If a man did this, we'd call it harassment, not sure why we aren't when it's done by a woman
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u/UndefinedCertainty 7h ago
I know you already did, but I agree with everyone one else who said to block. Blocking is something I usually don't do myself with people because it can take on an unintended tone in some cases; but inform and delete, no problem.
It sounds like you did your best to be clear and she just didn't want to hear that. If you were more direct or deleted or blocked her afterwards (which apparently you eventually did), you'd be justified. You wouldn't be and aren't a shitty person for it either. I think giving her the silent treatment or ghosting would have be shitty and you gave her the dignity of an actual answer, which shows at least a modicum of emotional maturity on your part.
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u/LSShoat 7h ago
I do agree and wish I blocked her earlier. I just wish I didn’t have to. I wish she would’ve just listened to when I said no and understand.
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u/Commercial_Age_9316 YELLOW 10h ago
Dude my dental hygienist looked me up on instagram and slid into my DMs but I had no idea who it was because we had interacted so briefly and she had her mask on. I was friendly at first and it was pretty clear she wanted something sexual which I was pretty much ok with but she’d be communicating in these weird word salad inside jokes that only she understood.
I asked her bluntly if she’d had an issues with mental health which I am pretty open about experiencing depression and anxiety myself, but she denied it. I ended up telling her multiple times we’re not even compatible as friends before blocking her across various platforms as she’d find me and be angry and insult me about random things.
I ended up telling the dentist but they still have her on staff. It’s tough because I really don’t want to change dentists, they’re nearby and I did Invisalign with them, they have all my scans and everything. But it’s also kind of a scary feeling to have this unwanted stalker who seems to be unstable with sharp objects in my mouth.
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u/kehsciences 11h ago
I block strangers on Reddit for less reasons than being harassed by some ex-coworker for a possible intimate connection. You’ll make new acquaintances! I’m sure of it.
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u/DAggerYNWA 7h ago
Weird lack of effort…:
My ex broke up with me recently. We spent months apart, I wanted to reconcile. She just wanted to be friends so I said ok let’s part ways. She keeps texting me… this must be some sort of control thing if she doesn’t want to actually be with me. I didn’t want to have to block her but some people will just run all over your boundaries
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u/LSShoat 7h ago
I’m sorry to hear about that dude. I hope things ease up for you soon, and yeah don’t let her control you man. Fingers crossed for you.
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u/DAggerYNWA 7h ago
Appreciate you bro! Absolutely feeling better by the day
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u/WayLevel9348 4h ago
But I thought blocking someone kept their messages from even being delivered at all, so they won't all magically appear once he unblocks her.
Someone please tell me if I have this wrong.
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u/Pyriplhegethon 2h ago
She keeping you on the shelf just in case the guy she left you for doesn't work out. In other words, she's having her cake and eating it too; she's dating another guy while still benefiting from the emotional comfort that you provide.
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u/Admirable_Candle2404 9h ago
Only Reddit would find you at fault for this. You're right to block her, but it's totally understandable if you're someone who is hesitant to block others.
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u/Temporary_Figure_847 7h ago
Read the second to last part out loud and slowly, but gender swap it
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u/Rewdboy05 7h ago
You mean all genders experience this??
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u/Temporary_Figure_847 5h ago
Exactly. All seven genders (not sure if accurate) experience this type of occurrence, but, for some reason, people really only pay attention when it's a female as the perpetrator. IE crazy lady
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u/ThurmanMermannnn 11h ago
Are you bored or do you just crave attention?
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u/Southern_Painting397 11h ago edited 9h ago
Smartest and happiest top1% commenter
Edit: he tried to flex his upvotes and deleted it 😭
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u/Rawrs_sometimes 10h ago
Shit like this just isn’t necessary. You know absolutely nothing about the person you’re trying to put down. Why? Does it make you feel better about yourself?
And before you come at me with hit the gym and yada yada, I’m married for 10 years. 3 kids. I found my someone.
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u/Excellent-Rest3240 8h ago
Guy shot first so 🤷♂️ yeah it’s necessary
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u/Rawrs_sometimes 8h ago
If you say so bro
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u/Excellent-Rest3240 2h ago
You didn’t read it?
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u/Rawrs_sometimes 1h ago
lol yeah I read it. I was referring to you saying yes it was necessary.
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u/Excellent-Rest3240 1h ago
So why didn’t you reply to that guy saying it isn’t necessary? Just read it and let it slide?
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u/Rawrs_sometimes 1h ago
Why are we still having this conversation? Why didn’t you just read my comment and let it slide?
The world may never know.
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
What?
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u/ThurmanMermannnn 11h ago
If you dislike inconsistency and her approach, and you say y’all don’t vibe anyway, why wasn’t she blocked back then? It took you how long to block her?
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
I said I blocked her in the post, what are you on about?
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u/jameswulfecreed 9h ago
I was at a bar with my girlfriend when I was approached by an older woman who I'd seen dancing with other guys, I told her "I don't know how"-"I'll teach you lots of moves"..."I'm too drunk"-"that's the best way to dance"... "I'm not interested"-"but I am" finally my GF grabbed my dick and said loud enough for people to hear snd laugh "this is my man and this is my dick"....she left us alone after that
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u/LSShoat 9h ago
Your girl sounds like a real one. I hope you two are doing well.
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u/jameswulfecreed 9h ago
She's great Love Of My Life but God does she scare and embarrass me sometimes, on the ride home she kept teasing "you got hard when I grabbed you,I bet if I wasn't there you'd be dancing in the sheets with her"
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u/The_ReBL 10h ago
Ignore the replies to this OP
Reddit mob will find you at fault no matter what No recognition that if the roles were reversed the other person would be getting all kind of stalker and harassment comments, you're being held guilty by gender
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u/Antique_Suit_4770 9h ago
No is a complete sentence. She shoudl not be pressuring you into a relationship. It's disgusting. She is harassing you, Block her on everything.
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u/LSShoat 9h ago
I did block her.
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u/Antique_Suit_4770 9h ago
Good job man, you got to stand your ground sometimes, she wasn't getting the hint with "no" so blocking her is the next step up.
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u/Ish-Zee 4h ago
For the future, dont respond to literally anyone else that isn't TRULY important to you after 10pm. Especially if its casual talk. It immediately allows a boundary that your giving her an exception to talk to her after hours. Family, bros* and important SOs only. Unless its a mutual booty call but even then dont stick your d*** in crazy.
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u/vandersnipe 3h ago
For the future, dont respond to literally anyone else that isn't TRULY important to you after 10pm
I wish I had this advice back in July 2025 lol. OP, please listen to them.
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u/CapySamurai93 2h ago
There's a story behind that lol
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u/vandersnipe 2h ago
Don't feel bad for mentally unhinged people who randomly text and call at hours of the night out of the blue. Just ignore or block them completely lol.
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u/CapySamurai93 2h ago
Yeah I've learned that the hard way too unfortunately lol
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u/vandersnipe 2h ago
It sucks that many people experience emotional vampires. It has sadly made me less empathetic.
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u/Creamy_Breve 11h ago
I don't understand why you didn't block her. You tried all these things except blocking. For almost a full year, every 2 months, you've been entertaining texts from a girl you don't like, but not once did you block her. Why?
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
Because I don’t like blocking people. If someone has something important to say to me I wanna make sure they can. It’s dumb I know but it’s just how I’ve always operated.
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u/Agreeable-Pickle 11h ago
Not really. You don't have to reply to anything. I think blocking is for people harassing you. A message every 2 months is far from harassing.
I am the same. I just see blocking people as unnecessary most of the time. Sometimes reading and ignoring a message sends a good enough message anyway.
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u/WinnerBusy855 11h ago
what could she possibly have to say to you that’s important?
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u/DueAdvisor8969 11h ago
Okay so be mildly infuriated at yourself, not her. You leave the door open for people to contact you and then get annoyed when they do - that’s your fault.
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
Can I not be infuriated at both people? Like I know I should’ve blocked her sooner, that’s my b, but can I not be annoyed that when I say no she doesn’t take it as no?
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u/DueAdvisor8969 11h ago edited 10h ago
The first time you said no and she didn’t respect it you should have blocked her. But you didn’t because you wanted the ego boost. At least be grown up enough to admit it. You don’t get to create a problem and then go “ooh girls are annoying look!” She shouldn’t have been able to text you again if you didn’t want her to.
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
Can a brother not grow? I didn’t do it for the ego boost, but even if I did can I not look back at that and realize how bad it was, then block her for both our sakes?
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u/DazzlingFruit7495 10h ago
I’m so confused by people being mad at u for not blocking sooner. Like sure, you could’ve, but she also could’ve just stopped harassing you after you said no. Especially since in the screenshot she’s intentionally pushing past the no in an attempt to convince u. These comments are mildly victim-blaming tbh
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u/No_Type_454 PURPLE 10h ago
that’s what reddit is, they can’t argue with the woman here, so they do anything they can to argue with someone, just happens to be the guy here
reddit is just a bunch of neckbeards trolling, and then you get a bunch of midwits also hopping on the bandwagon, taking the trolls seriously and pushing their word as gospel
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u/Capable_Tumbleweed34 9h ago
Absolutelly not his fault. OP told her he wasn't interested, not blocking someone after rejecting them isn't an invitation for someone to harass and refuse to take no for an answer.
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u/AutomaticLet6241 7h ago
Is she a real girl?🤔
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u/LSShoat 7h ago
Admittedly I don’t know, she could be a guy I guess. Either way it’s weird.
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u/AutomaticLet6241 7h ago
Definitely block
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u/LSShoat 7h ago
I already blocked her, I said that in the post.
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u/AutomaticLet6241 7h ago
Apologies, I missed that. If she is blocked, and the text still comes through (I know it happens), do not engage. Ghost her.
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u/LSShoat 7h ago
Yeah, I don’t plan on talking to her ever again. Sorry if my last message came off rude, a lot of people here are mad at me for not blocking her when I already did.
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u/AutomaticLet6241 7h ago
You come to Reddit for assistance. Some suggestions you've already done, some you've already discounted. You are looking for suggestions you haven't thought of. One more suggestion: keep the messages. Do not delete. She might become angry and threaten you. This may be your evidence that she is batshit.
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u/LSShoat 7h ago
Honestly that’s good advice, I already deleted the messages though, rip. I’m not too worried she’ll become aggressive though, if she does I know she doesn’t know where I live, I told her I lived on a state I don’t actually live in just in case. But I’m more worried she’ll hurt herself. As much as I didn’t like her and we didn’t vibe, I didn’t hate her either, we just weren’t compatible in any way and I honestly thought it would be better for her to not rely on me when I don’t think we are good as friends.
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u/daftybats 5h ago
I'm sorry to all the men in this thread (incl op) that have had to deal with this. Truly sorry.
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u/RealRecoveryGuide 6h ago
I've got a girl like this, she just texted me again the other day after months, I thought we were dooone
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u/LSShoat 6h ago
From everything I’ve seen on this post, I’d say block her probably.
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u/WayLevel9348 5h ago
I mean, I'd send one final "no, I'm not interested and don't text me anymore." Maybe you have already done that in the past, but from what I'm reading in the photo you posted, I'm not sure you're sending a clear enough message. If you send a straight up - no, leave me alone I'm not interested and she still persists, then it's time to block.
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u/Fe2O3yshackleford 3h ago
Nah, those people can’t read, so I wouldn’t take their advice. Obviously the right way to deal with this woman is to marry her.
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u/Lilith_Christine 5h ago
My ex girlfriends are like this. Even my ex wife started trying to chat and nothing. Had to leave Facebook. They hated me when we broke up. Whats going on? My ex wife hadn't spoken to in 20 years and then bam.
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u/Standard-Contest-949 11h ago
Sends her a address to meet you and don’t let her know it’s the police station 😂
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u/elovesya 8h ago
I don’t know shit, but seems like she’s just bored and stringing you along. Generally speaking, when a woman is into you, it’s pretty obvious
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u/One_Selection5102 7h ago
Been there, she just thinks you are hot - but in a "cool painting on the wall" or an imagined Instagram post to validate herself kind of way.
Just block her.
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u/OneManFight 9h ago
I really don't understand being bothered by someone via text. Just ignore them. Like when you said you'd be closing your eyes and she'd text you "you up?" I would go ahead and continue closing my eyes.
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u/LSShoat 8h ago
I did go to sleep, then I’d clear the notification by “reading” the text, which left read receipts and then she’d ask why I wasn’t responding, to which I’d tell her I’m not interested in her or being friends with her.
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u/Life-Cheesecake-1036 7h ago
Sounds like she might just be (maybe drunkenly) infatuated if she only reaches out every few months. Sorry that she’s infuriating you though.
Block her maybe?
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u/LuLuLuv444 7h ago
Sounds like she's drunk texting you when she's feeling low and insecure. Just block her
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u/Senior-World4596 6h ago
Just let your no mean no. You don't owe any details or explanation. Just no, goodbye.
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u/pissedoffjesus 5h ago
"Please stop messaging me. I'm not interested in pursuing anything with you."
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u/NoHome7956 1h ago
I totally get this. Random texts from girls you barely know just "checking in".
Had this girl who I knew through family friends. She knew I had a girlfriend but every few months she would "check in" to see how I am, and of course ask if I'm still with my girl. Of course I would say yes I am and have a pleasant, platonic back and forth and leave it at that.
Anyway, I broke up with that girl friend and after a few months decided I want to start dating again. Then I remembered her and sent her a text. No response lol.
My advice is, women who do that prodding stuff and don't really follow through, are usually not sure of what they want and they just use you as a source of validation or backup. If they can't take no for an answer, then think about how it would be if the shoe was on the other foot and a guy was behaving the same way.
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u/giotheitaliandude 24m ago
From one man to another, you like the attention, if not you would have blocked her a long time ago. Block her and move on.
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u/Mc-fukin-kill-me 20m ago
I’m sorry you have to deal with these responses bro, doesn’t seem many people have completely read your post and are giving bullshit responses. Hope she leaves you alone (even after you blocked her), you deserve better
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u/ToopToop204 11h ago
No need for all those blue bubbles. "The answer is No." Then you block her. You can even skip the response and go straight to block.
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
I did block her, but I wanted to let her know why I didn’t get along with her. Just thought it’d be nice to know.
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u/ToopToop204 11h ago
The continued engagement can give false hope and lead a person on. It can cause more frustration on both ends, yours and hers. You can be nice but sometimes people can be too nice. She's probably used this exact type of behavior to get her way with other people before and thought you'd give in eventually. Good on you for being blunt and blocking her in the end, you don't need that in your life.
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u/LSShoat 11h ago
Yeah, I know I should’ve blocked her sooner, I do take fault in that. But better late than never.
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u/ElectronicRabbit7 5h ago
just bc someone texts you don't mean you have to reply.